How can I comment on what a person I like said? When you are in love, save some feelings, and know some gratitude during the cold war.

Original: the story of love flow is delicate and emotional.

By subtle stories

Not long ago, at the fifth anniversary sharing meeting, I made some interpretations of men's rough texture and talked about three keys about roughness: first, don't think too much; Second, don't be too attached to someone's things; Third, the process of retreat and retrogression. Many friends say that the first two are easy to understand, and the third one is not. Today, I will talk to you about these points.

This fifth anniversary, it is also useful to use roughness as the key word of the year. As the embodiment of men's attitude, roughness is an important part that I think can attract girls quickly. The word "attitude" was often mentioned before, but this time I concretized my attitude into a more vivid representation, which is to some extent the progress of attitude in understanding. Roughness is the category of attitude, which can summarize attitude in a large range. For example, a supercilious attitude can be defined by roughness. Be neither humble nor supercilious, just don't think too much. Being neither humble nor supercilious means not being too obsessed with yourself. So many metaphysical attitudes suddenly become visible and tangible, and you will have more direction in concrete practice.

Just now I used roughness to define neither supercilious nor servile. I guess many buddies didn't expect it. This also shows that even the first two points are easy to understand and not easy to apply in practice. Don't think too much, it is an overall summary of a series of related behaviors, from nervousness when chatting, to thinking when chatting is more difficult, and then to more complicated mentality construction. Don't think too much. These five words are a system, so don't just understand a lot of superficial things, learn to make everything work.

Don't be too attached to someone's things. Many people here may only understand themselves as girls or other people they like, but few people will understand themselves, that is, being rough also includes not being overly attached to themselves. This is an extension of Krishnamurti's infinite theory. Self-restriction is an important factor that hinders many people from further growth, because many people are too obsessed with their own habits, which can be divided into self-belief, self-obsession and self-contradiction. I won't say this here. Let me talk a little bit about self-belief first. Proper self-confidence is a necessary productive labor framework, but excessive self-confidence is self-persistence and limits oneself. Generally, sensitive men are more likely to be overconfident, while insensitive men can benefit from it confidently. That's because plain will make men too entangled in right and wrong, and right and wrong are wrong. It doesn't matter whether they have to fight for victory or defeat. In this way, they will relax and gain knowledge from outside themselves more easily. This is roughness.

In the process of chasing girls, we often have a feeling of liking her very much, even if we just know nothing, we can't stop this strong feeling at all. But objectively speaking, you haven't experienced anything with her, or even dated her, and you can't really like them, but the role of illusion also exists objectively. In a way, this illusion of liking someone very much is also a beautiful part of love. On the fifth anniversary, I said that if I didn't want to be too persistent, I just needed a second similar object. If one day you go out and chat up two girls of similar types and can share your feelings, then you like her feelings very much, and you will suddenly disappear, without focus and persistence.

In this case, there are two similar objects, and you have no attachment to any object. If you can't talk to one girl, then another girl can bear this loss and helplessness well, and when you talk happily with another girl, your emotional projection to the girl who didn't respond much before will be more calm and you will become indifferent. This calm is pulling away, but few buddies can form this calm when there is only one object to choose from. This is also the difference between a master and a rookie. Masters can unconsciously control their mentality with imagination, but it needs a training process.

When you calm down, you won't care too much about the girl's reaction, which will help you chase her. To approach her again in a calm state is to return. In the state of return, you will convey a relatively calm attitude, which is rough. Many girls just like men's calmness when facing difficulties. This calm feeling can be keenly captured by men in the process of chatting with her, which constitutes attraction.

This paper makes a further interpretation of these key points, so that you can understand them more easily and get closer to the general state through practice. For beginners, it is the best and easiest to be so rude and strike up a conversation with two girls of similar types at the same time. But if you have a certain foundation and experience, you should try to cultivate this state by yourself, that is, when there is only one girl, you can also pull away and return. This is a test of one's mentality construction, but it is a self-challenge that you should complete, because only in this way can you find your own feeling flow.