Why do boys stop chasing girls when they are halfway through?

The boy chased the girl halfway, why did he suddenly stop chasing? In love, there are many such examples. Many girls are troubled by this. When a boy who has been chasing you for a long time suddenly stops talking to you and chasing you, you must have a deep sense of loss and even inexplicable sadness.

Everyone likes the feeling of being liked by others. Even if that person is not the one you like, there will be a sense of superiority when being liked by others. If suddenly one day, the people who have been chasing you stop paying attention to you and ignore you, you will suddenly feel something is missing.

Are you particularly familiar with this situation, or have you ever had it?

My classmate Shanshan has experienced it.

When I was a sophomore, a boy in my class pursued her. The boy is handsome, kind and sunny. Shanshan actually has a good impression on him. They often meet, often go to the canteen to eat together, and go to the library to read books together.

Maybe I want to test his sincerity before deciding whether to associate with him. So Shanshan has never formally accepted his pursuit.

His first confession to Shanshan was rejected by her. Shanshan said to him, "I have to take the postgraduate entrance examination and have no time to fall in love."

He didn't give up. The second time he invited Shanshan to the playground for dinner, and then he said to Shanshan, "Can you be my girlfriend?"

Shanshan refused again and said to him, "I just want to be friends with you. I didn't think about that."

But he still didn't give up. He often sends messages and calls Shanshan to express his love. I also ask Shanshan out to play from time to time, but Shanshan feels that the time has not come yet and rarely goes out.

The third time he confessed to Shanshan was when she had a cold and fever and went to the clinic for an intravenous drip.

At that time, he accompanied Shanshan, helped her buy food, feed medicine and do everything. Shanshan was also very moved at that time. In fact, she already likes him in her heart, because she thinks he is single-minded.

When he confessed to Shanshan, she wanted to promise, but thinking that she could not easily accept a love, she refused him for the last time. If he can persist, she will definitely promise him to be his girlfriend.

However, to Shanshan's surprise, he never looked for her again after she recovered. He stopped accompanying her to the canteen, accompanied her to the library and asked her out for dinner.

She wanted to tell him many times that the reason why she refused him was a quiz. In fact, she likes him very much. As long as he confesses again, she will definitely agree at once. Unfortunately, after that rejection, he never talked to her again!

Shanshan was particularly sad at that time. Why did he catch up with her halfway, but he gave up and never talked to her again?

For this question, I once saw a god comment on a platform: You give me a progress bar!

I remember, this god comment has been praised countless times! Why have you been praised countless times? Because this is a common phenomenon during love, I don't know how many boys only chased half of the girls and left with hate; How many girls, waiting, are sad and disappointed to see the boy who once chased her hard, walking with other women!

Back to the question, why do boys stop chasing girls after only half of them? You must understand the following three hearts in love!

0 1 controllable range psychology when men pursue women

Let's just say, what would you be interested in? You will be interested in things within your control, and if they are out of reach, you will give up immediately!

Let me give you another example.

Friends who own cats know that if you tease a cat with wool, the cat will keep scratching it. But wool should not be too close to the cat, nor too far away from the cat. It must be within the cat's control, and the cat will try to catch it.

If you put wool on the roof, the cat will run away at first sight because it is too far away. But if you put wool on the cat, the cat will break free quickly because it gets too close.

The so-called controllable range psychology is exactly the psychology of men when they pursue women.

A man will start with a woman who can catch up with him. If it is beyond the control of a man, this woman has lost her meaning to him, and he will give up decisively!

The above story, Shanshan refused several times, so that the boy who chased her felt that she was a woman he couldn't catch up with and was out of his control. Reason tells him that it is wise to give up.

Shanshan's love test made the boy who chased him misunderstand.

In reality, this is really common. In addition, there are many boys who have encountered more than a dozen rejections when pursuing girls, but they are still chasing. Some of these pursuits lasted for several years and even started a protracted war. You must have heard or seen this phenomenon. Why?

In fact, in the protracted war of feelings, the controllable range is still applicable. The controllable range is psychology, which has nothing to do with time and space. When this relationship is beyond the control of men, this love chase will still fail!

Women like to test men's devotion.

Usually women like to test a man to see if he is single-minded and really likes her.

Why do women do this? Insecurity!

This is especially true for women who have just faced a love. They don't let themselves hand it in too early, and they are always worried that they will get hurt! She must be careful when dealing with men's pursuits. Who knows if he is sincere to himself?

So she will test the man who is chasing her again and again, until she feels that this man is 100% devoted to her, and she will promise him.

However, when many women test men, it is originally to test whether men's feelings are loyal. As a result, they become the test of human nature because they have no purpose, and human nature simply cannot stand the test. So she concluded that he was unfaithful to his feelings.

Let me give you an example. You go to the market to buy a casserole, and the merchant says the casserole is very strong. You pick up a hammer and bang, and the casserole breaks all over the floor. You said: This casserole is not strong at all. Are you really testing the casserole? Don't! You are destroying the casserole.

Test, we must grasp the degree, after excessive, the effect will be counterproductive!

Like my classmate Shanshan, she wants to test boys by refusing their confession, but the language is too much! Because in her refusal words, there is no room for the other party.

If you really don't like it, it's okay to refuse it directly.

If you obviously like each other and just want to prove his love loyalty, you need to pay attention. To put it mildly, he will cherish the hard-won love, but don't scare him away!

You need to learn to empathize in love.

In love, whether boys chase girls or girls chase boys, they need to master some empathy. In this way, both girls can achieve the purpose of testing boys, and boys will not give up chasing you easily.

When a girl refuses a boy's pursuit, give him hope and hint at him in her refusal. As long as you insist on pursuing, you may agree.

Let's talk about Shanshan's example first

Shanshan's first refusal: I want to take the postgraduate entrance examination and have no time to fall in love.

Careful analysis, this sentence means that Shanshan completely pushed the boy out, but did not pull him back.

A good way to refuse is to push and pull. Push means refusal, pull means acceptance.

If you put yourself in the other's shoes at this moment, change Shanshan's refusal "I want to take the postgraduate entrance examination and have no time to fall in love" to: I want to take the postgraduate entrance examination and have no time to fall in love (push). But you must work hard. Let's travel together when we are admitted to graduate school (La).

This kind of rejection, through transposition, not only shows rejection, but also gives people hope, and becomes very tall and full of positive energy. Suggest that boys, I have not completely rejected you, I want to make progress, and if you also make progress, we may.

Look at Shanshan's second refusal. "I just want to be friends with you, but I don't want to think about it."

If we still switch places, it will become: I want to be friends with you, but I haven't thought about that for the time being. But then again, who can be sure what will happen in the future?

The same is true of this sentence. Through transformation, the meaning has changed greatly. I didn't completely reject him, and I didn't completely accept him. Let him guess.

At least, let him feel that he still has hope. If a relationship is hopeless, what's the point of pursuing it?

Conclusion: Intention and skill in love are only means, and the most important thing is sincerity! However, I always feel that in love, one cannot always take the initiative. After all, everyone will be tired after a long time.

Therefore, for boys, chasing girls is only half, not chasing. No one is right or wrong in this matter. Who can fully explain things in love?

Finally, I want to say that a sincere relationship is not easy. When you meet the right person, you must know how to cherish it! May you and I each have the most beautiful meeting!

What should I do if I meet a girl I like? Every time I want to chat with her, I have various reasons to refuse you. Every time I look at her WeChat avatar in the circle of friends, I feel inexplicably excited and helpless. Over time, you slowly fade out of her sight. You haven't contacted each other since then. Picking up girls really needs some knowledge. I think Yuze loves cheaters and can help you. Compared with before, I am more comfortable online. At least I know how to make the woman I like like like me. What about you?