Many things are exchanged at equal value, including the relationship between people.

I think the biggest IQ tax is the WeChat marketing number that brainwashes countless young women with little social experience with poisoned chicken soup every day.

One or several brainwashing articles on time every night.

For example:

If you have a boyfriend who loves you enough, you don't need to be mature at all.

Want to know how much he loves you? Let's see how much he is willing to spend for you first.

People like A are suitable for dating, not for marriage. Marry someone like B.

Identify whether a man is good to you or not, and see if he dares to buy a house and a car in full with your name.

…………

The list goes on and on.

Let's start with the conclusion: if you don't die, you won't die. The result of drinking poisoned chicken soup for a long time is to pay the price. Remember that this is a price. Saying IQ tax is a euphemism.

People who believe in this poisonous chicken soup, to put it bluntly, have a lot of social experience, and to put it bluntly, they simply don't understand human nature.

This is equivalent to easily believing in business that classmates who have worked together for many years, playing with big friends since childhood, and relatives of old friends will not betray themselves, and will be wiped out one day.

Fans of these micro-signals are usually envious of the women around successful people, envious that they can get those very luxurious things at their fingertips through their men, envious that they go in and out of various high-end occasions all day, envious of how their lives are so good, and why they can't meet such a good partner.

Hey! Wake up! Don't lie to yourself.

Although God is not always fair, he is fair most of the time.

In the past three years, I have benefited from my working relationship, and I also know some bosses with assets of tens of millions or hundreds of millions inside and outside the province, not many, about ten. The relationship is not close, that is, we can meet for dinner almost once or twice a year, and if we are lucky, we can have time to chat for an hour or two. Or more accurately, after meeting, their weight must be much heavier than mine. Unequal strength means that friendship will not be profound. Of course, this is another story. As for the women who can stand by and accompany them for life, I have met most of them, and even they occasionally tell me how their wives are when chatting. Compare them with many female fans of marketing numbers and tell the disgusting truth. As long as the eyes are not blind, people can see that the gap between the two sides may be an insurmountable gap for many people in their lives.

No matter their personality, temperament, knowledge, etiquette, reading and listening ability, and housekeeping ability in life, they are all first-class. This kind of thing that goes deep into their bones has been accumulated for many years. It can also be said that they have mature and excellent qualities that are consistent or inconsistent with their age since childhood.

There is a saying that has been circulated many times that a successful man must be accompanied by a woman as excellent as him.

Girls who drink WeChat poison chicken soup every day will definitely think this sentence is false, because they have no chance to realize how excellent people at this level are compared with themselves, especially in dealing with interpersonal relationships, including husbands. In the final analysis, it is still a little bit to do this: understand human nature.

In July of the year before last, I met a woman in her forties at a dinner party for about eight people in Lanzhou. Her husband runs three restaurants (mostly celebrities and ZF executives) and 1 cafe in Zhangye Road. The location of Zhangye Road in Lanzhou should be clear to Lanzhou people, and its strength is self-evident.

Chatting with her in the second half of the meal, she said that many little girls like to play a little temper often now, make themselves like children, and want their husbands to understand themselves, how to accompany themselves, and how much energy they put on themselves to gain a sense of security. However, men in this age group have just worked for a few years, their careers are on the rise, they have various jobs and interpersonal relationships to deal with, and their relaxation time is limited. How can they spend a lot of energy on their wives all day? Up to now, her husband has many social activities every week, and occasionally he can take time to go shopping with her and cook together. However, she will understand and continue to give spiritual support. Her conclusion is also simple: only immature children get that strange sense of security through various childish ways.

Excellent people are often strong and mature inside, so they can stand higher. This is a fact.

Too general to understand?

Simply put, it is to make others feel extremely comfortable when they are with you. This "other person" has a wide range, including your partner. This requires you to pay attention to every detail, especially in family life.

Your husband came home after a busy day, and the whole person was falling apart, but you lost your temper because he couldn't watch two TV dramas with you.

When your husband worked overtime for three consecutive nights to solve a planning case, he forgot to buy you a pair of shoes on the phone yesterday. When he came home, there was no hot tea waiting for him, but what followed was your questioning.

Your husband came back from a business trip to talk about the project, and he needed to fish with the person in charge of the last project on Saturday to maintain the relationship. At the same time, he is going to ask for leave on Sunday to accompany you to eat a good meal and watch a movie, but you are not satisfied that he only accompanies you for one day at the weekend and has a big fight.

When your husband takes you to a business banquet, you are at a loss and can't even speak;

Be reasonable. You have a body in your twenties and thirties and a naive soul in your fifties and sixties. How can you live well, let alone stand beside successful people?

Those in the poisoned chicken soup

When you catch a cold and sneeze, your boyfriend or husband who is on a business trip will come back with a ticket to feed you medicine in person;

You like a bag of 5000 yuan this month, and a pair of shoes of 3000 yuan next month. Your boyfriend with a monthly salary of 6000 yuan will buy it for you.

If you are unhappy, your boyfriend will leave work and take a whole day off to accompany you.

You don't have to pay a dime whether you love me or not. Your husband and his parents can only write your name in the house they bought. All this is unrealistic and abnormal.

How can a normal life be so abnormal? None of the local tyrants (including several distant relatives at home) I have ever met who have worked hard by themselves are so retarded, and all the women around them are sensible and self-reliant without exception.

Even if you want to have this day, it is because the man has a successful career, is not short of money and can spare enough time at the same time, and this ending is not caused by strong winds, but is caused step by step. Then the question comes again: do you have the qualifications and ability to experience all this?

Another way is to realize the life in the poisoned chicken soup and satisfy your beautiful sense of security by not worrying about anything materially around a rich second generation who is not short of money. Then the question comes again: what capital can you have next to the rich second generation? Even if you are young and beautiful, what about ten years later? What benefits can you bring to this family, even to another family?

Many things are exchanged at equal value, including the relationship between people. By the way, friends, colleagues and bosses can't jump out of this iron law, so if you have friends who are willing to help you at all costs, cherish them.

So I returned to the unavoidable topic: understanding human nature and understanding people's hearts. To do this, whether dealing with people or living with your partner, you will be comfortable.

We are all flesh and blood, not programmed robots. Taking and giving are mutual. Because the special relationship between partners is not so obvious, but it is still limited. Please keep this in mind. Otherwise, why do you have a bad temper, a bad temper and willfulness? The other party must be a good guy who has never met in a hundred years+good temper+good determination.

There is nothing wrong with wanting to be cared for and feel safe, but before that, you must think clearly about two points:

1. Is it naive to get what you want? Is it against the laws of the adult world?

2. If you want these things, what are the things you must do first before the other party gives them to you?

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This logic is also very simple: if it is not equal, something will happen.

For example, two people are chatting on their mobile phones. Every sentence of one person is a string of ten words or even dozens of words, and the other person is always ah, oh, well, er and so on. You can't talk about it before 10 round, because the information exchange is not equal.

Maybe someone will say: My friend/best friend/colleague, her husband is very kind to her, such as … Barabara.

Usually the core reason of this situation is that in your eyes, that friend/best friend/colleague is your clone, just like you. So her husband is so good, why don't you have such a husband?

I have to emphasize that this is called living in an illusion. Often together, eating and shopping, it is easy to feel that others are at the same level or worse than themselves in all aspects, and then they will start to be jealous: why can't she?

Then the question comes: how do you know that her usual life and some qualities are not as strong as yours?

It is very likely that your own performance in family life is very poor, and the other party is not, but you can't see, think of and don't want to admit it.

The above is the core reason, and there is a secondary reason that what you see and what you think is not necessarily the whole truth.

Another simple example: many people have lived in the shadow of "other people's children" since childhood. In the eyes of parents, why do other people's children excel everywhere, but their own children are pitiful everywhere?

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In fact, these WeChat marketing numbers, or big V, because they really have many fans and readers.

Off-topic: I usually know something about the level of those fans, because I also know several such people in reality. Every day, readers of all kinds of chicken soup think that God is unfair. Why don't they give themselves a perfect boyfriend like chicken soup, but they don't know how to treat their shortcomings, and they don't know how naive they are and how bad they treat others. These people usually find it difficult to get along well with most people around them when they are students and after they enter the work. Especially in the workplace, all kinds of workplace relations and office politics, people are playing, and it is themselves who are wronged, and I still don't understand why. It is summed up by an offensive truth: it serves you right.

Others have maturity and strategies that are consistent or even inconsistent with their age. They know how to protect themselves and win more benefits for themselves. As long as you are less than 65,438+00 years old, you can become a giant baby. If you don't suffer, you will suffer. I even suggested that these silly children try to start their own businesses and do business for several years (of course, I don't mean to set up a squid stall on the roadside).

Back to the topic: Why do these big V's spread poison chicken soup every day?

Because no one can read the truth. Poisonous chicken soup tastes good. It tells you that you can get something for nothing. You don't have to pay anything every day, you don't have to think about anything, you don't have to improve yourself, you don't even have to worry about what your other half is thinking, you don't have to think about his feelings, you just need to be pampered like a child every day, and you deserve it, just because there is someone around you who loves you enough.

Just like the protagonist of some online novels, there is no need to go through any hardships. At the critical moment, someone always comes out to help, so all you have to do is sit and eat ready-made food.

Oh! Shit! It's so beautiful and happy! That's great. I was so moved that I almost peed.

Wake up, the real fool is not staying at the bottom of society.

If you are not a rich second generation or an official second generation, you should improve yourself. Although your efforts may not be successful, don't paralyze yourself by drinking poisoned chicken soup every day.

Big V people spread poisonous chicken soup just for traffic and make money through traffic. The operators in the official WeChat account are all trying to make money. What is a businessman? Think about it. Do you really think that they are all incarnations of God, diligently teaching people the truth of life every day?

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I like a lot tonight, so let's update a paragraph at last.

There are many points in the original content that I may vomit, which are easy to misunderstand, and then state the core principles:

"There is no problem with girls' proper willfulness and small temper. Of course, people who really love you won't mind too much. It's just that there must be a limit to all this, and it must be remembered that there is a limit. If everything goes beyond the limit, something will definitely go wrong. How to grasp this boundary and whether it can be handled well depends on personal experience and insight into human nature. In short, don't really make those poisonous chicken soup on the micro-signal. "

I want to use an example around me to talk about the word "inequality" in the above article:

In the original text, I emphasized that the demands and efforts of two people should not be unbalanced, and we should think more about what we should do and strive to be equal. This balance can be tilted in a relationship, but it must not be tilted too much to cause imbalance.

I have a friend who is the perfect boyfriend in the chicken soup article. When the monthly income is about 3000 yuan, my girlfriend is unhappy because of small things, and she can buy plane tickets twice a week to fly to the other city to coax; My girlfriend said that she wanted to buy a warm dress in the cold weather and sent it directly to the down jacket of 1500. I often eat instant noodles to save money and let my girlfriend sleep peacefully on the phone for three hours all night.

Is such a boyfriend good? All right!

It is perfect to meet the standards of so-called qualified boyfriends in poisoned chicken soup!

Falling in love with such a person will be happy for a lifetime …

Hey! Wake up again

The end of the story is:

They broke up after all ...

Quite simply, in this love relationship, their status, identity and contribution are completely unequal.

So, is it really okay to have such a boyfriend? Obviously not. If the woman is not mature enough and sensible enough, then her problems will become more and more accustomed to and eventually become lawless. There will be more and more frictions and quarrels, which will lead to breaking up. Hard facts prove that she can't keep a very considerate boyfriend in front of childish children, and eventually she will kill this relationship herself. Just like an uneducated second-generation dude, he can't keep his family business.

No matter what you want, money, power, the perfect partner, or anything else, you must have the strength worth having. This is an old iron law in this world. Although there will be exceptions, but less than the probability of winning the Mark Six lottery ten times in a row, why did it fall on you?

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