Don't visit some relatives after retirement. Is this for your own dignity?

Don't visit some relatives after retirement. Is this for your own dignity? 0 1: If you want to show off to me, everyone will be vain to some extent. The difference is that some people's vanity comes from self-realization, and some people's vanity comes from blindly comparing with others. In reality, few people can do the former, and more importantly, the latter. Before retirement, because of work and social interaction, there are inevitably various blind comparisons in interpersonal relationships. When people are in it, they usually feel physically and mentally exhausted and work hard until they retire. I thought I was out of this circle of blind comparison, but I didn't know that blind comparison was everywhere.

Psychological research shows that most people who show off their mental state have strong vanity and are extremely eager to prove their level and value. They usually lack self-confidence and have a strong sense of inferiority. Even if others look down on him, deep down, they think you look down on him. Once such people have made some achievements, they will be complacent. Such people invite you to dinner not to share their exam results with you, but to show off.

The difference between showing off and sharing is that the purpose of sharing is to convey, and showing off is to destroy and hit you. If before retirement, the other person is very different from you, and the other person is a person with a heavy sense of inferiority and a narrow mind, then after retirement, you should avoid such people. Whether you helped him in the past or not, in his eyes, he only saw his own difficulties and dilemmas. Now that he has exam results, he actually sees his own spring breeze. Inviting you to dinner is not for * * * enjoyment, but for showing off, lacking the most basic empathy and not knowing how to respect others. Maybe you will find that the other party has made achievements and invite you to dinner specially. You are a grateful person, but you are also good at meeting each other because you are in a daze after retirement, thinking that you can contact your feelings and pull some interpersonal relationships for your children.

However, being invited rashly will only make you lose your dignity. The effect of the other party's showing off is to make you feel ashamed and feel inferior to him. Whether you really get what the other person wants or not, if you get what he wants, then you are adding trouble to yourself; If it's not what he wants, then you will feel unhappy after eating her meal. Although everyone has the right to show off, there is nothing wrong with showing off, but after retirement, people should think more about themselves and don't have to be hard on themselves to satisfy others.

Some people say that good friends are for mutual use, and friends and relatives should share weal and woe, otherwise there will be no contact between people. There is no doubt about the mutual assistance between people, but it should also be based on family ties. If a person invites you to dinner, it means that for that person, your relationship is just a simple interest dispute. If you don't want to invite you to dinner, you won't be invited to dinner, in other words.

In the other person's mind, inviting you to dinner is based on your own value. Before I retired, this reason for inviting me to dinner was actually very common, and I didn't need to take it to heart. After all, I still have the level of strong support, and I want to leave room for myself when I need help from others in the future. But when a person wants something from you, he will only invite you to dinner. Then you should think twice before eating such a meal, especially after retirement.

Most of these people don't regard you as a true friend. If you are friends and relatives, they just regard you as a special tool for their own interests. They naturally don't think of you when they are ready to help others, and they can be so generous when they need your help. Most of these people are mercenary and ungrateful.

As the saying goes, eating people has a short mouth. If you eat his food and can't help him, he will be angry and respectful to those who will never be friendly again, but it's all slander and slander. After retirement, people should cherish their reputation. If it's for this kind of dinner for friends and relatives, it's inevitable that people will tell you what to do in your later years.