Be filial, don't be foolish and filial, as foolish filial piety harms others and yourself.

Filial piety is a traditional virtue of the Chinese nation and is the responsibility and obligation that children should have towards their parents. "Filial piety comes first" is an ancient saying that has been passed down for thousands of years. Filial piety is the foundation of being a human being. If you cannot do this, no matter how many stray cats or dogs you adopt, it will not mean that you are kind.

Parents are the ones who give you life, give birth to you and raise you. They devote everything they have to providing you with the needs for your growth. They care about you all the time. When you grow up, they also enter. In your later years, it is your turn to be filial to your parents and respect your elders. If you despise your parents for getting old and ugly, or for being hunched over, or you despise them for being from the countryside and not being able to give you face, etc., you will be in trouble. You are absolutely wrong. As the saying goes, "A dog does not despise a poor family, and a son does not despise an ugly mother." Don't forget the kindness of your parents in giving birth to you. Filial piety must start from not being disdainful. Not being disdainful is the best expression of filial piety. If you feel disgusted in your heart, but on the surface you accompany your parents and meet their material needs, I think this is false filial piety. Only by respecting and loving your parents from the bottom of your heart can you truly not dislike them.

Being filial to your parents does not require doing big things for your parents, nor does it require sweet words. The main thing is to think about your parents from the heart, make them happy, and not let them worry about themselves. If you encounter family conflicts, you can use your Emotional intelligence resolves issues promptly and effectively, keeping the family atmosphere harmonious. Meeting parents' spiritual needs is far more important than meeting their material needs.

Nowadays, there is a very rare phenomenon called "foolish filial piety", which is to be "filial" unprincipled and unconditional, obeying the wishes of parents and handling everything according to their wishes. This situation usually happens to men, and people call this kind of men "Mama's boys." This kind of family usually has a strong mother, and the mother takes care of everything for the boy since he was a child. When he grows up, he becomes a person with no independent opinions and no responsibility. When he married a daughter-in-law, he still listened to his mother in everything. His mother's words were the imperial edict. Such a mother-in-law cannot accept her son loving another woman. Her perverted love will only lead to a bad life for her son and daughter-in-law, causing constant conflicts. Some mothers-in-law will even instigate their sons to beat their wives, and the sons will not listen to her. If so, she would threaten her son with life and death until she was satisfied. It is a tragedy in itself for a woman to marry such a foolish and filial man or a mama's boy. Many people choose to divorce for this reason. Therefore, "foolish filial piety" is a cancer in marriage, which harms others and ourselves.

Here, I advise those men who are foolish and filial to be filial but not foolish and to cherish their wives. She is the one who wants to accompany you throughout your life!