Refuse to say anything, accumulate some virtue.

People who don't have the depth of thought will brush the sense of existence everywhere; People with inner cultivation know the power of silence and freedom.

Sun Tzu said, "words that hurt people are as evil as swords." Nonsense hurts people like a knife, not only hurting people, but also hurting themselves.

Keeping your mouth shut is not only a kind of advanced wisdom, but also a top quality.

1. A wise man does not argue.

Read a short story:

There are three people arguing about "what is the greatest advantage of being an emperor".

The dung collector said, "I can keep the dung in the world for myself."

The woodcutter said, "I can order a golden axe to burn all the firewood."

The beggar said, "It is a great enjoyment to sit around the fire and bake sweet potatoes every day!"

Three people hold their own opinions, and no one can convince anyone.

Their backgrounds and experiences are different, and their cognition naturally cannot be integrated.

The so-called "no common goal, no common goal", in the face of people with different cognitive levels, blindly arguing will only consume energy and waste time.

Silence in time, laugh it off, and you win.

There is a saying in Tao Te Ching: "Heaven wins without contention."

Inconsistency is a kind of wisdom to preserve oneself, and it is also a way to win by defending.

A really smart person never speaks too fast, nor does he consume himself on trivial matters.

Quietly and uncontroversially, calmly and calmly move towards your goals.

2. Benevolent people are irresponsible

There is an old saying: only the width can accommodate people, and only the thickness can carry things.

People who are truly virtuous know that the most important thing in dealing with others is tolerance, and forgiving others is to fulfill themselves.

It is a kind of accomplishment not to blame when something happens. If you do it well, you will be invincible. If you don't do well, everyone will alienate and even find trouble.

I saw a story the other day.

A young man from other places traveled to Beijing. On the bus, he asked the conductor, "At which station should I get off for the Temple of Heaven?"

The conductor not only didn't answer, but also accused him: "Don't you have a map in your hand?" Don't go out if you don't know how to find your own way. "

The uncle next to him shook his head and said, "Nowadays, no one is educated."

A young girl replied unhappily, "An old man like you is kind on the surface, but in fact he is full of bad water."

Another aunt couldn't listen any longer, and shouted at the girl, "Look at what you are wearing, like a chicken. You shouldn't be disciplined by your parents. "

The young man said angrily, "If I had known that Beijingers are assholes, I might as well not come."

So, someone caught him and began a scuffle in the car.

Finally, the young man was sent to the public security bureau to record a confession, and the conductor was also punished by the unit.

The conductor scolded, which eventually led to a mess of people on the bus and punished himself.

There is a saying in "Augmented Xianwen": "A good word warms three winters, and a bad word hurts June."

Complaining will only make things worse.

Only by knowing how to introspect, be tolerant and considerate of others, will the road of life get smoother and smoother.

3. Good people don't judge

Luo Xiang said:

"Never judge others easily, because our cognitive ability is limited." Psychology has a famous halo effect:

People's cognitive judgment of others often starts from the local and obtains the overall impression in an extreme way.

Looking at people and things around you with an inherent impression will inevitably lead to a point-to-point and less objective evaluation and judgment, which will naturally lead to one-sided mistakes.

Therefore, what you see is not necessarily the truth, and what you know is not necessarily the truth.

Many times, we can't see the truth in different situations, let alone practice, so we can't feel the same.

If we catch a phenomenon we see at random and make irresponsible remarks, we may win a lot of money and cause irreparable harm.

What we have to do, just like the old saying goes, is not complaining about everything.

Knowing people without judging them, and ruling without discussing them, is not only respecting others, but also being kind to yourself.

Shelley said, "The water is noisy and the deep water is silent."

People who don't have the depth of thought will brush the sense of existence everywhere; Anyone with inner cultivation knows that silence has its own power.

In the face of gossip, do not argue, free and easy;

In the face of trivial matters, let bygones be bygones and get along well forever;

Face the merits, don't comment, be generous.

Life is full of troubles. Only by keeping quiet can we return to calm and feel at ease.

Light up the watch, and for the rest of my life, I wish you and I can cultivate our inner self, be calm, and smile peacefully, regardless of how many flowers bloom.