Tell me behind my back

From ancient times to the present, whether it is the ancient court or the workplace today, there are really many villains who complain about themselves behind them.

Few people don't hate villains. Since everyone hates villains, why do they still exist?

Everything in this world follows a law: existence is reasonable.

Since the villain exists, it proves that its existence is reasonable.

In the workplace, there is really one person who likes villains.

This person is the leader or boss of the company.

Generally speaking, in large companies, leaders have their own independent offices, which are generally isolated from employees.

Although the physical location is isolated, leaders still need to keep abreast of the dynamics of employees, and at this time they must rely on informants.

When I first entered the workplace, I once heard a leader say a word.

He said that subordinates must be able to be the small eyes of leaders, and employees need to report to him in time if they have any troubles.

Leaders need informants, which is conducive to their management and control of employees. It is not difficult to understand why there has always been a place for informers since ancient times.

Some people like to snitch because of its essence: the plunder of resources.

In a unit, there are so many resources available. I will be less if you are more, and more if you are less.

Therefore, people who like to snitch are essentially robbing resources.

Just like the ancient harem, why do concubines always fight with each other?

The essential reason is that they are all plundering the same resource-the emperor's favor.

(1) jealous type

In the workplace, there are many people better than themselves.

For a villain, when he meets someone better than himself, he will feel jealous, then he will feel resentful and he will try his best to discredit Israel.

Complaining to the leader is a good way to help yourself eradicate dissidents with the help of the leader.

(2) Revenge type

In the workplace, there is a person who is very narrow-minded Maybe you accidentally angered him at work. Because he is too small-minded, he will think you bully him, so he will get back at you.

The best way to get back at you is to tell you. He can't take care of you by himself, but he wants to take care of you by the hand of the leader.

(3) Interest orientation

Interest-oriented villain, the purpose of complaining to others, is more to win the favor of leaders, in order to enhance their position in the team.

A friend of mine once told me a true story:

There is a new colleague who has come to the company without any friends. Afraid of being left out, she took the initiative to have dinner with this girl, talk to her and share things with the company.

One day, she saw on the Internet that the position of department head of the new girl was being recruited, so she curiously asked the new girl if the leader was leaving.

Unexpectedly, the new girl didn't respond on the surface, and immediately complained to my friend as soon as she turned around.

Tell my friend's department head that my friend leaks information casually and don't discuss things like the resignation of the leader.

As a result, my friend's department leader ran to the office and scolded my friend.

Later, my friend learned that it was her who was scolded by the leader, and she also understood who accused her of her crime.

(4) Types of borrowing knives

There is also a scheming villain in the workplace, that is, the knife borrower.

This kind of person is very scheming. If they have any comments or suggestions, they won't go directly to the boss. He will say to your face that he used you to get you to the boss.

For example, a little girl who just graduated is relatively simple. She joined a company, and an old employee complained to her all day about the low salary, and the boss didn't give her a raise. If she doesn't get a raise, she will resign.

The girl thinks this old employee is good. It would be a pity if she left just because of her salary.

So she ran to the boss and asked if she could give everyone a raise. As a result, I was reprimanded by my boss, and my impression was greatly reduced.

Just like the queen in the palace, she wanted to hurt Zhen Xuan herself, but she hurt her with An Lingrong's hand and finally pushed herself.

There is Jia Guiren in the wishful "Imperial Love in the Palace". She wanted to hurt someone else's prince and didn't do it herself, but she went to Gao Guifei to give her advice. In the end, the simple Gao Guifei listened and killed other people's princes in Jia Guiren's way.

(5) exclusive type

Pay attention to standing in line in the workplace, it is possible to secretly divide into two or more teams in a department, and different teams are led by different leaders.

People from different teams may harm you, especially when your position is very important and others want to take you down and replace you with one of their own. At this time, it is very easy to find a way to harm you.

For example:

A big department has two small teams, and people in one team always stare at whether people in the other team have made mistakes.

Once someone on the other team was found to have made a mistake, their team immediately ran to the big leader to complain.

Even often go to the person who made a mistake in the company's large group, so that leaders can see that this person made a mistake. In the long run, the leader's impression of this person will be greatly reduced.

(1) For the jealous villain-learn to stay away from petty.

Narrow-minded people are too sensitive Once they feel bullied or wronged by you, they will try to get back at you.

Therefore, we should learn to recognize the narrow-minded people around us and keep a certain distance from them.

(2) For the vengeful villain-learn to keep a low profile.

Too high-profile can easily attract others' jealousy, especially when you are much better than others, you must learn to hide your sharpness and learn to do things in a low profile, otherwise it will easily attract revenge on the villain.

(3) For the benefit-oriented villain-don't be a good person casually.

In the workplace, don't be a good person casually, especially an interest-oriented person. Don't feel that others are isolated and pitiful, just treat others as friends and talk to others with your heart.

You are a farmer yourself, but you don't know if the person you help is a cobra.

(4) Don't be a bird man for the villain who is impeded by the knife.

When someone tells you something, you must analyze the motivation and purpose of the other person, so that you can judge whether the other person wants to use you to achieve her own purpose.

Never go to the boss for others. When you are his spokesman, you will only get hurt in the end.

(5) For the exclusive villain-there are ways to deal with it.

Don't get excited when the other person is obviously not in the same boat as you, and the other person intends to embarrass you in front of the leader.

You can choose not to respond to sarcastic and jealous slanders.

For example, your husband gave you a skirt for Valentine's Day. You wear it to work in the company. Some people say that your skirt is really beautiful. You said your husband gave you a Valentine's Day gift.

Some people say that your husband is so stingy that he will buy you a skirt.

At this time, you'd better not respond. When you respond, two people are bound to break up, but when you don't respond, it just looks like the other person is mean.

Another situation is that when the other party complains to you, there are so many lies in the truth, which is very dangerous.

Naked complaints are hard to succeed, but the truth mixed with lies is easy to succeed. Sometimes deliberately concealing the background of things will lead to different results.

For example, it is often seen on the Internet that a guest of a program is maliciously edited, which shows that the guest is playing big cards and does not cooperate. But if you look at the unedited version, the truth comes out, which is not the case.

When you encounter such a complaint, you must explain the ins and outs of the matter to your boss, let him know the detailed process of the matter, and expose the lies of the villain/

You can also guide the focus of the story to other places, otherwise the other person's lies about you will easily become the truth.

In the workplace, don't think about calculating others, but learn to protect yourself when others calculate yourself. In the face of different types of villains, you should learn to use different coping strategies:

(1) For the jealous villain-learn to stay away from petty.

(2) For the vengeful villain-learn to keep a low profile.

(3) For the benefit-oriented villain-don't be a good person casually.

(4) Don't be a bird man for the villain who is impeded by the knife.

(5) For the exclusive villain-there are ways to deal with it.

Finally, I hope everyone will not be calculated by others, and I will not be a person who calculates others.

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