The actress of "Sister Lang 3" collapsed and cried: She died in order to have a clever son.

In nirvana in fire 3, someone asked Guo Caijie: If you could make a phone call through time, who would you call and what would you say?

Without hesitation, she said: Call my father 1998 and tell him "absolutely and resolutely choose caesarean section".

In this way, Guo Caijie opened the sealed memory with tears.

"When she 12 was promoted, her mother died on the operating table to give birth to a younger brother, just because her father thought the child she gave birth to was smarter."

1986 February19, a lovely little girl was born. Her arrival made her mother happy, but it was also accompanied by melancholy, because she knew that many families in that era had serious son preference, especially her husband and her family preferred their sons. If she can't have a son, she will have to bear the pressure from her family and the outside world, and this daughter is already her second.

Guo Caijie is the second child in the family. Her mother runs a stationery store and her father is an ordinary office worker.

According to Guo Caijie's memory, the day when her mother gave birth to her younger brother was also the day when she was going to take part in the speech contest. Facing the speech, both mother and daughter are very nervous. Before the speech contest, her mother suggested that she go to the top floor to worship. Guo Caijie nodded and agreed. After the speech, she quickly returned home and waited for news from her mother with her sister.

As a result, my father hurried back and told her and her sister to get dressed and go to the hospital. When she and her sister went to the hospital to see the family crying, they suddenly realized that she had lost her mother who loved her forever.

"I lost my mother", what a helpless sentence.

"After mom left, the house was horribly quiet. Whoever is hungry will eat, and no family will sit around again. "

Mother's departure will make Guo Caijie's family feel helpless, just like people who can't swim fall into the water, and they are forced to flutter and try to keep themselves alive.

Since then,

Guo Caijie has been blaming her grandparents for years. She quarrels at home every day and gives vent to her inner anger crazily.

In fact, she knows that grandparents are not wicked, because according to local tradition, young people can't take them home when their elders are alive, but grandparents insist on taking their daughter-in-law home regardless of taboos.

of course，

/kloc-The death of her mother at the age of 0/2 did not crush Guo Caijie, a thin girl. Her mother's death filled her with explosive power.

Guo Caijie grew up overnight. She said that after her mother died, she decided to make a golden bell jar at home to protect the whole family. "Because of that accident, our whole family fell into a dark moment, but it will shine eventually. This power can penetrate the darkness. "

Remember the coolness of the queen's aura in Tiny Times?

I think this is inseparable from Guo Caijie's growing experience, because the powerful aura can't be presented by one person acting, which requires the experience of life and the polishing of growth.

Guo Caijie later had a good relationship with her family and loved her grandparents and father. Now she occasionally blames herself for her attitude, because she knows that no one wants that to happen.

In the past, medical and health services were underdeveloped, and women gave their lives for childbirth everywhere. We naturally think that the time is long and the probability is small, but it is not.

No, in 18, Choo Ja Hyun was 39 years old. She risked her life to give birth to her son "The Sea". As soon as the couple sent a message to take pictures of the baby's soles, the hind foot agency sent a message saying that she had postpartum convulsions and was admitted to the intensive care unit. Ethan said, "At present, she is undergoing examination and is recovering."

It is also because of this experience that I passed through the gate of hell. When the media broke the news that Ethan went to a bar with friends and asked them to play with their mobile phones on their thighs, netizens attacked them everywhere.

At that time, she came back soon after giving birth, and her figure recovered super well. Bright words like teenage hot mom surrounded her. I didn't know that when Noemie was born, the great powers were also in a critical moment. It turned out that the great powers decided to deliver it. But in the process of delivery, Noemie's head was too big and her strength was exhausted, so she immediately decided to listen to the doctor's laparotomy. Therefore, in order to produce Noemie, electric power has experienced the pain brought by two modes of production. Imagine, at that time,

Only occasionally, Biddy Sheran gave birth to her son Li V Bao at the age of 40. It's not easy for others. Even in order to protect the fetus, Bide Sulan lay in bed for 142 days, giving 300 injections to his stomach, which was full of pinholes. Later, his leg was in a state of direct muscle weakness. After giving birth to his son, he tried to do rehabilitation before he could walk again.

Liu's sister, 43-year-old Liu Qiangru, is not so lucky. /kloc-in 0/8, she died of amniotic fluid embolism while giving birth to her third child.

Being a woman and having children is a hurdle in life, and the danger on the delivery bed never divides you from me.

The pictures produced by many women in film and television dramas restore the plot of giving birth to children in reality to 1: 1, and at the same time make girls who are unmarried and have children daunting.

In The Legend of Mi Yue, Mi Yue was assassinated by tortoise shell, and her premature birth was hanging by a thread. She tried her best to produce, and her veins stood out. She was so ugly that she cried her eyes out. Netizens commented in Weibo that "dystocia is terrible!" It's horrible to have a baby.

In "The Empress in the Palace", in order to give birth to a child who cured too much, Shen Meizhuang suffered a bloody collapse during childbirth. Even as the emperor's concubine, she was guarded by the best doctor in the country and finally gave her life.

Zhou Xun also challenged the scene of giving birth, looking pale and shouting, "No, we don't want children".

Ann in "Maid" clung to the quilt in pain, and her face was deformed directly.

In reality, most people still think that women have to go through the process of giving birth, and what they are afraid of is melodramatic and "pretending".

Three years ago, when Xiao Ai was in confinement, she accidentally brushed the lens of "Birth Gate" and deliberately followed it with a douban score as high as 9.4. After watching it for a long time, she couldn't calm down. She was so scared that she could sleep in the delivery room and dream. At that time, she was glad that she didn't read it until she was born.

Xia Jinju, female, has a daughter who has miscarried several times. The whole family still has the heart of "chasing children". The child is pregnant, suffering from dangerous placenta previa, and is in danger of uterine rupture at any time. She has been in bed for four months in Zhongnan Hospital.

Xia Jinju suffered from massive bleeding during childbirth, and her heart stopped twice, and she changed13000ml of blood, which is equivalent to four systemic blood changes. Nevertheless, between protecting the uterus and saving lives, this stupid woman resolutely chose the former.

It's even more painful to see here. After all, women bear everything alone. Xia Jinju's husband was not present during the whole production process. Summer dad's face is full of sadness and worry. From beginning to end, only his eyes are full of daughters. The nurse came out with the child in her arms. The first thing the husband did was to care about the child and call him son.

Li Shuangshuang, a woman, is more than 28 weeks pregnant. Because the baby was judged to be stunted by the eugenics department, the father and grandparents insisted on inducing labor. Grandma even said to the doctor: "Children are like choosing seeds, so choose the best seeds." However, according to the national laws and regulations, a baby who is pregnant for more than 28 weeks is regarded as a living individual, and it is not allowed to induce labor if there is no serious fatal deformity or other circumstances.

Despite the doctor's earnest persuasion, Li Shuangshuang's family insisted on not having the baby, and eventually the baby was born prematurely. The doctor said that the child had to pay 10 thousand yuan to enter the neonatal department, and the father and grandfather of the child were silent. The father of the child is afraid that he will not be treated because of financial difficulties, while the grandfather of the child has been promising the doctor.

"Now that the child has been saved, are there any questions in the future? What's the point? " You know, newborns are fragile, and every minute counts, but the father and son spent so long fighting for money. Li Shuangshuang's father-in-law was wearing two big gold rings, which were dazzling. At this time, the female doctor was anxious. She is almost pleading: "I am not a god, I am a man." How can I guarantee that this child must be healthy? But at least you should give this child a chance to survive. Perhaps because of the pressure of the camera, they finally paid 10 thousand yuan. Because it is premature, the baby has many problems and needs to take a medicine called Gulsu in the middle. A gulsu cost 7000 yuan. The family hesitated again, and finally chose conservative treatment. The baby finally left.

It is very unpleasant to see many girls here. Obviously, they are pregnant. Shouldn't women choose whether to keep their children or treat them? In the face of such a strong in-laws and a weak husband, what kind of courage do they need to conceive a second child?

In Tiny Times, Nan Xiang experienced two pregnancies after marrying Jackie. The baby-making progress of the young couple occupies the hot search entertainment version all the year round. When recalling a reality show they participated in three years ago, there was a clip. When faced with the problem of natural delivery or caesarean section, Nanxiang said that the natural delivery was good, but the fetal position was wrong. She said to her wife lightly: natural delivery is the best! Jacky said: My mother was in pain when she gave birth to me 16 hours ... The implication is that she listened to her mother's choice and gave birth naturally. Nanxiang was scared to death at that time.

Now it is revealed that Jacky cheated during Nanxiang's pregnancy. Is she happy or sad? Only Nanxiang knows the taste. After all, she is the daughter-in-law chosen by her mother-in-law, not necessarily her husband. What is chilling is that how to have children for a person, after life and death, she still can't stop him from cheating.

In addition to the pain and danger of childbirth, the situation before and after childbirth is even more exhausting and painful. Jingjing once suffered from postpartum depression. Even though the living conditions are better than ordinary people, she is a new mother who is at a loss in the face of postpartum depression. She has no personal experience, and outsiders may not understand the horror of postpartum depression at all.

This is Huo Siyan's state when she was pregnant, with a bloated figure. The weight of the whole person soared to 160 Jin. This star pays more attention to etiquette than ordinary people. Now look, this is her original figure.

Even if the baby landed, he still felt heavy and his stomach bulged like a "one".

All kinds of prenatal examinations, especially the "internal examination", are even more humiliating. When something goes wrong, a large group of doctors and nurses are "watching" around you.

As an outsider, especially the children's "grandma" generation and aunts, they will be very happy to send a sentence: Ouch! We've all been there. What's so hard about it?

In this regard, only mothers who have personally experienced childbirth can truly appreciate its difficulty, because the so-called happiness process is so hard and painful.

Let's take a look at Ma Bao's terrible experience of giving birth.

S: "After caesarean section, the pain spread all over the body, as if every hair was screaming. It's really hard to forget. "

"The first child was born naturally, with a narrow pelvis and slow fingers. It took two days to start. When I was born, the doctor cut the edge directly, and there were all kinds of tears. Unfortunately, the placenta stayed. Without anesthesia, the doctor took out the placenta by hand, and he sewed more than 20 stitches. Urinary incontinence needs catheterization. Hemorrhoids fell for a month, but my husband fell in love with a young girl. The fourth night of confinement, close to 12.

"I remember a month ago, I saw red before the due date 10. I'm waiting for a caesarean section. At that time, my mother-in-law said that there was no record of time, so I had to put up with it for three days. That night, I took a taxi directly to the hospital. The doctor said I came in time, otherwise the baby's lack of oxygen was no joke. This makes me doubt that the niece at the foot of the slope came like this. Women still have to be stubborn and control their own destiny. "

"I gave birth naturally, and it took three hours from painless removal to the baby's landing. I recall that the whole person was shaking and dying of pain. I can't work hard. Shouting causes lower body congestion, hemorrhoids fall off seriously, and tears are more serious. The baby's head was pinched, and it was no longer possible to stand on its feet under the command of the doctor. After the doctor gave the notice of anterograde dissection, her husband and mother-in-law were unwilling to sign, worried about money, and asked for leave for half an hour.

"On the day of birth, I walked into the delivery room and was the last one. It's embarrassing to go in. There was a row of seven women lying there, so I spread my legs. My private parts were completely exposed, and I was scared silly. While waiting for the fingers to open, I was scared to incontinence by the shouts of nearby women. Later, I heard from the nurse that the first woman was the fifth child or a daughter. She had to give birth to a son. I can't believe it, but I still bless her silently.

Of course, as a maternal family, understanding and support can really alleviate the pain.

"I am a caesarean section, and my husband is very supportive. My in-laws took good care of me and my figure recovered well. No friend said that my mother-in-law didn't take a shower or wash her hair. On the contrary, my mother-in-law takes herbal medicine to take a bath every day and turns on the air conditioner. She doesn't eat vegetables and fruits, as my aunt said. My husband has been arranging a balanced diet and she is in a good mood. "

We girls never hate having children. What we dislike is that our reproductive rights are "controlled", which is a harmful thing to our health. Others think you are "spoiled" and "delicate". There are still too few expectant mothers who can be understood, supported and cared for in life. Most mothers are unhappy in the second month, Lacrimosa.

Men, if a woman chooses you and gives birth to your children, please love her more in your lifetime, because the door of life is the door of death, so why not cherish the woman who can walk through the door of death for you?