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Why are people afraid that modern psychologists will find that the biggest difference between people and animals is that people are afraid of things that don't exist-they themselves are surprised by this phenomenon because they don't know where this fear comes from. It is meaningful to discuss this issue, which can touch the secret passage of the soul more effectively than we can discuss a work. According to james reid, a British theologian, "many fears come from our ignorance of the world we live in and the control of the world over us." "In order to achieve a complete life, the first thing we need to do is to gain the power to control fear." In modern society, fear is tormenting us more and more strongly, and everyone cannot avoid it. This reminds me of Mersey, an English poet and essayist in the19th century. He said that he would ask such a question: "The universe is friendly to human beings.

Really? "This unsolved problem plagues many people who think they are smart and makes people feel the impermanence of the world. It is precisely because of the finiteness and smallness of human beings that people are afraid of many incomprehensible things compared with the unfathomable differences between the universe and the world. For example, until today, many people still naively think that the numbers "four" and "thirteen" will bring them ominous, which shows how fragile and helpless people are in the face of impermanence.

There are many concrete things that threaten the survival of mankind and make people have to be afraid. For example, pain, or mental trauma, is everywhere in our lives. Not to mention those bloody and dark passages in human history, even now, people are on the verge of danger because of ideological poverty, emotional decadence, love moving towards desire, noble spirit retreating from secular life, increasing violence and nuclear threat everywhere. This troubled world is beyond the reach of mankind. The superman predicted by Nietzsche was not born, but modern people bear the burden that only superman can bear, which is also the reason for their fear and despair. Let's recall Atlas in classical mythology! He can carry the world on his shoulders and walk on Atlas Mountain on the coast of North Africa. He did it effortlessly, because he is Atlas! However, if he puts the world on our shoulders, we will be crushed immediately, because we are just ordinary people and can't bear this burden. The same is true of mental problems. Since the Renaissance, people have been established as the center and ultimate existence of the universe, and people have begun to take responsibility for their own survival, which is like carrying the world on Atlas' shoulders on people's shoulders and eventually being crushed. People have to pay for what they have done, just as Jews killed Jesus of Nazareth and paid for the concentration camp, so everyone can say that they are paying the price. Repeated setbacks have put the seriousness of survival in front of everyone. In Freud's time, human beings suffered only sexual frustration, but now it has become a frustration of survival, which is even more serious. Perhaps this is how the tragedy begins: as a limited existence, people simply can't bear everything for themselves. I now recall when ancient saints knelt before God and prayed. They can pour out all their troubles, pains and misfortunes to the Supreme Lord, their sad tears can flow to him, and the burden of survival can be entrusted to him. How happy they are!

However, in the twentieth century, human beings chose the road of self-commitment, so they abandoned the sacred belief. Who will comfort us except people's self-pity? When I read Van Gogh's letter to his lover, I felt that this lonely painter needed love and comfort so much. Picasso, the master of cubism painting, has been painting cubism all his life, abstracting people into lines and squares, but he painted his wife and lovers with human touch, which shows that Picasso hopes to find comfort in the portraits of these lovers; Freud said in a letter to his lover, "Little Princess, please love me irrationally when you come to me!" " This shows that Freud also longed for comfort in love, but it was terrible for him to say such a thing. Freud believed that sex is the ultimate goal of everything, and he did not believe in the existence of love in theory. Because he is a human being, he has a primitive nature of longing for true love, which will curse Freud's sex-centered thought. When he said "please love me irrationally", the shock he felt inside could probably be described as trembling.

The examples of Van Gogh, Picasso and Freud all point out the same fact: the separation between man and himself is the separation between existence and essence. As Kafka said, what I said was different from what I thought, and what I thought was different from what I thought. These split facts made Van Gogh, Picasso, Kafka, Freud and others fall into fear and despair. They can't make themselves who they want to be. What's more, everyone's cultural situation seems to be a huge cocoon in which self is imprisoned. This cocoon causes people not only to be unable to communicate with others smoothly, but also to feel alienated from intrapersonal communication. The impossibility of communication (not communication in a general sense, but communication between personalities) brings a result: everyone's me has become a lonely me. Loneliness, real loneliness. I think of antonioni's movies.

Zooming in, the whole film is full of the sound of the camera closing the door, and there is almost no dialogue. Even if the models are irrational, there is no hint of communication. Finally, on the tennis court, a masked man played tennis alone without an opponent. At this time, the lens is shrinking, and the people in the picture are shrinking until there is an empty stadium left. This film, like another film by antonioni, The Red Desert, fully expresses the loneliness, indifference and emptiness of modern people without communication and comfort. At the same time, movie master, Ferini and ingmar bergman almost all expressed this theme to reveal the universal spiritual dilemma of mankind.

People appear in the artist's field of vision in this way, which inevitably contains the artist's deep fear of the world and people themselves. Bao Si Will said: "Nothing is more distressing than fear; Fear makes us miserable and makes us mean in our own eyes. " Montaigne said: "fear is more hateful and unbearable than death itself." Here, fear means losing dignity. When Kafka wrote in the novel "Cave" that small animals pricked up their ears and listened nervously to the movement outside the cave, he had reached the abyss of loneliness and fear. Ingmar bergman finished filming the famous film Silence in 1962, and said that he had discovered an important fact: God is gone, and now there is only silence in this world. Faced with this fact, Bergman was very afraid. Afterwards, he told reporters that he finished the play Silence while listening to Bach's music. I think Bergman is using Bach's music to resist his inner fears. Let's recall Coppola's famous film Apocalypse Now. I am walking on a seemingly endless river, and I am more and more afraid of what I will face. When I saw the officer (Marlon Brando) hiding in the forest and refusing to fight, fear drove me to cut the officer with a knife to relieve my inner pressure. At this time, only the officer fell in a pool of blood in pain. Fear! "Here, Coppola showed us how much war has hurt human nature.

Fear, it is deeper than fear. Fear is facing a specific object. Fear, like anxiety, may have no specific object and be boundless. Physical attacks (such as a tiger coming at you) will make you afraid, but mental injuries will produce fear and eventually lead to despair. Fear is now, and fear may happen in the future and unknown things. So, how does fear happen? Or, why are people afraid? A pig will be killed at night and can eat happily at noon, but people can't do this because people will worry about the future. If there is no sense of security in the future, no happiness brought by ease, and no communication between personalities, people cannot find a suitable position for their existence. Once he stepped out of the standard of existence, anything could threaten him. Without a greater protector and unreliable self, where does comfort come from? Man raises himself to the center of the universe, but he can't control his own destiny. In the face of such a severe living situation, fear is inevitable.

Before discussing the causes of fear, let me talk about the basic forms of fear. Fear has many faces, but it can be summarized into three forms: first, fear of things without personality; The second is fear of "non-existence"; Third, fear of death. Maybe we can think of some other forms of fear, but the above three actually cover most types of fear. The intensity of fear is also different, some are weak, some are strong enough to cause despair, and some are in between. Many modern people have experienced this terrible darkness, resulting in a philosophy of despair, and fear is manifested in trembling, which shows that people have suffered more than they can bear, so that their psychological actions have lost their sense of security and dependence. In the face of existing threats, people need a greater protector.

Why are people afraid of "impersonal things"? The reason is that since everyone's self has become a cocoon, they can no longer understand the existence outside the self. He ignored the divine existence and no longer imagined the perfection of human existence. In fact, man's own existence is open, and he is eager to unite with higher existence to make up for his own shortcomings. Therefore, the East has the idea of "harmony between man and nature", while the West has the enlightenment of "harmony between man and nature". In ancient China, people emphasized that "man" and "heaven" must be unified, coordinated, consistent and harmonious, which was called "towering over the sky, praising and enlightening". However, there is no sacred reality corresponding to "heaven" in China's thought, and "heaven" seems very empty. Finally, "the unity of man and nature" is understood as "humanization of nature", and the result is "man". In western thought, "heaven" is God, Christ and the holy spirit that gives life to people. "Unity of Heaven and Man" means that the divinity of the Trinity meets the humanity that it redeems in time, but it does not produce the third sex. It is the duality of God and man represented by Jesus Christ, and its ultimate unity is "heaven"-"a new heaven, a new earth and a new Jerusalem". Nowadays, in this era of blasphemy against materialism, the East and the West no longer advocate "heaven", but enthusiastically pursue territorial things, and human existence is completely close to sacred existence. This kind of existence is closed, and people begin to know themselves from the standpoint of people, just like wearing an eye patch. As a result, the more modern people understand their own humanity, the more they find it difficult to identify and have no connotation, so they begin to fear the "impersonal" things of human beings, and fear is justified. This is why the more modern artists want to know people, the less people have a place in their works. In fact, the original meaning of the ancient Greek famous saying "know yourself" is "remember: you will die!" However, modern people misunderstand this sentence.

An example can illustrate this problem. Children are usually afraid of being left alone in dark and "inhuman" rooms. No matter how people comfort him, in western countries with Christian tradition, parents will say to their children, "Don't be afraid, because God is here." This is a simple and wonderful truth, because personality exists, infinite, in the past and eternal in the future, and people with the same personality need not be afraid of "impersonal" things. Many psychologists use this method to show the appearance of "God exists" pragmatically, but it can help the sick to some extent. Carl Jung often tells his patients that in all life, if God exists, they can cope with psychological fear. Eight days before Jung died, he talked about him in his last interview with reporters.

What god do you think is; "Anything that invades my will from the outside or emerges from my collective subconscious." His suggestion is to call it "God" and submit to "He". Why can Jung cure many people in this way? Because the existence of God dispels people's fear of "impersonal things", which is too real.

The second basic fear is about "nonexistence". Why are many people afraid of "nonexistence" today? Since it doesn't exist, what can be used to arouse people's fears? Because modern people generally don't know the origin and end of everything, and don't know where they come from, unpredictable theory and existence itself make them at a loss. Moreover, most modern people think that everything, the world and people are accidental, which denies inevitability and dominance and will naturally lead to confusion in understanding. Since everything is accidental, everything has infinite possibilities: what exists may become nonexistent in one moment, and what does not exist may become existent in another moment. Where can I feel safe? Existence is meaningless, because it lacks a fixed foundation, and people will naturally be right.

I'm afraid I'm not there

The third basic fear is the fear of death. This fear is the most obvious and destructive. "Remember: you will die!" For everyone, it is a cruel fact. Death is so indisputable. Augustine said: "Everything is uncertain, only death is certain." The power of death will reveal the meaning of all living people: everyone alive is going to die, preparing for death, and finally throwing himself into the arms of death without exception. Since I am doomed to die, and death is out of my control, it may come to me at any time, so what is the meaning of my life? The fear of death is actually a question about the meaning of life, which is almost the most fundamental problem that puzzles all philosophers. There must be too few people who look forward to death as a kind of happiness like Socrates, because it requires the courage to devote themselves to the truth. Plato's ideas originated from sugar.

Lardy's uncompromising death. For Socrates, dialogue with truth-saying "Tao" (logos)-can make him ignore some terrible essence of death. Even when the person in charge of poison warned Socrates to talk as little as possible, otherwise the poison would attack slowly and he had to eat two or three servings, Socrates replied and prepared wine, "I might as well eat two or three servings." Socrates overcame his fear of death, but people in this era have lost their pursuit of Tao. What else can he use to resist this fear? Fear means a threat, the threat of time to us, and the self-threat caused by self-defects, which is related to sin, because "the wages of sin are death." In Genesis, Adam was cursed by God after eating the fruit from the tree of good and evil: "You must die!" " "This shows that people's fall is time-bound.

Among them, death means that time limits people. The threat of time is not only that it will end our lives, but even more frightening is that it may end in a * * * way in advance, such as diseases and disasters. Because everyone has infinite and eternal desire (to have children and write a book to prolong his life), everyone wants to die later, but in fact, people can't do this, so the fear of death arises, because this is an unexpected guest who may knock at the door at any time. Another reason for fear of death is that people can't be responsible for what they do in their lives. Man's conscience longs for justice and holiness, but there is no goodness in man. When people live in sin, there will be a kind of pain of self-blame and self-righteousness. Because people can't face death with their own holy knowledge, the fear of death is actually the fear of judgment after death.

How can we alleviate fear and gain the power to control it? I think, first of all, people should realize their limitations and shortcomings, so as to maintain awe of the unknown world, instead of rashly seeing themselves as the ultimate and thinking that they can bear everything. The truth is that man is placed in a world beyond his control, and he can no longer break through the cocoon of fear by his own strength. He must admit that man is not alive by himself, and he must believe that there is a bigger existence in this world. Only this bigger survivor can protect his own survival, the meaning of human life can be confirmed, and "impersonal things" and "non-existence" can be overcome. This fact will become more and more acute, because mankind has reached an extremely fragile position at the end of the century, and he can no longer find the confidence he had in himself a few years ago. In other words, many cruel facts in history prove that when human beings lose the guardian of greater existence, they may become as savage and do whatever they want as animals. In this case, it is not surprising that people feel fear, but to completely eliminate their inner fears and anxieties unless they become citizens of another world-citizens of the eternal world. This world will give him new and more valuable strength, confidence and courage, and let him successfully liberate himself from the world of fear. This is indeed a secret, and I want to quote james reid again: "It is in this eternal world that Christ discovered this fearless secret. He knows that neither natural disasters nor human cruelty can touch the things in the eternal world in which he lives. In this eternal world, nothing will be threatened by water and fire, because the power of water and fire will never reach this field. " Pascal seems to say it more clearly in the Record of Thoughts: "The real fear comes from faith; False fear comes from doubt. True fear is accompanied by hope, because it comes from faith, because people are afraid of the God they believe in. The former is afraid of losing God, and the latter is afraid of finding God. " Indeed, fear in the ultimate sense is not pure fear, nor is it an emotion. It concerns the origin of our existence. As long as there is a sense of existence, as long as people don't want to live, as long as they haven't stopped thinking, they will face this problem sooner or later, because it is so real and unavoidable. Philosopher max scheler said that man has completely become a problem relative to himself-the beginning of solving these problems lies in understanding and estimating these problems, and I began to face up to and explore my fear and its basic forms, which may show that I am on the way out of fear.

The source of terror is unknown. Because of the unknown, there is a fear. I am worried because I don't know anything.

Calm down and relax yourself. Don't be too nervous. Nervousness can promote the imagination of the brain and deepen the imagination of terror. Tell yourself you don't need to panic. We can also lift the veil of the unknown, which is the best way to solve the shadow of terror, to understand the unknown, and many things, once the truth comes out, we will know that there is nothing in fact and it is not worth our fear.

As long as human beings have the characteristics of fantasy, they are still curious about the unknown. It will naturally continue the characteristics of fear. Almost all normal people have fear.

Animal instinct. In addition, even if you have heard of or witnessed injuries, or if you have been hurt, your fear will increase.

Because people don't want to die, because people want to ml, eat meat, get rich, live comfortably, suffer and die, so they are afraid.

Why are people afraid?