What if your child is depressed and refuses to go to school or study?

If not, my 17-year-old daughter really suffered from depression, dropped out of school for one year and failed to return to school.

what can I do?

Began to cry, nag, complain, useless, but aggravated the illness.

During my stay in hospital, I met many highly educated patients who were destroyed by a disease.

There are also online reports that graduate students can't adapt to society because of mental illness, so they have to live between square inches.

So, I put down my academic obsession. I firmly believe that adulthood is more important than success. Physical and mental health is the best education and the most promising future. Children who are physically and mentally healthy will instinctively choose to live in the sun. There is always a way for children in the vast world.

Therefore, this year, I never mentioned learning again, and let my children be the masters of their own lives.

"intentional flower arrangement does not send flowers, and unintentional willows are shaded." Later, my daughter took the initiative to fall in love with learning. At the moment, I am sitting at my desk, reading aloud and reciting words.

Depression is a disease, not just an affectation as we understand it. If a person loses confidence in life and begins to feel depressed, then at this stage, he will reluctantly do what he doesn't want to do, which will make her lose interest in the people around her and the whole life, and make her children not forget your active attitude. Most importantly, her children can live a happy and healthy life. Even if he loses weight in the future, she feels happy, so it is enough, so she won't set too high a goal for her children to prevent them. This is very important. The world of childhood should be beautiful and happy. When you are full of yearning, you will be pushed forward by life and have to work hard. So don't let your children realize the cruelty of society too early, otherwise how will you live in the next few decades?

If the child is depressed, then companionship is the best support for understanding. We often say that understanding is actually more about thinking that I understand your difficulties, but you should try not to support your child after he is really sick, or we should really accompany him, not from our point of view, but from the child's point of view to face difficulties with her. When he is strong enough, he will eventually face life by himself, but when he is not strong enough, we will always accompany her.

Many times, people with depression will seek psychological counseling. What is the significance of psychological counseling? The significance of psychological counseling is not to tell you what to do, but to find yourself a lasting and stable partner. In the process of getting along with him, like a mirror, you pour out all the bits and pieces of your life. In the middle, you will find things that need to be filled, things that need to be discarded, things that need to be discarded, and then travel light.

Judging from the problem, parents still focus on reading and going to school.

This is also a topic that many schools, teachers, parents and society are paying attention to-learning.

But for a depressed child, the most important thing is not whether to go to school or not, but how to make yourself healthy physically and mentally. The most important thing is how to survive.

But we often don't see this.

But keep running on the wrong road.

I hope that people with depression, especially children with depression, can pay more attention to them and really understand their hearts, instead of being an accomplice who can't live.

Therefore, actively seeking professional help under such circumstances is the best support for children.

I have depression. I prescribed a lot of medicine, took it once, but didn't take it. I recovered after three years. Mainly because I have a good friend, a person who is more psychological than a psychiatrist. She is my antidote. For three years, she called me from different places to enlighten me. She went back to her hometown to chat with me all night. She never gave up on me because I lent her 3000 yuan many years ago. I think children are depressed. If they don't take the medicine first, the withdrawal will be more serious. Parents must read a lot of books, have the spirit of sacrifice, and talk to their children to the point. Never say in a reproachful tone that you don't want to do anything and don't want to be wordy. Remember to get down to business. People with depression will recognize her then. After a while, he will lose his memory and then start to get stuck.

There is a boy 14 years old in the northeast who doesn't want to go to school either. His father resigned and accompanied the children all the way south. He took the children to visit the ancient capital and explained the history and culture of the ancient capital to them while playing. Father can take pictures and teach children to learn photography.

Close and long-term contact. Let the children have a closer relationship with their fathers, and let them realize the greatness of the world, and their knowledge is only nine hairs of Niu Yi. The father's idea is that it is best for children to continue their studies. If children really don't want to, they can at least take photos and teach them a survival skill while playing.

But they liked the original plan several months in advance, and their son proposed to go back to school. When I got home, I took the initiative to hug every family member. The atmosphere at home is warmer and more harmonious than before, with more laughter.

Tell another story around me. My brother has a daughter. When her daughter was very young, her mother worried that her brother was in poor health. After leaving, my daughter grew up in a single-parent family. She lived with her grandmother when she was a child. She is smart and sensible, and she studies well. I just have a bad temper.

I was very headstrong in the fifth and sixth grades. I suddenly don't want to go to school. My brother works in the county, so I have no choice but to take the children. His daughter stayed there while he was working. How can a big family not worry? But no one can say anything. After living in the house for half a year, she asked to study and change schools.

The academic performance is also good, and there are more than a dozen in the class. Usually nothing, her father takes her to travel. In less than two years, they went to Sanya, Hainan alone. His father works there. She usually teaches herself painting and calligraphy, and she also went to school.

There are always certain factors for teenagers not to study. Parents sometimes have a real headache and want to give everything the best, but the children run counter to you. At this time, we can't just blame and teach children. When they grow up, they will have their own independent consciousness.

Parents should guide and guide their children to the right path slowly and patiently.

If the child really has depression, it is necessary to intervene. If it is only adolescence, give children more companionship and patience.

You can go out with your children to climb mountains, play ball games, take a walk, or go on a trip to relax. Don't mention anything about going to school in the meantime. Let your child relax and talk to him. Speak your innermost thoughts.

Inspire him to express his wishes and dreams and let him have his own ideals and goals in life. There will be a heart full of hope and enthusiasm for life. The rest is a matter of course. Of course, parents should learn to lead by example and set an example. Being a good model is also important.

I used to be this child, and my parents were stunned by the teacher's advice and the doctor's diagnosis. I immediately put down my work and made me the center of my life. Companionship and double care are inevitable, but I didn't arrive overnight or anything. Even now, more than 20 years later, they still deliberately avoid the situation in those years, still don't know the cause of this disaster, or still don't know how to get along with me normally, so I know how deep this has hit them.

But at that time, knowing that I was deeply concerned by them was also an important reason for me to live.

Ask him what he wants to do. If he doesn't want to do anything, doesn't know what to do and is not interested in anything, you should pay attention. You should help him and take him to find a job. If you don't give up your job, he can't quit. Always finish, just don't sit still, do more work and exercise more, but only if you help him out.

If your child is depressed and refuses to go to school or study, the best thing you can do is to respect the child's choice, take the child to see a doctor and accompany the child out of trouble.

First of all, you should respect your child's choice. He refused to go to school or study. At this time, you can't force your child to do what you think is right. Just help the child to go through the formalities of dropping out of school, let the child have a rest and stop to ease his mood.

Secondly, you should sincerely admit that your child has mental illness. Don't be embarrassed by your face and deny the fact that your child is ill. At this time, you should take your child to see a doctor and follow the doctor's advice. You must take antidepressants.

Third, analyze the causes of children, whether the family environment factors or the school environment factors lead to children's problems. If influenced by family environment factors, it is very important to create a harmonious atmosphere in the family for children's rehabilitation; If it is a school environment, it is very important to take a break from school and adjust at home.

Fourth, people living around children must treat him as a normal person, but they should not stimulate him. Don't let him know that everyone treats him like a patient. In other words, from the psychological identity, rather than from the behavioral identity, let him feel that he is a patient and increase his psychological pressure.

Fifth, companionship is a good way to treat depression. Parents' care, warm companionship and the creation of family environment will make children feel love and care, thus gradually igniting their hopes for life and actively participating in the activities they should participate in.

Sixth, if children still have friends, then encourage children to participate in friends' activities frequently and let them do things they are interested in together. At the same time, let children have communication, let children have the opportunity to talk, let children speak freely, slowly lift the crux and get out of the predicament.

In a word, it is very unfortunate for any family to encounter such a situation, but it can't escape when it encounters it, and it must be solved positively. Only in this way can the day when children get out of trouble be just around the corner.

How did the child's depression come from? Man is the product of the environment. Since the child is in a bad condition now, there must be environmental factors. As parents, you need someone to tie the bell to solve the problem. Parents are the last straw to save children. That requires parents' efforts. Of course, it is certain that parents love their children, but not every parent can achieve the correct love and the spiritual love that children need. True spiritual love is gained through study. Parents can't give their children the right love if they don't study. At present, children have such problems. If we only solve the children's problems, it is also a temporary solution, not a permanent cure, and it cannot be solved. Because the child's problem is in a family system, parents need to find a professional teacher to guide their study, otherwise they can't help their children.

Take your child to a psychologist. Children's depression is generally related to their parents' education methods.

We can't solve the problem by unilaterally changing the children, but more often, we change the way and requirements of parents for their children's education.

Let the child see the change of the original inherent mode, and he will change.

A parent's energy field cannot be moved by a child alone.