Making money and taking care of your family? How do contemporary women find themselves

It is said that it is difficult for people to reach middle age, especially for middle-aged women. They have to work to earn money, do housework and raise young children. Under the heavy pressure of life, my dream box has long been buried deep in my heart and fell on the dust of the years. Middle-aged women are more anxious because they want too much and have too little energy.

Xiaoqing's confusion is also the confusion I once felt. I used to take care of my children full-time at home for 2 years. Even though my mother helped me buy food, cook and clean, I still felt exhausted at the end of the day. But my husband can't understand. He thinks I just take care of a child at home every day, and occasionally thinks I spend too much money. It is said that the economic base determines the superstructure. It can be said that housewives who have no economic income have no position in the family, and even if they do more, they are still idle people to outsiders.

After my child was 2 years old, I started to work. My job income is not high. At first, I also felt that my income was too low and I would weigh it in my mind. I just left my children at home and went out to work without making much money. Is it worth it? Seeing friends with high incomes around me, I am also envious and have the idea of job-hopping. But on second thought, although my current job is not high in income, I am close to home and have free time. I was late in the morning and left early after work. There is something at home, just say hello to the leader. These are extremely accommodating. On the other hand, I can't accept many high-paying positions that require business trips and holidays without rest. Since it is unacceptable, let's do the current thing first.

When the work is not very busy, I will find some parenting books to read and learn scientific parenting experience. Go to practice yoga and calligraphy during lunch break. After work, I feel very cute when I see Bao Xiao who has been away for a day. These are wonderful experiences that you can't have as a stay-at-home mother. If you are busy at work, you will be particularly devastated. I will wait until the child falls asleep, climb out of the warm quilt and sit in front of the computer to work overtime. Although it is also very hard, I have nothing to complain about since I have chosen this lifestyle. Who is not carrying a heavy load?

If you want to take care of your family after work, then don't ask too much of your work. Choosing a relatively leisure job can spare no effort to take care of children. If you have a high demand for work, you have to sacrifice your family.

I have three friends with high income around me, which can be said to be three typical representatives.

Let's start with friend a. Friend A works in a consulting company and does many consulting courses all over the country every year. Her career has begun to take shape, but she can't take care of her children every day. The husband is a civil servant and doesn't need to travel frequently, so the responsibility of taking care of the children falls on the husband. However, although she is very busy at work, she will still set aside two months, completely put down her work and spend all her time with her family.

Friend B works as a sales manager in a Fortune 500 company. B's husband has been abroad for several years, so compared with A, B is not so lucky. B I have to take care of the children and go on a business trip. How did she do it? She has to take her children with her when she is on a business trip, so the children have followed her everywhere since she was a child. All her colleagues and the leaders of their company are familiar with her children. B is really tied up, so leave the child in the office and colleagues can take care of it.

Besides, friend c, friend c is also a foreign company sales, earning a lot of money. Since her daughter was born, she hasn't taken it all night. The children always sleep with grandma, and the nanny does all the housework, so she concentrates on her work to make money. Two years ago, she had a second child. She is also very sad. Leaving the second child at grandma's won't make any difference. Only when she has a long vacation will she take her second child back to her home to accompany her. Her children are also very smart and excellent, and her personality is not abnormal because she lacked her mother's company when she was a child. She likes to travel. Now that the boss has grown up, she has been traveling and exercising with him for many years. It's good to run a marathon with my eldest daughter now. This is also her own recognition of the value of life.

Talking about herself and three friends, did Xiaoqing also find her own confused answer?

In fact, many times, we have been looking for balance, but perhaps this is an unsolved problem. Family, career and hobbies cannot be completely balanced. Where you spend your time, you will get something there.

There is a saying in Japanese Nozaburo's Sweeping the Road: We must affirm the present situation and make full use of the existing conditions. Don't always think about what you lack, think about what you have; Instead of thinking about excuses that you can't do, think about what you can do now.

Life is an open-book exam, and there is no standard answer. Everyone can see his situation clearly and try his best to write the answer in his heart in order to get a happy life.