Why are some people ignorant and show off?

Why are some people ignorant and show off? Why do some women show off? Everyone likes beautiful things, so women like to compare and find suitable boys before getting married. In other words, it is choice, and of course there must be capital. Pick the good ones, they like to compare.

Why do some people always show off their wealth? In fact, the more they show off, the less confident they are! Inferiority! So when you meet people who are not as good as yourself, show off quickly and improve your self-confidence and vanity! Look at those people who are really rich. I have never seen such a person. Everything is missing something, buying something, and can't keep up with the competition.

Why do some people always show off? The reason for showing off is 1. I have a strong sense of honor. If I have made some achievements, I will tell myself around me to show how strong my ability seems to be. 2, sell themselves, hype themselves, in order to improve their right to speak. 3. Feel good about yourself, praise yourself and satisfy yourself. 4, driven by vanity, eager for success, unrealistic. 5, natural personality, good self-exaggeration, self-boasting. 6, intended to improve their visibility, in order to achieve that goal, the purpose is even greater. 7, the meaning of drunkenness is not wine, driven by certain interests.

Why do some people regard sharing as showing off? Although we can't say that a person with good character must have good popularity, what is certain is that a person with low moral quality and poor character will never have good popularity. As the saying goes, birds of a feather flock together. A normal person, who wants to associate with people with low character? Therefore, personality is the decisive factor in determining popularity, and of course you should also master some communication arts.

First of all, we must establish an idea: harmony is more important.

In China's philosophy of life, the golden mean is regarded as a classic, and its essence is to attach importance to harmony. Colleagues, as your working partners, will inevitably have conflicts of interest or other problems. When dealing with these contradictions, the first solution you think of should be reconciliation. After all, under the same roof, if you look up but don't look down, if you let anyone ruin your mood, you may suffer in the future, not others. Living in harmony with colleagues, in the eyes of your boss, your weight will rise to a higher level, because the harmonious handling of interpersonal relationships is not only the need of survival, but also the need of work and life.

It is easy to get along with colleagues. Harmonious colleague relationship makes your work and life with colleagues around you simpler and more efficient.

If you want to have a harmonious colleague relationship, you must also remember one sentence: "A friendship between gentlemen is as light as water".

Everyone works in the same school, and their personal friendship must be very different. There is a natural relationship between distance and closeness. The key to the problem is how to deal with this "far and near" relationship.

We can recall who we tend to have an opinion about. In fact, we have no objection to who is closely related to whom and who is alienated from whom, because for ourselves, there are also close people and relatively ordinary people. We don't even have any complaints about colleagues giving excuses to their friends for making mistakes, because no one has many good brothers and sisters to hide when something happens. However, when we found that this relationship between distance and distance began to expand because of the same interests, and even there was intrigue and rivalry, we began to frown.

This situation is taboo in an excellent team, and it can even be said that it is the beginning of the disintegration and differentiation of a team, and the result is the paralysis of the whole team.

In order to avoid this situation, what we have to do is to control the close relationship with our colleagues. We should think that no matter whether your relationship with colleagues is close or distant, it is your personal relationship, and this relationship goes beyond work and should not have any influence on your work.

Although the reason is simple, the feelings between people are not as easy to control as described in the text. Although you know clearly in your heart, "I can never bring personal relationships to work." But more often, many behaviors are natural expressions of personal likes and dislikes, and you don't even feel it yourself. So, what should we do in this case? Is to control the degree of closeness, the best way is "a friendship between gentlemen is as light as water".

The formation and maintenance of good friends require conditions. To be more specific, it is very important to be good friends, but there is another point, that is, there can be no obvious conflict of interest between two people. It is difficult for two people with obvious conflict of interests and obvious or hidden competition of interests to become good friends. Even two people who have become good friends, in the face of obvious conflicts of interest and competition, often make their feelings deadlocked. Because human nature is selfish, no one can escape.

Because of this, in school, a friendship between gentlemen is not as light as water. Because it is an occasion full of obvious competition and conflicts of interest, there are too many factors that affect and interfere with the relationship between people. Contradictions and cracks are too easy to appear between good friends, and these contradictions and cracks are basically inevitable, even if people have the best subjective hope.

Secondly, we must learn to respect our colleagues.

In interpersonal communication, your attitude towards others often determines the attitude of others towards yourself. Therefore, if you want to gain the goodwill and respect of others, you must first respect others.

Research shows that everyone has a strong desire for friendship and respect. Therefore, saving face is really a big * * * of people. At work, if you are not careful, you may inadvertently say something embarrassing to your colleagues. On the surface, he may just feel guilty on the surface, but his heart may have been seriously bruised. In the future, the other person may refuse to associate with you because of his injured self-esteem.

A philosopher once asked the question: Who is putting on airs, the general or the gatekeeper? The answer is the doorman. Because the general has abundant capital, he doesn't need shelf support. The same is true in real life. People with advantages are often generous, with enough self-esteem and face, and there is no need for others to add them.

People who are in your class or even worse than you in some aspects are likely to show strong self-esteem because of their inferiority complex. His little face needs your careful care. If you can communicate with people in an equal manner, they will feel respected and have a good impression on you. So, remember, there is no friendship without respect.

To respect colleagues, we should consciously keep their secrets.

There are only two channels for us to know the secrets of our colleagues. One is that this man told us himself, and the other is that he tried his best to tell us himself.

If others tell us themselves, we can really "commit suicide". People trust us so much, how can they spread other people's privacy casually?

So, what if we get this information through other channels?

Then let the news be blocked here! Let these messages terminate here, and the distribution channels are completely cut off here.

Although we all know these truths, sometimes, our mouths inadvertently let the wind out. For example, when you are having fun with everyone, when you are excited, you forget everything and say whatever comes to mind. Anyway, everyone is very happy! For another example, if you have an awkward quarrel with someone, you will get angry in your heart, and all your friendship and Jianghu morality will be brushed aside. I will give you a big blow and reveal the secret.

Such a situation is too likely to happen. How can we avoid it? One of the best ways is to simply swallow and rot in your stomach after hearing other people's things. One day rotten, two days rotten. In short, don't let your mouth get you into trouble. The ancients said that "disaster comes from the mouth." Now this interpersonal circle, this sentence should be written on everyone's desk, always alert yourself!

Third, try to avoid conflicts with colleagues.

Colleagues and you work in the same unit and meet almost every day. It is inevitable that all kinds of trivial things will happen to each other. Everyone's personality, temperament, advantages and disadvantages are also exposed, especially everyone's behavioral shortcomings and personality weaknesses are exposed much more, which will lead to various relationships and conflicts. Some of these relationships and conflicts are superficial, some are behind the scenes, some are open and some are hidden. When all kinds of unpleasantness are intertwined, all kinds of contradictions will arise.

Colleagues can still communicate with each other when there are contradictions. First, the opinions between any colleagues often stem from some specific events and do not involve other aspects of the individual. After things have passed, such conflicts and contradictions may last for a period of time due to people's thinking inertia, but they will gradually fade away after a long time. So, don't be upset by small opinions in the past. As long as you are generous and don't take the past seriously, the other party will treat you with the same open-minded attitude.

Second, even if the other person still has some prejudice against you, it doesn't prevent you from interacting with him. Because in the communication between colleagues, what we pursue is not the friendship and feelings between friends, but just work. It doesn't matter if there are contradictions between them, as long as both sides can cooperate in their work. Because the work itself involves the interests of both sides, how to cooperate and whether things are successful are related to both sides. If the other person is a smart person, he will naturally think of this, so he will try his best to cooperate with you. If the other party is stubborn, you might as well point it out to him in cooperation or * * * to facilitate cooperation between the two sides.

It's not terrible to have conflicts between colleagues. As long as we can face the reality and actively take measures to resolve contradictions, colleagues will still be reconciled, even better than before.

You should take the initiative to solve the contradiction between colleagues. You might as well try to put aside past prejudices and treat these people more positively, at least like others. At first, they will be wary and will think that this is a trap and ignore it. Be patient, no problem. It's really a waste of time to settle past grievances. You should persist in being kind to them and improve little by little. After a while, as soon as the water in the sun evaporates, the problems between you will disappear.

If a colleague is older than you, you shouldn't confront him when things happen unless you are sure that your reasons are very good. A better way is to solve it after both of you calm down. Even in this case, it is unlikely that the problem will be directly pointed out and solved. We can talk about some related issues. Of course, you can ask questions in your own way. If you do something wrong and are accused, re-examine the problem and sincerely apologize. Words like "It's my fault" can work miracles.

After you make the above efforts, you can basically solve the contradiction between colleagues. If you meet some stubborn people who are still unwilling to reconcile with you after your efforts, don't be sad. There's nothing anyone can do when they meet such people. The problem is not you. Don't worry about going to work, ignore such people.

Finally, learn to deal with various colleagues.

Everyone has his own unique lifestyle and personality. In school, there are always some people who are difficult to deal with, such as arrogant people, rigid people, people with excessive self-esteem and so on. Therefore, you must adopt different communication strategies according to people's needs.

-dealing with colleagues who are too arrogant.

Dealing with arrogant and rude colleagues will inevitably make people unhappy, but sometimes you have to get in touch with them At this time, you might as well take such measures:

First, try to reduce the time with him. During the limited time with him, you should try your best to fully express your views and don't give him a chance to show arrogance.

Second, the conversation is concise. Try to clearly explain your purpose and requirements in short sentences. Giving each other a crisp and neat impression also makes it difficult for him to show his pride, even if he wants to put on airs.

-dealing with colleagues who are too rigid.

When dealing with such a person, you don't have to pay attention to his cold face. On the contrary, you should be enthusiastic, use your enthusiasm to resolve his indifference, carefully observe his words and deeds, and find out what he is interested in and cares about.

When dealing with such people, you must be patient and don't rush for success. As long as you have the same topic with him, I believe that his rigidity will disappear and he will show rare enthusiasm. Only in this way can a more harmonious relationship be established.

-Dealing with aggressive colleagues.

Some colleagues are arrogant, like to show off, always lose no time to show themselves, try to show superiority, and get the upper hand in all aspects. Although many people don't like this kind of person, they always belittle him everywhere in order not to hurt their feelings.

But sometimes, if you give in, he will take it as a weakness, and even disrespect you and look down on you. For such people, you should discourage them in time. Let him know that there are mountains outside the mountains and people outside, and don't be ignorant of the vast land.

-Dealing with colleagues with deep talents.

This kind of person is not short of opinions on things, but he will never express his opinions easily unless he has to or comes naturally. This kind of person is usually calculating when interacting with others, always hiding his true colors, hoping to know more about each other, so as to take the initiative in communication and be invincible in various contradictions.

When dealing with such people, you must be prepared. Don't let him fully grasp all your secrets and details, let alone be used by him, so that he can't extricate himself from his trap.

-colleagues who deal with false promises.

A man with honey in his mouth and a knife in his stomach, "Ming is a pot of fire, and darkness is a knife." The best way to deal with such colleagues is to stay away, avoid if you can, and avoid if you can.

If this kind of person intends to approach you in the office, you should find a reason to avoid it and try not to work with him. Are inseparable. You might as well keep a work diary every day to prepare for the future.

-Dealing with impatient colleagues.

When you meet impatient colleagues, you must keep calm. You can take a tolerant attitude towards his recklessness, laugh it off and try to avoid quarreling.

-Dealing with mean colleagues.

A mean person likes to expose his shortcomings when arguing with others, leaving no room and no feelings. They are used to cynicism, digging up other people's privacy, and often take pleasure in making fun of others. They are out of line, immoral, unreasonable and unreasonable. They will embarrass those who offend themselves in front of everyone and hold their heads up among their colleagues.

When you meet such a colleague, you should keep your distance from him and try not to provoke him. After a small loss, if you hear a gossip or two, you should pretend not to hear it, and keep a corresponding distance from him.

Excerpt from "Character First"

Learn to get along well with classmates.

Everyone wants to get along well with others and have good interpersonal relationships. In college life, interpersonal relationship has always been an important factor affecting one's mental health and the quality of campus life. Then, how can we get along well with people on the university campus, have a good memory that will never be forgotten, and make full preparations for the future society? We might as well start from the following aspects:

(1) We should fully understand the characteristics of interpersonal relationships on campus.

From the day I became a college student, the objects and characteristics of getting along with people have undergone fundamental changes. Before middle school, the objects and meanings we got along with were narrow, just an extension of friendship or intimate relationship. In addition, the interpersonal relationship at that time was relatively simple. For example, we can only associate with people we like, and people who don't like or don't want to associate can ignore him. However, once we become college students and live in dormitories on campus, we can no longer associate with others only by our personal likes and dislikes. For every member of the collective, whether we like it or not, we have to face it every day and get along with it. Therefore, we should not only associate with people we like, but also keep friendly relations with people we don't like. This is a prominent feature of campus interpersonal relationship. In addition, in college life, the new feature of interpersonal relationship is that you can't only ask others by your own standards, but also realize that your behavior and lifestyle may be accepted and rejected by others. Therefore, when there is conflict or disharmony between the two, we should not only blame and blame each other, but also understand and adapt to each other. In other words, college students must gradually get rid of the self-centered way of thinking, gradually learn to put themselves in others' shoes, and establish and coordinate new interpersonal relationships on this basis.

(2) Pay attention to the cultivation of one's own personality and ability.

I often hear a classmate say, "That person has a good personality and knows a lot. He likes to communicate with him." Indeed, a person with good quality and ability or a special skill is more likely to be loved by people. People appreciate his character and talent, so they are willing to be close to him and become friends. Therefore, if you want to enhance interpersonal attraction and get along with people in a more friendly and harmonious way, you must fully improve your character, display your talents, show your specialties, and constantly improve your character, ability and talent. People like sincere, warm and friendly people.

People hate people who are hypocritical, selfish and cold. Generally speaking, the highest evaluation of personality quality is sincerity, and the lowest evaluation is hypocrisy. When choosing friends among college students in China, the first consideration is personality quality, and they are willing to associate with mature, enthusiastic, frank, positive and responsible people. In addition, interpersonal communication is always characterized by emotional reactions such as mutual satisfaction or dissatisfaction, like or dislike. To have a good interpersonal relationship, we must pay attention to our feelings. Generally speaking, people always like people who like themselves and have a good impression on people who really evaluate themselves. Once you get someone's appreciation, love and praise, your self-esteem will be satisfied because of your praise, which will lead to psychological closeness and affection for this person, thus reducing mutual friction and interpersonal conflict, achieving emotional harmony and providing psychological conditions for good interpersonal communication. Praise others sincerely, and in turn others will have a good impression on you. Some people often pay too much attention to themselves and can't find the value of others. If you can observe carefully and pay more attention to others, you will find that everyone has something worthy of praise. Affirming and praising the advantages of others will bring benefits to yourself.

(3) Be generous and open-minded, learn to observe each other's psychology and be honest with each other.

Our society is a pluralistic society, and the relationship between people is becoming more and more complicated. The complexity of society leads to the richness of personality, which inevitably leads to the intensification of contradictions among individuals. To maintain good interpersonal relationships with people around you, we must learn to seek common ground while reserving differences, and have a broad-minded and generous psychological quality. We must be considerate of others and be honest with each other.

In life, we have misunderstandings with our classmates who live together day and night. When we are treated unfairly and not accepted by others, you will be anxious and irritable, which will definitely affect your study, life and social relations. What are we going to do, make a scene? Why don't you just break up These are not the best ways, they can only put themselves at a disadvantage in communication and affect future communication. On the contrary, if we are open-minded and open-minded, we may be more calm, consider problems from the other side's standpoint and understand the feelings and feelings of others. Misunderstandings and grievances often disappear, and others will gladly accept you. As the saying goes, "Be generous and make friends". It is difficult to be a broad-minded person, but we college students must pay attention to the cultivation of this quality in daily life and communication in order to better adapt to life and society. Among our classmates, they are either cheerful or deep; Or implicit, or frank; Or open-minded, or cautious, its personality is rich and diverse. So learn to be a caring person, be good at observing other people's moods, take the initiative to care about others, and let them feel your kindness and warmth in different ways. Take roommates in the same dormitory as an example. They have frequent contact, because they have many contacts and opportunities, so they are the easiest, and because they have many contacts, frictions and contradictions, they are the most difficult. This requires each of us to pay attention to observation and try our best to meet the needs of others, such as drawing water to sweep the floor, cooking for sick or busy students and making up lessons. However, there is a "self-centered" communication tendency among college students today. Many people only emphasize that others should know, understand, accept and respect themselves, but neglect to understand and respect others equally; Only pay attention to the realization of their own goals, but ignore the interests and requirements of others, and so on. Under the control of this tendency, they often blindly communicate with their own temperament regardless of the occasion and the mood of the other party, leading to an embarrassing situation in communication. Imagine a person is at a low psychological level, but you announce your achievements in front of him. What will happen? ! Therefore, many times, we need to put ourselves in others' shoes. Only by caring for each other and exchanging sincerity for sincerity can we achieve spiritual communication and emotional harmony.

Honesty and trustworthiness is the basic principle of being a man. In our college students' communication, if a friend cheats you, your self-esteem will be hurt and you may not be able to trust him as before. Similarly, we should treat others honestly and sincerely to gain their trust and understanding. It shows a person's self-esteem and inner sense of security and dignity, which can make people gain the trust of others in communication, and then attract people with the same excellent quality to their side, and establish a relaxed and happy social circle without pretending to be themselves.

Making friends is a process of constant selection. Hypocrisy cannot be hidden forever. Once discovered by the other party, it is the greatest harm to friendship. Therefore, when we get along with others, we should be generous and open-minded, considerate of others and treat each other with sincerity everywhere. Only in this way can we get real friends and get along better with others.

(4) Master certain social skills.

Skills in communication are like lubricants in interpersonal relationships, which can help people improve communication and understanding, shorten psychological distance and establish good relationships in communication activities. Many students with interpersonal communication barriers are caused by lack of communication skills. Many students say that they can be comfortable dealing with people they are familiar with, but they are often passive, cautious and timid when dealing with unfamiliar people, and they don't know how to get along with them. Many students often lose interest in interpersonal communication because of their lack of communication and interpersonal skills, which leads to a passive and isolated situation in interpersonal communication, and it is easy to limit their development because they cannot express their ideas properly. For many college students, if they realize that they lack the necessary social and interpersonal skills, they should take active and positive measures to gradually improve their interpersonal problems, rather than avoiding them blindly.

In fact, social skills are varied. Such as enhancing interpersonal attraction, humor, clever criticism, language art and so on. For college students, after establishing the courage and confidence in interpersonal communication, the skills to be mastered in interpersonal communication are mainly to cultivate the psychological quality of successful communication and the correct use of language art. The psychological quality of successful communication includes honesty and trustworthiness, modesty and prudence, enthusiasm and help, respect and understanding, magnanimity, openness and so on. The application of language art includes accurate expression, effective listening and politeness. These are all helpful for college students.

High communication art and good communication effect. In addition, in formal communication occasions, college students should also pay attention to neat clothes, civilized and decent manners, elegant posture of sitting, standing and walking, don't joke regardless of objects, and avoid patting shoulders and holding hands. Of course, you can't be timid and cautious in front of people. Be confident and energetic, but also natural and graceful, neither humble nor supercilious.

In short, college students should establish self-confidence in interpersonal communication, improve their quality in all aspects, be brave in practice, be good at summing up, practice in learning, learn in practice, constantly improve themselves, enrich themselves, and gradually succeed in communication and life.

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How to improve interpersonal relationship?

Interpersonal relationship is an important part of our life. If we don't have good interpersonal relationships, it will have a bad influence on our work, life and mental health. In the real society, it is normal and understandable that there is a certain ideological gap due to different personalities, endowments, living backgrounds and purposes. If you don't get along well with everyone at work or in life, it's not normal. You need to adjust yourself and change it.

People play different social roles according to age, gender, occupation, position and environment. When interacting with people, different roles have different codes of conduct, so when interacting with different people, they have different requirements and skills.

First of all, we should think of others everywhere and avoid being self-centered. To improve the relationship between colleagues, we must learn to consider problems from other angles and be good at making appropriate self-sacrifice.

To do a good job, you should always cooperate with others. After you get your grades, please * * * share them with you. Don't show yourself everywhere, take everyone's achievements as your own. Providing opportunities for others and helping others achieve their goals in life is very important for dealing with interpersonal relationships.

Thinking of others is also manifested in extending a helping hand and giving help when others encounter difficulties and setbacks. Good interpersonal relationships are often mutually beneficial. All the care and help you give others will be rewarded when you are in trouble.

Secondly, open-minded, good at accepting others and accepting yourself. Don't waste time praising others. But you should be careful not to exaggerate blindly, which will give people a false feeling and lose others' trust in you.

Thirdly, we should master the skills of talking with colleagues. When talking with colleagues, pay attention to his speech and give appropriate feedback. Concentrated listening represents understanding and acceptance, and it is a bridge connecting the soul. Pay attention to being subtle, humorous, concise and vivid when expressing ideas. Implicit not only shows your elegance and self-cultivation, but also plays a role in avoiding differences, explaining opinions and not hurting relationships. When commenting and pointing out others' mistakes, we should pay attention to the occasion and use peaceful words to avoid hurting others' self-esteem and causing resistance. Humor is the spice of language, which can make conversation lively and interesting. Conciseness requires that when talking with people, you should master what you should say and not say what you shouldn't. When talking with people, you should have your own emotional input, so that you can impress people with your feelings. This is called vividness. Of course, to master the skills of expressing yourself, you need to practice constantly, increase your cultural confusion and broaden your horizons.

Finally, take time to mingle with colleagues. This is also a good way to cultivate your various interests and make friends with them. In addition, exchanging information and learning from your own experience can coordinate interpersonal relationships.

Good interpersonal relationship is an art. All people need constant study and practice to master it. I hope you can be yourself according to your own specific situation, so as to break through the barriers of self-isolation and build a harmonious interpersonal relationship with an open mind.

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How to improve your interpersonal relationship?

It takes patience to establish and maintain interpersonal relationships, which is a bit like fishing. The basic essentials of fishing can be briefly introduced through its trilogy:

(1) Make bait to lower the hook: Just from the choice of bait, you need strong judgment: if the fish you want to catch likes what to eat (that is, what can arouse the desire of the person you want to target): that is, whether the bait is more effective and so on. The next date should find the right "fish pond" (that is, the occasion) and the right machine.

② Stick to the pole: At this stage, we must be patient first, not eager for quick success and instant benefit, and we want to see the fish as soon as we catch it. Second, be calm. Giving the "fish" a little sweetness is not enough to make it fall for it. Maybe the other party is testing whether it is safe.

3 tick: this is the most dangerous moment, and most of the things you don't eat with your mouth are at this time. At this time, be sure to hide. If you show your face a little or act too hastily, you will fall short. Sophisticated people will take it in and out at will, and Zhang Chi will be very suitable for them, which will keep each other's appetite, make the hook deeper and hold it more firmly.

Why does everyone have to work hard for money? Why do some people show off and discriminate against the poor? Hard to say: maybe. . . This is the society, always pursuing a kind of harmony and interests [seeking adoption]

Why do some people show off? Everyone has vanity, some just limit themselves from vanity, and some will expand vanity. Besides, there are too many people in China, even more than you think. Knowing only a figure of 654.38+0.4 billion, it is impossible to understand how terrible so many people are. There are many people like you, and many people don't feel their sense of existence. Only when they think they live better than others do they feel alive when they step on others.

Why do some people like to show off? In fact ~ ~ everyone has their own little vanity ~ ~ ~

Secondly, people who are particularly fond of showing off can be divided into two categories.

One is inferiority complex ~ ~ ~ because I always envy others having ~ ~ and now I have ~ ~, so I am particularly eager to let others know.

The other is that you have too little ~ ~ and you just want to show off something ~ ~

So ~ ~ ~ Some people are still very poor ~ ~

You have to understand them ~ ~ These people often have some defects themselves ~ ~ ~

Why are some people not hot and unhappy? Maybe they are used to heavy taste, just like some people like salty, some people like sour and some people like sweet.

Why do some people like to show off and some people don't like character?