It is a noble accomplishment not to disturb the happiness of others.

Everyone has his own happiness threshold, and not disturbing is the greatest kindness.

A few days ago, a friend who didn't send a circle of friends all the year round rarely updated a status:

"My daughter grew up and specially prepared a gift for me to wish her a happy birthday."

The picture shows little lipstick and greeting cards.

I asked why, because of the following comments:

"Who still uses domestic lipstick now? Just try the color, not the mouth. "

In fact, whether in a circle of friends or chatting, most of the time, we are sharing our happiness, but if we want to convey some emotions or record some moments, we don't have to get the echo of others.

If you can't add happiness to others, it is also your kindness not to disturb their happiness.

Volume 1

If you can't applaud others, you might as well keep silent.

Haruki Murakami once said, "Not every fish lives in the same sea."

Everyone has his own happiness threshold, such as fish drinking water, knowing the temperature. If you use your own experience to evaluate other people's lives at will, it will only bring trouble and trouble to each other.

My son was admitted to a university. Although it is an ordinary university, the whole family still feels very happy and has no regrets.

The father said to his son, son, you are more promising than mom and dad. I'm only in the third grade of primary school, and your mother just graduated from primary school. You are the number one scholar in our family. The son smiled shyly. Smile very sweetly and comfortably.

With happiness and joy, the whole family sent their son to the station to go to school. Suddenly, someone patted him on the shoulder. When he saw it, he turned out to be an acquaintance of his own and had come to send his son to school. An acquaintance asked, what university did your son get into?

As soon as he said the name of the school, an acquaintance immediately showed a surprised expression and said, what university did your son go to? It's no use going to that university. The students who graduated from that university can't find a job at all. My son is much better than yours. He entered a famous university, but after graduation, others scrambled to get it. His monthly salary is at least 8000 yuan. An acquaintance showed contempt on his face and then turned away.

They looked at the distant back of an acquaintance family, and their eyes suddenly dimmed. Just now, the happiness and sweetness of the family were asked and answered by acquaintances for a while, and nothing was left, and the heart dropped from fiery to freezing point. Looking at the handsome son, his eyes are full of crystal tears.

Think of a sentence: "If you don't understand other people's hearts, just shut up."

Everyone's cognition of happiness is different, so there is no need to define others' happiness according to their own understanding of the world.

Many times, your casual words are enough to ruin the hard-won happiness of others.

So, if you can't applaud others, you might as well keep silent.

Not easily evaluating other people's lives is respect for others and self-cultivation.

Volume II

Please be quiet and don't disturb the happiness of others!

On the way to school, there is a couple who sell eggs and cakes after 90. Girls are handsome and tall, and belong to that kind of attractive woman. But after a busy day in front of the stall, I couldn't stop for a moment.

Finally, when I was free, my husband handed her the lunch box and said apologetically, eat quickly and don't get cold.

The woman smiled, don't worry, I'm not hungry yet.

The man was anxious and said, I have been busy for a long time. How can I not be hungry? Let's eat quickly.

The woman smiled happily and sat on the side of the road to eat.

At this time, an aunt passed by the booth, looked at the lunch box in the woman's hand and let out a cry of surprise. Oh, this girl, who eats nothing, has no oil or water at all. Why should she follow such a man?

Say and show disgust, turned away.

Leaving the woman licking the rice in the bowl silently, her eyes are full of tears, and she is no longer interested in taking a bite.

The surrounding air seems to have solidified, and the man next to him is red-eyed and can't say a word of comfort.

If we can't understand other people's happiness, please be quiet and don't disturb.

Volume III

Seeing through is wisdom; If it is not thorough, it is kindness.

Another netizen shared his experience.

He grew up in a small place and didn't see much. After going to college, I went to eat roast duck with my friends for the first time. He ate the dough directly, and many people looked at him with strange eyes.

A friend said, "Do you like eating only skin, too? I also like to eat rice noodles alone. " Say, just pick up a piece of dough and put it in your mouth. Later, that friend picked up a piece of dough, wrapped cucumber, green onion, dipping sauce and roast duck in the dough, and silently showed him the correct way to eat.

Many years later, this netizen has always remembered this matter.

People living in the world will inevitably encounter embarrassing times. Seeing through is wisdom; If it is not thorough, it is kindness.

When you lend a helping hand, don't forget to put yourself in others' shoes and take care of others' feelings. Such goodwill will not only help solve the problem, but also make people feel a psychological burden.

Volume iv

Most people have experienced "others throwing cold water".

When you finished a project and were feeling smug, a colleague came to you and said, "Your efficiency is really slow. Will this small project take so long? " ? I have finished several projects! "

You scrimped and saved for a long time and finally bought a limited edition pair, but your friend smiled and said, "What do you think? Do you like this pair of shoes?" I don't want others to send me. "

Zhuang Zhou once said: "If a child is not a fish, he will know the happiness of the fish." Don't take your own life or other people's lives as the criterion, and try to make everyone live according to your meaning.

If you can't add luster to other people's lives, there is no need to disturb other people's little happiness.

Emotional expert Zhu Jing said in the article "Don't disturb others' happiness":

What you see in your eyes may be suffering, while what others see may be happiness.

This kind of happiness has nothing to do with wealth and prestige, but a kind of telepathy and tacit understanding.

This kind of happiness, like a flower, is silent, but it makes the fragrance linger in each other's hearts and turn into an eternity and eternity in life.

I like a sentence very much: "Just light your own lights, don't blow out others' lights."

It is a kind of advanced kindness not to judge other people's lives and not to disturb their happiness.

There are many things in the world and thousands of people.

Everyone's happiness can't be on the same channel with others at any time.

In life, everyone has his own little happiness. You don't disturb it, but you are gentle with others.

May you always have happiness that doesn't need comments from others, and kindness that doesn't disturb others' happiness.