The essence of education comes from love.

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In Shen Nian, Guo Weili was asked to give this report. In the name of "the essence of education comes from love", he deeply analyzed the mental journey of a front-line educator and interpreted the starting point of educating children at present-education is greater than teaching.

I take this article seriously and think it is worth reading by all parents and teachers. From my personal experience, I feel that this article is not chicken soup, nor is it false. It is a summary of the experience of a senior educator for decades, hoping to inspire everyone.

Text/night step on the rainbow.

Love is on the left and affection is on the right.

All the way to overcome difficulties, with a sincere heart, sincerely interpret the love of education.

The following article is relatively long, and it will probably take you some time ~

The essence of education comes from love.

The article comes from teacher Guo Weili.

Hello, colleagues!

I'm sorry to nag here at the request of the school. In order not to delay more precious time, I'll get down to business at once.

Teachers need to study in order to grow up, reading needs to think, and thinking needs meditation. In the sixth middle school, the deepest experience of being a class teacher is that meditation is the most difficult thing to do. Every day, I am burdened with countless school affairs and endless situations of students. Meditation is just a luxury wish!

No way, I can only use the rest time in the evening to think and summarize, and use the weekend to review and reflect. Some of my views and ideas are still immature, and I look forward to communicating with you and improving together.

What is a good education? I think every teacher has his own answer.

In my opinion, a good education should be education first, not teaching. Education is more important than teaching, and adults are more important than success. Over the years, I have been adhering to and sticking to this principle.

The idea of correcting a child's deformity

Nowadays, most children are spoiled by their families since childhood, forming all kinds of deformed concepts, incorrect attitudes and bad habits.

Let's talk about the concept of deformity first. The most obvious thing is not knowing how to be grateful.

They think that everyone should pay for themselves and be kind to themselves. They take all the care and attention they get for granted. Therefore, it is natural to turn a blind eye to the efforts and dedication of others, and I don't know what gratitude is. Even when I treat my closest relatives, I only know how to take and hurt. I have never been considerate and understanding, and I have never considered what the past return is.

This leads to their selfish personality, self-centered, never considering other people's feelings, only thinking about how to make themselves happy and comfortable.

Let's think about our classmates. In order to achieve a certain goal, some threaten their families with suicide, some run away from home to scare their families, some self-harm or pretend to be sick to force their families to submit, and there are all kinds of arguments, all kinds of soft grinding and hard foam, all kinds of intimidation and all kinds of tossing. One is more wonderful than the other, and the other is unreasonable.

When they do things that hurt their families and hurt themselves, they never feel guilty, and they never consider the feelings of their families.

In fact, you can't blame others for the child becoming like this. This is caused by the family's long-term doting, and it is caused by the family's long-term obedience to the child's temper, whether right or wrong.

Family members are always distressed and spoiled, and they don't tell their children that giving is relative and love is mutual, which makes them arrogant, ignorant of their age, and of course they don't know how to be considerate and grateful.

If we don't correct this long-term deformed mentality, what kind of monsters will we educate in the future?

I don't know how to respect my family and I don't know how to be grateful. It will definitely be unfilial in the future. How should they be grateful to society and others?

How can we be kind to people around us?

Don't believe such nonsense that children will get better when they get older. It's just parents' self-consolation and self-deception.

Think about the people and things around you. Why are there more and more unfilial people in society?

Why do more and more people disagree or hurt others easily if they are slightly unhappy?

Why are more and more children rebellious?

In fact, these are all thanks to the society and their families. Children have formed inertia under the long-term care and care of their families, so they enjoy the efforts made by their families and think that everything is natural.

I want to ask you, if you don't correct this mentality and let such children become talents, how much harm will it do to society? Does the meaning of school education still exist?

Therefore, correcting their ideas is much more important than teaching and imparting knowledge.

Therefore, in the first half of the semester, my main energy was to increase my efforts in this area. Carry out gratitude education anytime and anywhere, warning them that love and care are the result of relative pay, and no one should let himself enjoy anyone's care and pay for free, including the pay of his family.

Since we are a member of the family, we should bear the obligations and responsibilities for the family. You have enjoyed the love of others, and you should try to return it.

For example, when I go home every week, I will give my children the task of doing housework, do my own things and try my best to do it for my family. I will write a note every week to report what I have done, so that they can feel rewarded first, and then teach them how to understand and be considerate of their families.

For example, they can't adapt to the new environment and the teacher is crying. I will ask them, how do you feel as a family member? It is not easy for them to go to work every day and make a living. What do you think they will do because they are worried that you are not at ease?

Most children will think of themselves after listening to the teacher, unless a few children have been completely spoiled by their families and have no consideration for others.

For example, some children often complain to their families about negative emotions such as tired study and bad food. I will correct them one by one and tell them what to do.

Other children talk to their families in a bad voice, and even get used to talking back and shouting. I will also seriously point out his mistakes on the spot and order him to apologize to his family on the spot. I often communicate with parents, learn about children's performance at home from the side, and introduce a series of measures and systems to correct and standardize children's behavior.

Other children often forget this and that because of carelessness, or make mistakes in discipline, so they toss their families to school. I will also point out that the root of their doing this lies in their lack of love and understanding for their parents.

In short, I will never let go of every detail of children's words and deeds that are not sensible, dig deep into the root causes behind them, and then take pains to persuade education until children agree and correct them.

I will also combine every opportunity for ideological education, such as Father's Day, Mother's Day, Teacher's Day, Tomb-Sweeping Day, Mid-Autumn Festival and parents' birthdays. I will carry out some small-scale activities or simple ceremonies, and even record some short videos to teach children how to express their love and show them the opportunity to love, so that children can understand the difficulties of their parents and families and tell them how to get along with their families.

I remember that once the theme of Father's Day was, Speak out with love! The children's unanimous blessing made the fathers cry, and the children's repeated reading also made their eyes red and their vocal cords choked. I also took the trouble to record my personal wishes for 30 seconds and sent them all to my parents. Isn't this a shock and shock to parents? I believe that parents will also reflect on their own behavior and set a good example for their children.

Among parents and children, I will often share some grateful examples and articles to encourage you.

Thanksgiving education begins with gratitude to parents, and gradually penetrates into gratitude teachers, gratitude schools, gratitude classmates and gratitude society.

Children who learn to be grateful become more active and study harder for the people who love them around them. Education drives teaching, and teaching and education are in harmony, and the effect will naturally not be bad. Children are sensible and lay a good foundation for other aspects of education.

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Correct children's attitude towards life

In addition, the incorrect attitude is mainly reflected in the general idea of getting something for nothing and the mentality of being eager for success.

It may be that many children are superficial, impetuous, vain and unrealistic because of the deep influence of the current social environment of quick success and instant benefit, coupled with some misleading caused by parents' eagerness to make their children become talents.

For example, in learning, parents' mentality is very fast, and they are always pursuing a way to make their children thoroughly remould themselves and become talents immediately.

Therefore, in order to cater to parents' psychology, various crash courses have appeared in society. English can be accelerated in 20 days, composition 10 days, piano, chess, painting and calligraphy in a few days.

Parents are happy to be cheated, spend a lot of money to make their children do meaningless things, and no one even investigates whether they finally achieve their boasted results.

Because their gimmicks satisfy the psychology of parents and children. Everyone in the front line of teaching knows that composition needs to be accumulated bit by bit, and literacy can be improved step by step.

Moreover, English is a language subject, and it is important to be down-to-earth over time. How is it possible to study quickly for a few days?

Gai Lou, for example, needs bricks and tiles from the foundation. Even if it is planting crops, it needs hard work and sweat to cultivate seedlings and grow up a little bit before it can be harvested.

Even if it can be done quickly, do you have anything good for it? Chickens, ducks and fish are indeed fed with hormones for quick success, and cattle and sheep are also slaughtered with feed a few months in advance, but how harmful are these quick success and instant success things to us? There are also various foods blended and added, which leads to people's health getting worse and worse.

This noisy, impetuous and unhealthy environment, as well as these parents who pursue quick success and instant benefit, lead by example every day, and it is understandable that children's attitudes are not correct now.

In view of this situation, my approach is to warn children that there are ways to succeed, but there are no shortcuts. They have no choice but to be down-to-earth and diligent.

First of all, put an end to their misconception that they want to do it overnight, and then convince them to realize the importance of this concept from their hearts with examples of life and study again and again. When they all agree with the correct point of view, tell them to persevere and pursue what they want with hard work and sweat.

If you want something, you must take the right path and seek it from diligence.

This is my signboard, and it is also the basic principle and attitude I always tell my children to do things.

As a class teacher, I also set an example for the children. After three years of education, this sentence is rooted not only in the hearts of every child, but also in the hearts of all parents. When I graduated today, my parents specially gave me a plaque with these big words written on it.

Children have the right attitude, learned to be down-to-earth, learned to distinguish right from wrong calmly and rationally, and learned that only pay can gain. There is no impetuousness and impatience, which is followed by progress in learning.

Education and teaching complement each other. As a class teacher, you should learn to grasp the opportunities around you and educate people anytime and anywhere. Don't think it's a waste of time to delay doing ideological work for a few minutes in class every day. It is precisely because of these few minutes every day that the child suddenly gets the inner blessing and completely changes.

Correct and improve your child's attitude and personality, and be a guide on the road of your child's growth. Your concept will have a far-reaching impact on your child's future life. Your personality charm and your ideological education will make children unforgettable. I think this is the happiest and proudest thing for teachers.

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Correct bad habits

Third, talk about bad habits.

That's more. I think it is mainly reflected in the following aspects: being selfish and indifferent to others, not being good at getting along with others, not knowing how to be tolerant and forbearing, being weak in character and unable to withstand any setbacks, unwilling to face difficulties and always trying to escape and excuse themselves, and being vain, competitive, unable to accept criticism, acting impulsively without thinking, daring to do anything and unwilling to bear the consequences.

In fact, these bad habits are mainly the result of family education, of course, there are also factors of poor school education supervision.

If these bad habits are not corrected in time, they will always affect children's emotions, have many negative effects on their growth, and even directly affect their ultimate adult success.

I have also been infiltrating the education of correcting these bad habits into my daily life. Besides revealing the essence behind their bad habits, we also tell them the harm these bad habits have done to them. The reason was made clear, and they agreed. Then they make detailed class rules to restrain their words and deeds. As long as they violate these regulations, they will inevitably bear the corresponding price.

In my class, parents are never allowed to deliver meals at home, and students are never allowed to make phone calls casually. The purpose is to exercise children's independence and frustration.

Your shoes, watches and other items are not allowed to be famous brands, you are not allowed to discuss the rights and wealth of your parents and family, you are not allowed to give gifts and spend money on your birthday, and you are not allowed to be more handsome than others, because these things are not earned by your hard work the day after tomorrow, and you are not qualified to show off and be proud. You should be more sensible than anyone, who knows how to be grateful, who works harder, and who has poetry in his stomach. The purpose of this is to try to put an end to children's blind comparison and guide them to have a correct understanding.

When children make mistakes, they are not allowed to say where others are wrong, but only to reflect on where they are wrong.

Only in this way can they realize where they are wrong and learn to be tolerant slowly. They are not allowed to appeal to their parents, nor are they allowed to find relationships. They can only handle it by themselves, so that children can learn to take responsibility and face it, and they will not be rash in doing things in the future.

They are not allowed to find any excuses and reasons for their failure in life and study, let alone make any excuses for themselves.

Only in this way can children fully realize their own shortcomings and really change.

My students have many rules, but they are all for the sake of their children's growth. These educations occupy most of my time and energy. Every child has been with me for three years. As long as his parents cooperate, I will make every effort to give back to their parents a good boy who is positive, optimistic, strong, sensible, grateful and considerate, has good thinking habits, can distinguish right from wrong, has both ability and political integrity and excellent academic performance.

The essence of education comes from love.

In fact, the essence of a good education should come entirely from love.

In this way, you won't give up any child, even if he doesn't study well and gets into trouble again, you will do everything possible to make him progress and help him grow; You will be willing to work hard for many years and help them grow up without regrets, even if they are Dai Yue, who is full of stars. You will also put yourself in their shoes and give them meticulous care.

During class time, I celebrated the collective birthday of each child. I also use the break time to make zongzi for children, knead jiaozi, stir-fry vegetables, cook cauldrons and stew meat, hold fruit banquets and buffet dinners on weekends, and reward their favorite chickens, ducks and fish when children are tired or make progress in their studies. Their smiles will give me the greatest satisfaction and make all my hardships disappear.

Their progress will give me the greatest comfort and make me look good even when I am exhausted.

Everything about them is always tied to my heart.

As long as everything is for children, everything is for children, and everything is for children.

You will be recognized by all children and respected by all parents.

After three years of education, all the children are reluctant to part with you, love you like their mothers and respect you like their fathers. When all the parents become your friends who talk about everything, they are still deeply attached to you and admire you when parents and children talk about you several years later. All this is because of the power of love in education.