"Dad, I'm not going home tonight", the answer of a father with high emotional intelligence is worth learning from.

In a society with advanced information technology, even if parents secretly set up a "copper wall" protection network, they may still accidentally let their children fall into "emotional information".

Due to the hormones in adolescence, many children may fall into the "swamp of puppy love". Impatient parents always interfere and violently stop them, which in turn arouses their children's rebelliousness; smart parents will use "roundabout" methods to make their children willingly accept it and get out of the "swamp".

After Huang Qiang returned home after serving in the army, he had his precious daughter Huang Qi when he was 30 years old. He treated his daughter so lovingly that he "could hold it in his mouth for fear of melting...".

In the blink of an eye, my daughter has gone from being fed to a junior high school student. Her invincible youthful appearance has prompted many male classmates in the class to "pass notes" to her in private. The originally close relationship between father and daughter became distant, which gave Huang Qiang a warning sign - his daughter fell in love prematurely.

Before her old father could show off his detective skills and find out who the "culprit" was, Huang Qi came up with a "powerful" move. She told Huang Qiang: "Dad, I'm going out to play tonight and I can't come back." Home."

Other fathers might have been furious, but Huang Qiang held back his anger and planned to have a showdown with his daughter. He asked, "Are you going to go out with your boyfriend?" The daughter answered yes.

"No matter who you go out with, you have to go home tonight!" Huang Qiang's words left no room for negotiation.

Huang Qiang did not give his daughter a chance to refute. He told her in a persuasive way: "When dad was your age, there were times when he was impulsive, but now when I think about it, it feels like a dream. Daughter, the future life There is still a long way to go, do you think this boy is the best in the world? Are you willing to marry him at a young age? Only by studying hard now will you have the opportunity to see a wider world and truly meet him. Belong to the 'Emperor' in your life..."

Huang Qi was moved by Xiao Zhili's words, and she said: "Dad, I won't go out!"

How many people in life can be as "smart" as Huang Qiang? When I find information about my child’s puppy love, I want to “get rid of it quickly”. But it is said that "puppy love is as fierce as a tiger" and if you can't extinguish the fire in a child's heart, it may "resurgence" at any time.

What is wrong with puppy love is not the relationship, but time, so parents, please do not think that puppy love is a "scourge". Instead of "chasing and fighting", it is better to calm down and analyze.

1) Don’t blame, face it calmly

Children whose secrets of puppy love are revealed will be panicked and scared inside. If parents lose control of their emotions at this time, it will definitely be worse for the children.

In panic, children may choose some dangerous behaviors to avoid possible punishment. Once these behaviors are not properly handled, they may harm the child and have irreversible effects.

After learning about their children’s puppy love, parents should not criticize excessively, but should face it calmly. Like the wise father in the case above, you might as well open your heart and talk to your children.

Be honest about your past. Because of the same and similar experiences, you can gain the child's inner trust and truly enter the child's inner world.

2) One size does not fit all, and a certain amount of space must be left for communication.

When dealing with adolescent relationships, rough blocking will not help. You must provide correct guidance. Sex education has always been a lesson that Chinese children generally miss. They only explore because of their curiosity. Instead of harshly and harshly stopping it, it is better to provide sex education to children in a gentle and gentle way, and teach them to protect themselves and others.

In the face of puppy love, parents should not choose "one size fits all" and let their children have grudges, so that some children secretly carry out their "underground love" to the end. This kind of "hiding their ears and stealing their bells" is "harmful to the growth of their children." No benefit at all.”

Instead of forcing children to cut off puppy love, it is better to set the boundary standard for "crossing the threshold". Under this standard, children should be reasonably encouraged to establish social circles with friends of the opposite sex, such as eating, chatting, watching exhibitions and other normal social behaviors, giving children full trust and allowing them to grow up healthily and happily.

As everyone grows up, there may be one or two unforgettable memories of their youth. However, every parent’s attitude and approach are different, and the impact on their children’s future is also different.

Here, we hope that every parent can look at the problem of early love in their children rationally, be a strong backing behind their children, and accompany them through this period of "youth swamp".