I hope to meet you in the future and spend the rest of my life with you.

Xu Zhimo, a bohemian and talented man, once wrote: "I will look for my only soul mate in the vast sea of people." I am lucky to get it; No, my life, that's it. "

In the vast sea of people, who did you meet and who was your only soul mate?

Twenty years old, not ten years, not five years, and not so many encounters.

In my twenties, what I hear most is that you need someone to take care of you and get married in this family.

When I was in my twenties, before I grew up and thought about life, someone told me: You are not young. Girls should get married early, choose a good partner early, have a car, a house and a career, and once they are over 24, they will be old women, waiting for others to pick you.

In my twenties, the "urging marriage" of seven aunts and eight aunts around me made me confused and suspicious about life!

Don't, in my twenties, I will get married because of marriage, and I will settle for it because of marriage?

Don't, girls in their twenties should get married early, husband and wife, and get a hall in the kitchen?

Don't, haven't married in their twenties should abandon the old?

Can't you be alone in your twenties before you meet the right person?

However, in my twenties, I am willing to find my only soul mate in the vast sea of people, and I will not be afraid that I have not met in my twenties.

However, in my twenties, I prefer to meet people who are congenial, tolerant and embrace each other in the vast sea of people.

However, in my twenties, I really want to meet you again in the future, and then spend the rest of my life with you, laughing and crying together, and saying, "Here you are, long time no see, please take care of me in the future."

One year when I was in high school, my mother said, "Are there any boys in the class who are kind to you?" If you bring them back, I'll help you clear customs. "

One year when I was in college, my mother said, "Did you meet Gao Fushuai? Remember to bring it back for me to see how it looks. "

After graduation one year, my mother said, "When will you find a boyfriend?" ! Without me, I will introduce you to others, so don't say no to me. "

After working for a certain number of years, I basically don't spend it at home. I go out to eat with my friends on weekends. My mother said, "You don't eat at home every day, and you don't eat at home on weekends. It doesn't matter whether you go out with boys or girls. Forget it with girls. "

Later, when she was in her twenties, my mother wanted to fix up her friend's son with me, because both parents were very familiar, and my mother wanted to form a in-law with her friend, and that man was just what my mother wanted.

So, when I was in my twenties, under the principle of my mother's bitter eyes and persuasive life-girls might as well find a good man to remarry, so we met!

In my twenties, I have given up hope, thinking that I am still alone anyway. If I am not mistaken, I will be everywhere. If I didn't, I would forget. I will look for my mother and come back to my home without delay. I will never miss your life.

When we met, I asked him directly what he needed to know, and I told him everything. So, we chatted.

Finally, under the pressure of "for your own good", the smile was gradually replaced by sadness. I couldn't help turning him down. I explained to him: I am not a so-called good wife and mother, nor am I a steady person. I don't want to get married so soon; Most importantly, you can't live a lifetime without three views.

When I thought this was just between us, and we worked it out ourselves, an elder told me:

There are many girls who are more beautiful and taller than you. He has a good character, a good family, money and power, and is good to you. Your parents are old friends. If you get married, you won't worry about food and drink, and his parents will help you take care of the children. You don't have a boyfriend, why don't you listen to our arrangement?

My thoughts are drifting away, and my sadness is still there. I feel sad in my heart. I don't know what I'm sad about. What do you want to ask? Where to talk about how to deal with it? It was no accident. There are many people involved, but since it is a bright desert, whatever, forget it! Water under the bridge.

Later, I thought that he appeared when I was most confused, which made me even more confused. I don't know where to go. Without a goal and a plan, it is like walking in the fog, unable to find a way out, and in a panic.

I am afraid that those sweet words of "for your own good" will turn into a sword, so that you don't know what love is, and then you will rush to complete an important task in life-marriage; I am afraid that I will succeed, and the people around me will become nightmares from now on; I'm afraid I'll have to take care of my husband and educate my children from now on. I have no financial ability, but the source of income can only come from my husband. I am afraid that I will rely on my nature. What if it is lost one day? I am more afraid that I don't love him, but I have to bite the bullet and cater to him!

Perhaps, even if I am not a lover, I will never miss you all my life. If I meet the wrong person at the right time, I will not delay, owe or delay. Meeting the right person at the wrong time will delay him for life.

So, I want to see you later and spend the rest of my life with you.

Perhaps, all parents are the same. They are heartbroken and want their children to have a stable job. It is best for state-owned enterprises to have a job with a pension when they are old; Then it is to complete a major task in life, get married and have children, and carry on the family line.

Whether you are happy or not, whether you marry the person you like or not, as long as you are old, have a pension, carry on the family line, and someone wants you, it is good that you have completed these tasks.

You can have no career, but you can't get married! Under this concept, how many people in their twenties began to live the same life, have the same relatives, find the same people, and then live the same life all their lives.

Every night, my friend likes to talk to me about her feelings. She said that she was afraid that no one would want her, because everyone around her was married and the children were playing soy sauce, but she was still alone.

I asked her: Then why do you never go on blind dates when others arrange blind dates for you?

My friend faltered for a long time and said, "I haven't found the person I love yet."

Later, my friend told me that she knew a girl who was excellent and beautiful. She had an appointment, but her parents didn't agree. The girl was forced to break up and marry someone her parents thought was good.

However, life is often not as smooth as you think. Later, the girl couldn't stand being rejected by all kinds of bad things after marriage, and lived in depression every day, so the girl chose to divorce and left alone to work hard outside.

After many years in a foreign land, the girl met a boy, and the boy was very kind to her, and it was natural that he had strong feelings. Sure enough, they got married and lived happily.

The girl said a word to my friend: Even if it's late, wait to find it.

I think of a brother who has been in love with his girlfriend for many years, but he can't get the support of his parents. So the scene of playing Yuanyang appeared on my brother, and he was forced to break up with his girlfriend who had been in love for many years.

On the second day of this breakup, my brother got married under the arrangement of his parents, and less than a month later, my brother got married. It's just that my brother's eyes are no longer the light of the past, but empty, without a trace of joy as a groom.

After getting married, my brother once told his parents with a straight face: After getting married, do you want to have children next? We'll have as many as you want.

Suddenly, I felt unworthy of my little sister-in-law who married my brother on a blind date, and felt sorry for my brother who was forced to give up. Life is long, and two people are just wasting their time, without a trace of warmth, without a warm love, and there are only bursts of indifference and abandonment.

But there are many such stories. Some people get married and slowly fall in love with each other. Some people's marriages are maintained by family ties; Some people have blind dates today, get hired tomorrow and get married a month later. Some people are married and divorced.

I once imagined what it would be like for me. I don't think the person I sleep with is my favorite. I'm afraid dreaming will be a nightmare.

I think even if we know each other, we need a buffer period. Two people will slowly run in and let time witness. If we were the same kind of people, we would hit it off. Three views disagree, be friends or strangers.

When I am tired, I can't help but shout, forget it, go to a big money. My mother can't help but vomit: I have it all, why don't you!

Forget it, forget it, just talk, just talk. No matter how tired I am, I want to have the ability to make myself stronger. Even if you are not a queen, you should be able to make yourself a princess. You don't have to worry about what you will do if you lose someone one day.

Perhaps, there are many rumors outside that girls should attach themselves to their future husbands, put family first, be husbands and children, and enter the kitchen and hall, but this kind of life is not what I want. I still have many things to do and places to go.

Therefore, no matter how much you say, you should not get married just because you get married, let alone casually. Even if I am alone, I must live beautifully and happily, because I am also very good alone. Even two people should have their own careers, hobbies and ideas.

Liang Sicheng once asked Lin: There is a saying that I only ask once, and I won't ask it again. Why me?

Lin replied: The answer is very long. I have to answer you all my life. Are you ready to listen to me?

Once, Lin and Xu Zhimo had a romantic relationship in Cambridge, but Xu Zhimo was married at that time. Even if she loved Lin again, she turned and left Cambridge without hesitation.

Meeting the wrong person at the right time, even if you love again, is a miss, so Lin, who turned away from this wrong love, met him in his life-Liang Sicheng.

The phrase "why me" and "all my life" made Liang Sicheng willing to meet Lin in the future and Lin willing to be Liang Sicheng all his life.

So, Lin got the emotion she wanted, a true love, the warmth of walking hand in hand, and told others that she was the only one, not a romantic who was hiding and insecure.

Even if she loves again, Lin still chooses to leave the dusty love Cambridge and put a seal on it. The person identified in this life is Liang Sicheng. For him, he changed from a fairy to a mortal. For him, washing hands to make bride soup is a life of daily necessities. We will complete the great cause of architecture with him and grow old together with him.

Suddenly remind of Zhao Yonghua's "the most romantic thing":

The most romantic thing I can think of.

Is to grow old with you

Collect bits and pieces of laughter along the way.

Save it for later use. Sit in a rocking chair and chat slowly.

Life is slow and long. It's better to meet you later than to make do with it. The rest of my life is you, and then you are in my plan and I am in your plan. Let's grow old together and do the most romantic things.

Hey, Mr right, before me and before you, I want to know myself first, know myself better and do what I like.