Methods to educate children

Just imagine, if modern parents lived in the era of their parents and grandparents, would there still be so many problems in raising children? The following are 10 ways to educate children that I compiled. I hope they can help you! A good way to educate your children

Parents’ job is to educate their children. "Hoping for their children to become successful" is the common wish of parents. Every parent hopes to train their children to become trendsetters in the future society. How to educate the "little emperor" of the family - the children? It has always been a topic that parents discuss together; it is also a headache for every parent; it is also a major event that society and schools are concerned about. Because parents are their children's first school, family education has become an extremely important stage in a child's growth, directly affecting the child's future. Therefore, parents should tailor education based on their child's personality, interests, hobbies, habits, etc. Only by adopting corresponding educational methods can we achieve twice the result with half the effort.

Wen Jing is about to enter junior high school. As the parents of a child, we have seen that since the child entered the school, he has learned a lot of knowledge and understood a lot of principles of life. The child has grown step by step. We I feel sincerely happy, but also feel a great responsibility. Children's learning and education are a major issue that parents are most concerned about and attach great importance to. Because the study and education of children are related to their healthy growth and future development and prospects, no parent should worry about it. But there are also some problems in real life that need our parents and teachers to pay attention to in the future. Some of the good practices are discussed with the teacher here. I hope to help her correct the bad habits in future studies.

Good things

1. I have not been pampered with her since she was a child. I often communicate with her and never educate her or criticize her with an adult mentality. Often read books related to her age to understand the characteristics of her growth in a timely manner, and spend more time with her, even if it is shopping, to enhance your understanding of her, and do not rely on your own opinions, thoughts, ways of doing things, and views on things. to influence her.

2. Pay attention to cultivating her self-reliance, hard-working ability and time management. A person's growth is full of ups and downs. Children will definitely encounter problems of one kind or another during their growth. Parents cannot accompany their children for a lifetime, so parents should cultivate their children's independent abilities and guide them to do more. Do housework to the best of your ability, and tell your children the truth that "diligence is a good virtue, and laziness is the root of all evil". Don't learn from the ancient Chen Fan who said "If you don't sweep a house, how can you sweep the world?" It is also necessary to cultivate the belief in children to face setbacks bravely and learn the ability to adapt to changes in circumstances. Only petrels that are not afraid of storms can spread their wings and soar freely on the vast ocean. In the first class, we asked her to bring her own keys to school. When she was younger, she was asked to do some housework within her ability, and she was not criticized even if she made mistakes sometimes. I remember one time when she was cooking, she put the rice cooker on the gas stove. We didn't blame her. So she has always maintained her habit of doing housework, and now she still does some housework. When she was in preschool, she learned to dance for a period of time. It was both fun and hard work, and her body was often bruised and bruised, which exercised her strong ability. In the past five years, I have never been late for school, sometimes I went to school sick, and I never took a day off.

3. Always pay attention to your words and deeds, practice your own actions, and set a good example for your children's growth. Children are ignorant of this society, and those who are ignorant have nothing to fear. So they take everything lightly and don't care. We parents know more, so we worry about our children making the wrong move, so we get anxious. This can easily lead to misunderstanding between the two parties. Therefore, we usually develop the habit of communicating more equally with our children. Sometimes the identity of a friend is easier for the children to accept, and then education will be simpler. Be your own role model. Children watch their parents grow up. Parents’ words and deeds affect their children’s lives, so be sure to pay attention to your own words and deeds.

Your child is shopping with you in the supermarket. He sees a doll he likes and can’t move his feet. He wants it very much, “Mom, I want that doll, it’s very beautiful!” But you know that you already have a very beautiful doll at home. There were so many dolls that they couldn't even fit in her little room. She looked at you pitifully, "Mom, buy me another one! The last one, okay?" You looked distressed, but you knew that she was so committed now that next time she sees a doll she likes, she will buy it again. Do this. But if you don't buy it, she bursts into tears. If you find reasons, she will also find reasons for you.

What to do?

Children want to possess something they like when they see it, and we adults do the same. You see beautiful clothes and want to buy them, you see new cosmetics and you like them, you smell the perfume and you want to take it home. Children are just like you. "Everyone has a love for beauty," but they need to be restrained. When children are 3 to 6 years old, their willpower is particularly weak. They know in advance that they should not do it, but they cannot control themselves. A kindergarten in Songkou conducted random interviews with children in its kindergarten, "What will happen if you bring a toy you like?" Every child said that they couldn't help but want to play with it. They were asked, "Then do you think this toy is okay?" Want to play?" They all answered honestly, "No." You see, the child clearly knows that he is not good, but he can't help but want to play. Children's ability to control themselves is almost non-existent in kindergarten, and we can see this in many experiments.

Does that mean, forget it, since the child can’t control himself, then there’s no need to control him? No, when they are helpless, parents should help them understand that they need to control themselves and that they can control themselves.

Make a three-part agreement with your child before going out, "Baby, we will go to the supermarket later. You can only buy one thing. You make the decision for anything under ten yuan, okay? Okay. Let's hook up. You're a little grown-up, so keep your word." Go out after the deal is made. Children still can’t move their feet when they see something they like. That’s okay, it’s normal to like it. "Mom, I want to buy something." Of course, it's okay to express your feelings. "Baby, what did we say before we go out? You tell mom." "Well..." She may not want to say it, but that's okay. Let her know it in her heart. I think she will give up half of her wishes. It’s the first time for everyone. If the child still wants to buy something and will cry if she doesn’t buy it, let her cry. "I know you want it very much, baby, but we agreed, and there are so many dolls at home, and you don't play with them much. If you want to cry, just cry. It's really sad not to be able to get the doll you like very much. "Mom is with you." The child is very smart. If the crying method is effective, she will still use this method next time to get what she wants. But if she knows your persistence and finds out your bottom line, she will know that this method is useless next time.

The healthy growth of children is an issue that parents are very concerned about. Parents also hope that their children can grow up healthily and happily. Children’s education is also an issue that cannot be ignored. Children’s education must also have the correct method. Yes, here are ten ways to educate your children correctly.

1. Parents are the most important and irreplaceable educators in their children’s lives.

The age of 0-6 is a critical period for the formation of children’s quality and good habits. The first two years of a child's life are a critical period for establishing a strong emotional bond with their parents, which is the basis for the child's future psychological growth and the establishment of trusting and loving relationships with others.

50% of all knowledge about life is learned in the first year of life, and 25% is learned in the second year of life. The life knowledge here mainly refers to the development of the ability to love and emotions.

2. If you want to change your children’s behavior, parents should first change themselves

Educating children is a process of educating yourself. Children’s bad behaviors often come from the environment or their parents. Directly taught. Education by setting an example is the surest way to develop moral behavior in children.

3. Cultivating children’s spiritual qualities is far more important than intellectual development

The spirit is the tree, the mind is the fruit; the spirit is the lamp, the mind is the light. Human intelligence is a reflection of spiritual qualities. If you only focus on the cultivation of skills (such as various interest classes for early intellectual development) and ignore the cultivation of children's spiritual qualities, you can only put the cart before the horse. When children grow up, their personalities will be flawed and their moral development will be affected. hinder.

4. Reasonable discipline

Disciplining children is to tell them the standards of behavior, that is, what kinds of things can be done and what kinds of things cannot be done. Discipline must be authoritative: When children may make mistakes and we have to discipline them, we must be authoritative. Let your children know that you are serious and that your requests will be accompanied by punishments or rewards. Properly restricting children can develop a sense of discipline in children, but of course, discipline must be done responsibly. And tell your child the reason for your request.

Be consistent with your child's father: Parents can be consistent in disciplining their children so that they can establish consistent standards of behavior. Even if you have objections to your father's control, it is best to discuss it with him later when the children are not present. Doing so can also establish the authority of both parents. Don’t punish too much: Don’t abuse your child physically or psychologically. You must manage your child well. The best way is to reward him for his good performance.

5. Use positive encouragement methods to help children establish good self-values ??

Parents need to take the initiative to teach basic values ??and behaviors to their children. So that children can grow up in society. Of course, in this regard, teaching by example is better than words, and we can be good role models for our children. Creating a good family atmosphere is important. Therefore, we cannot let our children do something we do not want to do, nor can we do one thing ourselves and let the children do another thing. Only if we lead by example and pay attention to the cultivation of children's values ????and courtesy can we educate the next generation of high moral character.

People with high self-esteem have three "abilities": I am capable; I can interact with people around me; I can contribute to the happiness of others anytime and anywhere. Believe that you have the potential to learn and grow, and develop qualities such as courage, faith, self-confidence, and trust in life and others. On the contrary, low self-worth is a negative understanding of oneself, and destructive feelings such as self-blame, humiliation, anger, and hatred are always present throughout life.

6. Establish clear family rules and hold regular family meetings

Children need to know where the boundaries are, what should be done and what should not be done. Without rules, children will not be safe. feel. There should be no more than 5 to 6 house rules. They should be suitable for the specific needs of the family. They must be stated in affirmative sentences and the house rules should be posted. If family rules are violated, corresponding punishment measures should be clearly defined. Once established, they should be implemented resolutely, and adjustments and modifications should be made to the house rules at regular intervals. Regular family meetings are held so that the whole family can share the process of life development, develop democracy, respect each other, and enjoy an atmosphere of love.

7. Give your child the right to choose within a certain range

As your child grows, it is important to give him more and more freedom and power to control his own life. You must consciously ask yourself; even restrain yourself from the idea of ????doing everything for your children to give your children some freedom. Giving children a certain amount of freedom shows that we trust and respect our children, and they will respect and love us more.

Give children the right to choose within a certain range. By providing choices, you can avoid tension and provide children with practical opportunities to make decisions. For example, "It's bedtime, do you want to listen to yesterday's story, or do you want to hear a new story?" "Do you want to wear a pink top or a blue T-shirt today? (If the child chooses neither , parents can ask: "Should I help you choose, or should you choose yourself?") Making choices and making children responsible are daily behaviors that are crucial to developing children's self-worth.

8. Games are children’s main activity. Children learn through games

Children learn through contact with specific and simulated things related to life. They need to interact with peers, adults and the environment. Games relax children. And develop a focused work attitude. Special practice of letters, numbers and other symbols should not be started too early before the age of 5. This will limit the child's thinking, because the young child's mind is not yet mature and cannot understand abstract concepts. < /p>

9. Tell children directly what they should do, rather than what they should not do

The condescending attitude of traditional educators always tells children "No hitting, no hitting" Eat on the couch" etc. This negative tone will only draw attention and focus on the negative behavior; while the child still does not know what good behavior is and what he should do. Positive words are used in virtues Modify your child's behavior such as "You forgot to make peace with others" or "We eat at the table! ”

10. Take time to spend time alone with your children every day, and do something interesting to both parties.

Every child needs enough attention from his parents. After work every day, we should spare some time to participate in children's games. We should provide children with a variety of experiences and expose them to as many things as possible.

As their children's listeners, supporters, and spiritual companions, parents should respect their children's feelings when their children encounter setbacks, and stay with their children with a detached and sympathetic attitude.

The above is an introduction to the ten methods of correctly educating children. Now you should have an understanding. Children’s education must not be ignored. Parents must know that finding the right method cannot educate them blindly. I hope This article is helpful to you and I hope every baby can grow up healthily.