Why are some people friendly and withdrawn?

Not withdrawn, but selective socialization.

When you think others are lonely, it doesn't mean they don't have their own social circle.

Or maybe you just haven't entered his social circle yet.

As we grow older, we experience more and more things, and we gradually know who is worth spending time with and who is just a casual acquaintance.

The premise of all communication depends on whether the people around you are interested in you.

I was deeply touched when I saw a sentence "Be gentle with some people, and the rest depends on the mood".

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Being alone is to leave more time for yourself.

After being in contact with people for a long time, we will feel tired more or less.

After all, everyone is different, and the pace of our progress is different.

Whether you are at work or at school, will you encounter this situation:

"Who wants to eat?"

"I, wait for me for five minutes."

Twenty minutes passed. "All right, let's go."

In fact, I'm already so hungry ... maybe once or twice, we can all accept it, but how many times have I met this situation?

At school, I still remember a sentence from my physics teacher today.

"I don't know how much I can do if I spend all my time waiting for someone."

When I was a child, I felt that the teacher was so indifferent. Now, in retrospect, it's just because each of us has a different pace.

We always need enough alone time to calm down the fatigue after interacting with people and recover the energy consumed after interacting with people.

Or use this time to do what you want to do and decide whether you need to reserve more time for yourself at your own pace.

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Friendly people are also introverts.

Such a person can be friendly, because of the influence of educational environment and family, he is not a rude person, and he can't be indifferent to others with a good habit trend.

But he is an introvert. I prefer to be alone, not to get along with others, and not to socialize.

Because for introverts, longing for solitude is not only a preference, but also affects health and mood.

Introverts consume a lot of energy because of social pressure and communication, so they need time to recover alone.

Long-term depression will make negative emotions accumulate, which will lead to greater reactions.

Finally, I want to say that social happiness comes from quality, not quantity, but from depth, not the frequency of communication.

I am not alone, but pay more attention to the quality of my friends.