A woman in her forties sent a circle of friends to the hotel in the middle of the night and deleted it again: What did the middle-aged thief steal?

It is normal to turn on your mobile phone, read WeChat, browse your circle of friends and listen to some hypnotic music to help you sleep.

One night recently, I turned on my cell phone. In the WeChat circle of friends, a dynamic of my colleague Cui Jie caught my attention.

The content is: it is too cold to sleep at night.

Venue: XXX Hotel.

The time is 02:32.

Many speculations come to mind:

Sister Cui lost her mobile phone?

Sister Cui has a family. Why go to the hotel?

It's Cui Jie ...

I just wanted to send a WeChat question, and this circle of friends was deleted. At 02: 34, this circle of friends that lasted less than two minutes aroused my great curiosity.

The next day, when I arrived at work and there was no one around, I couldn't help but gather together in front of Cui Jie to inquire about my circle of friends in the hotel yesterday.

Cui Jie gave a wry smile and sighed, "Ah, you are young, but you don't know the sadness of middle-aged people. When you reach middle age, you live a thief's life and steal everything. You will understand later. " Then, Cui Jie gave me several examples, which impressed me deeply.

0 1, middle-aged couple, forced to become brothers and roommates.

Cui Jie is 40 years old and her husband is 42 years old. She has a son and a daughter. The eldest son will be promoted at the beginning of this year, and so will the youngest daughter.

Besides, both parents are in poor health. They are really old and young, and it is the time when the situation is frequent and difficult.

"When my husband and I rarely got married, we were brothers in the early years and now we are roommates." Cui Jie gave a wry smile.

Cui Jie said that when she first got married, she was in financial difficulties. Her husband chose to work abroad and earned a lot of money, but the husband and wife were ready to separate. In those five years, one of them earned money outside and the other raised children inside, just like a pair of them were my brothers, barely maintaining a nominal marriage.

When the husband transferred back, the house was a two-bedroom apartment, and the second daughter was just full moon, so the husband and son shared a room, and she and her daughter shared a room. This separation is another six years. It is more appropriate to be a roommate than a husband and wife.

When I changed my teeth to a three-bedroom apartment, my in-laws were in poor health, and my husband and sister-in-law took turns to go to my in-laws' house to look after the elderly. This rotation lasted for more than three years.

Until now, the old people began to take turns living in their children's homes. After living for a year, Cui Jie began to live with her husband's roommate.

"You know, people are vulnerable, especially women. Recently, I have reached menopause, and my work is not smooth, and my parents are also very troubled. I really want to talk to my husband about coquetry and confidence, but there are some things and words. What should I do in front of the elderly and children? What did you say?/Sorry? But, when I have this need, you know? I am like a thief who is thinking about something, always thinking about how to get it. So I did a stupid thing. " Cui Jie looked down and smiled shyly.

Cui Jie said that she first went to a branded underwear store and chose a sexy underwear. Although this young man's fashion hangs on her middle-aged woman's figure, the effect is not good. She also saw the young clerk's suspicious, mocking and negative eyes, but she gritted her teeth and bought it.

Then, she chose a hotel with quality assurance, booked dinner, and lied to her children that she was staying at her grandmother's house and her father was working overtime, making up an excuse for her husband to pick her up at the hotel. This is really more guilty than being a thief.

Cui Jie complained that her husband couldn't understand her needs at all. Afterwards, her husband first laughed at her figure, wearing sexy underwear and makeup, which looked like a cheap station for princesa.

Then she was accused of being frugal. Underwear and room expenses cost more than 500 yuan, and the family's daily expenses are all available for one month.

Finally, Cui Jie was criticized for abandoning the elderly and children, without filial piety and responsibility.

"I really can't enjoy what I stole." Cui Jie sighed.

At two o'clock in the morning, the husband and wife quarreled, and Cui Jie was left in the hotel by her husband, which led to the inexplicable circle of friends.

"I delete it every second because I am afraid that my children, parents and brothers will see it. I'm afraid they worry, and I'm afraid I can't explain it clearly. I feel that I really have a guilty conscience. " Cui Jie said.

02. Do middle-aged women have the right to enjoy life?

Cui Jie said that since the birth of the child, the daily necessities at home, the transportation for the child to go to school, homework guidance, health care for the elderly, personal care, and the bottleneck of his work have all weighed on him, making him unable to move.

Once, her husband took her home from work by electric car and passed the underground bridge in the city center. A train passed by the city, and she actually squatted on her husband's back and cried excitedly.

When her husband asked her why, she said that she had thought for a moment. She hasn't left this small fourth-tier city or taken a train for nearly 10 years.

In the past, it was the happiest and most free time to go out with my classmates in college or with my parents and colleagues at work when I was unmarried.

At that time, she loved writing poems and dreaming, and she was very literary. Now, she's ... It's a long story.

Husband laughs at her like a little girl. She is always crying, which is too melodramatic. Pretend to be generous, have hands and feet, and go wherever you want. Who stopped you?

"I really went later." Cui Jie said.

"I know, I'm wicked again, and several places I've always wanted to go have sprung up in my mind. Yunnan, Tibet, Jiuzhaigou, Qinghai Lake, Xinjiang ... by train? Go by plane? Go to play for half a month? 10 days? A week ... As it turns out, I am just a thief, not a thief in Jiangyang, and finally chose a three-day tour in Qingdao. " Cui Jie said helplessly.

Cui Jie admits that there are old people in the family, young people in the family, and now there is a mortgage. Middle-aged people's money is left to their families. They never dare to spend a penny. Travel is certainly a luxury;

Old people need care, children need companionship, and middle-aged people don't have much time to themselves.

Cui Jie said that at the moment she boarded the train, she found herself alone on the train, with her heart at home, unable to enjoy the scenery of the journey at all.

These three days, her husband called her and asked where the daily necessities were kept. The children left a message for her, crying that three meals a day were either makeshift or takeaway; When I got home, my in-laws sarcastically said discontentedly, "You can learn a lot by going out for three days? Substitution? Spend money to buy sin! "

"I am like a thief. These three days of freedom are like stolen time. I have to pay it back quickly, or I will be sentenced. " Sister Cui cried.

03. The emotions of middle-aged people are all internal injuries.

Cui Jie said that when I was young, any troubles, crying, running away from home, talking to my girlfriends, or doing something that challenged my limits disappeared.

But not now, the elderly are no longer their own safe haven, and the children will not be their own punching bag. The husband is only the object of marriage, and all the girlfriends have married and can't be disturbed.

Then, all bad emotions can only be digested by themselves.

Cui Jiehong said with her eyes red that something happened to her parents recently, which made her very painful.

Her parents have been at odds for a long time, and her father has someone outside, which she has known since childhood.

My mother has no ability to earn money, and she has been turning a blind eye to it and enduring it.

Recently, however, my father has gone too far. Living with a woman outside for several years is not counted, and he has repeatedly partnered with a woman outside to make my mother angry.

Mother asked her to uphold justice, and she advocated that her parents divorce, because she knew it would be difficult to get rid of resentment in this life, but why did her mother refuse to let her father be ruined?

Her father told her to mind her own business and accused her of encouraging her parents to divorce.

When I was a child, I felt that my mother was incompetent and cried when I said it; I also feel that my father is disrespectful, indifferent and rogue when he is old. But that's their parents after all. Who can they appeal to?

In a head lawsuit, her mother suffered from senile depression. She was in Lacrimosa all day and forgot to take antihypertensive drugs several times, which put her out of danger.

"These things, and who said that? In-laws? Children? Husband? I want to be depressed even if I cry every night. When I live in a mental hospital, everything will be closed, but I can't. I am a thief, I owe my parents and in-laws, and I owe my children, so I am squatting. " Cui Jie said while crying.

I can't help sighing at Cui Jie's words.

Cui Jie's experience, by no means a case, also sounded the alarm for us:

If you are a middle-aged couple, you must understand the significance of romance, consideration, understanding and support for middle-aged marriage;

If you have middle-aged children, please take good care of your health, enjoy yourself and give your children some time and space.

If you have middle-aged parents, please study hard and do more housework, so that parents can have a moment of leisure and be themselves.

I hope the above words can encourage my readers.

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