Children procrastinate and have poor self-control? Develop the prefrontal cortex of the brain eye socket to improve children's self-control

I believe that many parents have an experience, that is, children are always procrastinating and complaining. Sometimes you call him, he will react for a long time; A few homework questions can be written all night; If you don't concentrate in class, you can always be attracted by the little things around you. In the face of such children, teachers and parents always feel helpless.

In the eyes of parents, children's procrastination and inattention are manifestations of children's lack of seriousness and hard work.

When parents find their children in this situation, they will yell at them loudly or use violence to beat and scold them, hoping to change their bad habits.

But things often get worse. Beating and scolding education will not only make children have resistance and disgust, but also have little positive significance for children to improve their attention.

In fact, parents have a serious misunderstanding about children's procrastination and difficulty in concentration. The reason why children are like this is because they lack self-control.

So, how can we cultivate children's self-control?

Claire Cowper, an American psychologist, believes that self-control is a complex psychological structure, which reflects the individual's ability to coordinate personal value and social value by independently regulating behavior.

Self-control ability is an important milestone in children's early growth, which has a far-reaching impact on their healthy personality and healthy growth in the future.

If children lack self-control, it will not only lead to many early problem behaviors, such as inattention, hyperactivity, aggressive behavior and so on. And it will also cause some social problems, such as violence, drug abuse and alcoholism.

Therefore, in order to cultivate an excellent child, we must pay attention to the cultivation of children's self-control ability.

With the rapid development of cognitive neuroscience, people have a better understanding of the structure and development of the brain, which provides a scientific basis for theoretical research on self-control.

Related research in cognitive neuroscience also shows that the orbitofrontal cortex, a part of the prefrontal cortex, plays a very important role in self-control.

Due to the development of the "orbital prefrontal cortex", the rational commands of the cerebral cortex can spread to the edge of the brain, inhibit the outbreak of anger, hatred, jealousy and other emotions, and thus control their own violent behavior.

More importantly, there is no synapse (nerve connection) between the cerebral cortex and the cerebral margin, and all the control nerves can only be realized through this "orbital prefrontal cortex".

It can be seen that if the "orbital prefrontal cortex" is not mature enough or seriously damaged, even if the wisdom and rationality of the cerebral cortex are perfect, it can't control the "emotional outburst" on the edge of the brain.

The orbital prefrontal cortex of the right hemisphere is directly related to the autonomic nervous system and can control more reactive subcortical areas.

There are two important control circuits that connect this part of the brain with the subcortical region:

One is "excitement", which is related to positive emotional state and controlled by sympathetic nervous system;

The other is "inhibitory type", which is related to negative emotional state and controlled by parasympathetic nervous system.

When these two control loops operate in the best state and are balanced by more positive emotions, the more advanced control center has greater influence on the more primitive evaluation of amygdala.

Therefore, the "orbital prefrontal cortex" has become a "self-control center" to suppress impulses.

Children begin to form self-control gradually around the age of two, so early self-control is also an important part of children's education. So how is a child with self-control cultivated? What should I pay attention to in the process of training?

Help children establish correct goals and directions.

The child's self-control is weak. After learning English for three days, he wants to give up. He just wants to lose weight and exercise for a week. In this case, we might as well try to help children define their ideals and goals.

In the process of daily study and life, we can help children to specify daily plans and arrange daily activities such as study and sports reasonably, so as to improve their time management ability and learning enthusiasm.

In addition, we can also adopt a scientific improvement method-EEG biofeedback training, and adopt multi-point training mode for training according to the actual needs of children.

Use professional training instruments to accurately understand the brain wave movement data of children participating in training tasks, and professional teachers will guide children to train all the time, control the whole training process in time, help children complete tasks better, ensure children to improve their attention and execution ability faster and better, and achieve overall improvement.

Find the source of children's interest

Children's self-control is weak, and most of them are not interested in what they do. Because they are not interested, children are unwilling to spend time and energy to do it. Therefore, to cultivate children's self-control ability, we must first start with children's interests.

Choose what children are interested in, do it with them, encourage them to persist and concentrate, cultivate their patience and carefulness, and gradually their willpower and self-control will be established.

Psychological cognitive training of competitive thinking, combined with the results of multi-dimensional rating scale to understand the specific situation of children, analyze the thinking mode of children, and carry out personalized training for children.

Starting with the details of children's daily study life, such as their emotions, interests and habits, we can gradually change their cognitive level and beliefs, improve their fear of difficulties and weariness of learning, develop good habits of autonomous learning, and enhance their daily self-management and execution ability.

Let's take a look at the growth of student Weiwei in meditation:

Student Wei Wei, 7 years old, is in the first grade of primary school in the new semester. Outgoing personality, strong interpersonal skills, easy to get along with small partners.

However, in terms of learning, parents feedback that Wei Wei is not focused enough and has a lot of small moves. When encountering boring things, she is easily distracted, impatient, short in concentration time and inefficient in learning. She can't respond to the instructions of her parents and teachers in time.

In daily life communication and interaction, children have a weak sense of rules, emotional instability, and are often impulsive and irritable, which seriously affects normal learning.

To this end, parents choose to take their children for competitive thinking training to help them improve their attention and emotional management skills.

According to the results of attention assessment and the in-depth understanding of personality in the process of getting along, Mr. Shao of the center tailored the follow-up training plan for the children.

On the basis of EEG biofeedback training, Mr. Shao will also help children improve their emotional management ability through psychological counseling, emotional management, behavior correction and other auxiliary training, so that children can correctly understand, recognize and express their emotions in the process of scenario simulation. After each training, Mr. Shao will communicate with parents about their children's changes and growth in time.

With the progress of training, there are more and more exchanges between Wei Wei and Shao, and the degree of cooperation is getting higher and higher, so that children can complete training tasks efficiently within the specified time.

At present, the children have attended 95 training classes in Jingsi, and the feedback from parents on their children's attention has been greatly improved. In the process of doing things, children's concentration time has become longer, they will take the initiative to communicate with their parents to solve problems, and the number of tantrums is much less.

At the beginning of the new semester, Wei Wei has successfully entered the classroom, able to keep up with the rhythm of the teacher's class, independently arrange the learning tasks and complete them efficiently.

Through today's sharing, parents may wish to leave a message saying, what is the self-control ability of children in their daily study and life? What are the specific aspects?

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