It is said that it is more difficult to hire a good nanny than to find a wife. What do you think is the difficulty?

I am 50 years old and single. Last year, I talked about my wife We are the same age. We stayed with him for a year and separated last month, mainly because his son and daughter-in-law didn't get along well with me. He blamed me.

Well, he has a house and lives with his son and daughter-in-law. He rented it out. I didn't go to work. He wouldn't let me go to work, so he asked me to do housework at home and take care of their family's diet. He also has parents who don't live together in their 80s, but he is the only son who has to take care of something.

He drives a taxi very hard, and his income is ok, but I am used to frugality at ordinary times, and his parents are in poor health. Maybe I will care about many things. Sometimes I feel that his son can't afford the living expenses and doesn't buy anything, so I will tell him that he doesn't care about anything, and he will say that it is right for the child to eat his father. I am very angry. I said that even if they get married, you still have parents to support, and you have to save some money for the future. His son's daughter-in-law didn't take a broom and didn't buy anything for the company. I said that if you go on like this, you won't have any money left in a month, so we often quarrel and his children argue with me. The more you talk, the less I care. Later, we didn't eat together and didn't talk much.

In this way, he said to let me take care of his grandson. I have a daughter. I said my daughter's children are counting on me. He said that if his daughter got married, she shouldn't care so much. You should focus on me. I thought he was looking for a nanny, not a wife, so I left and he didn't stay.

But he kept sending me messages to discuss these problems, and still thought I was wrong. Did I do the right thing Did he ask me that?

Talk about experts' suggestions on life;

When you are old and both parties have children, it is normal to find a wife. The premise is to inform in advance, agree with the best, disagree, and persuade slowly. Only in this way, after you really find your love, the contradiction between children and the elderly will be less.

Now I've lived together for a while, and I don't think it's appropriate to separate. You think he's looking for a nanny, not a wife. You should know this in your daily life. Whether a person loves you or not depends on action. Husband and wife love each other, while the nanny is relatively single, just taking care of life.

Now, after the separation, the other party has been sending messages to discuss some trivial matters of the two families for you to discuss, at least indicating that they still care about you and want to have it. You can let him stay with his son and daughter-in-law first, and then talk about whether he supports his marriage or not. If you really don't support it, I advise you to give up this relationship. After all, this is not between you two. Because when you are old, your son and daughter-in-law will not recognize your marriage, and they will often quarrel and be awkward. Even when we are together, we are very tired.

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