A person is too frugal. what do you think?

Let me tell you a story. A real man who is too thrifty happened beside me.

My colleague Master Song is a cheerful and handsome young man. He is about twenty-seven years old. He has a two-year-old boy. When I first entered the factory, he often apprenticed for us, so it had a great influence on him. However, he is too frugal. For example, when we go to a restaurant for dinner, we should pack up the leftovers and take them back. The workmates had a dinner party with AA system. He said he was busy and never came back. At first, we thought that Master Song might have difficulties at home and his wife was strict, which led to excessive frugality. Once he was injured at work. Our workmates went to see him with gifts, and he set a table of dishes at home to thank us. There are only two meat dishes. It was a young man at that time, and he was doing manual labor. That one can't be eaten, it is a kind of enjoyment. Of course, the workers are unhappy. After the meal, they didn't serve. Later, the workers commented that he was too picky. Of course, this is his personal business. If you dig, we will have less contact. Every family has its own life and has no right to blame him.

But things really don't go well. When did I come out to die for years? My wife went to work in the factory instead of me. One day, my wife told me that she introduced Master Song to a village that sells vegetables. I'm a little surprised. Master Song's family is very good, and he will live again. Why did he get divorced? Now you have to find someone! My wife told me that Master Song was too stingy and too strict with money. His wife had to ask him for any money she spent, and she had to keep accounts. She can't stand it. She divorced a few years ago. Now let me introduce her to him. Although I am in the countryside, I am divorced, with good conditions and good income. He insisted on depriving her of her economic rights. After living together for several months, the woman ran back and Master Song arrived at night. Men are so picky, which woman wants to talk to you.

I didn't expect Master Song to have so many stories. His ex-wife left. If you don't find out why, who will marry you if you are so stingy! I sighed in my heart. Master Song is a very handsome man. Who is to blame for this situation? I can only live my next life alone.

Thrift is a traditional virtue of China people, but if we are too thrifty, we will be too strict with our wives in spending money, which will lead to the opposite result. No woman wants to talk to this miser, and financial control is too strict. For women, there is no doubt that they will be locked in a dark room and will escape one day. In addition, women now have some income. There is a saying that men are cash cows and women are cornucopia. It takes negotiation between men and women to spend a lot of money. Small money is properly relaxed, and the woman spends money to make her feel warm at home. Once it was too strict, it could only force the woman to go.

I'm Bao Xun from Hefei. I said this to warn my male compatriots not to be too frugal, or they will drive people away.

Men are a little stingy if they are too frugal. I have a donkey friend, and we often travel together. He is a retired cadre of the army, with a monthly pension of 12000 yuan. His family is still working outside after retirement. There are several taxis at home, and only one son is married and has children. It should eat well. However, his consumption view is puzzling. Every meal is less than 20 yuan, and accommodation is a place for 20 or 30 yuan. There is no separate bathroom, which makes everyone embarrassed. He is traveling now, and no one wants to go with him. So being stingy has nothing to do with making money.

It is quite understandable, but my family is very willing to eat what they like. I like eating meat very much, and I can't wait to eat meat, such as pig's head, pig's ears, chicken's head and duck intestines ... Besides, I don't have too many requirements, which may have a lot to do with the consumption concept of Origin House. I can't help but start eating when I see something cheap, but it's limited to eating. Once, I bought more than 40 kilograms of plums at once, which made the child's mouth rotten because of acid corrosion.

Just last night, I took my children to the park to play, because I spent five yuan to buy a gymnastics ribbon for my daughter and felt distressed. Different consumption concepts will lead to many contradictions. He doesn't think it necessary to buy toys for children.

It is a good thing that children like reading. Children read fast and always need to keep buying books. The man will be very angry when he sees the new book, saying that because he doesn't like reading, there are books everywhere, and occasionally reading novels is to fall asleep as soon as possible. Besides playing games, he just works and eats meat. Everything else is irrelevant to him.

Different ideas, different views, very distressed!

Personally, thrift is a virtue and a wonderful enjoyment of life!

When I was a teenager, my father's monthly income was 133 yuan (an 8-level worker 123 yuan plus technical subsidies 10 yuan). Therefore, there are 6 family members over 20 months on average. At that time, when I was in middle school, there was a system of working in suburban rural areas every autumn. The time is usually ten days, and my father always gives me fifteen yuan for pocket money. The price was cheap at that time. Take advantage of the opportunity to buy Lai in Jinjiaqiao Town every morning to have a bowl of beef noodles, only 0. 15 yuan. I remember one year I went to Chongming Dongfeng Farm, because I ate in the canteen, and my father gave me 20 yuan. My own plan is to spend 0.35 yuan on meals every day, and basically eat eel (braised eel section) and braised pork for dinner.

After the political turmoil began, the school closed and was forced to go to the countryside for labor reform three years later. My father's factory pays wages every month 15, and I will definitely receive a remittance slip of 10 yuan every month 19. Although the countryside is very hard, every time I go to the town and spend a dollar, there will be two pieces of fried pork and fried pork liver (it was really delicious at that time, and I brought a small bowl of rice flour meat and two ounces of Tsinghua Wujiu every month on average. Three years later, my father stopped the monthly money order for my own reasons. The pace of my life has been completely disrupted, but it has become a pain in my heart that I will never forget. At the same time, it also taught me the overall consideration of frugal life! Despite the deep affection between father and son, two months later, my father came on time every month with a money order and added five yuan. But at this time, I experienced this kind of confession and realized the importance of thrift and housekeeping! It also affected my married life. Until now, although my monthly income is quite high after retirement (enterprise retirement), I still maintain this attitude towards life. When I was in office, I bought my son a car at the right time for the house he had to have when he got married. Every spring and autumn, I can also travel long distances with my wife, but at this time I won't worry about food, shelter and transportation, because there is no economic pressure at all. But there is a bottom line between the money that should be spent and the money that should not be spent. At present, as long as there is a through train, it will always be an ordinary train and will not take the high-speed train! Riding for a long time is a casual injury to the elderly! Sleeping car is a feeling of the past!

A man who is too thrifty is essentially an excessive self-discipline reflected by a deformed psychology in consumption. Such a man may have had a lesson or trauma in history, or the family education of the older generation is too afraid of future risks. As a result, frugality is regarded as an important principle in life, and many such people's lives have been in an inexplicable depression for a long time.

First, family relations are tense.

Men who are too thrifty generally have tense family relationships. Among family members, men who are too thrifty often make exceptions, usually children. However, being too frugal certainly makes his relationship with other family members tense for a long time. On the issue of thrift, the whole family agrees, but the proportion is not large. Second, normal consumption is an objective need. Even if the whole family advocates thrift, they will still feel nervous when they encounter their own interests.

Second, interpersonal tension.

If a man is too thrifty, stingy in his communication with the outside world, and there is no exchange of material and interests, then his interpersonal circle will exclude him, and because of his excessive frugality, his family will be affected subjectively and objectively, so the interpersonal relationship of the whole family will be tense.

Third, the ability to resist risks is poor

Although a man who is too thrifty will lead to high savings, he will control the bottom line of consumption too low, which will lead to great events, high expenses and psychological collapse.

In short, if a man is too thrifty, especially in the modern money society, he will forcibly suppress himself and his family in a very narrow range, which may lead to big problems after a long time or when something big happens. As for the outside world, relatives, friends, colleagues and classmates may not even have an intersection.

After reading so many answers, I want to talk about my own views. Thrift is a traditional virtue of China people. It is said that a thrifty person is so unbearable. There is nothing wrong with thrift. A person should be thrifty, depending on who he is thrifty for. If he is frugal for himself, he is selfish, and of course he should be denied. My father is very frugal. He doesn't smoke or drink. He worked hard all his life. He can wear a dress for several years, and he will change it when it is worn out. He is extremely frugal and deliberately skimps himself, but he is good to others and children. Give me the money as long as I don't keep my word. When I was in trouble, my father offered to pay for my children's college education and computer. Besides thanking my father, I am also very touched.

Most successful men are frugal. For example, Li Ka-shing, the richest man in Hong Kong, can wear a suit for 10 years, a pair of leather shoes can be mended again, and even a pair of glasses can be worn for 10 years, without changing the glasses frame.

There is also Wang Yongqing, the god of business in Taiwan Province, who is worth tens of billions, but his requirements for his own life are stingy. For example, he thought it was expensive to make long-distance calls and asked his family to write. He even grows his own vegetables. He opened a vegetable garden on the roof and grew his own vegetables. A towel has been used for 27 years, and the soap cannot be too small to throw away.

On the other hand, some people are moonlight people now and have no long-term plans at all. The less money they have, the more they want to show off. On the contrary, some rich people are particularly low-key. I know an old lady who collects garbage every day. Her son is the head of the company and sends her 5000 yuan every month. She still has to pick up junk, and her mentality is different. Don't think that thrifty men are stingy and have no money, and don't think that men who drive luxury cars are rich. Don't think that a thrifty man is a stingy man with no money, but a generous man must be rich and reliable.

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Diligence and thrift are the glorious qualities of our people. Are men too thrifty? This is not necessarily a good thing, because people living in the world should not only be diligent and thrifty, but also need to consume. To put it bluntly, they need to eat, wear and live. People are reluctant to eat and wear, and they will lose themselves and their families. Frugal people are not good people, people who are unwilling to work hard are not good people, and people who waste are not good people. We should keep our true colors, eat, drink and use, demand good traditions, and arrange a good life for ourselves, our families and our children. A good man is to do a good job in the life of a family. People's wealth is not brought at birth, nor is it taken away when they die. Leave a good influence in your lifetime, live well, and there will be no afterlife. Keep an open mind. Diligence is to live a better life, and living is to work hard to eat, wear and live well. Party and state leaders lead the people of the whole country to strive for a better well-off life! If you want to be frugal, you can't be too frugal. Being too frugal is not the standard of a well-off life, and you can't use abnormal people's thoughts and behaviors if you are too frugal.

Thrift is a virtue, that is, to save without wasting, but also to be frugal and simple. Such people are good. As the old saying goes: save beans in one day and build a gatehouse in three years.

Being too frugal is also a way of life and attitude. I'm too scared to try other ways of speaking and change my living habits. Being too frugal and not communicating with others will only affect interpersonal communication.

With the progress of the times, great changes have taken place in people's daily life, and every penny has to be spent. There is a naughty job, money is a bastard, and we need to do it. Reflects the mentality of most people.

I think this man must be frugal in his family life, which is a habit he has developed for many years!

There is nothing wrong with living frugally, but it should be moderate. In addition, generally speaking, men earn money and women spend money. Most families are women to buy food, meat and fruit. You can buy it as long as you have money. As long as he doesn't care about the money and doesn't let him spend it.

Some men may not have no money or earn less, but spending their money is like cutting meat, which hurts to death. But it doesn't matter as long as the money doesn't go from him. My husband is also very frugal, making money and spending little. But he earns money to support his family alone, and I basically spend it all. I pay for almost all the food and clothing in my family, and he doesn't care. But when he spent his money, he was so distressed. So I usually act first and buy what I need at home directly, and he doesn't care if I buy it back. It is more difficult for him to spend money on things on his own initiative than to ascend to heaven. I understand his hard life as a child, and it is hard to get rid of his habits for many years. The current situation in our family is that he earns my money, of course, not my own. I am responsible for all the expenses at home, such as eating, dressing, my son's interest class, my daughter's piano and so on. Husband only makes money to go home, and occasionally complains that he can't make ends meet. I don't take it seriously. It's normal for people to complain twice, sometimes they feel that spending money is too fast ... life goes on as usual. He makes money, and I am responsible for spending it to take care of the whole family.

I don't know what the subject is talking about. If a man doesn't want to spend his own money, he can take over the financial power and plan his own family life. He didn't have to buy it himself. Just bring the money and do it yourself. Let a family's life be colorful, harmonious and happy, and I believe he is also carefree and happy. How many men are willing to worry about buying food and cooking? For so many years, I only met one neighbor when I was in Shijiazhuang. That's really a good man. The husband earns money, and the daughter-in-law never goes to work after having children. Now all the children are in college. Her husband does everything except buy food, cook and clean every day when he comes back from work. I have only met that one. Most men still sit on the sofa watching TV or playing mobile phones after work. If you want to eat meat, buy it yourself, cook it yourself, and have plenty of food and clothing!

There is another situation, that is, the kind of man who holds the money himself and hopes that the real iron cock will break it in half. No matter whether you have money or not, you just can't bear to use it. You still cling to economic power and don't want to give it to your wife. It is really depressing to meet such a man.

In short, no matter what the situation is, the specific problems should be treated in a specific way. Find a solution according to the situation. Children's physical development needs nutrition, and meals at home need to be reasonably matched. Therefore, we must find a way. Whether family life is harmonious or unhappy, women are still very important. Give full play to your abilities, take the initiative to attack, gain economic power, and reasonably match the meals at home. Don't complain, let alone be passive, but take the initiative to find a way.

I believe you can succeed, as long as you want, the power of women is infinite, I wish you happiness, come on!