If you show weakness in front of your son, there will be unexpected surprises.

If you make your child feel strong, then he will really develop in this direction.

Don't underestimate the plasticity of children.

I watched the video some time ago and was powdered by my clever mother.

At night, when my mother was getting ready for bed, she suddenly saw a cockroach crawling out of the ground. She hurried to her son for help.

I saw that her son, who was less than three years old, heard his mother's cry for help. Before he could put down the bottle, he took a small slipper and hurried forward to rescue him.

In the end, my son bravely helped his mother solve the problem with slippers and became a "little hero" at home.

The mother seems to be "timid" in front of her son, but in fact she is very wise.

I have heard such a sentence:

"Mother's weakness is a concession, which can inspire boys' confidence and courage, make them independent quickly and learn to take responsibility. "

They all say that "mothers are very strong", but in front of their sons, mothers don't need to be "too strong".

A mother's proper weakness is the best gift for a boy.

Mother's weakness is an opportunity to create a stronger boy.

I saw such a story in Tik Tok and was deeply moved.

Mother took a five-year-old boy to climb the mountain. Facing the steep steps, the boy was too scared to move.

No matter how his mother encouraged him, the boy kept clamouring for a hug.

So, she adjusted her strategy, pretended to accept the suggestion and said to her son, "Mom is afraid of falling, can the baby take me away?"

Unexpectedly, my son, who was still afraid at the last second, looked at his "fragile" mother and agreed to this request, holding her hand as if he were a different person.

Because he was afraid that his mother would fall, he walked very carefully and bravely said to his mother, "Mom, don't be afraid, I'm coming. I am a boy. "

Every boy has a heroic dream in his heart. Mother's weakness is the most irresistible tenderness for boys.

When a boy feels his mother's needs, his inner courage and strength will be awakened and become stronger.

An educator once said, "The weaker the mother, the braver the son."

The book "Raising Boys" says:

"Every boy has a man in his heart! All you have to do is help him become the person in his heart. "

In the growth stage of boys, 6- 13 years old is the period when he tries to be a man, and their desire to be a man is stronger.

At this time, the mother can show the weak side to the child in time, so that the child can become strong when needed; Learn to grow up in independent thinking.

This seemingly "fragile" gentleness is the driving force for boys to put on armor and grow up quickly.

I remember reading an article in which my mother complained about her children. She takes care of them every day, big or small.

But just because I forgot to buy toys for my son after working overtime, my son flew into a rage and didn't understand his mother's hard work at all.

In the message, she asked painfully: "Why did she pay so much, but the child didn't appreciate it at all?"

In the comments, there was a heartbreaking answer: "You are so strong, and you deserve to be tired."

Sometimes, it's not that children don't miss their parents, but that children grow up and parents don't give them a chance to learn to be independent.

When the mother is very devoted to the child, she doesn't need the child to do anything. Over time, the child will feel that her mother is strong and strong enough not to feel distressed;

When the mother is omnipotent like superman, the child will put his wings under the umbrella, not only unable to take care of himself, but also unable to sympathize with his parents.

The book how to make children grow up points out:

"The way parents help their children is not to do everything forever, but to let them find ways to solve their own problems."

In a variety show, the host Venus once shared her "parenting tips".

She was really tired when she came back from a business trip, but she had to bite the bullet and get up in order to take care of her son.

Seeing that his mother was in poor health, his son asked her with concern if she was ill.

She has an idea in her heart, thinking about whether to take this opportunity to see if the child can handle it independently.

So she said weakly, "Mom is really uncomfortable today and can't take you to school."

Unexpectedly, the usually furry son quickly poured his mother a glass of water. He cooks breakfast like his mother. He didn't forget to tell his mother not to forget to eat. Then he tidied up the test paper, put away his schoolbag and took the school bus to school.

The warm and independent image of her son deeply touched her.

Since then, she often "pretends to be weak", but her son has become more and more capable. The most important thing is that she loves her mother more and more.

A "perfect" mother cannot raise a grateful child.

If the mother does everything and is too strong during the child's growth, it will inevitably weaken the child's sense of responsibility and take the mother's contribution for granted.

Learning to "recognize cowardice" means choosing to uncover your powerful disguise and awaken the purest love and gratitude in your child's heart.

On the scale of children's growth, when the mother lightens the burden on her side, the child can truly see the mother's efforts and finally learn to feed back.

For example, when a mother comes home from work, she finds her child tired all day, which is particularly noisy.

Normal mothers will yell and yell, and after scolding their children, they will be more depressed.

The correct three-step method should be to learn to "act like a baby" in communication;

1 state objective facts. "Oh, son, your voice is a little loud."

2 talk about personal feelings. "Mom worked all day today, so tired."

3 express specific needs. "Can you keep your voice down and pour your mother a glass of water so that she can have a rest?"

At the same time, after the child helps, express praise and affirmation to the child in time. Positive encouragement will make children more active.

If a mother wants to cultivate considerate, warm and considerate children, she must learn to express her weaknesses in life skillfully.

Children are more aware of "bowing their heads" in their studies.

When the mother consciously bows her head and admits her son's learning process, he will find confidence in the process of being admitted, so as to learn more consciously and actively.

"Let go" in decision-making makes children more independent.

I have a female friend. Although energetic and energetic at work, she persuaded her son.

Seeing the way she gets along with her son, the big and small things at home, from what she eats in a day to her travel plan, she always asks her son for help:

"Son, can you help mom see what to eat at the weekend?"

"Son, you can choose for your mother. Which picture is more suitable for home?"

"Son, help mom think, what do you need to prepare for this trip?"

In private, I jokingly asked her, "How did you become zero IQ in front of your son?"

The friend said meaningfully, "When you get along with your son, sometimes you have to learn to show weakness. The weaker you are, the more you can cultivate his ability of independent judgment. This is the art of motherhood. "

Indeed, under her long-term deliberate cultivation, her son's evaluation is obviously higher than that of his peers, and sometimes his thinking is more comprehensive than that of adults, which makes many friends praise him.

"Parents should learn to show weakness and often throw questions to their children for discussion. Children will try their best to help their parents solve problems together. In this process, he will become more and more mature. " In the process of growing up, boys will always encounter all kinds of difficulties and face all kinds of choices;

What the mother should do is not to intervene forcibly to help him solve the problem, but to learn to "let go" and create more opportunities for the child to find a solution by himself, thus cultivating an independent person.