Parent-child

Yesterday, a mother sent Weibo to tell me that her children are more active in kindergarten and don't listen to the teacher's arrangement. The teacher had a headache and asked me if there was any good way.

I recall that when my son went to kindergarten, he also suggested that kindergarten was not fun, saying that the teacher always kept him in the classroom and wouldn't let him go to the playground. He also said that he would take a nap at noon, and he didn't like it very much. Therefore, I am very resistant to going to kindergarten.

We communicated our son's opinion with the teacher, but there are nearly 30 children in a class, only one ordinary class, one placement and one life teacher. It is really hard to take care of children, and it is impossible to take care of every child's wishes.

After discussing with my father, our family held the following family meeting.

I sorted out the record of this "meeting" and shared it with this mother for reference.

Participants: 1 1 person. Mom and dad.

Conference theme: About taking a nap at school.

Moderator: 1 1

1 1 1: There was a family meeting today, mainly to discuss my nap in kindergarten. I don't want to sleep, I want to read, and the teacher wants me to sleep.

Dad: Mom and the teacher communicated about this before. Why don't we invite mom to talk about communication with the teacher?

Mom: Two days ago, after raising this question one by one, my mom communicated with all three teachers specifically on this matter.

The teacher's meaning is more consistent with mother's. There are two main points. One is that children sleep at noon to ensure sleep time, which is good for their health, grow tall, strong and smart, and at the same time play in the afternoon to have spirit;

Secondly, each child needs to sleep at a different time, so it's ok to really not want to sleep at noon, as long as it doesn't affect other children. But how can we not affect other children? We don't sleep, but can we rest in bed?

Dad: OK, listen to mom. The teacher's idea is also right. This matter, one by one, is all right. The teacher is also right. What should we do?

Once, dad went to the parking lot with you to pick up the car. When he came out, he met a car coming from the opposite side. Do you remember? What was Dad doing at that time?

1 1 1: Dad backed up, made way and let the car into the parking lot.

Dad: Well, yes. Dad won't let me. What if the car won't let me?

Suddenly, I got excited: two cars stopped there and couldn't move! !

Mom: Yes, and then I can't move. What should I do? Everyone should go that way, and someone has to give in.

Dad: Do you know why Dad wants me?

1 1: Why?

Dad: Because I don't think he is good at driving, he doesn't drive as well as dad. Dad made it more convenient for him, and dad let him.

Mom: Hmm. Everything about taking a nap at noon makes sense to the teacher. Since the two cars are facing each other, there must always be a car to make way. Which is more convenient?

Don't talk with your head down, and start to change the subject and play Tai Chi.

Dad smiled and said, young master, what a surprise. We are still in a meeting.

This matter is a bit difficult to deal with, and my son is reasonable. But he really doesn't want to sleep.

Dad turned to another topic (from the favorite and familiar traffic): When we go to different places and do different things, should we all follow its rules, just like when we cross the road, should we all follow the instructions of traffic lights?

1 1: Well, yes. The green light can only pass!

Mom: What if we are in a hurry to cross the road and it is a red light? Can you ignore it and rush over?

1 1: No! You'll be hit by a car!

Dad: We play in kindergarten, because taking a nap is good for children. It is stipulated that we should sleep at noon. Should we respect its rules?

1 1: Well, I think so. But I don't want to sleep. I want to sit on the bed and read.

Oh, oh ... well, it's a little difficult.

Mom: Yes, we can stay up late. But we can't influence other children. We discussed with the teacher that we should lie in bed and rest without closing our eyes, but we must not let other children know that you are not sleeping. Otherwise, teachers will be difficult to manage. Is it okay?

One by one: ...

Dad: Let me tell you something. Let's discuss it with the teacher. At noon, you still sleep with the children, and when the children are asleep, you get up and read. Is it okay? But make sure all the children are asleep. Don't let the children see you get up.

1 1: Well, all right. What if the child never sleeps?

Mom: You can't get up unless the children wake up. Think about it, if you get up, the children you see will get up, too. What will the teacher do if they don't sleep?

1 1: hmm ... ok.

Dad: well, let's do this first, so we can discuss it with the teacher. If not, we'll have a meeting to think of other ways. We've been discussing this for so long. Is this the best way at present?

One-on-one is quite satisfied with this result: well, not bad. Let's do this first. If not, we'll discuss it.

The truth is already very clear, and I don't know what the result will be. Not very optimistic ...

I came back from kindergarten the next day. One by one, he said to me, "Mom, our method doesn't work."

"What's the matter?"

"The children didn't fall asleep together. When this one fell asleep, another child woke up again. . . There are always children awake. "

"That's right." I secretly depressed ah "otherwise, we try again for two days? If it still doesn't work. Let's think of another way? "

"Well, very good."

I haven't mentioned the nap since.

In fact, the best solution to this matter is that the kindergarten can arrange a teacher to read books in the library with children who don't take a nap. After all, it's no big deal not to want to take a nap. It is also a good thing to let children read freely and chat quietly at this time.

Of course, I also understand the limitation of kindergarten teachers and the inconvenience of "management". I had no choice but to guide the children in this way and let them understand this matter from another angle.