Sister-in-law has postpartum depression, how should she help?

I am also a sister, and my brother-in-law should be happier when she is pregnant! In the second month, I was mainly responsible for taking care of my children at night, my parents took care of them during the day, and my brother was responsible for my daughter-in-law. Everyone does his job!

Basically, except for breastfeeding, my nephew is usually in our hands. My brother's daughter-in-law spent all her spare time playing mobile phones, so that when she was born, her back was sore and her eyes were uncomfortable. It is because she sits and plays with her mobile phone too much, not because she is ill. She said it herself [burying her face].

Of course, the direct consequence of this is that there is no contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, and there is no such thing as depression. On the contrary, I have a little contradiction with my brother, because neither of them would bring it when they were young!

Three months ago and a month later, my nephew's sister-in-law brought it by herself, both by my mother or my brother, and never really by herself! It was not until three months ago that the children stopped making so much noise at night. He just takes care of them by himself. He was about one year old and began to wean. My nephew is taken care of by my mother. My mother said that my sister-in-law goes to work at night and basically plays with my nephew for one hour every day for 24 hours. My nephew and my mother spend more than 20 hours every day. When I was at home, he basically went out to play and went alone. Anyway, so is my family. It doesn't matter, as long as she is happy!

I think so, there should be no depression!

How to treat postpartum depression? Let me talk about my experience.

Maternal women are either light or heavy, and everyone is depressed.

I was anxious in the second month. I always cry when I see children, and I am always afraid that I can't take care of them. I spent the next month alone, my mother-in-law just cooked, and the rest was cooked by myself.

Here are my ways to overcome postpartum depression:

1. Walk often, don't stay at home, take the children out for a walk.

2. Stay at home. Go back to your mother's house and tell her to help you take care of the children and relieve your pressure.

3. read and study. Reading more books can relax you. The more you know, the better, and the less pressure you will have.

4. Keep a diary. Write down your unhappy things, happy things, unhappy things, happy things and worrying things every day. Sorting out one's psychology in this way is conducive to eliminating bad emotions. Know your heart, you can know yourself, satisfy yourself, and get inner peace and tranquility.

This is my solution to depression. Is there any good way? Please leave me a message, and I will be very happy.

Maternal depression mostly occurs in the first few months after delivery, and its incidence is quite high, which leads to depression and affects normal breastfeeding. Postpartum depression is mainly manifested in the following forms.

1. I'm in a bad mood, and I care about trifles and cry. Sometimes I burst into tears unconsciously, and sometimes I feel sad and shed tears for someone else's unintentional words. Alleviating countermeasures: we must strongly restrain our emotions. If crying can really rejuvenate yourself, let it go.

2. fidgety, anxious, worried and angry. A little thing is inexplicably furious, and the anxiety caused by the change of lifestyle and the hard work of taking care of the baby has become the object of venting to the husband, mother-in-law and even the baby. Countermeasures: Relax your emotions, wait and see, calm down before venting, and communicate your hardships and dissatisfaction to your husband and family through good communication, so that everyone can understand each other and improve their emotions.

3. Autistic, listless and abusive.

As family members and friends, postpartum depression women should be more understanding and considerate to help them get out of trouble.

1. In addition to chatting with friends and relatives, you can also meet some experienced seniors and mothers of the same age, exchange the feelings of parenting life, and relieve your emotions.

2. Talk to your husband and relatives. Open your heart and talk to the people closest to you, and the effect will definitely get good results.

3. Go out for a walk to adjust your mood and take a leisurely walk near your home. If depression is serious and you need the support of your husband and family, go to the hospital and the doctor will know what kind of help and psychological adjustment you need.

As a person coming out of postpartum depression, I have the following suggestions:

1, talk to her more, let her express her depression, grievances and troubles without evaluating them, and let her pour out these negative emotions without letting them sink. Many times, people can be cured just by talking. As long as the confidante can pour out the bad feelings in her heart, her pain will be relieved by more than half. Remember not to interrupt her, don't give her opinions and suggestions in a hurry, but listen to her quietly and patiently if she wants to. When she pours out her bitter water, she should be rewarded with understanding and support. If she needs some advice, you can give it to her, but don't judge her for not doing well. In short, don't give her any pressure or negative things. What she needs more is confide, vent, support, encouragement, affirmation and warmth that she can trust and rely on.

2, recommend a book list, this book list can let her see what causes her pain and depression, and give solutions. The Power of the Present, this WeChat reading includes Wu Zhihong's You Are the Answer, Zhang Defen's Meet the Unknown Self, and Qingxin's Time is Soft and Careful; Be good, but don't be afraid. When I was depressed, these two books gave me great help and gave me the warmth and strength to change myself, as well as the direction and methods. The book suggests that we should pay more attention to ourselves, do what we like, or read or write or listen to a favorite song, learn to get along with ourselves, and tell us how to get along with our families through one warm story after another, that is, accept their true colors. She said, "the deepest love must be the lightest, without bondage, entanglement, taking, and caring." When we can try to give her such love, it will also give her the power to change herself.

From now on, cultivate a good hobby. Tell her that you are loved, you must love yourself and don't forget your growth. The so-called growth means accepting new things, learning knowledge and skills that interest her, or encouraging her to do things that she likes, such as handcraft, writing, painting and signing up for classes. Growth can bring people confidence and energy. It is necessary to have a skill, after all, to step into society. Speaking of which, it is also very necessary to find a job that you can do. When your life is no longer so narrow, your mind will be open. When you can support yourself, your sense of value will also increase. Many mothers with postpartum depression are actually caused by their lack of work, long-term parenting and low self-worth caused by various anxiety pressures.

Find a sport that she is interested in and cultivate it into an exercise habit. Spend half an hour doing a favorite sport every day, which requires the support of your family. Postpartum depression is often caused by novice mothers' anxiety, husband's incomprehension and mother-in-law's accusation, which makes novice mothers' anxiety accumulate and begin to attack and deny themselves inward. Doing her favorite exercise can relieve bad mood and stress on the one hand, and strengthen her physique on the other. When a person's body is getting better and better, her mental state will also be improved. This is my personal experience. Children often get sick after they are one year old, and I often catch a cold. After reading the book, I started fitness, running, yoga and aerobics. Three times a week, in the first month, I still caught a cold, and I haven't caught a cold since. I haven't caught a cold for half a year today. I used to catch a cold once every month or two. ;

5. If depression is not serious, you can get out through the first four items. If it is serious, it is suggested that it is necessary to find a psychological counselor for counseling. When I was looking for a way out of depression, I was lucky enough to meet a psychological counselor on WeChat. I told her about my troubles, and she gave me full understanding and support, and told me that it was not my fault and gave me some suggestions, which helped me a lot. I am very lucky. I suggest you take her to a professional counselor.

May every depressed friend recover and have a wonderful life in high live! /hug

Oh, by the way, reading the book of Wu Zhihong, a famous psychological counselor, he has a point: face up to your pain, don't fight it, feel it from your body, bring your breath to the nerve parts of your body, feel your inner emotions at the moment, observe it, allow depression to exist, and when depression is seen, it will bring light. Yoga is a good way. Try to practice yoga. Whenever you are depressed, detect negative thoughts in your brain. It says: You suck, you screwed up again, I know. It constantly criticizes you and attacks you. You know, it's not true. Learn to be a perceptor, observe your negative thinking and tell it: I see you, I hear you, I know, take three deep breaths, relax yourself and hug your most nervous parts. For example, if you feel uncomfortable with your neck, hug your neck and feel what your emotions are at the moment, such as anger and impatience. At first you didn't believe in yourself when you said you were fine, but with more practice, you will know more about yourself. Depression is a kind of self-attack. To cure her is to establish her own sense of value, learn to look at her own strengths in a different way, accept her own shortcomings, and reconcile with herself. I can come out, so can you! /hug

After giving birth to her second child in 2006, Hollywood actress gwyneth paltrow described her true feelings of postpartum depression at an award ceremony.

People who have no personal experience can't feel the same. How can a cheerful person be depressed because of having a baby?

In fact, about 80% of women will experience "depression" after giving birth. However, most researchers believe that postpartum depression is a normal phenomenon, because the baby will be accompanied by hormonal changes after birth, which will make the mother feel sad, cry and irritable under the joint action of other social psychology.

When postpartum depression persists, it may develop into postpartum depression.

And there are not a few groups with postpartum depression. A meta-analysis study in the previous two years showed that 19.2% of new mothers would experience mild postpartum depression, while 7. 1% would experience severe postpartum depression. These will have a serious impact on new mothers, babies and families.

The following is the self-diagnosis scale of postpartum depression (selected from "Dummy Postpartum Depression" by Dr. Shoshana S. Bennett). Look at the description below and write down how many are in line with your own situation.

If more than five descriptions fit your situation, please be alert, because it is very likely that you have postpartum depression.

In many families, after the wife gave birth to the child, the husband naturally began to be the shopkeeper of cutting and cutting. But as the closest person, the husband should always give his wife more care and encouragement. Always communicate calmly. You can:

△ Tell her that you know that she is uncomfortable.

△ Tell her that she will get better gradually.

△ Tell her that she is doing a good job in treatment now.

△ Tell her that she can still be a good mother, although it feels terrible.

△ Tell her that it doesn't matter if she makes mistakes, she can't make everything perfect.

△ Tell her that you know she is working hard now.

Tell her that if she needs help, she will tell you.

△ Tell her that you love her

△ Tell her that your child is all right.

If your wife is always depressed, you should seek professional help. Please don't push her aside and don't dislike her affectation and meddling. You are a very important support for her at this time.

A happy family is the result of joint management by both husband and wife. The most lasting expression of my love, is choosing to stay by your side.

Having been a nanny for more than two months, I have a deep understanding of this problem.

If you want to help her, you must first know what postpartum depression is and what its manifestations are.

Postpartum depression refers to the depression disorder after delivery.

Its manifestations are the same as other depressive disorders, such as depression, lack of pleasure, sad crying, worry, timidity, irritability, irritability, loss of self-care and baby care ability, pessimism and despair, self-injury and suicide.

cause

1. Effects of hormone levels

We can't change this, so we can't help anything.

2. Social and psychological factors

For example, your brother ignores her, or your brother does something that makes her dissatisfied and doesn't help your sister-in-law look after the children. Because we just gave birth to a baby, we get angry easily.

We slept well, and as soon as the baby cried, we had to get up and nurse. I used to lie down and eat. Once, I suddenly woke up and found that my breasts were a little stuck to my baby's nose. I suddenly felt refreshed and scared. Later, I always picked up the baby and sat and nursed it. Sometimes I take a nap while sitting and nursing. I especially hope my husband can accompany me at this time, but he snores all over the sky. Your sister-in-law gets up at night to nurse, and your brother had better stay with her.

Your family should attract enough attention. If you are not satisfied with your baby's sex, don't show it to stimulate her. Because no matter whether the baby is a boy or a girl, it is your child. This is blood. At this time, women are very sensitive. If you say anything or do anything to stimulate her, it will definitely aggravate her depression.

3 especially novice mothers are full of unknowns about their babies. The baby is changing every day, which makes our novice mother at a loss. We feel their changes, but at the same time we are confused, because we all love our babies. We are worried when the baby coughs. That's what I do. I am careless about myself, but I pay special attention to my baby. I feel very distressed that he is still so young.

After all, novice mothers have no experience with children, and we will blame ourselves. At this time, the family must comfort her and reassure her. You can take her out for a walk, buy something she wants to eat and go shopping.

In the final analysis, treat her as a treasure and give her enough care and love.

You are a kind aunt, and your parents must be kind people. Are worried about their sister-in-law. It is also her blessing to marry into your family.

I don't know how I got postpartum depression, but it must be right for a family to love her. It's also helpful for her condition.

If you are a sister, you should be her friend and have a heart-to-heart talk. Help her untie this knot. Let your brother care more and love her more. Let her live in a relaxed and happy atmosphere every day.

Happiness should be what she needs most, and she should get better soon with your family. Good luck.

Depression is difficult, people are particularly prone to depression, and the world is gloomy.

Women's postpartum depression may stimulate many negative emotions, especially their own feelings in infancy.

All you have to do is listen, support and accompany.

Don't think she is making a mountain out of a molehill, try to be emotional. In fact, at this time, emotions are easy to collapse. It's easy to be dissatisfied with yourself and feel guilty about your children.

Family members understand more and blame less.

If she can get out of depression quickly, she will. But depression is really not something that you can get out of by encouraging yourself with chicken blood.

This requires a long game with your emotions. If you have the support and understanding of your family, it is really good medicine.