When I went to my in-laws' home for dinner, my father-in-law scolded her repeatedly after her mother-in-law broke a bowl. How can I help her?

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In modern families, husband and wife are equal, and there is no one who is superior to others. Men have to work to earn money, and women also have to work to earn money. Couples should work together to run a family.

But among the older generation of couples, some families are still a little patriarchal. The reason for this is that they are still relatively feudal in their bones, men are male chauvinistic, and women are used to this marriage mode, so they submit to humiliation in marriage.

So it is better for two generations to live separately, otherwise there will be conflicts in many places. The old people don't like the young people, and the young people don't like the old people, so contradictions continue to arise.

in a family, if the father-in-law is male chauvinistic and always bullies the mother-in-law, what should the son and daughter-in-law do? Let's listen to Miss Ji's family and see how she does it.

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Miss Ji and her husband are college classmates. They talked in college for two years, then talked for three years after graduation, and then got married. In-laws originally wanted their sons and daughters-in-law to live with them, and they had only one son. However, Miss Ji is worried about the contradiction between living with her in-laws and insists on living alone.

So when I got married, I got a loan to buy a wedding room, the down payment was paid by my in-laws, and the monthly mortgage was paid by Miss Ji and her husband. Because I don't live with my in-laws, there is no contradiction between Miss Ji and her in-laws, and they are always polite when they meet.

Before getting married, Miss Ji seldom went to her in-laws' house, and she was not familiar with her in-laws' marriage mode. It was not until after marriage that Miss Ji discovered that her in-laws were self-respecting and inferior to women, and that her father-in-law was particularly male-chauvinistic, always on top and bossing her mother-in-law around at every turn.

Mother-in-law is a good-natured woman. Generally, she never quarrels with her father-in-law. She always does what he says. But my father-in-law is too overbearing and sometimes unreasonable, and my mother-in-law will be wronged to tears.

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When Miss Ji mentioned her in-laws to her husband, he was also very helpless. He said that his parents had always been like this and he was used to it. Miss Ji said that if her husband is like her father-in-law, she will never be like her mother-in-law. Why does her father-in-law always oppress her mother-in-law?

One weekend, Miss Ji and her husband went to their in-laws' home. It was already lunch time. Mother-in-law had already prepared lunch, and when she saw her son and daughter-in-law, she was so happy that she immediately went to fill the rice. The result may be too excited, accidentally, the bowl in my hand fell to the ground and broke.

Originally, it was nothing to break a bowl, but my father-in-law scolded my mother-in-law and said that she couldn't do anything well, and she had to break the bowl even after serving a meal. Mother-in-law, like a child who has done something wrong, silently cleans up the debris without saying a word.

Miss Ji and her husband keep beating around the bush, but my father-in-law still keeps scolding her mother-in-law. Miss Ji gets angrier and angrier as she listens, but her father-in-law is an elder. Besides, her daughter-in-law had better stay out of it, so she didn't say anything.

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After lunch, Miss Ji told her husband privately that her father-in-law could not do this to her mother-in-law. She asked her husband to talk about her father-in-law and help her mother-in-law improve her family status. Her mother-in-law has no credit and hard work in this family. But my husband said that he had said it before, and it was useless. On the contrary, it made my father-in-law more fierce to her mother-in-law.

At dinner, my father-in-law was still talking about breaking the bowl. Miss Ji couldn't bear it any longer. She said very seriously, "Dad, what do you want to do endlessly?" Mom is also the master in this family. What makes you do this to her? If you do this again, we'll take mom away and you can live alone! "

My in-laws were stunned. No one expected her daughter-in-law to speak, and my father-in-law finally stopped criticizing her mother-in-law. Later, after dinner, my mother-in-law cried quietly when she was washing dishes in the kitchen alone.

Miss Ji asked her mother-in-law, what happened? My mother-in-law wiped her tears and said, "Thank you, son! I didn't expect you to support me. The old man has oppressed me all my life, and now when I am old, I finally have someone to protect me. I am very touched! "

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After this incident, Miss Ji will stop her father-in-law whenever she sees that her father-in-law is disrespectful to her mother-in-law, and her husband is on Miss Ji's side, so gradually her father-in-law will not dare to disrespect her mother-in-law. My mother-in-law is very grateful to Miss Ji, so the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law has always been very good.

Some men are male chauvinist, they don't take their wives seriously, and they will lose their temper at their wives for trivial things. This kind of man is selfish at heart. He only has himself in his eyes and doesn't treat his wife as a person at all.

A woman must defend her family status, and can't just submit to it. The more you tolerate some men, the more they push their luck. Home is the same as husband and wife, and both of them are contributing to the family, but the division of labor is different, and no one can be higher than anyone else.

A family should be harmonious and united, every family member should work hard, and families should understand and be considerate of each other. For some unreasonable things, we should stand up bravely and try to change the status quo so that everyone can have their own place at home and feel happiness and warmth.