What kind of experience is it to chat with people with high emotional intelligence?

My wife was diagnosed with severe depression in Beijing 3A Hospital three years ago. The attending doctor left a deep impression on me, and what she said to me completely changed my cognition. She is the doctor with the highest emotional intelligence I have ever seen. She is not beautiful, but she looks very comfortable, especially every word she says is like warm tea in winter, which makes people feel very warm.

When my wife was diagnosed with severe depression, I felt that the sky suddenly collapsed. When my wife went out to ask for medical records, my tears were like broken beads, which I couldn't control at all.

The attending doctor saw my poor and helpless appearance and said to me calmly. So you are really a good wife. Although you were diagnosed today, according to your description, she was severely depressed two years ago. Thanks to your careful care, understanding and tolerance, nothing happened to him. You are his spiritual pillar now. Hang in there and you'll be fine. You are different from other women. You can make your lover better again. You need to adjust your state. From now on, you decide the happiness of your family. With you, your family will be happy.

At that time, the attending doctor always recognized my existence, and she really gave me the courage to live. With you, your family will be happy. This sentence supported me to accompany my husband for five years and spent the darkest stage of my life.

I remember the Spring Festival of the year when I was diagnosed. I specially bought many hometown specialties for the attending doctor and mailed them to show my gratitude.

Later, I heard that the attending doctor also won some national lifetime achievement awards. A seemingly ugly life, but a few words with her will give you an epiphany.

When people are most vulnerable, what they need is not money, but spiritual comfort. This comfort is not ineffective persuasion, but powerful communication.

With you, your family will be happy. It is this sentence that has become the support of my life. After my wife got depressed, I didn't want to back down, because I knew that if I took a step back, my family would break up. Because of love, so move on, because of love, so love.

Open your heart, let the sun shine in, constantly improve your personal accomplishment, and strive to be a woman with high emotional intelligence. May our life be warmer and brighter.

Speaking of high eq, it reminds me of my mother-in-law. My mother-in-law really makes me feel that her emotional intelligence is very high, and talking and chatting with her is like a spring breeze.

When I first went to my mother-in-law's house, my husband and I were not married. She and her father-in-law met us at the bus stop in town. My first impression of my mother-in-law was very good. I feel that her voice is neither too loud nor too anxious, giving people a very gentle and comfortable feeling. Far from us, she waved to us. When she saw me, she held my hand and said, Are you tired and hungry after five or six hours of driving? Let's not rush home, let's find a restaurant to eat first. I've been worried about you all the way, afraid that you won't know to bring something to eat on the way, and you'll be hungry then. It warms my heart.

I stayed in their house for three days, and the next day a colleague of my father-in-law went to see my father-in-law on something. My father-in-law's colleagues have never seen her husband before, but only know that her in-laws have a son and a daughter. That colleague said to my father-in-law: Are these your sons and daughters? They all look fine. I was a little embarrassed at the time. My mother-in-law smiled and said, yes, my daughter is not only beautiful, but also very caring. She is much better than my son. I really admired my mother-in-law at that time. My mother-in-law's emotional intelligence is really high, and she is so talkative.

When I left, my mother-in-law gave me a red envelope. I was a little embarrassed to ask for it. I also said this foolishly: aunt, if you do this, I will never come to your house again. My mother-in-law listened to my words and helped me pack my schoolbag and put the red envelope in it. She still held my hand and said, "Daughter, my aunt really feels like she is congenial to you. When you left, my heart was still not very strong. There is not much money in the red envelope. This is just a token of my aunt's appreciation. When I go back, I will leave you some fruit. It doesn't matter if you don't come to see your aunt later. " My mother-in-law's words give me the feeling that my mother-in-law is not simple and the road is too deep!

When my husband and I got engaged, my mother-in-law took my mother's hand and said, Sister-in-law, if you have any requirements, we will try our best to meet them. We really appreciate that you can educate your children so well and so sweetly. My son is lucky to have married your daughter. Don't worry, if my son treats your daughter badly in the future, I will spare my son first. Although my mother said my mother-in-law was a little hypocritical, she still liked to hear these words. My mother said that if she were her, she really couldn't say these words.

During my pregnancy, when I went back to my hometown, my relatives and friends in my hometown said that I was pregnant with a boy. Every time someone tells my mother-in-law, her mother-in-law will say that as long as both boys and girls are born safely and healthily, my daughter-in-law will suffer less. Which daughter-in-law can listen to her mother-in-law and not be moved?

Every time I go back to my hometown, no matter what they buy, they automatically ignore my husband and say it's for me. How much can I actually eat? I don't necessarily like some things, but my mother-in-law makes me feel very comfortable and moved. Once when we went back to our hometown, my mother-in-law took out a box of strawberry jam from the refrigerator. She said that she planted some strawberries in the backyard, and we didn't have time to eat them when they were ripe, so she made strawberry jam for me to eat when I came. Husband wants to eat, but she won't let him eat, saying that no matter what, men have to wait for their wives to finish eating and eat enough.

There are too many such little details in life.

My mother-in-law and her husband were waiting outside the delivery room when I was born. My husband always wanted me to have a daughter. Although my mother-in-law says that boys and girls are good, I know that she actually likes boys in her heart. Most rural people are traditional, which is understandable. My husband jumped with joy when the nurse came out to inform them that I had given birth to a girl. Listening to her husband, her mother-in-law glared at her husband and said that her husband was not careful. After my husband told me, I felt very uncomfortable, thinking that my mother-in-law suspected that I had a girl.

Later, I went home from the hospital, and my mother-in-law took care of me. Chatting with my mother-in-law one day. I deliberately mentioned that my husband said that his mother-in-law said that her husband was simple-minded the day he gave birth. My mother-in-law took over and said: You gave birth to a child in it and suffered so much. What do you mean he's happy outside? He doesn't know how to take care of his wife. I really admired my mother-in-law at that time. She is really an expert in chatting. Obviously, I was not very happy at first, and I was moved by her words.

My mother-in-law can not only talk, chat, but also do things. Whether she is sincere or not, she has captured me. In fact, no one is a fool. I am moved by my mother-in-law's sincerity, and I will sincerely trust and respect her. If my mother-in-law is just a lip service, we can't get along together. On the other hand, if all mother-in-law can talk and do things like my mother-in-law, can there still be contradictions between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law?

It is precisely because of her mother-in-law's high emotional intelligence that her relatives and friends around her praise her for her ability to speak and have ideas. My mother-in-law gets along well with her mother-in-law. Now my husband's grandmother is old, relying on my mother-in-law, my father-in-law also respects her. Before he does anything, he will listen to my mother-in-law. For a rural woman who has just finished primary school, it is really not easy for people to respect her so much.

It's really comfortable, warm and comfortable to chat with someone with high emotional intelligence like my mother-in-law. I will learn from my mother-in-law in the future and strive to be a person with high emotional intelligence.

Why is this happening? Emotional intelligence is high! Can talk and do things!

0 1 The neighbor's house is sold.

One evening around 7: 00, my parents were watching TV on the sofa when they heard someone knocking at the door. They looked through the cat's eye and didn't know each other. The bearer said politely, "Hello, I'm your new neighbor. I'm here to interview you and get to know each other. Please take care of it in the future. " As soon as my father heard that there was a new neighbor, he quickly opened the door to let others in.

As a result, as soon as I entered the door, I saw my new neighbor carrying a bunch of things, including milk, eggs and toys. It's not good for my dad to say hello to people as soon as he sees it. The neighbor said, "Uncle, you're welcome. We should be embarrassed. Well, the house we put in is a wedding room, so we want to decorate it carefully. The change may be great and the noise will be great. You are all old tenants and have hardly been renovated in recent years. My sudden renovation will inevitably affect you, especially your home, which is closest to mine. I apologize first, please understand. "

You said he was a gift, and you apologized in person. The house was bought by people and it is difficult to decorate. Nobody cares, nobody can say no, right?

My father naturally said that he was very kind and thoughtful. In the future, we will all be neighbors. Look up and see you, just help each other.

During the conversation, I also revealed some key points of high EQ:

1. He inquired about his neighbors from the original owner in advance and knew that my parents lived with their little grandson, so he specially selected milk, eggs and toys as gifts.

2. The time is chosen at 7 o'clock in the evening, which is usually free in the evening and there are people at home. Too early to delay people's eating, too late to delay people's sleeping, 7 o'clock is just right!

02 began to decorate, it was too noisy.

A few days later, people from the decoration company came and started construction. It was really noisy, and even a wall was smashed and repaved. The sound of electric drills and hammers came and went. My parents who are separated by a wall have a headache, especially my 2-year-old nephew, who has been crying because of his harsh voice.

And in order to catch up with the progress, it hardly stopped from 7: 30 in the morning to 6: 30 in the evening. I didn't rest at noon. My parents led my little nephew outside, and my little nephew went to my brother's house to take a nap.

One day, my parents and my little nephew were playing in the square downstairs and met their neighbors upstairs. Only through chatting did they know that the new neighbors had visited all 44 families on the 22nd floor of our unit!

It's not over yet. The day before the renovation, an apology letter was posted at the elevator door: Hello neighbor, I am a new resident on the ninth floor. Please forgive me for the noise and trouble when I start decorating tomorrow! And there is a box next to it, with a lot of sugar in it, which says invite neighbors!

Then every once in a while, I will change an apology letter with the estimated number of days before the renovation is over, and some small gifts, sometimes snacks and sometimes small chocolates.

Neighbors passing by said that although it was really noisy, someone would come and do something admirable! Emotional intelligence is really high! Nobody complains!

The house is ready. Give me a thumbs up.

Because they smashed a wall and pried the whole floor tile, there is bound to be a lot of construction waste. The elevator they use directly when transporting garbage will be a bit shabby, but no neighbors report complaints! On the contrary, if you meet it, you will say, if you need help, let me know!

In this way, the renovation process lasted for more than two months, during which the new neighbors went to my mother's house two or three times and asked if the noise was particularly loud, whether the renovation time was appropriate and whether there was any trouble.

After the neighbors left, my dad said convincingly, look at this young couple, they are not old, and their emotional intelligence is really high! Talking and doing things makes people feel so comfortable! I can't accept it!

Summary:

With people with high emotional intelligence, talking or doing things is a relaxed and happy thing, get twice the result with half the effort! Look, my parents' neighbors, how many people are fighting over house decoration! And there is a neighbor with high emotional intelligence. This renovated house is actually closer to neighbors.

Good question

There should be three cores.

First, comfort (understanding). People with high emotional intelligence know how to listen to others and know how to praise appropriately; He can always give the most comfortable language when he needs comfort; Their praise is never artificial, just find the right praise point in the details and give restrained praise;

People are lonely, and language is recognized and comforted by others.

Second, comfortable (reasonable). Talking about business and cooperation with people with high emotional intelligence can always find the most suitable value anchor; He knows what you need, and you don't have to be embarrassed to ask. He will take care of things that are valuable to both sides. He will consider your comfort zone for you first, then choose his own comfort zone, and then find an optimal balance point. When you associate with people with high emotional intelligence, you can not only give up your guard, but also give up caring. People with high emotional intelligence will not calculate you; In addition to caring about the roots, a gentleman only asks for what he deserves. You can trust him to come up with a cooperation agreement.

Third, evolution (puzzle). A person with high emotional intelligence is characterized by comprehensiveness and consideration, and this quality requires the accumulation of life and wisdom.

People with high emotional intelligence will have a wide range of social activities, so their knowledge, knowledge and depth will exceed that of ordinary people. Therefore, with people with high emotional intelligence, you will definitely learn something, and they are all positive.

It is worthwhile to communicate with people with high emotional intelligence.

People with high emotional intelligence can not only chat, but also deal with people well. I have to admire them.

They usually talk like this:

1, basically don't use awkward short words like um, oh to answer others, but use very warm words.

I have a small partner with high emotional intelligence. On weekdays, she never sends a message like "Oh", but usually sends a message like "Oh, no problem, Hee Hee", which gives people a feeling of replying to you in a happy mood ~

Many people tend to ignore WeChat chat and think that WeChat only plays the role of daily contact, so don't care too much.

Those who can socialize on WeChat not only win respect and friends for themselves, but also bring goodwill and warmth to others.

2. Are you seldom asked if you are all right? Send a text message to explain everything.

In short, if you have something to say directly, you don't have to ask if the other person is here to set someone else up. The advantage of speaking directly is that it can make the other person psychologically prepared, and it is also convenient for the other person to figure out how to answer your questions.

In small talk, it doesn't matter to send voice, even when you are depressed, I will send voice to comfort you. At work, it is easy to make the other person "confused" by making voice. It is very likely that others need to listen again to confirm important information after listening, or that information such as time, place and people should be converted into words by themselves.

3, don't test who hacked your news and friends circle for the praise of friends.

If you want to know who deleted you, you can take someone else's nickname and ask them how they are doing in humorous language, which is much softer than copying that annoying information. Others like to send messages in groups, saying that friends are asking for praise and helping to forward such information. In my opinion, it is euphemistic to say that it is helpful to praise with the other person's name.

A person's way of speaking affects his interpersonal development!

Talking to people with high emotional intelligence will make you feel that everything you say is right and reasonable, which will make you feel good; Talking to people with low emotional intelligence will make you look down on yourself. It seems that nothing is right and nothing should be said.

Tell two stories to illustrate the difference between heaven and earth.

I feel that my boyfriend snubbed the conversation between him and her boyfriend B.

A said nothing with a cold face B: "What's the matter with you?" A didn't talk or look at B. When B saw that the situation was wrong, he rushed over and hugged A: "What's the matter? Unhappy? " A forbearance: "Nothing!" A is embarrassed to say it directly, but he still doesn't look at B and sulks himself. B insisted: "No! There must be something wrong! What's the matter with you? Let me guess! Is it because I didn't pick you up? " A doesn't talk. B then guessed, "Is it because I didn't keep my promise to accompany you to the movies?" A still doesn't talk. B: "Is it because I didn't accompany you? Didn't hug you? " A was caught in the middle of speculation and said "hmm" embarrassedly. B: "So the baby wants me to accompany him! I'm too busy today. I haven't had a good drink since I went out this morning. I will accompany the baby after writing the last report! " A realized that he had been thinking about his feelings just now and completely ignored what kind of day the other party had spent. He instantly let go and became generous: "Husband is busy first, I will give you a massage later!" " "

I feel that my boyfriend snubbed the conversation between C and her boyfriend D.

C don't talk with a cold face. D: "What's the matter with you?" C doesn't talk or look at D D: "Talk? What's wrong with you? " A was angry, so he didn't speak and was asked impatiently. D: "nothing!" "d:" nothing. Why don't you talk? A endured, but she walked up a flight of stairs in resentment. Her face said, "Do I look like nothing?" "But d didn't see it. He is already very busy because he thinks you are "nothing".

Chatting with people with high emotional intelligence will make your negative emotions that were about to explode disappear instantly, while chatting with people with low emotional intelligence will turn your star anger into a prairie fire. Because people with high emotional intelligence can detect the emotional changes of people around them in time and make appropriate responses, while people with low emotional intelligence have low sensitivity to the emotions of people around them and don't know how to deal with others' emotions.

Chatting with people with high emotional intelligence is a very cool thing, just like drinking a bowl of mung bean soup in summer and a bowl of hot chicken soup in cold weather, which is comfortable!

My girlfriend has a high emotional intelligence. She runs a mobile phone shop. Every time I go to her place, she praises your words. Never repeated, different every time, and just right. At first, I thought she was in business, so all she said was polite.

But after a long time, she has always been like this. Whether you buy her or not, what you say is natural. It turns out that this is a high emotional intelligence way of speaking, such as taking a bath in the spring breeze.

I have also met some people with low emotional intelligence. It's a small thing, but it was nothing. When I am very happy, when he opens his mouth, people fly into a rage, which makes people very unhappy and difficult to lose their temper. Being with people with low emotional intelligence is torture.

So I also want to improve my emotional intelligence, read more books, travel more, see more about the outside world, and make myself a popular person!

Just like Hugh, he looks good and plays well. The most important thing is that his emotional intelligence is high!

Let's talk about how men with high emotional intelligence chat with girls first! In fact, any method, routine and skill can be summarized in one word: emotional intelligence. People with high emotional intelligence will be able to pick up girls with ease and ease, and can also meet the needs of others. have it both ways, please both sides. It is an acknowledged fact that women's EQ is generally higher than that of men. Fortunately, emotional intelligence can be cultivated and improved. As long as you are conscious and determined, it is no problem to make progress in the short term. Let's learn some routines to pick up girls, and try it quickly!

Tip: Many people don't know what attitude is. It seems that everything is an attitude, and it seems that nothing. The first attitude is to teach you to respect yourself. To respect yourself is to accept yourself. Don't judge your own performance, and don't care about other people's judgment. In short, get rid of the rules in your mind and let yourself grow like a tree. Fear and always wanting to perform well will prevent us from enjoying the present and showing our true charm.

No one can succeed casually, and all the success in this world needs early efforts.

Chasing girls is the same, it takes time, energy and even money.

There is no pie in the sky, and there is no girlfriend on the phone.

You said you wouldn't chat with girls, and you wanted to learn how to chat with girls.

You said you were afraid to hold hands when dating girls and didn't know how to move in.

You say you are not tall, handsome or rich, but you want to chase girls with high scores.

You say, you say, but you never do it.

If a man is older, he won't learn. Ask your mother-in-law what she looks like if you don't understand.

If you don't know how to chat, you must learn to chat with girls.

Ask someone else if you don't know how to date a girl.

Not just chatting, all interpersonal communication reflects your emotional intelligence! What is EQ? What do you mean by talking?

Yang Mi was asked the actress's most embarrassing question on the Golden Star Show: "Some people call you, Liu Yifei and Wang" four little Hua Dan ". Which of you has the most knives? "

Yang Mi's textbook God replied, "I! Because I gave birth to a child ~ "

Venus asked again, "You and Tang Yan are good girlfriends. If your husbands Liu Haozhi and Tang Yan fell into the river, who would you save? "

Yang Mi calmly replied: "I directed my husband to save Tang Yan, so hurry up and don't let her choke."

Maybe you will say that women themselves have language advantages and high emotional intelligence. No!

Men have more social attributes than women, and they need emotional intelligence and speaking skills!

Bo Huang's biggest dream is to become a singer, but it is not easy to become a resident singer. Sometimes, just after singing a song, the audience will hiss, "Go down, go down …".

At this time, Bo Huang was very embarrassed, but he couldn't go down. The boss won't give money until he has sung four songs, so he wisely walked down a step and said, "Well, I'll really come down, and then I'll bring you a song," Good luck to those who like me! "" .

The audience immediately laughed, the atmosphere suddenly rose, the embarrassment was resolved, and the audience was willing to pay the bill.

EQ, unlike IQ, is something that depends entirely on learning, influenced by environment and cultivated by individuals. The point is that in many important occasions, EQ is far more important than IQ, especially in human social interaction!

Look at several examples of high emotional intelligence speaking.

Then the problem is coming. How can I speak with high emotional intelligence? When my child was in the first grade, I met his head teacher. The teacher's words gave me great confidence, which made me feel like a spring breeze and had a feeling of "empathy" for the teacher. She is a teacher with high emotional intelligence, and her words are tolerated and liked, which also helps me and my children out of the predicament. The child has now been admitted to a key university.

My children never let me stop at primary school, and I have been worried about it, bearing the hat of "irresponsibility". My children, I know, never stopped me in primary school. The teacher told me to go to school every three days, either to hand in my homework to other children or to apologize to their parents. Let's just say that my children are spoiled by grandparents at home, not like students at all. Their habits are terrible, but their bad habits have always been considered "irresponsible" by my mother.

The whole primary school is spent in fear, and all the children are at school. I should be ready to deal with this problem at any time. I made my son suffer so much that he became mentally ill.

The words of the head teacher in junior high school not only gave me great confidence, but also made me take off the hat of "irresponsibility". In junior high school, the class teacher talked to me the next day. The son put his feet on the chair of the child in front of him, shaking so badly that people couldn't sit down. Two men had a fight, and my son beat them up.

The first time I met my son's head teacher, Mr. Zhang, was a woman, about 40 years old. She is short and chubby, and her eyes are narrowed. At first glance, she is a very kind person.

I stood nervously, waiting for criticism, because I was used to it, just like a pupil who often made mistakes. Although I am also the office director of the unit, my son makes me lose face.

Teacher Zhang motioned me to sit down, and I said I would stand and listen to her. She smiled and said, sit down, sit down, let's talk about children seriously.

My heart suddenly relaxed a lot. I sat next to Teacher Zhang.

I told Mr. Zhang all the problems in my children's primary school. Teacher Zhang said after listening, why don't you work hard to cultivate your child's good habits? You have been solving children's problems, and you have not tried to make children have no problems.

Look at you like this You have worked hard for years. You are a very responsible mother. Your problem is that you haven't found a way to help your children. So, let's work together in Qi Xin, home-school cooperation, and strive to solve children's bad habits. Let's work hard. You pay more. It is no problem for children to be admitted to key high schools!

In the past few years, I have suffered a lot on children's issues and wasted a lot of words. No one thinks I am a "responsible" person. The whole family is blaming me, blaming me. Only teacher Zhang gave me the word "responsible". I was so moved that I wanted to cry.

In the three years of junior high school, with the joint efforts of teacher Zhang and me, my son basically got rid of his bad habits, and he was admitted not only to key high schools, but also to key universities, which freed his mother from the hat of "irresponsibility" at home.

Meeting a teacher with high EQ is the happiness of my life. In my opinion, Mr. Zhang is a teacher with high emotional intelligence. Talking and chatting with her has a feeling of inner depression, and she can get the comfort she wants, such as soaking in the spring breeze and solving problems in her heart. She also has an impulse to follow her, and she has an unspeakable motivation in her heart.

With teacher Zhang's encouragement, we found a solution to the problem that my child had not solved in primary school for six years, and let our family out of the predicament.

It's really a pleasure to talk to a person with high emotional intelligence, just like a beam of light entering your heart, making you warm as the morning sun.

Some people say that high emotional intelligence is the capital that you really gain appreciation and respect from others, so how to be a person with high emotional intelligence? Read books and constantly improve your self-cultivation.

People who love reading must have great conversation. "With your current temperament, there are hidden roads you have traveled, books you have read, and people you have loved." This is all an appreciation of scholars, so if you want to improve your EQ, read more books, study hard, and reading is a shortcut to improve your EQ.

Kindness, constantly helping people in trouble.

High EQ means being kind to others, being kind to yourself, being a kind person, helping people in trouble, giving them encouragement and support, and giving them confidence and courage to solve difficulties.

Will praise, will be popular everywhere.

Zan is a gas station that can continuously output positive energy. Everyone needs praise. Praise is a nutrient in people's life, which can give people motivation and nourish the soul. Compliments, such as spring breeze and rain, can give people energy and make people happy. A word of praise costs neither money nor loss, and it can also make the other person get infinite happiness. Why not say a few more words?

Have you ever met anyone with high emotional intelligence? What's the experience of chatting with him?

What a good question! Borrowing a sentence here, chatting with people with high emotional intelligence, you only have one feeling: "wonderful"! It is a kind of "beauty" like spring breeze!

Chatting is an art as well as chatting. Why some people make you feel embarrassed and others make you feel comfortable has a lot to do with EQ. People with low emotional intelligence have nothing to say, and even flattery makes people feel insincere. For people with high emotional intelligence, chatting is painting with words, and it is also flattering but makes you feel like meeting a bosom friend.

My friend's wife runs a beauty salon. Once, a friend brought several female colleagues to join in. One of them is a middle-level leader of the company. This woman is thick, short and rustic. At first glance, she belongs to the kind of woman that can't be found in the street. When she met her friend's wife, the first thing she said was amazing: "God, you look terrible."

My friend's wife was very confused at that time. I thought to myself: How can you talk like that? A beautiful woman like me suffered a loss. Your appearance makes Sister Furong proud, isn't it a loss in the basement?

Unexpectedly, the conversation turned: "You are like this, one stop on the street, the man is afraid that you will set a trap for him, and the woman is worried that you will steal the limelight. No wonder you want to hide here and open a beauty salon. It's good! Very good, this is also a contribution to building a harmonious society. "

Everyone was relieved, and friends and wives also smiled. People went on to say, "If you are in the workplace, you will be obsessed with right and wrong. You belong to the kind of doormat who has to work several times harder than others to be barely recognized." Because people will think that you must have taken advantage of your beauty to take a shortcut, even if you cover your mouth, you can't see it. "

Then, people teased themselves: "Unlike me, it looks like eggplant. Men will only treat me as a buddy, and women will also want me to have green leaves lined with red flowers. " Therefore, if I run for leadership, I will definitely have more votes than you. I won, which shows that the world is still fair. If you win, it will make people feel unbalanced. Don't you think? If we have similar abilities and achievements, we are like stars in the entertainment circle. People will treat me as a strength pie and treat you as an idol pie! You say, are you too cheated? "

In short, a friend's wife will be elated! Shocked others!

This is emotional intelligence! This is the language art! I can't refuse to accept it.