My father is very ill and needs an operation. My father-in-law sent 65438+ ten thousand life-saving money. Why did my father turn on the spot after he got sick?

My name is Li Sihai. Although I live in the countryside, my life is relatively rich, because my parents are big pig farmers in the village. After the policy comes down, the villagers dare not try it easily. Father decided to mortgage the house and build a pigsty with the bank loan. In fact, my parents have no experience in raising pigs at all, but the government specially arranged for technicians to live in our house for 1 month to teach their parents the experience of raising pigs. In this way, our pig farm opened.

At the age of 24, my parents didn't have a client to fix me up, and the threshold of my family was already broken by the matchmaker. In our family, many people are willing to marry this girl, and I have become a hot potato. Finally, my parents chose my husband's family in the next village for a long time. They belong to an ordinary rural family, with one son and two children, a son married and a wife lost. However, when I met her, his wife was very white and spoke softly. When talking about the bride price, his father was very rich and directly took 65,438+10,000 yuan (the highest bride price was only 80,000 at that time). On our wedding day, his father gave a banquet and set up nearly 60 tables. Basically, the whole village came. The scene was spectacular.

My wife and I have been married for less than two years. My brother was hit by a falling scaffold while working on the construction site and died on the spot. When my wife and I arrived, he had been taken to the morgue. Because he was injured at work, the contractor compensated 200 thousand. Although the money is a lot, it is of no help to his parents-in-law. More importantly, his brother has only one daughter and no son, so his wife's family will break up. My parents-in-law suddenly became very lonely. During that time, my wife and I lived with my parents-in-law for fear that the two old people could not bear the pressure and had an accident.

1 year passed, and my father came up with this idea from nowhere and insisted on doubling the pig farm. Despite my mother's advice, he took out all his savings to expand, but he caught up with swine flu that year, and the price of pigs fell slowly, almost losing money. As a result, the expansion stall was flat and my father's funds dried up. Father has high blood pressure, sighing all day and all night, and has a bad rest. My father suddenly fainted. Fortunately, he was sent to the hospital in time, but he still needed surgery. Our patchwork is still short of 65.438 billion yuan. Originally, my wife wanted to borrow it from her parents-in-law, but I knew that this money was the only thought my uncle left her parents-in-law, so I didn't let my wife pick it up. Seeing that the operation date is coming, the money is still confiscated. My father-in-law has a black bag in his hand. He said to me: "Haizi, this is 65,438+10,000 left by your brother. I didn't want to take it. My father-in-law said, "Don't think so much. Even if your brother is still alive, he will agree. "In this way, my father finished the operation and recovered well.

After my father was discharged from the hospital, my parents-in-law came to visit me. When the family was chatting, my father-in-law solemnly said to his father, "My father-in-law, I have a small wish. I hope you can agree. After her brother died and our family split up, if there is no successor in our family, even after a hundred years, I will be ashamed to see my ancestors. So I wonder if I can let Haizi have more sons with them, and then let one of them take my surname. After listening to my father-in-law, I think what he said is very reasonable, but unexpectedly, my father firmly opposed it. He said that in this way, I became a son-in-law and made him feel ashamed. Everyone said, dad, is this right?

Comments: First of all, from a legal point of view, there is no stipulation on which surname a child must take. When a child comes of age, he can decide his family name. However, China people are deeply influenced by the idea of son preference, so generally speaking, it is reasonable to take the man's surname from the moral point of view. Moreover, when my father is seriously ill, my parents-in-law will help in time, so regardless of feelings, my father-in-law's request is not too much.