What harm does a widowed nanny do to the family?

A family is like a husband and wife standing at both ends of the scale. If only one end of the balance is exerting force, the balance will naturally tilt. How many families' scales are not tilted in real life?

1. Constantly quarreling

The child belongs to two people, so don't say: you take care of the child at home, I earn money to support my family outside, and my wife is not a nanny. She also has her pressure, but sometimes there will be contradictions when the pressure is nowhere to be placed.

Xiaoli hit the child again. Her child is six and a half years old this year. She has just entered the first grade of primary school. It is difficult to teach without knowing anything. Call my husband and ask him to come back early to teach his children homework, but he is very tired every time he comes home. Let the children write by themselves. Oh! Finally, Xiaoli had to wait for cooking to teach, but he was lying on the sofa watching his mobile phone. She got angry and quarreled with her husband, who always said that she was just cooking at home and taking care of the children. Teaching homework can make a scene, which is simply unreasonable!

2. Children grow up while waiting

It is said that behind every grumpy mother, there is a father who is not around! But don't forget, children can't stand waiting for themselves to grow up. Indeed, do you remember that all your promises to your children have been fulfilled?

My son complained to me again today. My father promised to take me to the seaside. He said before that he would take me to the dinosaur park as long as I behaved well in school. It's been so long now. Has my father forgotten that he is a big liar and will never believe what he says again? Every time I tell him that you promised the child, don't promise it easily. The child is a blank sheet of paper, but every time he draws on it, it will look like this. When I finish this work, I will definitely take him.

So, if you love her (wife), please be considerate and care more. If you love him (child), please keep company and care more!

Let me share my opinion:

As the name implies, in life, only one person takes care of children.

In fact, everyone doesn't know that it is harmful to families and children. What can I do? For life, for family, for survival. After all, not everyone is the richest man, not everyone is Jack Ma and Li Ka-shing. Financial freedom can be achieved.

In fact, this phenomenon is better in cities. Everyone who has been to the countryside knows that, so they will complain. Not just widowed. Children are basically brought up by grandparents, and both parents have to go out to work, and they have not seen each other once in several years. I remember a friend of mine. They work outside. The child was taken to his grandparents as soon as he was born. Later, when I went home, I still refused to recognize it directly, calling for mom and dad, but the children did not shout. Say no, they all cried. Cry thinly.

Therefore, it is not good to take care of the baby in a widowed way, but there is too much helplessness, too much helplessness.

I hope everyone can be treated well by life and all children can have a healthy family environment.

The harm of widowhood mainly affects children, followed by husband and wife.

Widowed nanny is also a kind of widowed marriage, and this phenomenon is mostly that the woman takes the baby to do housework to make money, and the man only makes money.

In a widowed marriage, children are no less hurt than single-parent families. With both parents here, there is only maternal love. Motherly love is gentle and kind, and fatherly love can help children grow socially. Children who lack love for a long time are prone to extreme personality and lack of security, which has a great influence on their marriage and career after adulthood.

Widowed nanny in widowed marriage will affect the emotional communication between husband and wife and easily lead to family breakdown. In a widowed marriage, the woman takes the baby to do housework to earn money, while the man is always in a state of neglect (regardless of children, wife and family). When the woman grows up, most marriages end in divorce.

Widowed marriage is not happy, but also harmful, so those who want to enter the marriage hall should take on family responsibilities, and all marriages can be happy.

Speaking of loving couples in the entertainment circle, who do you think of? Sun Li and Deng Chao, right? After marriage, two people worked hard together, both became popular first-line stars, and a pair of lovely children, which can be described as a double harvest of family and career.

What should I do if I cheat after I become popular? Should it be the article and Ma Yili? The article cheated on Yao Di when Ma Yili was pregnant. Although she later chose to return to her family and was forgiven, it was always a stain!

What about the low-key ones? That's Annabel Lee and Wang Lei, isn't it? Both of them are good at acting, but they never get their attention. Besides, Chloe Wang is the best actor.

There are also distressing marriages, namely He Jie and He. He Jie gave birth to two babies in three years, and has to work to earn money to take care of them! Why didn't constantly chauffeured understand? He also called the radio station to complain about He Jie's strength and sexual disharmony. He Jie was heartbroken with two children. This is a strong woman.

Later, when asked about getting married on a program, He Jie said that she would never get married again. She said that they are happy because they love each other, but when they finally break up, the state of life and death will be terrible. It is not difficult to see that the damage and blow to He Jie was enormous, which made her die for her marriage.

Compared with He Jie's marriage, many people think Hu is happy, right? With two lovely sons, Sha Yi's career has developed very well in the last two years, and Hook is virtuous and gentle. This kind of family seems to be harmonious, but in fact there is a hidden crisis.

Everyone has seen "Mom is Superman", and we all know that Hook in the program is very tired because she is filming "Happy Court Love". For the sake of her children, she rushed home before dawn, took a nine-hour bus to get home late at night, and had to do housework and take care of two children when she got home. Now Fish and Angie are having fun, too, so she has a hard time.

After marriage, Hook has been trying to reduce her work and take care of her children at home, but Sha Yi said that she didn't balance the relationship between work and family. Hook cried on the spot. She said she didn't work hard, but Sha Yi's attitude made her hard and sad.

In fact, Sha Yi's starting point is good, and she doesn't want to be so tired. It won't be so difficult for her to work less and stay at home with her husband and children. But Hook also has his own dreams and things he likes. How could he give up? Obviously I tried, but I couldn't understand. How can I blame her for not being sad?

Hook is a sensible, gentle, virtuous and understanding woman. She never stopped Sha Yi or complained. She is silently paying for this family! It's just that she's not a superman and can't cover everything!

Sha Yi once said in The Golden Star Show that he never did housework at home, and even if the oil bottle fell, he wouldn't get up. It can be seen that the housework is contracted by Hook. Where can I find such a good wife?

People say that men grow up late. I hope Sha Yi can care more about Hook and share more for her. After all, such a good wife should be cherished!

I saw a netizen say on the Internet before, "I hate the hardships of widowed marriage and bringing up a baby alone. Is it really necessary to spend a lifetime making up for this wrong decision? " I hate it when I know he's scum and get married and have children. I really want to drive myself crazy. I wanted a divorce, but he refused to give me the child. I have no money. I can't bear to be separated from the baby. Sometimes I really want to leave this world with my baby. "There is a deep despair between her lines, which makes people feel distressed. It is despair of widowed marriage and widowed children.

In fact, it is undeniable that a widowed baby is actually a continuation of a widowed marriage.

Today, I only talk about the dangers of widowed nannies. Widowed parenting, also known as widowhood, is a very popular word now. In fact, it mainly means that the father is seriously absent from raising the children, and the mother undertakes almost all the parenting work alone.

Someone once made a video of a mother's daily life with her baby alone. In the video, the mother has no time to rest at the end of the day. The baby who went to the toilet has been crying and begging for a hug. No choice but to open the door and hold the child on his lap to go to the toilet. If your wrist hurts, you can't help holding the baby; All kinds of marks left by holding the child. The child's nose, tears and eaten food can only be dirty, because there is no time to wash and change. Finally, when the child fell asleep and just wanted to eat, the child woke up again and could only take two bites and continue to coax the baby. The child was ill, but no one answered her husband's phone. When the child was taken to the hospital, she received a message from her husband: I will work overtime tonight and won't come back. I believe many mothers have been poked in tears. After all, real life may be worse than this. I still remember the feeling of getting up every few hours in the middle of the night to nurse. I was seriously short of sleep, and the people who slept by were still snoring.

As contemporary parents, we all know that for children, parents are indispensable objects in the process of children's growth, and they all have the responsibility and obligation to care for and cultivate children.

Widowed nanny is very harmful, and the most fundamental reason for widowed nanny is that dad's awareness of educating children is not in place, which can be said to be selfish.

First, widowed parenting will affect the relationship between husband and wife.

There is no doubt that the relationship between husband and wife should be ranked first. Couples not only need romance, but also need you at critical moments. Now, what should have been done by two people together is all on one person. When you need him to help you, he refuses to help you under various excuses. Even if I am busy at work, I will either stay at home and watch TV, play games and play mobile phones on weekends, on the grounds that I am too tired after a week's work. If the child is crying, you don't have to shout, or ask your friends to go out to play ball and drink, and take care of the child at home alone. You also have to clean the room, tidy up the house, wash clothes and buy food. Sometimes you can't even eat, and everyone will think that this man is dispensable. It is strange that this practice does not affect the relationship between husband and wife!

Second, widowed parenting will cause mental stress to the wife. In severe cases, it can also cause depression, and even kill mother and son because of depression.

It is conceivable that the mental stress caused by widowed parenting makes them exhausted by taking care of their children. They hardly have their own time, they have no time to relax, and they have to face the situation that their careers have stopped, their bodies are out of shape, they have hardly slept all night, and they are physically and mentally exhausted. The most terrible thing is that there will be a fake body with a baby. Obviously, they do nothing, and they have to jump out and accuse you from time to time. This is not done well, and that is not done well. Many mothers will have symptoms of depression in this situation, and some will even do some extreme things and give up their own lives and their children's lives. Some time ago, the popular Japanese drama "Home on the Slope" poked the hearts of countless mothers in the whirlpool of widowed parenting. And such tragedies happen constantly in reality.

Third, widowed parenting will lead to indifference between parents and children, and children's personality defects.

A child's lack of fatherly love in the process of growing up will make the relationship between the child and his father tense, which may not be so obvious when he was a child, but as the child grows up, he will be unwilling to listen to the words of his father who did not raise him as a child. He prefers the advice of people who are always with him to children. Therefore, the correct concept of parenting and appropriate companionship are very important for children to successfully pass adolescence. In addition, the lack of father's love will also cause children's timid, timid, insecure and unconfident personality to a certain extent. If it is not guided in time, it will affect the child's life.

In addition, a new study found that widowed parenting also affects the brain capacity of species. After analyzing 478 species of mammals, the researchers found that there was a significant positive correlation between the degree of fathers' participation in cooperative parenting and the brain volume of their offspring. As the leader of animal brain capacity, human beings can not do without stable parental rearing. Personally, it is very important for children's brain development to have a father involved in parenting. This is why fathers are more involved, and children are more emotionally stable and smarter.

The harm of widowed parenting may not stop there. We hope that fathers can care more about their wives, understand their difficulties, give them strong support, and at the same time strengthen their parenting concepts and participate more in the growth process of their children. After all, children are two people and need two people to work together!

Mom should not put all the burdens on herself, but learn to be lazy, slowly unload the burdens from herself, and let dad participate in the process of parenting, so that dad can gradually cultivate his pride and sense of responsibility in the process of participation. After all, my father didn't get pregnant and have children. Many fathers need to gradually adapt to their father's identity and gradually feel that it is not easy for their wives to be mothers. When the father is with the children, the mother should also bravely let go, take the opportunity to go out to relax, get together with her girlfriends, go shopping and beautify herself, so that she can learn how to relieve stress and not be too nervous.

I am a widowed marriage. My children are in junior high school, boy. I know there are many psychologists' analyses in the book. I'll just talk about my feelings.

1. From the perspective of the relationship between husband and wife, the widowed marriage makes the woman's heart colder and colder, and the family is no longer a warm harbor, but a place where there is nowhere to go and she has to go back. Raising children is not simply eating and wearing warm clothes, but health, personality and quality, as well as heavy studies, housework and work. All kinds of trivial and heavy things are borne by women themselves, and there will be a lot of resentment and grievances in their hearts, as well as disappointment, indifference and even divorce to their husbands!

2. From the perspective of parent-child relationship, as a father, ignoring children is, first of all, not fulfilling the guardian's obligation of supervision and protection. Secondly, the child will reject his father and not communicate with him, which is dispensable for him, thinking that he can't get his father's love, thus causing psychological problems. Moreover, mothers often take care of their children in every possible way and often overprotect them. As a father, we should teach our children what difficulties are, how to face them, what are the solutions, what are the reasons for failure, how to improve them, and be a responsible, responsible and brave person!

3. Tell me about my child's current state. My children are all in junior high school now, because I have more company and my rebellion is not obvious, but I can see many problems from my usual performance. For example, avoiding difficulties, too much homework, dragging and dragging if you don't want to write, and finally having to write, doing things hastily, and even failing to hand in your homework. For example, ignoring school discipline, deceiving superiors and deluding subordinates, leaving school for three consecutive days at noon without telling me, going home by myself, taking money to buy food outside, and taking a lunch break at home. The reason for giving it to the teacher is that I forgot to bring my book to class this afternoon. If the teacher hadn't called me, I would have gone to work every day and I couldn't find it. His idea is very simple. He doesn't want to take a lunch break at school, so he finds an excuse to go out for dinner and go home. He doesn't tell me if I don't agree. For example, he has no plan and position on his own affairs, no reasonable arrangement of holiday homework, that is, he has not finished his homework on time, and there is no review and preview plan. Even if I arranged it, he couldn't carry it out, and the activities that the school asked him to participate in were just an expression. It can be seen that as a mother, I usually do too many things, so my children have no opinions and single ideas, while my father, without company, is unable to face difficulties and failures. My child is a boy and will be a man when he grows up. Think about what qualities a man should have. Cultivate in this direction.

If possible, try to involve your father. If not, at least instill it in children. My father loves him very much, but he is too busy at work. The child is the child of husband and wife, and denying either party is a denial of the child. Since it cannot be improved, at least don't hurt it.

Finally, it is difficult to take care of children alone. Let's cheer together for the children!

I am Ali, the heart of an ordinary woman.

Widowhood means that both parents are alive, the child can't get father's love or mother's love, or the spouse never cares about the child. This situation is called widowhood.

The harm to the family is: 1. Affected the parent-child relationship. What I hear most now is that my father never leaves home from work, which means that his father loves him like a mountain, which makes the children unwilling to be close to his father. Because dad never takes children and doesn't care about taking care of them, children can't feel their father's love. In children's minds, they think that dad loves mobile phones. Lack of effective communication with children has a negative impact on children's physical and mental health, and it is easy for children to become addicted and dependent on mobile phones, seriously affecting their eyesight.

2. Affect the relationship between husband and wife. Mom had a busy day, and dad came home from work and wanted to take the children for a walk. Dad said no, and mom would never call together again. When my mother is tired with her children, I want my father to help me share it. Mom will be very sad if dad ignores me. When the father comes home every day and ignores the children, the mother is already very disappointed. More commonly, mothers can be like fathers. Let the father take care of the children when the mother is away. Father can only watch mobile phones, and mother will be angry. Two people will even quarrel because their father doesn't bring a baby. When the father puts the child in danger because of neglecting the child, it can directly lead to divorce. Because throughout the marriage, my mother thought my father was dispensable.

Widowed nannies make more and more people divorce, and also make more and more unmarried people lose confidence in marriage. That's why so many women say, "I'll make money, I'll take care of the children. What do you want men to do?"

In our country, in many families, men work hard to earn money to support their families, while women wear several hats from the moment they get married and have children. It seems that taking care of the family, taking care of the housework, taking care of the children and educating the children is entirely a mother's business. Therefore, there has been a widespread phenomenon of "widowhood with children", which has made countless mothers feel tired.

First of all, children are the first victims. Children are managed by one person for a long time, and their emotional personality will change unconsciously. A family is made up of parents and children, and the other party has long neglected to communicate with their children, which is easy to cause personality defects.

The second is to affect the relationship between husband and wife. People often say that the best love for children is that dad loves mom. The reason why the baby is widowed is because the emotional communication between husband and wife is definitely not in place, and some even quarrel often. Children's cold war treatment is easy to cause cowardice and inferiority. The relationship between husband and wife will also disappear without cooperation between the two sides.

In fact, when I get married, I have to take responsibility. The children belong to two people. Even if someone says I made money, I will care nothing. Is the responsibility in life just to earn money to go home? A good family environment needs two people * * * to manage well, * * * to understand and share tolerance and care with each other. I believe that smart people should know how to do it.

Speaking of widowhood, the most profound influence is the marriage relationship and the growth of children.

Widowed child-rearing, to put it bluntly, is that one spouse passes on the responsibility he needs to bear to the other. Although husband and wife are the same, they are more inclined to ensure their own interests.

Speaking of widowhood, many people's first reaction is the lack of fatherly love.

In family relations, the father bears the main source of income, so he needs to spend more energy outside the family. However, this cannot be used as a shield for fathers not to participate in family life. There are too many such fathers around. When they came back from work, they lay on the sofa and began to brush their mobile phones. Wait for my wife to cook, take a bite, and continue to lie down. My wife has to do housework, so she has to look after the children. If the child is very young, hold him in your arms and still stare at the screen; If the child is older, throw him an old mobile phone and let him watch cartoons or brush Tik Tok himself. I don't care what my wife is doing, as long as it doesn't affect his rest.

After a long time, the relationship between husband and wife is getting worse and worse, and there are fewer and fewer topics, let alone communication. Everything will be fine without quarreling. Besides, children, playing mobile phones at an early age, on the one hand, affect their eyesight, on the other hand, lack communication, enjoy fatherly love, and feel a pleasant family atmosphere, which seriously affects their mental health.

Of course, there are more and more examples of mothers absent from children's education. I still remember the news that Yang Mi only has 60 days with her children a year. I have to say that Yang Mi is excellent in her career, but in her family life, she didn't give her children the companionship they deserved.

For practical reasons, most parents can't accompany their children for a long time, and they can't accompany their children to grow up, leaving a lot of regrets. In fact, children don't want much, and their healthy growth can't be separated from their parents' care. Give children more care and let them thrive!

As the name implies, widowhood is a dispensable way in which only one of the husband and wife comes to take care of the baby, and the other one completely ignores it!

There are three main effects!

Influence on the relationship between husband and wife:

Taking care of the baby is not as relaxing as watching TV all day. He needs both husband and wife to encourage and comfort each other when the child is still young, because it is really too painful to take care of the child. He is on call 24 hours a day, day and night, and dare not rest. As long as the child has a little trouble, we should keep a close eye on it. It's definitely torture for a person. Although having children is happy, the process of taking care of them will make you collapse. Some people even suffer from depression ... the one with the baby suffers from mental and energy torture, and the other one doesn't care, so no one can stand it. The baby is shared by two people and needs two people to take care of it ... and the replacement of two people can also enhance feelings. If only one party takes care of the baby, and the other party looks like a single guy, it will definitely cause the dissatisfaction of the other party ... as time goes by. ...

Influence on children: A child's lack of love from the other side will make him unfamiliar with the other half and have no feelings since childhood, which will also have a great influence on the child's character.

Influence on the family: the influence on the family is the family atmosphere, the feelings of both husband and wife, and the feelings of children directly affect the family atmosphere and cannot be happy …