How do those who cannot have children due to physical reasons feel?

A colleague, male, is 38 years old and has been married for many years. When he first came to our unit, we asked him if he had anything serious to do since he was already over 30 and he didn’t want children. He always said, "No, it's too tiring to raise a child. It's fine for both of us." Later, he drank too much and told another colleague that he didn't want her, but that he couldn't keep her. His wife had been pregnant many times, but he just couldn't keep her. We never asked again. Our department had a very good relationship in those years, and we often took our family and family out together, and his wife was also a very nice person. Later, he added his wife’s WeChat account. I sometimes post about my children in the circle of friends. As long as I post about the children, his wife will leave a message with all kinds of praises for the children. Not only me, but also several female colleagues who are close to me, if I post about this, In the circle of friends, his wife would always praise him and never forget to tell us to take good care of the children. The salary in our company is not low, and they have saved a lot over the years. We used to give him advice on buying a house or a store. If they invest, they can still make money, but he has never participated. He said, Who do I earn it for? Why don't we both enjoy it? The two of them have been like big brothers and sisters over the years. Whenever something happens to someone's family, they are always the first to take care of them. However, there are always regrets in life. I sincerely hope they can be happy.

I have a sister who I have known for almost fifteen years. We met her ex-husband at the same school.

They have been together for five years. At first, they thought it was the girl who was in poor health. Later, they found out that the man had no sperm. From the initial treatment with traditional Chinese medicine to the later injection treatment, they traveled almost half of China. , neither of them went as expected, and both of them were exhausted, and finally gave up the idea of ??natural conception.

The two began a long journey of in vitro fertilization. Since the man had no sperm, he also suffered a lot. He took medicine, acupuncture, etc., spent all his money, and failed.

The girl wanted to relieve her husband from so much pressure and did not want him to suffer anymore. Finally, she took the initiative to say that she did not want children and would adopt one when the adoption age was reached. The man later agreed. Unfortunately, the good times did not last long. After 37 days, the man filed for divorce, saying that he had an affair and should not continue the marriage. He could not give the girl happiness and wanted to let her go. He also found the other woman, who was also unable to have children. Five years older than him. The girl begged hard, but the five-year relationship was not as good as these 37 days. In the end, the man filed for divorce and married the woman two months after the divorce.

The girl collapsed completely and almost left the house. No matter how much her family tried to persuade her, it didn't work.

To this day, the girl is still single. She said: I would rather adopt a child than get married.

Children are the link that holds life together. I can imagine the pain of not having children. I hope that young girls will cherish themselves, and I also hope that everyone in the world can have their own babies

When I got married in 2009, I was 28 and my husband was 31. At the beginning, I didn’t want it because it was too early. I was pregnant for 10 years, but the pregnancy ended up with a miscarriage. I saw a lot of Chinese and Western medicine. I took a lot of traditional Chinese medicine. I felt nauseated when I saw the medicinal soup. I stopped eating hot peppers, drinks, and all irritating things. I finally got pregnant again in 14 years, and I started bleeding as soon as I found out. , I took progesterone for three months, and the buttocks were all covered with needle holes, and I still couldn't save the fetus. During this period, I sometimes quarreled with my husband over trivial matters, and in the end we couldn't do without this topic. During weekends and holidays, my circle of friends always took my children out to play. We both looked for activities separately. After the Chinese New Year in 2015, I figured out that I would no longer bother myself and my family. I relaxed completely. I discussed with my husband that we would divorce within a year. If we didn’t delay him, he would eat and drink when he should. Drink. In April, I took my mother, uncle, aunt, and aunt to Chengdu and Chongqing. On May Day, I went to my husband’s house to see my father-in-law who was seriously ill. When he came back, he danced. After a few days, my aunt didn’t come. I took a pregnancy test, but I still felt unhappy. To be sure, I went to the hospital to check that I had antibodies, and received anti-blocking treatment. I went to the hospital every two weeks to draw my husband’s blood, and then called me after it was cultured. It was only after 5 and a half months that the doctor said it was stable, and my husband told me that his My heart is at peace. Although I have experienced hypoxia, weak fetal heart rate, small baby, and premature birth, fortunately, the baby is now one year old and is learning to walk every day. But when the family of three goes out, I really feel complete! Both of my cousins ??got divorced because they had no children, and after remarrying, the couple just made do with each other, so relax, find the right way, and welcome the baby!

My husband and I were childhood sweethearts. I have been in a foreign relationship for 5 years. Finally registered in 2009 and got married in 10 years. From then on, I embarked on the 8-year journey of seeking a child. In the first few years, neither of them was in a hurry, but because my father-in-law went to the countryside and then came back to the city to take college entrance exams, he didn't have a husband until he was 37. So the family became anxious. Especially at my husband’s grandma’s house, his aunt once pointed at me and scolded me for the delay. My sister-in-law, who is also the daughter of my husband’s other aunt, also made insinuations and said that they would get divorced sooner or later without children (later, both of them had their retribution). Of course, I know what is actually said. Who said it. Later, when my husband found out, he scolded his sister directly. I also officially embarked on the journey of seeking a child. I had no problem with all preliminary examinations, and my husband's sperm routine was fine. During the angiography examination, my mother-in-law came to the hospital to accompany me, but it turned out that there was no problem with both tubes, and she was speechless after seeing the results. I am a clean and self-loving virgin before marriage, and my husband understands this. I believe in myself. Later, the doctor told me that I had gained 30 pounds after my marriage and had polycystic ovaries, and that I needed to lose weight. I also worked hard for half a year and lost 36 pounds. Then it was accelerated and given 11 times. After more than 200 injections, my eggs were fine every time but I couldn’t get pregnant. Later, the men's department re-examined my husband and found that although the sperm routine was fine, there was a problem with penetration. Normally, there should be 1,000 to 3,000 good sperm after semen washing, but my husband only had 6 to 10. It was recommended to consider in vitro fertilization. During this period, I thought it was my problem, but my husband told his mother that it was his problem, but my mother-in-law didn't believe it. Later, I directly told my family that I didn’t want to have children. Now that he has a problem, I can't abandon him. We have been together for 17 years, and our relationship cannot be controlled by a child. We were preparing to undergo in vitro fertilization after the Chinese New Year in February. During this period, the doctor prescribed Daiying birth control pills, and my husband received a dental implant and took CT and X-rays. I missed taking birth control pills for 5 days at my husband's house during the Chinese New Year. I didn’t have my period in March. I thought it was because of the medication that affected my period. When I went to the hospital, I found out that I was naturally pregnant for 39 days and had a threatened miscarriage. The doctor did not recommend abortion. Both of them were confused at the time. Finally got a chemical pregnancy. Then I started IVF in June. Since I had done all the in-person tests before, I started the cycle directly. During this period, my husband’s uncle’s brother, like us, had not been pregnant for 5 years after marriage, so he could only secretly discuss in vitro fertilization with us. Both of them have master's degrees and their family is very well-off and they work in real estate. However, he always wanted to do it in the UK because he was studying in the UK, but his wife didn't want to do IVF. The final decision was to look at us first. My test tube transplant went relatively smoothly at the end of July, except for the second generation test tube due to sperm problems. Nine days after the transplant, I suddenly developed ascites, so the doctor asked me to start the lottery early. As a result, I sat on the hospital bench and waited. My husband went to get the report and asked me to guess the result when he came back. When I saw the eighth tooth he showed, I cried. After 8 years of quitting their jobs, the two of them were under too much pressure. Later, I had ascites for 14 days. I didn’t have an injection or water pump for the sake of my baby.

There was ascites in 34 places all over the body, including the basin, abdomen, and thoracic commissure. The pancreatic line could not be seen clearly, and the lungs were being compressed. But I got through it, and I suffered from morning sickness until I was 30 weeks pregnant. I lost 8 pounds compared to before pregnancy, but the baby's weight was normal. I vomited after eating, and then vomited again. It was all worth it along the way! Let’s go back to my husband’s aunt, who said she would never let his son find a daughter-in-law like me. But it turned out that her daughter-in-law was two years older than her son, got pregnant before we were married, forced her to get married, and even brought her mother who was a single parent from out of town to occupy her. Holding the house, he drove that aunt to his aunt's house and refused to let her go home! (My husband’s aunt is a widow and raised her son by herself). As for my husband and my sister, we said that we would get divorced in a few days and we would raise a child by ourselves. Because the ex-husband is a foreigner, he cannot recover alimony. He simply left the child to his mother to raise. As a result, she hung up the phone two days ago and told me that she was also pregnant, and her due date was one month later than mine, but the boy was younger than her, and she was delayed in registering the baby. In the end, she said she would decide whether the baby was a boy or a girl. It's been 7 months now and I can't induce labor, I can only give birth. In and out of words, she asked me to leave any leftover things to her after I gave birth. It felt like she was a girl secretly stealing the B-ultrasound, and was afraid that the boy wouldn't want it. They asked me if I was a man or a woman, and I said I love both of my children! Come to think of it, my mother was right, she slapped herself in the face for all her arrogance! Later I found out why my mother-in-law believed there was something wrong with my husband. My husband’s grandfather has four grandchildren. Except for the eldest brother who has a child (who is much older than us and has a child in high school), the others, including my husband, have no children. The other two brothers, one is 39 and the other is 36, seem to have sperm problems. My mother-in-law let it slip once. But during this period, my father-in-law has always been a good person. He has never been in trouble and has not let my mother-in-law talk about us. My husband has always stood in the same line. When I didn't know it was his problem at first, he always stood up for me. He was also afraid that I would suffer from the test tube, so he said don't forget it!

When I saw this title, I couldn’t help but think of a case that a colleague shared with me a while ago. A female patient came to see a doctor due to abdominal discomfort and unexpectedly learned that she was pregnant. The surprise on the patient's face remains vivid in the minds of colleagues. It turns out that this patient has been married for 7 years, but has no children, and he and his family have given up. In ancient times, there were seven rules, and having no children was the second. There was also a saying that "there are three reasons for being unfilial, and having no offspring is the biggest." This shows how important future generations are to people. For thousands of years, children have been the expectations of their parents, the fruit of their love, and the continuation of their lives. However, there are many people in this world who cannot conceive their own children due to physical reasons. The ardent expectations from their parents, the concerned greetings from the seven aunts and eight aunts around them, and the deep desire for the baby in their own hearts all put them under unimaginable psychological pressure.

Generally, infertility can be diagnosed if couples of childbearing age have lived together for more than one year and have normal sexual life, but fail to get pregnant without using any contraceptive measures. In many TV dramas, if a couple has been married for many years and has no children, the heroine will be attacked by her husband's family, or even forced to divorce her husband. In this way, the two people who were originally in love are separated.

In fact, this understanding is wrong. After all, pregnancy is a matter for two people. Both husband and wife should receive examinations, and then carry out targeted diagnosis and treatment based on the final examination results. If you really can't conceive your own baby, adoption is a good option. In clinical practice, there are also many couples who have been infertile for many years. After adopting a child, their stress was relieved and they became pregnant naturally. Good luck with your pregnancy!

I don’t have any special feelings. We have been married for 15 years and are used to this kind of life. Cute ones under the age of 5 can still be rare for a few days, and the older children around them, including relatives, classmates, and neighbors, have all kinds of troubles, and each has his or her own strengths. The key is that the couple has the same views and the relationship is good. Some people think there is no point in living without children. In fact, we are really happy, there is no pressure at all, and we can do whatever we want.

There is a difference between "wanting to have a baby" and "not wanting to have a baby". For some people, whether they are men or women, if they cannot have children due to physical reasons, it will be very, very painful for them, especially those who have a very good relationship with each other. 1. The relationship between husband and wife is relatively good, but it is super painful

In "Shangyang Fu", the princess of Shangyang suffered an avalanche due to her first miscarriage, which caused the root cause of the disease and made her unable to conceive and have children again. She had a very good relationship with Xiao Qi. When she knew that she could not give birth to a child for Xiao Qi, she was very, very painful.

When Xiao Qi knew that Princess Shangyang could not have children due to physical reasons, he was also very painful. He chose to hide it and asked the imperial doctor to give Princess Shangyang Bizi Decoction.

Because he had a very good relationship with Princess Shangyang, he made a difficult choice between having no heirs and Princess Shangyang to keep Princess Shangyang alive.

He said that he could have no heirs, but he could not live without Princess Shangyang. His children must come from Princess Shangyang. When seeing this paragraph, I believe there are few people in front of the screen who will not be moved.

Someone even wrote in the pop-up window: There is no such feeling in this world.

Yes, it is too difficult and too rare, but I still believe that it exists, but we have not encountered it.

In fact, for Xiao Qi, it was very painful for him to make this decision. Princess Shangyang was also very painful when she knew that she could not have children.

However, when she found out that Xiao Qi would rather not have children than save her life, I believed that she was both happy and sad, or that she had a lot of emotions involved.

Thinking about it later, she felt more guilty for Xiao Qi. She wanted to do everything possible to give birth to a child for Xiao Qi. Two people with such a good relationship as a couple will be sad because they cannot have children.

However, they will try their best to sacrifice themselves and make various efforts to satisfy each other. Sometimes I feel that this is really a pity, it is a hurdle specially set by God to test the relationship between husband and wife.

In real life, I have encountered couples who have a good relationship, but one party is unable to have children due to physical reasons. Because the two of them loved each other so much, they adopted a child.

Treat the adopted children with all kinds of love. Because the relationship between husband and wife is so good, many of them feel regretful because they cannot give birth to their own biological children, but they still stay together and do not divorce.

I believe that people who are unable to have children due to physical reasons will be grateful to their spouse for not abandoning or abandoning them in their future marriage.

Most of the married life in the future will be relatively happy.

Just like the marriage life of Princess Shangyang and Xiao Qi, when Princess Shangyang knew that she could not have children, Xiao Qi still insisted on her and was unwilling to marry another woman. The relationship between us is better than before.

Of course there is pain and regret, but you also gain another kind of true love. Therefore, I think it is not necessarily a very painful thing for a couple who are in a good relationship and cannot have children due to physical reasons. 2. The relationship between husband and wife is not very good, and it is very painful to get divorced because one person is unable to have children.

If the relationship between husband and wife is not very good, if one party really wants to have a child, but the other party is unable to have children, it will be very painful.

, then the pain will be double.

If a couple is still living together without divorce, one partner will look down upon the infertile partner. In more serious cases, they will find other women to give birth to children, and they will also look down on and belittle the other partner. .

If the party who is infertile due to physical reasons is a weak woman, then her marriage will really be like hell.

However, if you are unable to have children due to physical reasons, once you encounter domestic cold violence, you can stand up and break away from this painful marriage, even though it seems very painful at the time,

It is indeed painful, but once you get out of it, you will find another kind of spiritual sustenance, such as career. She will also have a good time.

Children are of course very important, but in addition to giving birth to our own children, there are many things waiting for us to do in this world. We are not here just to carry on the family lineage.

Being able to give birth, eat, and mate is something that everyone can do. There is really no need to show it off. Those who change mankind, change society, and promote historical progress are worthy of us. Respectful.

If you in front of the screen are unable to have children due to your physical condition, and your husband treats you badly because of this, I sincerely hope that you will bravely end this marriage and then find the value of your life.

You must know that your value is not only to give birth to a child, but God may have arranged for you to have other more important missions. Don't be discouraged, believe that you are valuable, and then work hard to make yourself valuable.

When you really make a great contribution to society, you will find that not being able to give birth to a child of your own is not a huge bad thing.

There are two types of people. One is that they don’t really like children in the first place and it doesn’t matter if they have them. But the other type doesn’t. They really want a child of their own and have tried many ways to do so. But it doesn’t mean you can’t get pregnant.

1. Resentment. I feel that God is unfair to me. I don’t know why I can’t get pregnant, and the relationship between husband and wife is affected.

2. For treatment, start seeking medical treatment from various sources, including Western medicine, Chinese medicine, and secret recipes passed down from ancestors. As long as you can hear it, start treatment, see experts, and see famous doctors. Take medicines, injections, and endure all kinds of suffering.

3. Accept your fate. You are destined to have no children. Adopt a child, or continue to be a DINK family~

Let me talk about myself. I only became pregnant in the third month of marriage.

In the first month, everyone asked me if I had any good news.

In the second month, I still asked, even when I went to the supermarket in the village, I asked if I had my period this month. I was embarrassed to say it, but she said: "I'm afraid of everything. Women don't know whether you've had your period or not!" I haven't been to that supermarket for the next six years.

I got pregnant in the third month, and all the eight mothers-in-law asked when they would be born

The second child was conceived five years later last year (now I am three months pregnant). The most common sentence I heard in this article is - don't have a second child yet, if it doesn't work, go check it out. I couldn't go to the hospital for medical treatment, so I found that the aunts, aunts, and sisters in the village really "cared" about me. She cares more about me than my mother...

I wonder what they will ask in the future? I really hope that Ba Po will let us go. Everyone has their own life. Please take care of yourself.

Both of my children were miscarried and I have not had children since then. However, my husband and I have a very good relationship. Not having children has not affected our relationship at all, so we just let it take its course. Naturally, if you don’t have children, you won’t have children, and your mind will be very peaceful. Exercise well and make more money when you are young, and when you are old, let's go hand in hand.