Should you take the initiative to confess your love history in love?

In love, it is best not to voluntarily confess your love history.

1. In principle, don't take the initiative to say it without asking. Many people are not broad-minded enough. No matter how deeply you love each other now, don't ask about the past. We should look forward from now on and treat our current feelings with a more mature attitude, so it is easier to get happiness.

2, if the other party asks, don't cheat, this is the essential difference. In the answer, be careful not to arouse the curiosity of the other party, and don't say the cause and effect. Tell the other person that the reason for breaking up is that you are more suitable for yourself than him or her. This will help to enhance feelings. Remember: the more careful you are, the greater the harm.

Let bygones be bygones. Don't always recall. People should learn to turn negative emotional experiences into stepping stones to success today and make themselves more mature.

People in love always have such a question: "Do you want to confess your love history to your lover?" Some people think that although you didn't participate in my life in the past, I want you to know what kind of experience I had and who I am, while others think that you love today, not yesterday, so love it from now on, so why talk about the past?

I am sincere about whether to confess my love history. Everyone has everyone's position, and this is for reference only.

When we are faced with the question of expressing our love history, it is better to answer short questions. It would be a bad choice not to answer at all and treat it as an essay question. Therefore, the author's main position is to concentrate on confession and not elaborate.

Let's talk about why we should confess.

In love, knowing the history of love can make you know more about a person and increase mutual familiarity. In romantic terms, it's called getting to know you better and then becoming more fond of you. This is ten normal things. In psychodynamic theory, understanding a person's past is really helpful to understand the formation of his current personality and values.

If we understand it in simpler terms, this is me today based on me yesterday, so in love, we all want to talk about what happened when we were children, our previous emotional experiences, unforgettable memories and best friends, and so on.

When you get to know each other in more ways, you will form a relatively three-dimensional impression of each other, instead of just staying on a personality mask specially established by each other during the warm taste period.

So why not confess in detail?

There are two reasons. First of all, yesterday's me doesn't mean today's me. The second is that it is not necessary.

Let's talk about the first point. In the concept of humanism, the past has passed. People only exist in the present before the future comes. Therefore, it is better to talk about the present function than to talk too much about the past function. In simpler terms, they are saying that you love me today, not yesterday. Don't talk about the past, let's love the present.

Indeed, if you keep asking about each other's past regardless of the size of the matter, it is undoubtedly a bit too obsessed with each other's past. But what really deserves our attention is the moment when we are together.