A few minutes in the morning, I became a middle-aged woman yelling at the children next door.

In the building where we used to live, there was a family whose children went to primary school.

Every night at eight or nine o'clock, I hear his mother banging on the table and yelling. Because children are slow to do their homework.

I didn't understand at that time, why did the children still stare at their homework?

What's so angry about doing homework every day? ......

Until my own baby went to kindergarten.

Just get up in the morning, wash, have breakfast and go out. In half an hour's time, the little guy can make you hold your fire and explode in situ!

How to shout, drag, pull, drag, and close your eyes and stay under the covers.

After waiting for more than ten minutes, let alone brushing your teeth, the bathroom is full of water.

Eat breakfast, either muddling along or not eating.

On the morning of my first visit to kindergarten in summer, the atmosphere at home was very tense.

The most I can say is "hurry up!" The nagging urge is blurted out.

After studying so much pedagogy and psychology, I was beaten back to my original shape in minutes in the morning.

In this state, even if you go out to school on time, the adults will not be in a good mood, and the children's emotions will be involved, which will affect the play and study in the kindergarten for one day, which is not worth the candle.

If it is not serious, in the long run, children will not get up in the morning, and procrastination will become a habit.

When I get to school, my energy will be greatly reduced, and the learning rhythm of this day will be chaotic.

Over time, the gap with peers has gradually widened.

The children are still in kindergarten, which is a good opportunity to cultivate good living habits and personal responsibility.

I hope Xia can gradually understand what is his own business and what must be done under the rules.

I can't imagine him getting up and doing his homework in primary school. It's too painful!

Now, I get up in the summer morning, get enough sleep, dress, wash and eat breakfast by myself.

I can also listen to English picture books for 20 minutes, go out on time and go to kindergarten happily.

Without the big fight in the morning, we were both in a good mood, and on the way to school, we were also in the mood to discuss such a topic as "why is uncle traffic police standing in the middle of the road?"

In order to realize this change, I really spent a lot of energy to reflect and improve. I found that for children who procrastinate in the morning, the fundamental solution is not to stare at the children and move quickly, but to adjust their work and rest habits.

Don't get up an hour earlier, give your child time to dawdle.

Don't dress and brush your teeth just because you are nervous in the morning.

Don't think that children eat breakfast slowly, just feed or urge them.

These methods may be effective in the short term, but in the long run, children will inevitably lack sleep, lack autonomy, become more and more conformist and rely more and more on your supervision.

It is fundamental to find out the real reason for children's dawdling in the morning and adjust their work and rest habits.

For example, if the child didn't want to get up in the morning, did he go to bed late the night before? Did you suddenly pull the curtains, and the light was stimulated, which made you uncomfortable?

Dressing and brushing your teeth are very slow. Are these skills unfamiliar at all?

Playing with toys for a while and reading picture books for a while, do you have no idea about going out to school and don't know what to finish in the early morning?

Don't like the ingredients and methods of breakfast? Or did you have a bad appetite that day and couldn't eat?

I am slow in the morning and don't want to move. Is it because parents don't have high-quality company at home recently, and children lack security and intimacy, and want to spend more time with their families?

These are all problems with work and rest habits. Adjusting these habits is bound to be more difficult and energy-consuming than urging and helping yourself. It may take more time at first, but the effect is worthwhile, because we should cultivate an independent, responsible, energetic child who can control his own life.

An hour in the morning is worth two in the evening. How to make children get up early and not be late for school? How can we start a day of study and life happily with our children?

Summer and I practice together from the following four points, and the pro-test is effective for your reference:

Pay attention to parent-child time and go to bed.

Wake up, the atmosphere comes first.

Improving efficiency is the golden rule of precious morning.

Focus on breakfast

1? Pay attention to parent-child time and go to bed.

You and I both know that going to bed early can get up early. Because of the time pressure of going to school, I can insist on getting up in the morning, but there is no limit to sleeping time at night, so I can easily leave after ten o'clock with my children. Not to mention children, there are many parents of night owls.

The best lullaby for children is to enjoy a high-quality parent-child companionship before going to bed.

After dinner, we will concentrate on playing with Xia for more than half an hour, sometimes playing chess, sometimes playing board games, and sometimes simply playing fighting games invented by Xia. According to my observation, it is easy for me to wash and sleep after I devote myself to playing in summer. Sometimes my father and I are tired and lazy. When we wander around the house alone in summer, the little guy will try to postpone his bedtime, reading for a while and eating sugar for a while.

When children fully enjoy the company of their parents, they feel safe and close, and their emotions are satisfied. At this time, he doesn't need to seek comfort by delaying sleep.

Put down the unfinished mobile phone, put down the unfinished work, concentrate on playing with your children for half an hour, and stick to it for a few days, and you will soon develop the habit of sleeping.

2? Wake up, the atmosphere comes first.

In fact, no matter whether a child gets enough sleep or not, most of them don't like being dragged out of the warm bed by us. I still remember when I was at school, I struggled to get up and get dressed, especially in winter, when it was cold and uncomfortable in the morning. At this time, if my mother urges me a few more times or lifts the quilt, I will get out of bed normally.

The state of the child waking up determines whether he can actively welcome this day.

The key here is to create a warm and comfortable atmosphere.

If you yell at your children:

"Get up, you'll be late for school!"

"Don't sleep late, get up quickly."

"Why don't you get up? You are going to be late, you know! "

How will the child feel?

In the awakening stage, we should resist all behaviors that will destroy the atmosphere and focus on "how to create a warm and comfortable atmosphere".

You can try:

# Open the curtains 20 minutes in advance, and the room will gradually introduce more natural light, which will not make children feel dazzling. Secondly, the morning sunshine can promote the secretion of serotonin in the body, which can wake up the brain and increase vitality.

# Wake up to music and play relaxed and rhythmic music regularly. Even if children get enough sleep, it is sometimes difficult to get up. Music feels much better than mom and dad's nagging. It is not unreasonable to use this trick when you wake up from a nap in kindergarten.

# If the child is interested, throw a "question". For example, I will say "get up and tell a story" to summer, no matter how much he wants to sleep, with the introduction of reading stories, the little guy will sit up immediately.

Maybe some mothers think it's too much trouble. Time is so tight in the morning that there is no time to tell stories. But from another angle, instead of wasting each other's energy in order to get up early, it is better to read a story without five minutes with your baby.

Ps: After you find the right "entry", you should implement it every day, and link "entry" with "getting up" to form a habit of reflection.

Once we stand up and have a good start, we are half successful, and we will work harder in the future.

3? Improving efficiency is the golden rule of precious morning.

Behind every baby who dawdles in the morning, there is a parent who does not give up nagging, preaching and urging.

"Why don't you brush your teeth?"

"Eat quickly, it's too late for school!"

"Why are you so slow? Can you hurry! "

Time is tight in the morning, of course, I don't want my children to dawdle, and I don't want them to dawdle on purpose. But once you start urging children to hurry up, your attention has been focused on "children can't move slowly", so once you see that children don't finish what they have to do in time, you subconsciously feel "slow, I'm going to be late, I have to make them move faster", and then a vicious circle follows.

In fact, our goal is to "go out early and return late and arrive at the kindergarten on time". From getting up to going out, it is composed of a series of links such as dressing, going to the toilet, brushing your teeth and washing your face. Our task is to help children optimize all links, improve the efficiency in the morning and go out on time.

You can try:

# Establish an early morning process

List all the things that children should do before going out to school, and make a table that children can understand. What I did was simple:

There is also the form of this game, which will be a little troublesome to make and children should like it very much.

We can invite children to participate, discuss the process that everyone is satisfied with, and then post it where children can often see it, such as at the door of the bedroom. Doing so can remind children what they need to do every morning, effectively reduce our unnecessary nagging, and at the same time convey the trust that "we believe he can do it himself".

Then, set the time on the key node. Our family gets up at 7:30, eats at 7:50 and goes out at 8:20. You need to adjust the time node according to your child's characteristics. For example, our children eat slowly, so I reserved half an hour to eat slowly while listening to English. The advantage of this is that it not only gives children certain rules and boundaries to ensure that they go out on time, but also gives them space to arrange themselves.

# Optimize one by one to improve efficiency

In addition to planning the process and time, if you want to take your baby out in the morning, you must be prepared in advance.

Principle 1: Skills that can be practiced in advance, the sooner you start, the better.

We all want our children to be independent, but we can't help it when we see their socks are slow, and we can't help feeding them when we eat slowly, just to go out early. Therefore, children never have a chance to practice wearing socks, and they never have a chance to experience the consequences of going to school hungry. In this way, when can children be independent? When can I be independent?

I often make this mistake when I just transferred from home school to kindergarten in summer, and then one day I feel something is wrong. Why do I walk around the baby every morning? What about independence?

In fact, many things, children do slowly, or don't want to do, largely because they don't give him enough opportunities to do well. Therefore, let the baby do whatever he wants. He can't, so let's teach. From helping him, to gradually letting go.

For example, learn to brush your teeth first in summer, and we help him squeeze toothpaste. Later, I wanted him to squeeze toothpaste by himself, but he didn't want to do it well, so I bought him toothpaste that could be pressed, and then taught him to stand a toothbrush with a suction cup on the sink, and he squeezed the toothpaste onto the toothbrush head with both hands. Now the little guy does his own thing in the bathroom every morning.

We can subdivide each link of the process to find out the skills that children can practice and the details that can be optimized.

take for example

How to dress, how to undress, how to wear a pullover and how to wear socks. ...

Brush your teeth and wash your face, how to squeeze toothpaste, how to brush your teeth, and hang towels on the hand washing table for children to reach. ...

In the process of frosting, put the baby cream where you can get it after washing your face. How to open the bottle cap?

......

In the matter of forming habits, slow is fast.

Principle 2: If you can prepare in advance, prepare it the night before.

A lot of time was wasted in the morning. I have to find clothes and shoes temporarily, think about what to do for breakfast, take an umbrella at home and so on. Every minute is worth cherishing in a tense morning.

Prepare the things for the next morning the night before and give more time back to the children.

4? Focus on breakfast

My opinion is to eat breakfast at home as much as possible. Things cooked at home are more suitable for children's eating habits, and nutrition and hygiene are definitely better than outside.

Will it take long?

Not exactly. I don't pursue beautiful and exquisite shapes and tastes, and everything is practical, so our breakfast is usually like this:

Electric cookers are the most convenient. Boil a porridge and steam a sweet potato and corn. Don't worry when you're ready. When washing clothes in summer, I just cooked a dish and it was done in five minutes.

What should children do if they dawdle at breakfast?

# Positive response

First of all, children who are still in kindergarten don't eat as fast as adults, so don't reserve too short a time for them.

Secondly, breakfast time is the most difficult time of the day. Adults and children are sleepy, and a little dispute can easily turn into preaching.

The book "Give me your hand, son" describes such a fragment:

Debbie: "What's for breakfast? There is never anything to eat in this family, and you never buy me anything I like to eat! "

Mom: "What do you mean I never buy you anything you like to eat?" ? I bought you everything you like, but you don't know what to eat. Now I want you to sit down, eat in front of you, and then go to school! "

Similar conversations happen in the morning when I first go to school in summer. Every time I get angry, I don't see him eat more and eat faster. On the contrary, responding positively to children will make breakfast easier.

Summer: "Today's breakfast is not delicious, I want to eat oatmeal." If I forget him right away, breakfast will basically end in discord. )

Me: "I want to eat oatmeal, ok, then you have to tell me one night in advance, it's too late to do it now." Let's eat first, and mother will cook it for you tomorrow morning, ok? "

Summer turned to look at me for a few seconds, then "Oh", picked up the spoon and began to drink pumpkin porridge.

# Independent choice

Just as a child cooks better, so does the breakfast he chooses. Eating only milk oats for breakfast for a week in summer is fast and good. I'm not worried about his unbalanced nutrition, because in the long run, he eats everything, which is true.

# Let go of your obsession and don't have to finish it.

I found that "I must finish my breakfast" was my initial psychological evil influence. When I hold this belief, every moment of breakfast has become a countdown, and the intensification of contradictions is inevitable.

When I put down this obsession and changed it to "go out at the right time and eat as much as I want", the atmosphere at the dinner table was relaxed. After a few times, the child will know how fast to eat.

Finally, I want to say that helping children adjust their work and rest habits is a step-by-step process, and there are likely to be various repetitions in this process. For example, I was very excited last night in summer. Even though I went to bed early, I didn't fall asleep until after reading the bedtime story. It is much more difficult to get up this morning. I often can't figure out the reasons for such recurrent attacks, but I have been consciously practicing good work and rest habits. In summer, I can generally get up early happily and get to school on time.

Rome was not built in a day, and neither were the habits of work and rest. Relax your mind, create a happy and efficient morning with your children, and get ready for school after the New Year.

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