Love inspirational articles

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Luo Keer broke up, and we cheered because she no longer had to complain to us.

Luo Keer and her ex-boyfriend have been in love for three years, and they have been complaining to us for three years. The main idea is, why is it so difficult to talk to him?

It is really difficult for Luo Keer to chat with her ex-boyfriend. Sometimes Luo Ke'er is bored at work and calls her ex-boyfriend to chat. Her father asks angrily, "Honey, what are you doing?" In exchange for her ex-boyfriend's cold words, you sign up for a course when you have nothing to do. Dark clouds suddenly filled her, and she was no longer in a good mood.

Luo Keer said, dear, can you help me see which of these two clothes looks better?

Her ex-boyfriend said, I am busy making your own choice.

Luo Keer said, so and so in our company, what happened today.

My ex-boyfriend said, be yourself and don’t meddle in other people’s affairs.

Lying on the bed, Luo Keer said, dear, let’s chat.

The ex-boyfriend said, why are we talking so late at night?

They quarreled over this, and Luo Keer said, will you die if you chat with me? The ex-boyfriend said, it’s okay. What are you talking about? She was speechless. In his opinion, everything about her was no big deal and not worth talking about.

Two people who can't even exchange a few words must be separated by a river. Maybe they can walk together, but no matter how much they love, they are looking at each other on the other side. There is no way to walk side by side in the same direction.

She doesn't care about politics or talking about football games that she doesn't understand. There are not many big things in life. What we are looking for is someone who is willing to respond to us about these small things.

Many people don’t understand how important it is to be able to reply, and even think that the other person is being too pretentious.

Usually there is always a situation like this. When the other person has a fire burning in his heart and rushes to you in a hurry, you suddenly give him a basin of cold water in return, leaving his body and heart cold.

And I think being able to respond is more important than being able to chat. Chatting can express one’s own feelings, while responding is more about understanding the other person’s feelings. This is not only an emotional need, but also a physiological need. need.

I heard that the most cruel torture method of the CIA is not physical torture, but being locked in a small dark room with nothing. No matter how good the prisoner is, he will surrender after only a few days.

After the second stop, many Jews who came out of the concentration camps chose to commit suicide. The hardships in the concentration camp did not knock them down, nor did they break their will to survive, but they couldn't bear it when they returned home. Some people analyzed that after they came out of the concentration camps, when they talked about the torture and suffering they suffered, they found that the people around them could not understand it at all, let alone empathize with them, and even expressed boredom with them recounting those sufferings over and over again. Eventually leading to a nervous breakdown.

People can often bear physical pain alone, but mental loneliness cannot be resolved by one person alone.

This requires response, understanding, and deep connection with others and oneself. This kind of response comes from relatives, friends, and lovers. 02

Luo Keer is beautiful and charming. After she became single again, she naturally had a suitor.

She has learned a lot from the experience. This time it is not enough for her to say that she likes him. You like him and he likes you. The important thing is that you can still talk to each other.

Jack likes her, and they can talk. Jack was strong and looked quite honest. Rockel got along with him for a while.

Every day Jack would think of topics to chat with Luo Keer, and he was very attentive, but their communication was not smooth.

Luo Keer is a department manager. Her work is sometimes easy and sometimes tiring. When she is too tired, she will inevitably nag a few words. She says, she is exhausted and really wants to rest. Jack said, your job is boring, change it to a more relaxed one. The line my friend works in is more suitable for girls. She does... bala bala. The topic was immediately transferred to someone else.

They talked about travel destinations, and Luo Keer said, I like the sea the most, and I still want to go to the beach for a few days this year. Jack said, if I want to travel, I will go see my friends. She said, do you like to travel to the city? He said, my friend is in the city. She said, aren’t you traveling to be happy for yourself? He said, I’m going to see my friends. All she wants to ask is whether you prefer the island or the city.

Jack really went on a trip and told her, "I will bring you a Buddha statue." She said, why? He said, give it to you as a gift. She said, I don’t believe in Buddhism. Jack said, it's okay, just leave it at home. She said, thank you for your kindness, I don’t want it, there is no place to put it at home. Jack said, this Buddha statue is beautiful, I will take a picture of it for you. She just doesn't want something that is useless, not whether it looks good or not.

One time, Luo Keer had acute gastroenteritis at night and called Jack. Jack happened to be having a party with friends that day. Keer said that she was not feeling well. Jack replied, "I will come to pick you up and talk to my friends." Just drink some wine and it will be fine. Luo Keer was in so much pain that she couldn't speak. Jack thought the other party had hung up the phone and only realized it later the next day.

She understands another truth. People who are willing to respond to you are not necessarily people who can understand you. Maybe the other person has said a lot of things in reply and done a lot of things for you, but they are not all on the same frequency. He cannot. I understand what you mean, and he won't show up in time when you really need him.

Because responding is not just a matter of replying with a few words.

In "The Legend of Miyue", there is a sentence on the barrage that I remember deeply, which is about Queen Liu Tao: She can't guess King Qin's thoughts but she has to guess. When two people have different ideas, concepts, and ways of thinking, no matter how much they love or how much they spend time, it will all be in vain. You will not think about it at all. A lover who cannot understand your heart will never be able to enter the door of your heart, as if you were born No calls. 03

I heard a true story:

A man and his wife started a business from scratch and built up a net worth of hundreds of millions. The man disliked his old wife, so he divorced her and found a young girl. , at first the girl’s youth and freshness made him feel good about everything, but gradually he found that they had become increasingly boring to talk to. The girl only cared about what bag to buy, what clothes to wear, and what color to change her hair, while the man faced The problems were much more difficult. He didn't know how to tell her such heavy topics as conflicts in the shopping mall and changes in the company, and she wouldn't understand them even if he did.

Occasionally, I mentioned it, and the girl just responded with a coy "It doesn't matter." The man suddenly realized that although the young girl was beautiful, she couldn't understand him. On the contrary, it was his ex-wife who could talk to him. Idea, in the end this man remarried his ex-wife.

Because the "understanding" in the response usually needs to be based on values ??and even class consistency. Otherwise, you are born without feelings, and in the end, your feelings will be wiped out by these differences.

The so-called values ????are the same, which means that your consumption outlook, understanding of things, principles and attitudes should be similar. For example:

1. What are your views on money, how to distribute, use and make choices;

2. Your attitude towards work, are you all motivated or are you just dawdling?

3. What is your family concept, is it the male who leads the outside and the female who leads the household, or what?

4. What kind of life do you want to live, or do you just have to muddle along? Do you like to travel? ?

Only when you are on the same page and have similar ideas can we see each other’s strengths, reduce conflicts, and get along well.

I met a young couple. The husband squeezed the toothpaste from the middle, and the wife squeezed the toothpaste from the back. Small details became a fuse, and they simply divorced. This reason sounds ridiculous, but the reality is that their long-term differences in values ??lead to different living habits, which ultimately led to the inability to continue.

In a long and complicated life, after love has been wiped away by firewood, rice, oil and salt, we can still understand and care for each other, and share the pain and joy of life together. There are endless things to say, countless things. Things you can do together are your soul mates in life.

Just like you are born to come together, when you @ him, he will respond immediately.

This kind of response is much harder than replying one or two sentences, because when the other party really needs you, you can understand where you should stand and what to say.

Just like the person beside Luo Keer now, maybe he is not the handsomest, richest or even the most beloved of her suitors, but he is the one who can give her the most response, no matter it is Chat to accompany you materially and spiritually.

The word "ritual" was popular before, but it was always not so down-to-earth, but I think the best response is a ritual, as if she is asking "Are you there?", you reply "I've always been there".

Just like a necklace given to my mother on Mother’s Day, a string of red rope transfer beads given to my best friend on her birthday in this year, a pair of earrings given to myself during the holidays, and a pair of earrings given to my girlfriend on Valentine’s Day. A piece of Pandora... give the best response to the person you love. Use this sincerity to let the other person or yourself truly feel and enjoy this "love".

On the road of life, you understand, tolerate and accompany each other. When you say "I do" at the solemn and sacred wedding ceremony, he will carefully choose a ring with an engagement contract for you. Wear it affectionately on your left ring finger, which is also a response to mutual love.

This kind of response has nothing to do with money and wealth, but sincerity from the heart. This is the best sense of ritual.