The address and wedding customs of the bride and groom.

The names of the bride and groom depend on your position.

There are actually two legends about the origin of the bride and groom.

Wedding custom In the old society, the "red event" of marrying a daughter-in-law in northwest China lasted for three days. On the first day, it gets married, on the second day, it entertains guests, and on the third day, it says goodbye. Southeast source lasted for two days, the first day to marry and entertain guests; See the guests off the next day. Pay attention to diversity, step by step and be polite. After two or three days, the bride and groom are exhausted, but they must stick to it or they will be laughed at. Since the 1960s, it has gradually changed to one day. On this day, the main etiquette must be completed.

From the perspective of marriage tools, modern times have undergone many changes. Before 1950s, sedan chairs, carts and cars were also used for weddings. In the 1960s, many people rode horses and donkeys (men) and married mules. Because mules don't "sit on their tires", it is generally believed that married daughters-in-law will not have children. Cycling in the 1970s; In the late 1980 s, I began to take cars or other motor vehicles.

1. Send a sedan chair: On the wedding day, send a sedan chair to greet the bride and start "doing things". Greet relatives, friends and clerks for breakfast early in the morning, and then prepare to leave for the wedding.

Clean indoor and outdoor sanitation; Red paper couplets are posted on the gate and the small door; Where the word "Xi" is posted, it is "Xi" Li; Put new white paper on the window, stick grilles; When the suona began to ring, the farmer suddenly showed a thriving and beaming atmosphere.

The groom should burn paper in front of the graves of ancestors or parents (deceased) to pay homage to them and "comfort" them. He has grown up and is ready to get married and start a family. Then I shaved my head and changed clothes, put on robes and jackets, new shoes and socks, borrowed a "top hat" or bought a new "lining hat", inserted gold foil flowers, which were brand-new from head to toe, and then served a drinking plate, accompanied by suona, to toast and kowtow to the old and young husbands, as the groom's "wearing red", one on his shoulders and one on his chest.

When you marry a woman, you should carry a "welcome dress" bag, which not only contains clothes such as "hijab", but also a small amount of symbols such as bran, salt and green onions. Because bran is homophonic with "Fu", Bao bran symbolizes "Five Blessingg"; Salt is homophonic with "fate", and salt symbolizes "God-given marriage"; Onion is homophonic with "from", and wrapping onion symbolizes the bride's "intelligence and virtue". More importantly, the package of the "wedding dress" must be wrapped with a "wedding table" (some are sewn in the quilt). "Marriage" is written on a piece of red paper, and the content is generally:

It's lucky to push the wedding, and it will never be combined with Zhou Tang.

Pregnant women don't avoid it, and it never hurts to marry and give it away.

The three evil spirits in front of the horse should avoid each other and go up and down the car door to Kyrgyzstan.

Lu Yu Well, the stone should be covered with red. If it meets a grand ceremony, it will give way.

Copper money grass beans meet the door, newcomers enter the room, and they are rich and glorious.

Heaven and earth are dense.

Xianheng celebration

Happy ever after-rich and rich.

Live a long and prosperous life.

XX year x month x day

The original intention of "marriage form" is to order the devils to stay away, eliminate all kinds of taboos and maintain the smooth flow of sedan chairs. In the eyes of local people, it is no small matter to carry the bag of "welcome clothes". It must be managed by careful people who know manners, and everything must be wrapped. Otherwise, it is not only embarrassing for the woman to see something missing, but also difficult.

Red paper couplets are posted on both sides of the sedan chair door, which read "Flowers bloom all the way, and the sedan chair is full of joy" or "Sheng tube attracts the beauty of the boudoir, and the colorful sedan chair meets the beauty of the famous family". Putting a bucket of wheat in the sedan chair for the bride to sit on, commonly known as "sitting on a bucket of wheat", means that the bride has plenty of food and clothing after marriage; There is also a big rooster, commonly known as "sedan chair chicken", which means the groom welcomes him. Before the sedan chair comes out, the groom gets on the sedan chair and lifts it up and down for a while, which also shows the groom's welcome. Then the suona cleared the way, with the sedan chair in front and the horses and chariots behind, lined up in a string and married.

On the afternoon of the wedding day, the old man will burn a kang for the new house and a wooden pier on the kang, which is a sign of "burning the pier this year and having grandchildren next year". Mother-in-law or sister-in-law should personally press nuts such as walnuts, dates and peanuts on the four corners under the reed mat on the bride and groom's kang. According to the homonym, it means "early birth, long life."

On the way back from the wedding, if the sedan chair meets another sedan chair, exchange small gifts to make way, indicating mutual interference and safety. In case of funeral, you have to divert the road, or cover the sedan chair with red silk to ward off evil spirits before shooting. If the two in-laws get too close, they have to take a detour to show their dignity and show off. At the same time, in a village, two families get married, and sedan chairs compete for early return, which means that whoever has a daughter-in-law who enters early will have children early and be happy and harmonious.

2. Wedding flowers: It's etiquette to return from the wedding sedan chair. In the past, the return of sedan chairs was mostly controlled by the sun pressing the mountain and near dusk. In ancient times, "marriage" was regarded as "fainting". "White Tiger Biography" said: "Married people get married when they are unconscious, so they get married; Marriage, women get married because of their husbands, so they get married. " Why do ancestors hold weddings at dusk? Folklorists have different views on this. It is said to be related to the phenomenon of robbing marriage in the slavery era. Since it's a robbery, it's necessary to hide people's eyes and ears, hide their ugliness in the dark and get married secretly, which will become a habit. Another is to take men (men) to welcome women (women). "In the Soul of Li Yi's Poems" said: "The ceremony of marrying a wife is based on fainting, hence the name. If you want to faint, Yang will go to Yin. " It can be seen that in ancient times, when the wedding ceremony was in a coma, it meant that the yang was coming to the yin. If you don't get married at this time, marriage will be untimely and unlucky.

The sedan chair is not far from the door of the house. A "striker" will come back to report that the sedan chair will come back and get ready for the flowers. Suddenly, the suona sounded, firecrackers exploded and the audience was blocked. The sedan chair was decided according to the direction stated in the "Marriage Letter" (the direction of getting off the sedan chair depends on the time of the sedan chair. The rule is: Chen should go west, not north at noon, east, and Haizi ugly should go south). The bridesmaid led the groom around the bridge three times and reversed three times. The bride was helped down by the bridesmaid (commonly known as "the one who helped her daughter-in-law") and stepped on the carpet laid on the ground. It is an old habit of "the bride and groom walk on the carpet of the husband's family without touching the soil" that the two carpets move forward in exchange. The bride and groom walked side by side to the flower room where they worshipped the world. The hostess greeted the "big guest" who sent the woman to the neighbor's house for tea to relax, and then served her dinner.

3. Worship heaven and earth: When worshipping heaven and earth, there are also many stresses on the setting of the drawing room. Generally, a picture is hung on the wall in the middle of Zhuangzi, and the word "Xi Xi" is slowly attached; There are incense table offerings on the table, and the red candle shines high; Some also enshrine the memorial tablet of "Three Realms of Heaven and Earth, Duke of Zhou, Peach Blossom God"; Also put a bucket, a scale, a ruler, a rolling pin, an abacus and a mirror. Why do you put these things? Obviously related to myths and legends, symbolizing good luck. According to legend, Duke Zhou (not Zhou Gongdan of the Western Zhou Dynasty) and Taohua were two fairies around the Jade Emperor in the Heavenly Palace. Because the boy repeatedly broke the precepts, he was banished to the world and reincarnated as Duke Zhou. When he is on earth, he often understands secrets and breaks dogma. The Jade Emperor sent many generals to try to subdue him and punish him, but predicted that he would flee first. Later, he secretly sent a girl to the lower bound, reborn as a peach blossom, and matched her as husband and wife, waiting for an opportunity to surrender. Unexpectedly, he found himself in love with Peach Blossom, and they became a happy couple. It is passed down by the people as the god of "God-given marriage". People often say that love pride "goes to the Peach Blossom Garden", which also comes from this. As for putting a bucket and a weight on the table, there are many legends, such as symbolizing "fairness and rationality", "balance and fullness", "three media and six certificates", "husband and wife are United" and "treat each other with sincerity" and so on. There used to be many lyrics of bridesmaids, such as "entering the church", "worshipping the church" and "announcing marriage". Different characters, simple and convenient. This is one of them:

Entry words:

How gorgeous the scenery in the drawing room is, and the colorful clouds are auspicious.

Qingluan can dance for a thousand years, and husband and wife will live long.

See the bride:

Looking for peach blossoms to avoid Qin, peach blossoms are another spring.

Fairy fish in Taoyuan drift with the tide, just waiting for Yu Lang to pay attention.

One worships the heavens, the earth, the sun, the moon and the stars, and the other worships the Oriental Lady.

Three worships in Nanbingding fire and four worships in Xijin,

Five worships the agriculture in the north and your water, and six worships the infinite soil in the middle.

Seven generations of ancestors, eight fathers, mothers, uncles, aunts and brothers,

Nine visits to teachers and ten visits to relatives and friends.

Wedding notice:

luxuriant

On XX, XX, XX's successor, with the instrument of offering wine, I want to inform the God of X family the day before yesterday:

Heaven and earth meet Thailand, protect Thai Yuan, and there are two beauties in the world, next to Xingshe Bridge. XX, XX husband and wife get together, get married, worship their ancestors together, celebrate good words in the flower hall, have a happy marriage, respect and love each other for a hundred years. Ancestors in the world, I dare to be happy. My ancestor Fuxi is a wise man after enlightenment, and will continue forever. Your suggestion.

Later, these lyrics and essays were abolished. When offering sacrifices to heaven and earth, only the best man sings: first, offering sacrifices to heaven and earth, second, offering sacrifices to ancestors, third, offering sacrifices to parents and couples, so the bride and groom can bow down and salute accordingly. Local customs believe that worshipping heaven and earth will become a formal couple.

4. Entering the bridal chamber: The bridal chamber is also deep. The language comes from Lu Ji's Gentleman Thinking and Walking: "The first is lofty, and the wedding room is a pavilion." In the future, the bedroom of the newlyweds will be called the new house.

After the wedding, you have to take the carpet. The groom pulls red cloth and pulls each other, which means "a thousand miles of marriage is a thread." When entering the cave door, the groom's ancestors said, "Ancestors first." When the bride enters the door, one person carries a liter of copper coins, dates, walnuts, bran and cereal knots from the inside out, which is called "spreading the account". Sing while scattering:

One sprinkled chaff, one sprinkled material, and the third sprinkled daughter-in-law out of the sedan chair;

One sprinkled gold, one sprinkled silver, and the third sprinkled daughter-in-law into the door;

Newly married wife, good hands and feet, walking like a willow in the wind;

Get married this year, send it next year, and call it big (dad) when you have a fat baby.

Someone sings:

One sprinkled chaff, one sprinkled material, and the third sprinkled daughter-in-law out of the sedan chair;

Four scatters of gold and five scatters of silver, and six scatters of daughter-in-law into the door;

Seven walnuts and eight dates make nine couples a hundred years old;

Ten scattered for a full house, the sun and the moon will last forever.

At this time, the dolls rushed to people, grabbing walnuts, jujubes and copper coins, squeezing around. At the same time, the groom removes the bride's veil with a rolling pin, and the bride sits cross-legged on the kang facing the chimney. It is said that this means that fireworks are constantly on. Then the dolls broke the enough paper and asked the bride for walnuts and dates to eat. People think that eating the bride's walnuts and dates won't hurt her teeth.

As soon as the bride sits down, the groom will light the "longevity lamp". The so-called "longevity lamp" is a symbol of "long life and wealth". It was added with clear oil, lit all night and placed in the height of the bridal chamber.

When the bride's dowry is carried to the bridal chamber, it is still locked. The key is carried by the doll who gave the girl the key, and the groom can only open it in exchange for money, which is also commonly known as the "redemption key". The bride reports to the bridesmaid the amount of "lucky money" brought from her family, and then the man's family makes up for it. It is customary to add more, not less, not to add a pair. No matter how hard it is, the man has to add enough, which is commonly known as "age money."

In some places, after the bride enters the bridal chamber, her mother-in-law touches her back with a broom, which is called "family heirloom"; Before going to bed, the bride should take off her socks for the groom. There should be no money for the bride in the socks. The next morning, the bride and groom had to get up early. They went to their in-laws' rooms to greet each other and asked, "Is the kang hot?" I also have to pour a urinal for my in-laws and light cigarettes for my in-laws to show "morning dizziness." Widows are not allowed to enter the bridal chamber for three days. Now these feudal ethical codes, which embody the superiority of men over women, have long been abolished.

5. Hospitality: Inform relatives and friends, neighbors and family members, and do your best to organize banquets and entertain guests. Gifts are "official feelings", that is, they are jointly organized by relatives and friends, usually cards, plaques, plaques, screens, etc. There is also "unrequited love", in which individuals bring gifts or cash gifts to congratulate each other, commonly known as "Xing Ai" or "Dai Li", also known as "going through the motions". In the past, only 16 was used for "love", and 24 steamed buns with 48 pieces of white flour were counted as "one dish". The steamed stuffed bun with newspaper is called "Li steamed stuffed bun", and the shopkeeper returns 2 to 5 steamed stuffed buns called "Hui". In addition, according to the relationship between relatives and friends, red things send toiletries, clothes, greetings and so on. The victim set up a "gift book" to "give gifts" one by one to prepare for the gift. There are also many taboos in giving gifts. Generally, I don't send a mirror, and I think the other person is ugly. If you don't send the clock, there is a taboo of "sending it out".

There are many famous banquets, among which the local ones are "Eight Ku Five", "Ten Waizi", "Twelfth Floor", "Thirteen Flowers", "Nine Bowls", "Eight Bowls" and "Four Columns", which are all named according to the number, priority and arrangement of dishes. In recent years, the form and content of banquets are constantly reforming and changing. The past "one dish at a time" has been replaced by a series of famous dishes. After drinking enough wine, we can eat vegetables and make our meals full. There must be fish and chicken on the dining table, which means that it is often said that "Jiqing has more than enough" to be complete. Eat soup (freshly baked noodles) in advance, and then eat a mat. Soup is generally managed by "father and son". As the saying goes, "seven hosts and eight hosts are not as cheap as the host." On the day of the event, the host family, people and guests will have breakfast first, and then receive the guests after commenting on the food and improving the taste. There used to be 8 people in one seat, but now there is one seat 10 people. When guests come to eat, they are called "flowing seats" or "inserting legs"; When the guests come, they should drink soup (freshly baked noodles) first, and then unify the "seats" when the guests are basically here. This is called "gathering seats". In fact, it is important and respectful for visitors from parents' home and other families to have an extra seat, which is called "heavy seat". After dinner, please ask the chef to cook, and there are "bonuses" (money, cigarettes, towels, etc. ) It should be given to chefs in some key links of cooking to show respect for their hard work. Because the family is poor and can't afford a banquet, we have to put some clear oil to cook a pot of tofu, potato and radish soup and four dishes of cold vegetarian dishes. Guests can drink or soak while eating, which is the easiest way to eat. According to local customs, the top of chopsticks should be dipped in red, and the top of steamed chopsticks should be put with a red dot to show good luck.

6. Entering the door: refers to the etiquette of the bride entering the kitchen to worship the stove, "try the future" and "try the knife". This probably comes from the custom of "washing hands to make wedding dress soup, and I decided that it was not my mother-in-law, but the fiat smell of my husband's sister in the kitchen for three days" (Don's "The Bride's Word").

When the bride enters the kitchen door, the lintel is steamed and asked to swallow a bite, which symbolizes that there will be food when she enters the door. The fast bride does not bite with her mouth, but reaches out and grabs it and throws it into the water tank after entering the door (after taking it out, the husband and wife will share it after baking). Then kowtow to the kitchen god in front of the kitchen. When kowtowing, pick up a pair of chopsticks on the ground and put them in the chopsticks basket, indicating that you have officially become a member of the family.

After the sacrifice, someone held three bowls in front of the bride, which contained salt, money and meat for the bride to uncover, so as to predict her fate, commonly known as "trying the future". If the salt is uncovered, it means that the husband and wife are in love; What is uncovered is money, which shows that the bride is not short of money in her life; What is uncovered is meat, which shows that the bride is a gluttonous and lazy woman. Generally, the first bowl is opened with salt or money, so the bride will not open it again, which also satisfies her hope. If the first bowl is big meat, then the bride has to open the second bowl to save her fate. But you can't uncover all three bowls, only two bowls at most. Of course, this is just a form of having fun and playing with my daughter-in-law. How can we try any "future"?

After "trying the future", the bride washed her hands and smoothed her sleeves and began to "try the knife". Neighbors, aunts, adults and children all gathered around and played around. When the bride is mixing dough, some deliberately add more water to make it too sticky. Some deliberately add more noodles so that they can't be rubbed together; Some people will sprinkle some salt on the noodles when the bride tidies up, so that the noodles will not open. Pointing at each other, making things difficult, commenting, laughing and having fun. When you meet a shy girl, you will be overwhelmed by playing; Smart and bold, quick-footed, able to cope with "war" calmly. After a while, the noodles were rolled out, put in a pot and put into a bowl for everyone. Everyone tasted it and was full of praise, especially the old people were so happy that they said that eating the new wife's "trial noodles" had "increased happiness and longevity" The bride and groom share a bowl and eat half of it, which is called "eating noodles". At this time, the funny people pour some vinegar on this one and some salt on that one, but no matter how strange the taste is, the bride and groom should finish this bowl of noodles together, and there can be no leftovers or pours. It is also a local form of "marriage".

7. Sacrifice size: First, hang the "shadow" of ancestors. The bride and groom worship their ancestors first, and then kowtow to their families, relatives and neighbors. The best man holds the plate in his hand, and according to the seniority and the relationship between relatives and friends, there is a cup first: "kowtow to XXX." Whoever kowtows to him will put some money or gifts on the plate for the bride and groom. You can't beat your head for nothing. The rewards are light and heavy, and you can do what you can. Some of them put some small change, others put shoes, socks, handkerchiefs, towels, hats, pillowcases and so on. Thanks to the size of money and goods, the husband and wife share equally to show their hard work.

In the past, there was a local custom of worshipping Zhuang. Why do you worship Zhuang? It seems that it is probably to let the bride recognize people, family and generation. Bai Zhuang is usually accompanied by his sister-in-law, and his brother donates a blanket. Earlier, as soon as the bride went out, she went door to door, kowtowing to her elders and bowing to her peers. As the saying goes, "a new wife won't last three days." Some colleagues like to exploit loopholes, insisting that he is an elder and asking others to kowtow. In order to be lively, the sister-in-law who led the daughter-in-law also helped the villagers play together. She pointed to the little boy who just learned to walk and said, "This is called brother-in-law. Knock it!" The bride must knock at the door. After a while, he pointed to the little girl who was nursing and said, "Although she is young, she is tall in life. Call her nephew. " The bride was still knocking at the door, causing the adults and children at the scene to burst into laughter. The new wife also knows that she has been cheated, but there is nothing she can do. Worshipped elders usually give the bride some small gifts, such as handkerchiefs, soap and coins. In order to have more fun, some people of the same age gave two red peppers, which means that the two will "hold together" forever, which means that they will never be separated until they are old; Some give an egg in the hope that the bride will give birth to a "good egg" next year. Therefore, the mother-in-law who loves her daughter-in-law repeatedly told her sister-in-law not to embarrass the bride before going out.

8. Thank the guests: After the wedding, hold a banquet to see off the woman's "big guests" and thank the foreign families and the "guests" who helped in this matter. After the seats are seated, the bride and groom kowtow in front of the seats. In the past, some housekeepers or bridesmaids even made up some humorous jingles to rap at the thank-you table, which attracted guests to burst into laughter and added a cordial, warm and happy atmosphere to the wedding. Here are some excerpts from the lyrics to thank the guests.

Xie's in-laws:

Husband and wife are my own relatives, and the hearts of the older generation are connected.

I have to bother you with everything, and I feel deeply when I am polite.

Many people don't eat well, so don't worry about being rude.

If you can't stay today, get up after eating and drinking.

The doll kowtows to thank you!

Thanks to the chef:

In fact, the party was very good, and everyone praised the chef's skill.

Save meat and vegetables to reconcile, and the hearts of the victims are also affected.

Two oil hands are sweating like a pig, and smoke burns all night.

Sweet, sour, spicy and ingenious combination, no one can forget it.

The doll kowtows to thank you!

Xie Chuishou:

Blow one's hand and blow one's mouth hard, the whole village is sensational.

There are many tunes, and the tunes are correct. Anyone who listens to them is happy.

I didn't mean to compliment you to your face, but the North and South Plateau is famous.

This is a good thing. A glass of wine shows your mood.

The doll kowtows to thank you!

Thank you:

The victim took pains to set up a banquet, and the wedding was really beautiful.

Nothing serious, thanks to your help;

If you have done your best, don't worry about others gossiping.

All the customers are diligent. They all praised the competent manager.

And-

Lamar's, sedan chair's, ignition's, cannon's;

Those who receive guests, whistle, and cannot be greeted;

Comb your hair, help your daughter, master of ceremonies, and confidant;

Audience, courtesy, and congratulations from all directions;

Those who spread mats and blankets, and others who are bored in the crowd;

Cutting vegetables, mixing noodles, burning pots to cut firewood, and smashing charcoal;

Picking onions, peeling garlic, carrying water and blowing donkeys to grind noodles;

Sweep the floor, see the hospital, fetch water and pour tea to wipe the case;

Holding a baby, collecting eggs, buying cigarettes and drinking in the county;

Serve, take buns, and specially greet the seats;

There are also idle people standing at the door and climbing to the wall to look around;

As if nothing had happened, people who came out to swim around;

The bride's face was at sixes and sevens, and her belt was broken after eating. ...

Salute and thank each other, and the doll will kowtow to you!

When the "big guest" of the bride's family leaves after dinner, a principal will remind and thank her daughter's mother-in-law.

You're welcome. The content is generally:

The girl is shy, doesn't talk much, and can't cook a needle, thread, tea and rice.

Don't be upset if you don't have courtesy, be kind and give more advice;

Don't say it to your face, you can't go wrong.

Everything is fine at home, so I'm relieved to go back.

Mother-in-law should also express several wishes to the guests:

Go back and tell your in-laws that I regard my daughter-in-law as my daughter;

If we don't eat, drink or wear clothes, there won't be much work in our family.

Poor food is thin, and I didn't eat or drink well.

Relatives often come and go in the future. Don't walk around the door.

After thanking each other, the groom, family and neighbors are all "big guests" of the bride's family, pulling horses, carts, bags and suona, and enthusiastically seeing them off on their way back.

9. Play with the house: Many places are called "noisy bridal chamber". According to research, this marriage custom was formed as early as the Han and Wei Dynasties. Legend has it that once upon a time, Mr. Shu had a son who was famous for his calligraphy and painting, and his unmarried daughter-in-law was also a talented woman who was proficient in poetry. Mr. Gao wants to show the talents of his son and daughter-in-law; Second, I want my daughter to learn something from my brother and sister-in-law, so on my son's daughter-in-law's wedding night, I invited local celebrities with poems and books to hold a banquet in the new house to celebrate the wedding with poetry, singing and drinking. Since then, neighbors have followed suit and later evolved into a custom of "noisy" marriage. According to some people's superstitions, foxes and ghosts often haunt ancient bridal chambers, which can drive away evil spirits and enhance people's yang, so there is a saying that "people are not haunted." In a positive sense, the bridal chamber has four functions: first, it means that the groom gets married, and the bride ends her teenage life and starts a new world; The second is to celebrate good luck and get to know relatives and close neighbors; Third, in the past arranged marriages, men and women were not familiar with each other, and their feelings were enhanced by making trouble in the bridal chamber to eliminate strangeness and shyness; Fourth, rural cultural life is monotonous and people can get pleasure from it.

It is an indispensable part of traditional wedding to call "noisy bridal chamber". Within three to five days of marriage, people come to play house every night. There are brothers and sisters, brothers-in-law, brothers-in-law, cousins and cousins; Men and women with grandparents and grandchildren. Besides "playing house", there are also customs of "listening to the house" and "stealing the house".

"Playing house" is mainly about "playing with a new wife", exploring the new wife's personality, temper, wisdom, eloquence and adaptability. Rich in content, diverse in forms, unique in methods and fun. There used to be five forms of "playing house" in the local area:

First, let the new wife say tongue twisters.

Female mouth:

A basin under the shed, a shed on the basin, the shed collapsed and the basin was smashed.

You see, shed compensation basin? Still want to pay for the shed?

Another example is:

A white-nosed pimple cat, a white-nosed pimple cat,

The white-nosed pimple cat bit its leg,

The cat with the acne nose bit the cat with the acne nose. '

Look, does the white-nosed pimple cat pay for the white-nosed pimple cat's leg?

Or, does the white-nosed pimple cat make up for the white-nosed pimple cat's mouth?

These tongue twisters are really awkward and hard to say clearly. If the inarticulate bride appears white, then

There was a burst of laughter in the room.

Second, let the new wife solve riddles on the lanterns.

Female mouth:

Up hair, down hair; Two black grapes in the middle;

It is very hairy to sleep at night.

(eyes)

Women are ugly, but xianggong refuses to let go;

Mouth to mouth, tongue to tongue, sister eats with her mouth wide open.

(eating melon seeds)

A thing, four inches long, the young lady invited it into the bridal chamber;

White water flows in the middle of the night, only short but not long.

(candle)

Meat mountain sewing meat, white water feeding;

The fireplace crackled and creaked

(Babies suck)

For these seemingly "ugly and sour" riddles, the bride blushes and is silent, shy and coy, and does not open her mouth to guess. So, the "play house" people ordered the groom to mobilize the bride to guess riddles, but the bride still didn't speak, and everyone laughed at the groom's "fear" of his daughter-in-law. Finally, someone pointed out the answer and everyone laughed.

Third, let the bride say some jingles about love:

Female mouth:

A flower on the south wall, my sister should wear it;

I can't run by myself. Brother, give me a hand.

Another example is:

Buckwheat skin, sieve bottom, little sister holding you to sleep;

The makers of summer sleeping mats not only weave summer sleeping mats, but also sleep on their sisters.

Someone put such a jingle topic out, and every "play house" laughed heartily. The bride is shy and silent, but her heart is full of sweetness, secretly looking forward to a happy life in the future.

The fourth is to let the bride and groom play games.

Husband and wife are required to cooperate closely and complete some actions together. Such as: a glass of wine, the bride and groom each drink half, euphemistically called "drinking"; Hang a piece of meat, let two people stand on a small stool together and bite with their mouths, which is called "monkey climbing the tree"; Put some fragrant rapeseed or sesame seeds in a small dish and let two people lick it with their tongues at the same time. This is called "dog licking the bowl"; There are also "spreading pancakes", "digging fleas", "double kissing", mouth-to-mouth stuttering candy and so on. Generally, the groom is quite willing to do this kind of activity, while the bride is ashamed to avoid it and insists on not doing it. So people "violently" the groom, from "pushing" to "beating" with the sole, forcing the groom to plead with the bride, or the bride could not bear to "torture" the groom and had to obey.

The fifth is to light the bride's cigarette.

When smokers go to "play house", they should let the bride dress up with cigarettes or hand out cigarettes, and light them themselves, saying that the cigarettes decorated by the bride will not hurt their teeth. In order to make a joke, when the bride lit a cigarette, someone deliberately shook the hookah or cigarette butt so that the bride couldn't light it, and pretended to be dazzled and shook her hands to test the bride's dexterity and agility. However, some brides deliberately burned the beard of smokers when they were not paying attention, which made people laugh. After "playing house", people dispersed, and it was already midnight. "Spring night is worth a thousand dollars in an instant", and the bride and groom have to spend their sweet "night of flowers and candles". At this time, "listening to the room" and "stealing the room" began.

Listening to the Room is a joke for young people to join in the fun. The more mysterious the newlyweds are, the more curious some people are. They stood outside the window of the bridal chamber, held their breath and quietly "eavesdropped". When they heard the story, they spread it around and made jokes. In the past, there was a saying that "people don't listen to ghosts" and "people listen to convey happiness and ghosts listen to convey worries".

Some playful young people sneaked into the bridal chamber while the bride and groom were "dreaming of Duke Zhou", performing "stunts" and "stealing" the jewelry, clothes, shoes and socks that the bride took off. When the young couple woke up, they found themselves "destroyed", but they were helpless. At dawn, my aunt and sister-in-law "scouted and solved the case" and implemented the "lost" things. After some bargaining, the two sides reached an "agreement" before returning to the restoration. Some have become jokes and interesting things for many years.

According to local customs, there are many people who play house, which is a reflection of good popularity. The more noisy they are, the happier they are, and the more fun they play. Therefore, although some people behave recklessly and use vulgar language, the bride and groom should greet each other with a smile and not show boredom and dissatisfaction, otherwise it would be "impolite".

From ancient times to the present, "playing house" is a lively and interesting thing, but it must be polite. The ancients have long warned people that "playing house" should be civilized and moral, and must not be vulgar. Zhong Changtong, a famous scholar in the Han Dynasty, said in his book Chang Yan: "Marrying Hui Yuan today is nothing more than the governor's banter, the lust of drinking and drifting with the tide, public obscenity, private relations between relatives, filth and vulgarity, and long-term adultery." Ge Hong, a famous scholar in Jin Dynasty, also said in "The Misunderstanding of Bao Puzi": "It's a pity that secular women play drama among the masses and before their relatives, asking ugly words and blaming them indiscriminately, but they don't know the limits." The general idea of these two paragraphs is that some people get out of control when they play house, deliberately swear in front of everyone, make jokes, drown their sorrows in wine, expose the privacy of couples, and do everything possible to embarrass them, even touch them, causing harm. This excessive practice is absolutely unacceptable.

Nowadays, the custom of "playing house" is still popular, but it is much more civilized in language, behavior and tactics than in the past, which increases the cultural connotation, especially the complete abolition of "stealing houses", which is a manifestation of social progress.