A treasure mother who knows two children.

A treasure mother who knows two children.

The mother of two children realized that many families now have two children. I don't know when everyone's preference for sons has changed a lot. Boys suddenly seem to be less popular, and many families have become out-and-out "female slaves." The following is Bao Ma's perception of the two children.

As a mother of two children, Ma Bao realized that Xiaomei was a mother who had married far away. Everyone in the family wants Xiaomei to have a son, especially her mother-in-law wants Xiaomei to have a big grandson, but Xiaomei's first child is a daughter. After the birth of the first daughter, her mother-in-law's attitude changed obviously. Although her mother-in-law didn't show it, she could feel that her mother-in-law still took care of Xiaomei as always.

And encourage Xiaomei to have a fat grandson when she has a second child. After a long period of preparation, Xiaomei welcomed her second child, but the second child was still a girl. Mother-in-law's attitude really changed after learning the news. To this end, Xiaomei often quarreled with her mother-in-law and husband, and finally ended in divorce.

In fact, for a treasure mother whose first child is a daughter, she must think clearly when preparing to have a second child. Look at the following aspects before making a decision, or she may regret it.

1, do a good job in taking care of the baby.

The first thing mothers should pay attention to is to be psychologically prepared to take care of their children. Many people may ask their parents-in-law to help take care of their children when they have their first child. At this time, their parents-in-law are young and have the energy and ability to help their mothers with their children. However, in the second child, the elderly also need to take care of themselves, and the children also need to take care of themselves and be busy with their work. Problems and stress are all things that mothers need to consider.

2. Do a good job of psychological counseling for Dabao.

Now many eliminated families choose to have a second child, but they all ignore one problem, that is, Dabao's feelings. Therefore, it is very important for mothers to do psychological counseling for Dabao. Many families will feel wronged after the birth of their second child because they ignore Dabao's feelings, which will cause many unnecessary problems and troubles, so this is also something that mothers need to consider.

3. Have certain economic conditions.

Finally, certain economic conditions are needed. Parents who have had the experience of having their first child know that raising a child is not easy. Among them, the economic pressure is very great. Parents need to pay for their children's education, food, clothing, housing and transportation from an early age. A child is already under a lot of pressure. If you have a second child, you will face greater pressure. Therefore, when parents are considering a second child, they must make full economic preparations.

The treasure mother of two children realized that "with the second child, the boss will be wronged eventually", and the feeling of the treasure mother of the second child caused a * * * sound.

Have you changed your attitude towards the boss after giving birth to the second child?

When brushing a certain sound, I was very touched to see the content sent by a second-born mother. Mother said, "This used to be my only treasure, but now it has become the one I hit as soon as I raised my hand. After all, I wronged the boss with my second child. "

Many second-born mothers also echoed and expressed the same feelings. When the second child is not born, many mothers feel that even if they have a second child, they can treat the two children equally. But when the second child was born, I found that everything was different from what I expected. It's hard for me to do what I thought at first, and eventually I will ignore and neglect my boss. Even when I was taking care of my second child, I was upset and emotionally unstable, and my boss even became my punching bag.

"With the second child, the boss will eventually be wronged." The feeling of the second baby mother caused a * * * sound.

Mother's energy is limited. For the sake of two children, it is inevitable to pay attention to one thing and lose sight of one thing.

Many mothers overestimate themselves. But mothers are human beings, and their energy is limited. Taking care of one child and two children is completely different. If the age difference between the two children is not too big, and the second child is just born, they are more dependent on their mother, which is when they need her to take care of them wholeheartedly. Because of the particularity of the second child, most mothers will focus on the second child. The child is hungry and crying, and the second child will be the first. In this way, the boss will be left out more or less, which is inevitable for the second-child family. In particular, a mother who takes care of two children alone has limited energy, so it is easy to take care of both children.

Plus taking care of two children, no one helps, and one person is too tired and worried. Mother's mood is inevitably bad. At this time, when she saw all kinds of pranks, she easily took it out on her boss.

The second is the lovely age, and the boss is the annoying age.

In fact, whether there is a second child or not, the boss will be beaten when he is old. Dogs are too old to be old. It's not just talk. You know, when a child is born, it is soft and lovely. Except for crying occasionally to express his needs, he is fine most of the time. He will not oppose his parents, nor will he make them angry. Mother is soft-hearted to such children, and she can't love them enough.

But with the growth of age, children can talk, walk and have their own ideas. Children are cute or cute, but anger is also irritating. Sometimes I rebel and do things that I get beaten every day. When children are older, sometimes it is impossible not to fight. Boss is also a treasure in his mother's eyes, and he has grown to the age when this dog is too old. Moreover, the second child will grow to this age, and it is inevitable to be beaten at that time. So many times when the boss is beaten, you can't let the second child take the blame, but the boss is old enough to be beaten.

With the second child, many parents have higher requirements for the boss.

Many mothers will have this mentality. With the second child, they suddenly feel that the boss should be sensible and can be their own helper, instead of adding chaos to themselves. So many times the boss has a younger brother and sister, and when he sees that the boss still doesn't look at him and doesn't know how to share it with himself, he gets angry, and there is no good attitude and good face. I forgot that the boss is only a child of three or four years old. He is heartless, innocent, mischievous and needs the love of his parents.

Many parents, after giving birth to a second child, ask the boss to grow up immediately and become sensible and capable. When the second child didn't become what he wanted, they began to get angry and disappointed. This is not the boss's problem, but the parents' problem.

Therefore, in order to make the eldest brother feel less wronged, parents must consider the age of the eldest brother before giving birth to the second child, make psychological preparations for the eldest brother, and let the eldest brother prepare for the arrival of his younger brother and sister. At the same time, after giving birth to the second child, try not to ignore the boss.

Ma Bao's understanding of two children 3 "I have two sons" comes from Ma Bao's inner understanding: I am worried that my old age will be miserable.

Story case:

With the arrival of the second child era, Pan Pan also chose to join in. In fact, her original intention is very simple, that is, she feels that a child is a little lonely. Sometimes when watching her son Sasaki play alone, she will think about having another one, so that the child will not be lonely. Moreover, as adults, two children can take care of each other, and the pressure of taking care of their parents can be reduced a lot.

After she gave birth to the baby, Pampan gave birth to another boy. At this moment, she realized that the pressure of life had just begun. Having two treasures means that family expenses are rising constantly, and there are occasional contradictions between two children. In Pan Pan's words, the family is quiet every day, and the two children often quarrel. What worries her most is her later life. Will her two sons be miserable?

Subconsciously, everyone thinks that boys are not as careful as girls, and they all have their own small families after marriage, so it is difficult to focus on taking care of their parents. In addition, the two sons will "compare" with each other and probably will not please each other in the end. But is this really the case? See what people who have been there say.

In fact, how you live in your later years has nothing to do with your child's gender. The most important thing is the education and training of parents when they were young. Children who are truly filial and kind will always remember their parents' kindness, not need to be reminded. You know, people have feelings, as long as parents and children treat each other sincerely

Since they are two sons, parents should be "fair". As long as a bowl of water is flat, I believe that children can help each other and grow up healthily. In the minds of the older generation, there is often eccentricity, which leads to discord between brothers. However, nowadays, young parents pay more attention to the scientific concept of child-rearing, and there are few problems of partiality.

Happy old people often have similarities in parenting secrets, and these experiences are worth learning.

1, equal treatment

If you want a happy family and there are no contradictions, then parents and their important family members must have a bowl of water. The study found that many families with contradictions, because parents did not treat each other equally, caused mutual "harm" between children.

To treat all children in the family, parents should uphold an educational concept, that is, to enrich them spiritually. Expand children's horizons, enrich their experiences and enrich their spiritual realm. Only in this way can children grow faster and become better. The most important thing is that children enjoy equal treatment, and there will be more topics between them, and there will be no big disputes and contradictions. Especially when there are two boys at home, we should teach them to take responsibility and share it from an early age, so that the relationship between the two brothers will be better when they grow up.

2, understand brotherhood.

Presumably, parents have heard an old saying, "Fight tigers and kiss brothers". As long as two people work together, they can support each other in the next life and future career. Therefore, children should be taught to understand the meaning of brothers and sisters from an early age, and let him know that in this world, apart from parents, brothers and sisters are the closest and most willing to tolerate him.

Only when children are genuinely aware of the importance of brothers and sisters and are willing to understand and share with each other can they grow up loving each other. Parents should know that there are two children at home and pay more attention to the direction in education and life. Don't think that creating more material life for them is love. You know, money will run out one day, but brotherhood is a lifelong treasure.

3. Rational education

Try to be friends with all the children, and don't kidnap them morally. In real life, too many parents use their position to suppress their children. They always feel that they are elders and should "demand" and "force" their children. But in fact, it is the wrong educational concept of parents that affects the feelings between parents and children and pushes the children further.

I believe that parents who truly love and respect their children will get the same return, because all love and respect are mutual. I believe that all parents try their best not to ask for anything in return when raising their children, so they should not go to moral kidnapping. You know, those old people who are happy in their later years are willingly taken care of by their children.

abstract

Although the burden of having two boys at home is heavy, on the other hand, if parents educate them hard and cultivate them to be better themselves, then the future happiness is naturally unstoppable. Parents are the happiest as long as their children love each other.