How to listen to others

1. To understand your own habits of listening to others

First of all, you must understand what good habits you have when listening to others, what bad habits you have, and whether you are harmful to others. Do you make hasty judgments when speaking, do you often interrupt others, do you often create obstacles in communication, etc. Knowing whether your listening habits are correct is a prerequisite for using listening skills.

2. Don’t listen to others indifferently

Remember that both parties in a relationship are indispensable, there are speakers and listeners, and everyone should take turns playing the role of listener. the role of the author. As a listener, no matter what the situation, if you don't understand what the other person means, you should use various methods to make him know this. Here, you can ask him questions, or actively express what you heard, or let the other party correct your mishearing. If you don’t say a word or show no expression at all, who can know whether you understand what the other person is saying?

3. Pay attention to your posture when listening to others

Always face your face when speaking. If necessary, maintain eye contact with the person and show with your posture and gestures that you are listening. Whether you are standing or sitting, keep the distance that is best for both of you. Remember, speakers prefer to associate with people who listen carefully and have a lively demeanor rather than with "stupid people."

4. Focus on what the other person is saying

Since everyone does not have a long time to concentrate, you must consciously focus on what you are saying and listen. Try to minimize environmental distractions and avoid distraction. An active listening posture helps you focus on what the other person is saying.

5. Try to understand the words and emotions in other people's words

In other words, you must not only understand the information conveyed by the other party, but also "hear" the emotions expressed by the other party. Suppose one staff member says, "I'm done with these letters," and another staff member says, "Thank God, I'm finally done with these damn letters!" Despite the messages these two staff members are sending, The content is the same, but the latter differs from the former in that he also expresses emotion. Therefore, you must not only listen to the content of the other party's speech, but also understand the emotions expressed in the other party's words. In this way, you have already taken the initiative in the conversation before you speak.