How do we truly respect others?

How to truly respect others?

Respecting others means respecting yourself!

If you are a person who gets along well with other people, others will have a good impression of you. It goes a long way to building a good name for yourself and being recognized as worthy of respect and popularity. Do more practical things, talk less empty words, plant more flowers and less thorns, and do not interfere in other people's affairs. If you are very reserved in front of others, do not dare to speak, and remain silent all the time, that is because you are introverted, not necessarily autistic. Don't doubt yourself casually. You can try to communicate and communicate with others. The more you talk, the more courage you will have. That is, if you lack self-confidence, just build up self-confidence. Open your mind and interact with others with your sincerity. However, we can provide you with a few tips to help you deal with dodgy people. Three techniques are recommended for you that will help you earn the respect of those around you: stay calm, be confident, and provide positive feedback. The first two are permanent behaviors that you can learn to incorporate into your behavior with people. The third is the most effective way to handle conflicts without exacerbating the problem compared to situations where information is passed in one direction. One of the greatest uses of these three techniques is that they are very effective in maintaining friendly relationships with colleagues, subordinates, and superiors.

Feedback. Feedback is an invaluable technique for dealing with interpersonal problems in a non-confrontational way. If someone else's behavior is causing you distress, feedback is a way to deal with it. Maybe your boss insists on handing you your schedule until the last minute, or maybe you have a coworker who constantly taunts you in meetings. Provide feedback with colleagues, superiors, and subordinates, and can happily solve most problems.

When you apply feedback and make sure you don't provoke or trigger an emotional reaction in others, you need to follow three basic principles:

Don't exaggerate. Avoid using phrases like "You're too late."

Do not comment. This means don't make comments like, "Your timing is pathetic."

Don't label others. Don't tell someone "You're disorganized," "You're a dagger," or "You're a moody person."

If someone else says this to you, you won't be happy, so don't do it yourself. Remember, the purpose of the exercise is to solve the problem, not to refute the other person.

So, keep these three principles in mind and then learn how to apply feedback. Before you start, talk to them privately when you and others are not busy. Before you get there, think carefully about what you plan to say, keep key words in mind, and keep your language free of exaggerations, comments, and assertions. Okay, now you are ready:

1. When you speak, focus on yourself, not others. For example, "I feel stressed and taken for granted when you hand over your schedule at the last minute." As mentioned earlier, use the technique "I feel... when you..." to avoid other people's attention. Create a defensive mentality.

2. Explain why this happens: “When I can’t time things to get done, it’s too time-consuming for me to keep everything running smoothly, and I have a lot of other commitments that keep it from finishing so late. ”

3. Now it's their turn. Listen quietly and attentively as they make their case.

4. They may ask you for examples, so be prepared to cite specific examples for them.

5． Suggest a solution to the problem and see how others feel. If you force something on others, they will be unhappy and the solution won't work. Therefore, you need to work with others to find solutions together. (BTW, if you can't find any solution, there's no reason to fix this problem in the first place.) Here are some possible approaches: "You're pressed for time. I'll draft a schedule for you a few weeks in advance. You just need to check and see if you are satisfied, is that okay?"

6. Listen to their responses and be prepared to compromise.

Once you learn how to use feedback, it can help you solve most of the tough problems in your relationships.

If you, as a manager, coach your subordinates to use this method, you will find that conflicts are greatly reduced. Dealing with people confidently, effectively, and calmly will earn you respect and a reputation because you are calm and have everything under control. When it's enough to show that you should get more compensation from your boss, that's good news. As long as you master the following three basic skills:

1> Criticize others less, be strict with yourself and be lenient towards others.

<2> Speak softly, argue less with others, and try to understand the other person’s point of view.

<3> Use polite language and use moderate strength when shaking hands with others.

<4> Stay in a happy mood and open your heart.

<5> Smiling faces are always there. Because smile is the best lubricant of interpersonal relationships.

<6> Appreciate the advantages and characteristics of others. Have a heart that cares about others.

<7> Listen attentively to what the other person is saying and look at the other person.

<8> Praise others often. Lincoln said: 'Everyone likes to be complimented. ’

<9> Be confident in yourself. Know how to recommend yourself at the appropriate time,

<10> Don’t worship idols, and be your true self.

Don’t pretend, and don’t force yourself to do something.

1. Just treat your friends’ affairs as your own, don’t flatter them, don’t often give them gifts intentionally, trust them and don’t be suspicious. Treat them with respect and truly treat them as friends. Treat them with care.

2. I don’t need to say anything about how to treat your family. As long as you protect your family with all rights, do not be a burden to your family, and do everything you can to make them happy, care for them, and take care of them. Just being able to see you when they need you is enough.

3. Be patient and kind to your classmates. When they ask for something and try their best to do it, that's it.

In fact, you don’t need others to help you summarize this. You can understand it through your own experience in life. One word is enough to treat everyone - sincerity.

First of all, we must learn to respect others. As the saying goes: If you sow melons, you will reap melons; if you sow beans, you will reap beans. If you respect others everywhere, you will be rewarded by others respecting you everywhere. Second, be willing to help others and be willing to contribute. Helping others does not necessarily mean material help. A simple gesture or caring words can move others for a long time. If you can help people who have hurt you, it will not only show your broad mind, but also help "turn enemies into friends" and create a more relaxed interpersonal environment for yourself. Third, we must have a generous and tolerant attitude. In interpersonal relationships, conflicts sometimes arise, grudges persist, and things continue to get messy. How should we deal with them? "When we meet, we will forget all the grudges and grudges." If you learn to be generous and tolerant, you will win a "green" interpersonal environment. "No one is a saint, and no one can have faults." Don't dwell on other people's faults and never forget them. The road of life becomes wider and wider because of generosity and tolerance, but narrow-minded thinking will only push yourself into a dead end. Fourth, we must get along with others sincerely. There is a saying: If you want to be popular, integrity is a treasure. If you use lies and empty words to deceive the world and steal your reputation, or you may be duplicitous, you may talk sweetly, but you may be deceitful and deceitful, you will definitely be despised by people. Therefore, to consistently tell the truth, do honest things, and be an honest person, the first thing is to be kind. Anyone who puts on airs will stay away from anyone who sees them. People who are able to put down their status anytime and anywhere and get along happily with other people are truly loved by people. Whether you are a high official, a big boss, a big shot, or a big star, you are willing to get close to the people around you, keep a happy mood at all times, and are willing to talk about common things. This kind attitude like your own family members often makes people happy to get close to you, and it comes from the heart. Genuinely attracted. The second point is cheerfulness. Anyone who meets someone who is happy every day will like them. With a smile on your face, you will feel happier when you meet him. This optimistic attitude will unconsciously infect the people around you, and everyone will involuntarily want to get close to him. The third point is enthusiasm. Enthusiastic people in a group will always gain the respect of others. Many people are afraid of trouble for some trivial matters, and will just shirk it. They always wonder why it is me who does it, and they are always afraid of losing money. Such people are not easy to be popular. An enthusiastic person will come forward to help many people when they need help; sometimes he will benefit the public regardless of his own losses. For such a person, we will often feel grateful and respect him for what he does.

The fourth point is humor. People who can joke and make everyone happy will have the upper hand wherever they go. Everyone loves pistachios, but who loves a sad face? Although they may be full of bitterness behind their backs, they still bring laughter to everyone. Who can not love them? The fifth point is that it looks good. Among ugly people, there are also lovable ones, but if you are good-looking, you will take advantage of everything! This is an undeniable fact. The poet said: "Beauty is eternal joy." It is human nature to like beautiful things. Beautiful people are surrounded by people everywhere, which is a reflection of this nature. Appearance, grooming, and clothing can make people feel pleasing to the eye, and they are also important conditions for attracting people! The other two very important conditions are "popularity" and "affinity". There will always be some people who are born with a certain trait and are particularly popular. When people mention them, they will have different reactions. Therefore, if you have good conditions but are not popular, you will still fail. And some high-ranking officials and celebrities will only put on airs if they are not friendly. Such people, although they have high status or high reputation, are still not considered successful. The above traits are all traits of a popular person. What have you achieved? Observe the people around you who have these qualities. When you encounter any situation, think about how such people would handle things. I believe you will become a very popular person...!!!! The most important thing The most important thing is to treat others with integrity. Narrow-mindedness is a disadvantage. Be sincere, tolerant, and moderately tolerant. Don’t be too competitive. Don’t care about gains and losses with others (under normal circumstances). Wait until you can’t bear it anymore and then endure it again! Also! Just have enough confidence and smile, so I think you can handle it! Of course, it is best to be humorous, so that it will be easier to integrate into the group or individual! How to truly respect others< /p>

(1) The most basic expression of respecting others is to be polite to others, respect other people's labor, and respect other people's personality.

(2) To truly respect others, you must be good at standing in the other person's perspective, empathizing with others, and empathizing with others. To respect others, you must first be good at appreciating and accepting others; secondly, you must not do anything that damages the personality of others. What is the true lover? Grass is the most tenacious life! Whether on land or in water, they express the exuberance of life with their tenacious forms. They move with the wind and drift with the water, and they can make their home everywhere.

They interpret our world with the passion of their lives. Look at the banks of the clear streams or in the turbid water, they will be there

What is a truly decent and respected life

A decent life is respected by others Respect, maybe everyone has this ideal. However, not everyone can do it. First of all, you must have a stable job so that you can ensure the most basic life. Then you have to continuously improve your abilities and cultivate noble moral character. Maybe you are rich, but that is not necessarily useful. If you are rich and unkind, you will be disliked and hated by others. Only by self-respect and self-improvement can we live a decent life, and by being kind to others we will naturally be respected by others.

Don’t seek fame for your own fame, and don’t always think about getting recognition from others. Because, until you have no achievements, few people will recognize you. The world only cares about the results, but you should care about the process.

You can be a real villain, but don’t be a hypocrite. Otherwise, not only will you not be respected by others. Instead, he was looked down upon by the world. What is a true lover?

In the traditional sense, a lover should be outside of the marriage relationship.

Between a man and a woman who are attached and have a physical relationship,

is called a lover relationship. . Nowadays, non-married men and women who have a long-term sexual relationship are called lovers. Who are the real Han people?

As long as you truly identify with the "Han" nation, you are willing to sacrifice everything for her, including life and property. Respect everyone around you who takes "Han" as their national identity, safeguard the interests and dignity of everyone in this nation, even beggars, and resolutely fight back against anyone who tarnishes or slanders this nation. Even if you are blond and blue-eyed, you are still Han. (Sun Quan is a blue-eyed man) For those who suck up the national property to enrich themselves and pursue personal interests regardless of the interests of the nation. Indifference and even contempt for fellow humans around them. People who are even willing to let outsiders take advantage of them, no matter how dark your hair or eyes are, no matter how 100% of your DNA is Han. You are not descendants of Yan and Huang.

The Han people themselves take recognition of civilized life (the most important thing is language and secondly respect for others) as their standard. Blood ties come second (after several generations of intermarriage, your blood ties will definitely become more and more Chinese.) There is no difference between the Han people in the north and the south. Those who intend to stir up local disputes must not be of my race. How can they really be suspicious?

Senior Brother Daojian: I would like to excuse you. I have just learned Zen meditation and have many doubts. Please give me some advice! I am finally learning Zen meditation. Over the years, I also entered some small dings. The Dharma held in the mind is nothing more than the awareness of illusion and its separation. But due to some reasons, it fell into a bottleneck. So I recently started to try Zen meditation, but I felt that most of the doubts I had were caused by the logic of my thinking. It's basically a delusion! When I think about Hua Tou intensively, I feel drowsy (in the past, I was always sober when I entered concentration). I think it may be the wrong intention! Looking at my senior brother’s cultivation, it is far better than what I learned at the beginning. I am happy to praise him! Let’s share some ideas with my senior brother: Meditation practice is different from Zen meditation. Participate in Zen to achieve perfect precepts, concentration and wisdom. A huatou itself is the formless holy precept, itself is concentration in motion, and itself is prajna wisdom. If you cultivate concentration without cultivating wisdom, you will be like a stone soaked in dead water and never wake up. Meditation is a state of clarity and clarity, while meditation is a state of clarity and clarity. As Patriarch Zhaozhou said: "The old monk lives in confusion." This confusion is suspicion! For example, we don’t understand the realm of the saint’s personal experience, we don’t know the true form of nature revealed, and we don’t understand our original face before the beginning of the eons. That is the most fundamental doubt, the most core doubt. It is inevitable to think logically at the beginning of the investigation, but gradually you will find that no matter how hard you try, you will find that there is nothing you can do, and you have no way of understanding who the "faceless man" is. At this time, you will slowly only be left with a suspicion and different thoughts. Gradually withdrawing from the stage it was most familiar with. In fact, research is still a delusional mind, so brother, don't be afraid. However, this kind of delusional mind is different from the delusions we usually use. It is formless and formless, and it is far away from the six, seven, and eight consciousnesses. If you don’t believe me, try asking “What is nothing?” or “What is that state that I don’t know how to do?” etc., give it a try! As for the drowsiness you feel when talking about the topic, this is normal at first. . Because: firstly, I don’t understand it, and I feel unhappy, frustrated, frustrated, uncomfortable, and repelled; secondly, when I first learn to study Hua Tou, I have to spend a lot of energy and think over and over again, which makes me feel a little exhausted. Studying is completely different from meditating. To practice meditation, you should meditate in the morning and evening. Zen meditation has nothing to do with sitting. You must walk, stand, sit or lie down, raise your doubts, and stir up emotions. Even if you have to deal with people or have thoughts during the day, you should suddenly mention the topic after receiving or thinking, such as Just now I was thinking about good and evil, so when I am not thinking about good or evil, "Which one is the true nature?" Or in a state of no intention and no thought, look at all these (including treating people and things and thinking wildly... .) What exactly is it? Namaste Classical Man: I would like to ask my senior brother, is it true that suspicion arises only when you are involved in Hua Tou and do not know what to do, sit but do not know how to sit, and feel as if you are in a daze? Zhuowu: Actually, there are two kinds of doubts: one is doubts when one does not understand. For example, "What is our original face before beginningless kalpas?" People who have not yet understood this will definitely not understand. However, this kind of doubt is too superficial. It is either based on understanding of emotions and reasoning (such as delusion about the true nature, pure self-nature, or pure and empty realm, etc.), or it is just a superficial taste. The second is the lingering emotions aroused from deep within oneself, which is the emergence of true doubt. Real doubt itself has separated from illusion and separation, and is itself a passion and tenacity to understand something that is not clear. Now that the real doubts have appeared, my studies have really made rapid progress. But it does not mean that once you have real doubts, you will not know what you are doing. It is necessary to continue to maintain, lift and lift. At this time, it can be regarded as entering a state of concentration, which still does not hinder life and work. When true doubt persists to a certain level, it enters the stage of not knowing what to do. It is a state of inadvertence, and it is the time when the door is about to be opened and settled. As long as the fate of the world allows, I will be able to return home and sit down within three to five days. Of course, the emergence of true suspicion is not something that can be accomplished overnight. It was inevitable to think logically at the beginning, but gradually I found that there was nothing I could do about it. At this time, there was only a trace of doubt left, and the real doubt gradually emerged. Judging from the evolution of the sect's educational methods, Mo Xue found that early research did not pay special attention to doubts. For example, the great great master Zong Gao of the Great Hui Dynasty did not mention doubts throughout his entire text. His disciple described his master like this: "Does a dog still have Buddha nature? None! How can I teach others to see it." In fact, it means not thinking about good or evil, and searching for places where there is nothing. After searching for a long time, The mind has nothing to worry about, and ignorance suddenly breaks through.

Since people in the early days were relatively simple in their thinking, had few delusions, and were eager to live and die, it would be easier to become enlightened by throwing words at them to block their mind and allow them to think where they have no thought. Later, the scholar had more delusions about understanding emotions, and refused to look at them dullly. Since Master Gao Feng in the Song and Yuan Dynasties, and until today, sect research has placed special emphasis on doubts, making sure that all the students' delusions, distinctions, persistence and boredom are cultivated and condensed into doubts, waiting for the opportunity to explode the confusion of ignorance. Today’s scholars are different from ancient Zen practitioners. Nowadays, scholars not only have many false thoughts and distinctions, but also have a lot of knowledge about Buddhism and Zen, and have a certain level of understanding. Therefore, it is not easy for ordinary words to cover the root of the mind. But there is one thing that even with all his wisdom and knowledge he cannot put his finger on, that is the thing that the ancestors of the three generations of Buddhas have personally witnessed! The one that all the old monks in the world can see but he cannot! This is the biggest suspicion, the most fundamental suspicion! All doubts are nothing more than doubts surrounding this core! For example, whose behavior and speech are due to whose favor, which one is one's own destiny, what is the thing that is nothing, and what is the truth behind it? etc. What is a real bitch?

Playing with love will help you become a cuckold. . . How to truly respect natural life?

Human beings are a part of nature, so there is no need to get too entangled in this issue.

Just like if there are too many rabbits, they will eat up the turf, and if there is no grass, the rabbits will starve to death. Human beings have destroyed the environment, and humans will also face disasters. When the time comes, nature will recover on its own! How to truly love your children

Donor, there are too many bad people in this society. In order to prevent your children from being harmed in the future. Just kill your child. Go to heaven and enjoy the blessings. Amen!