In the face of rebellious "kids" who love to resist, parents can rely on these three tricks to resolve them.

In the face of rebellious "kids" who love to resist, parents can rely on these three tricks to solve the problem. I don't know when the child's temper became more and more unruly and disobedient. Even if an adult says something, he can answer back a lot. Every day, this kind of quarrel drama is staged, which makes my mother very tired … which link went wrong? Let the psychologist tell you.

The kindergarten is over, and only a few children are still sliding on the slide in the huge campus. Suddenly, a call comes into the hilarious sound of the playground: "Xiao Bao, it's time to stop playing!" Mom has to go home to cook! Xiao Bao, Xiao Bao, do you hear me? We are going home! "My mother is calling anxiously, but I can only hear Xiaobao keep saying," I don't want to go home, I want to play, I don't want to go home, I want to play ... "... What should I do at this moment? How to teach a rebellious "kid" who resists everything?

I can't beat Xiaobao, so my mother can only comfort herself: "It seems that Xiaobao really wants to play, and the children need activities, so let him play again ..." Finally, when all the children went home, Xiaobao found himself alone, and reluctantly told his mother that he was going home. As soon as he got home, Xiao Bao threw his backpack and bag on the floor and didn't take off his socks, so he ran to his room to play. Mom ran after her and shouted, "Xiao Bao, why are things littered?" You should put your backpack away, hang it around, take off your socks and put it in the laundry basket when you go home! Xiao Bao paused, took off his socks, threw them on the floor again, and ran into the room to play. Mother was a little impatient and worried that she was too wordy, so she had to sigh and pick up Xiaobao's things, wondering if Xiaobao had a problem with her attention and didn't listen to the instructions clearly.

In the middle of dinner, Xiaobao suddenly wanted to drink water. He ran and jumped and poured a glass of water to drink, and accidentally knocked over the water in the process. Mother asked Xiaobao to help clean the floor, but Xiaobao said with an unhappy face, "It's very troublesome! My mother was so busy that she just prepared dinner that she finally sat down to rest and eat. When she heard Xiaobao's reaction, she was very angry. She felt that the child was really ignorant, but her mother still patiently said, "Mom is very tired. You should have helped to wipe the water! Unexpectedly, when Xiaobao heard this, he said angrily and loudly, "I didn't mean to, why should I wipe it?"

This time, my mother was really angry. She scolded Xiaobao: "Why are you so disobedient? It's very hard for mom to do housework every day. It's really naughty of you to ask you for help, and you have so many reasons. Before the words were finished, Xiaobao began to cry loudly: "I don't want it, I just don't want it ..." Two hands still knocked on the table angrily, and accidentally knocked over the food ... < P > Mom couldn't help but burst into an emotional outburst and roared at Xiaobao: "What's your attitude! Go to the penalty station! Xiaobao's mood also got excited, and the more he cried, the louder he slammed his foot against the wall, muttering, "I'm so hungry, I want to eat;" You scold me, but you don't love me; I don't want to stand as punishment, I want to eat ... "A look of injustice, hearing these words, the mother, who is cleaning up a full table of food, was angry and blamed herself, thinking," Alas ... this child is really disobedient, but will I be too strict and hurt her heart?

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If there are children who often disobey orders at home, parents will feel that they are too opinionated and difficult to compromise, and they must "try harder" to teach them right and wrong, and fall into a cycle of who is right and who is wrong and who is arguing endlessly. In fact, what such children need is a parenting style that combines love and discipline. Through the following tips, we can deal with emotions, reduce preaching, let children actually experience the correlation between behavior and consequences, and correct from experience, so as to help children. Yes！ Parents can do this!

1. Use neutral sentences to state instructions

Children's judgment and self-control are not yet mature. Instead of telling him what he can't do, tell him what to do in order to get the recognition and support of adults. In addition, children are prone to make behaviors that do not conform to social norms. If children are ordered or asked only by words such as "no, no, etc.", in the long run, children will be overly sensitive to such negative signals. Even if the parents' tone is not too strong, children will have a strong feeling of being blamed and thus enter the process and result of emotional explosion. At this point, it will bring unexpected good results to explain what the child wants to accomplish with neutral sentences and peaceful emotions.

"The more anxious the child is, the slower the parents will be; The fiercer the child, the calmer the parents should be ",which is the only way to face the naysayers. Children who disobey orders are usually in a high mood. If their parents are also in an emotional state, it is easy to pile up each other's emotions. When children feel more wronged, sad and angry, only by dealing with them in a neutral way can they have better results and help them learn emotional awareness and behavior control.

In Xiaobao's case, just saying to him, "I told you …", "Why do you always …" and "How many times do you want me to tell him …" doesn't make him want to clean up, but it is even more difficult for him to act properly under the attack of strong emotions and physical conditions. If you can empathize with his feelings: "I know you didn't mean it, but you knocked it over because you were in a hurry to drink water, and you are hungry, so you don't want to clean it up now", then tell him in a neutral and peaceful way: "Please dry the water and you can eat. "This way, children will be more acceptable.

Of course, this doesn't mean that children will willingly complete the instructions. At this time, please be sure to continue to "repeat" the command neutrally; In a single repeated statement, parents' emotions will be more calm, while statements without accusations will not arouse children's greater response.