Why don't men like their wives?

Marriage is sometimes like a brush. In the barren years, glamorous love is gradually brushed with layers of dust until the original bright face can no longer be seen.

When falling in love, women are good at "packaging" themselves, constantly combing their feathers and attracting men's fiery sincerity. When women enter marriage, their attention is diverted and they gradually begin to ignore themselves.

Women often complain that men look like a different person before and after marriage. In most marriages in China, men have a mentality of "hating their wives".

A man who doesn't like his wife from the bottom of his heart can't hide three kinds of reactions.

Some people say, "A good marriage is communication, communication and communication again".

Between husband and wife, the biggest killer of feelings is that lovers talk too much

Men hate their wives in their hearts, which can be seen from "listening to people".

In daily life, his wife talks to him. No matter what the content is, a man's first reaction is not to listen and respond, but to avoid it.

I didn't want to listen to my wife, but the reason I gave was "you talk too much."

I'm bored. I won't discuss with my wife and make my own decisions. I'd rather talk to outsiders than my wife.

This duplicity is also reflected in the attitude at home and abroad.

Some men, who are modest in front of others, are like stones in the toilet in front of their wives, smelly and hard.

One second I was talking and laughing with others, and the next I saw my wife, and I immediately kept a straight face.

Gentle words have also turned into storms.

Between husband and wife, there should be something to sit down and talk about But some men are reticent at home and love to brag outside; Violence at home, good business outside, good quantity.

This contrast is also hard evidence that men don't like their wives.

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Find fault with your wife.

negate everything

A judge who has mediated tens of thousands of divorce cases once said: "Happy marriages have one thing in common, that is, husband and wife can affirm each other."

Definitely pay, definitely contribute, and definitely everything.

A little sister who came to my internship last year talked about her family at a dinner party.

She is a single parent, and her mother sneaked away when she was in junior high school and never came home. But my little sister said that she never hated her mother.

As long as she can remember, she knew that her father looked down on her mother.

Everything at home is done by my mother, and everything in the field is done by my mother and my father together. My grandparents were still here before, and my mother was taking care of them.

It stands to reason that the mother has made the greatest contribution to this family, but the father doesn't think so.

Every time I eat, my father can find fault with every dish and accuse my mother of not even cooking well.

Every time I go out, whenever my mother wants to buy clothes, my father will take a contemptuous look and say, "Just like you, nothing looks good, don't waste money";

Every time she is naughty, her father scolds her mother for giving birth to a product that loses money. ...

Mother seldom talks back, even the neighbors won't listen. She often does her father's work and asks him not to talk about his wife like that every day.

Of course, my father wouldn't listen. Day after day, year after year, my mother ran away from home.

Such stories may happen in many marriages.

Women can stand the triviality of daily necessities, but they can't stand the denial of their closest husbands.

Between husband and wife, when they need affirmation, they throw cold water on them, and when they need cooperation, they tear me down. Over time, I can't live.

This kind of aversion to men, to put it bluntly, is incompetent, not outside, and the family is called uncle.

No matter how well the wife does, she is not as good as others.

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Indifferent to his wife's family.

Look pale

As the old saying goes, love me, love my dog.

In marriage, I love your family because I love you and I respect your family because I respect you.

Similarly, if I don't like you, even your family will not like you.

There are too many such examples in real life.

Someone in Zhihu once asked, "How can a man do so well?"

She and her husband have been married for 78 years. For three years, they had a bad relationship and always quarreled, so they had the idea of divorce for a long time.

However, her parents have always advised her that there is no overnight enmity between husband and wife, and they have something to say. In order to ease the relationship between the two, parents have been helping this small family in all aspects, with little economic pressure and few contradictions between husband and wife.

The old man is very kind, but his husband is not very ungrateful. Not a good word for her, not even a smiling face for her parents.

At the beginning of this year, my father was not feeling well in the middle of the night, and my mother called her in a panic. She shook her husband and wanted him to drive to her parents' house by himself.

The husband woke up and just said, "It's not like you can't drive. I have to work tomorrow. Go by yourself. "

Of course she can drive, but she has to beg her husband because she is too afraid of accidents on the road. Sure enough, in vain.

A word blocked her from speaking, and sadness began from her heart.

Fortunately, when she went to the hospital, her father's condition was stable. This time, the man officially became his ex-husband.

A man who doesn't like his wife can also see 7788 from his attitude towards his wife and family.

If you have no feelings for your wife, don't expect him to be kind to his wife and family, because he is a person who has nothing to do with it.

We must be open to this. Our parents love each other and hurt each other.

There is a monologue in The Perfect Divorce:

"The worst ending of marriage is not divorce, but becoming a masked husband and wife. It is the greatest misfortune to live together without love and expectation. "

As the saying goes, life is too short to go to Japan. Don't abandon the people who have been with you, don't accompany the people who have been abandoning you!