This is not comforting. Tell me.

I will not comfort others, and I am afraid of being comforted.

This "no" has both technical and subjective aspects.

I can feel the sadness of others, but I can't. At this time, it seems that there is very little I can do. Comfort is only to relieve one's sense of powerlessness, and it is of little use to others.

Whenever I meet my friend's pain and sadness, it seems that I can do nothing but accompany him silently, because I can't say nutritious comfort, feel guilty for my incompetence, and worry that my friend thinks I have ignored him at a critical moment.

When others are surrounded by friends, encouraging them to cheer up, or warmly comforting them, I stand by and look very disobedient. At this time, I don't want to comfort, but I really don't know how to comfort. Although at present, comfort has no substantive significance, it can make the other party feel the existence of friends in form.

I also have subjective moments that I don't want to comfort, mostly for people close to me, especially for Brother Ka.

He didn't do well in the exam when he was a child, and he would cry when he came back, so I made him cry, neither coaxing nor comforting.

When he stops crying, pull him over and ask him what his plan is. what do you think? Help him analyze the problem and support him to solve it himself. No matter what others think, he can't think clearly.

There is a big exam in high school. I guess he thought he was a shoo-in this time, and the result was a mess. When he came back, he was depressed. He didn't say anything and I didn't ask. Finally, when the teacher handed out the scores, he couldn't help losing control.

I still didn't say anything comforting, so he asked me, why can't you see my efforts? There's nothing to comfort.

I said, in fact, you don't need comfort, you just need to vent your emotions. Supporting you to solve problems is much more effective than comforting you.

In fact, I am more afraid of being comforted, because I am afraid of being defeated by a simple comfort because of my inner strength.

I will not comfort others, because I am afraid that others will say that I am at a loss where I am emotional;

I don't want to comfort others, because I know that if the needle doesn't poke you, you don't know how much it hurts;

I am also afraid of being comforted by others, because I don't want others to see my pain and helplessness.