The sadness of the old man in his later years is not that he has no children or money, but that he has lost his home.

Introduction:

It is said that an old man needs three things to be happy in his later years: his wife, his old nest and savings.

But in reality, one of the most loving couples always has to go first, and it is normal for the elderly to live alone in their later years; As for deposits, as long as there are retirement wages and medical insurance, the problem is not too big. Only your own lair, that's where you can settle down and live, where you can control as you please. Losing your home means losing your base, independence and self-esteem.

In reality, there are always some old people who give up their houses in advance for various reasons, leaving their children at their mercy for the rest of their lives.

It is said that the mother can be discharged from the hospital after the operation, but the daughter is not happy. My mother has been in hospital for more than ten days and will be able to go home soon, but I don't know where to go.

Because I don't have my own home, I have lived in my son's house for many years, but I have no fixed place. The feeling of relying on others makes my mother unhappy in her later years.

Now, my mother is leaving the hospital, but my two sons are unwilling to take her home. However, the reason for this situation today has to start with the demolition of the mother's house.

Mrs. Lin had just celebrated her 62nd birthday when her wife left her.

Mr. Lin and his wife, in their lives over the past few decades, have been noisy, but only when the other party really leaves can they feel empty in their hearts.

Teacher Lin's two sons and one daughter are married and live their own lives.

In the past, when Mr. Lin's wife was alive, children didn't have to worry about them at all. On the contrary, when they encounter difficulties, parents will take the initiative to help their children.

Teacher Lin's daughter lives with her parents, and her eldest son works in a state-owned enterprise. Later, enterprises were restructured and people were laid off. In order to survive, my son embarked on the road of working.

Although the younger son is also with the elderly, he doesn't earn much money every month and the welfare benefits of the unit are not good. Parents have to make up for their youngest son from time to time.

After his father left, the eldest son went home to spend some time with his mother. He also wants to go home, but his technical expertise and the salary given by the local unit are too low. Since it is a part-time job, why not go to a place where you can earn more money?

Later, the child in front of the eldest son was admitted to the university, and the daughter-in-law also went out to work with her husband. The two lived alone.

A few days after Mr. Lin's wife left, her daughter often went back to accompany her mother. Later, my mother gradually adapted to a person's life.

Later, Mr. Lin's youngest son's children went to middle school, which was close to grandma's house, and his grandson went back to grandma's house for dinner every day.

Now, in order to arrange a good life for his grandson, Mr. Lin is very busy every day and the days pass quickly.

In a blink of an eye, Sun Tzu was admitted to high school and began to live on campus. Teacher Lin is very relaxed.

It will soon be reported that the community where Teacher Lin lives will be demolished and rebuilt.

With the area replacement policy of 1: 1.5, the old people's original house of more than 70 square meters can be replaced by an elevator room of about 100 square meters.

The daughter advised her mother not to take the money and ask for a house. When the house is repaired in the future, mom can move back.

However, Mr. Lin's two sons are thinking about how to strive for the best interests for themselves.

For the demolition of his mother's house, the eldest son came back from Guangdong to listen to his mother's thoughts.

At that time, Miss Lin was almost 70 years old. She has lived here for decades, and owning a house is definitely her wish.

At that time, the boss's son had graduated from college and did not intend to go back to his hometown. Obviously, keeping the house is of little use to him.

The youngest son's child just went to college, and now it's time to need money and don't want to keep the house.

The attitude of the two sons has been very clear, and they don't want their mother to have a house. It's more affordable than anything to get nearly one million yuan for demolition.

The old man saw through the minds of his two sons. She asked them, "If I don't want a house, where can I live?"

The eldest son said first, "Stay with me. I asked my daughter-in-law to come back with you when you left. Although the house is small, it will definitely live. "

The younger son also quickly said: "Now there are only two people left at home, my wife and me. You will stay at Feifei's house when you go. "

The old man is still hesitating, and she doesn't want to promise.

Seeing the mother's delay in expressing her position, the eldest son began to help her analyze: you are also a 70-year-old man, and living alone is always impossible. If you can live with us, it will be convenient for us to take care of you.

The youngest son also said, yes, just like the last time you fell, thanks to the big sister rushing back, it won't be too dangerous.

If you want to live with us, we will know for the first time that you have a headache and a fever.

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Two sons, when you talk to me, you have your own ideas. I'm thinking about my mother's demolition money.

Finally, the old man agreed with his two sons and said that he would get the demolition money first.

Later, the mother told her daughter about it: give them the house later. Now both of them need money. Give it to them first, so as not to fight for the house in the future.

But my daughter always feels that something is wrong. She asked her mother, Would you like to live with them?

Mother was silent for a long time and muttered, I don't want to. But when I get old, won't I finally count on them to support me? It's only a matter of time. Don't worry about me.

The daughter looked at her mother with distress and hoped that her two younger brothers would take good care of her later life as they said.

More than 800,000 yuan for house demolition soon came down, but the old man lost his home forever. At that time, she didn't realize how sad the old man was when he lost his home.

The old man felt that since his son promised to support the elderly, he gave each of his two sons 300,000 yuan and kept more than 200,000 for himself.

The old man still has a monthly retirement salary, thinking about saving some money in the future and leaving it to his daughter in the future.

But in a blink of an eye, the old man has no place to live, and she must solve this problem at once.

The eldest son said to his younger brother, let mom stay with you first. I haven't lived there for a long time, and the house needs cleaning. Come back at the end of the year, clean up the house and let Meijuan stay and take care of her mother.

The two brothers also agreed that each would take care of his mother for one year. Let the mother take turns living in two houses to avoid conflicts over time.

As a result, the old man completely lost his home. Began to live a wandering life.

At first, the two sons took good care of their mother because they received such a large sum of demolition money like their mother.

However, when my mother just adapted to a new environment and got along well with her neighbors, it was time to change places.

My mother never said this, but always tried to overcome it herself.

The old man's monthly retirement salary is less than 4000 yuan, and she takes out 2000 yuan as living expenses. Moreover, my mother has neat hands and feet, and no matter who she goes to, she can help them cook and clean up the room.

In fact, the mother has done a good job, and the son and daughter-in-law should have nothing to be picky about.

This kind of life will last for years. For the elderly, although it is not very good, it is still passable.

During this period, the eldest grandson also got married, and his mother was going to be a great-grandmother. At this time, the old man is almost 80 years old, and his hands and feet are beginning to become clumsy, making it a little difficult to go up and down the stairs.

Later, the two brothers thought that one year was too long, so they simply changed it every six months. For a mother, the decision on the length of time lies with her son, and she has to accept it.

So, the old man was in his hometown in the first half of the year and went to his youngest son's house in the second half.

In fact, the old man knows that now she can only listen to her son's arrangement, as long as someone is in charge of her life, and don't think much about others.

A year later, the boss was promoted and my mother became a great-grandmother. The daughter-in-law has gone to take care of her grandson, and her mother can't stay at the boss's house any longer.

Later, the daughter-in-law brought back her great-grandson who was over one year old. At first, the house was small, but it was still open. Now suddenly there is a little person, a stroller and a toy, and the house is crowded with people at once.

It is said that a child has been busy with family affairs. Seeing that her son and daughter-in-law are so busy, mother wants to help them. But the daughter-in-law doesn't think her mother-in-law has dirty hands and holds the child, which shows that the water her mother-in-law feeds her child is too hot.

This makes the old man feel that he is not only a cripple, but also a redundant person. Why does she hate that she has lived so long?

There are many things at home for the youngest son. After graduating from college, the child went into business with a friend. As a result, he lost all his money.

Later, the child said that a project was approved and needed 200,000. The youngest son can't afford that much money at home and wants his mother to help his grandson.

Over the years, this 200 thousand has been left in my mother's hands. Although there is a retirement salary, you can't stick a little to the boss today and fill a hole for the younger one tomorrow.

Daughter, I often think of her as a mother. In recent years, my mother has almost asked her daughter to pack everything she wears.

Finally, the mother gave the child 65,438+10,000. In fact, another 65,438+million is already in the hands of the eldest son.

Once, my mother was at the boss's house and my little grandson was ill in hospital. The old man is alone at home. She is worried about her child's illness, so she wants to go to the hospital.

The eldest son lives on the third floor. At this time, the old man was a little impatient. He went down the stairs and fell down.

The kind neighbor helped the old man up and found that he had fallen heavily. He quickly called 120 to take the old man to the hospital.

After examination, it was found that the elderly had a hip fracture and needed surgery.

The eldest son complained a lot when he found out. Mother silently endured and said nothing.

The grandson was still in hospital, and the eldest son called the elder sister and left.

After the daughter arrived in time, she paid for her mother and went through the hospitalization procedures. Finally, the daughter signed the mother's operation list.

Mother needs a hip replacement. On the day of the operation, both brothers rushed to the hospital. The operation was successful, but my mother looked weak.

My daughter has been with her mother in the hospital for many days. I hope the two brothers can change her.

The two brothers discussed that they would take turns to accompany their mother at night and give it to their eldest sister during the day.

After a few days, it's time for mom to take out the stitches. But after leaving the hospital, it became a problem who the mother should go back to.

The eldest son said that his high floor and small children were not conducive to his mother's recovery.

The youngest son said that he had not yet taken care of his mother, and there was no one at home. Who takes care of his mother?

The two pushed and shoved, and neither of them wanted to take his mother to his house.

Indeed, the elderly need to recover slowly after discharge and need careful care. Patience and love are needed for diet, daily life and rehabilitation. Everyone knows that it is much more difficult to take care of the elderly now than before.

My daughter couldn't stand it anymore and took her mother home. After a few months, my mother recovered to be able to walk by herself. However, the strength on the legs is not as great as before.

The mother feels that she has recovered, but she should go back to live with her son. After all, she gave everything to her son, and her daughter hasn't got a penny yet. However, is the son ready to take his mother home?

After half a year, the mother recovered well at her daughter's house and was able to walk by herself. But neither son is going to take his mother back.

The eldest son stressed that the floor where he lived was high and it was inconvenient for his mother to travel. Today is different from the past. His residence is no longer suitable for his mother.

The younger son felt that since his brother had done nothing, he should learn from his younger brother.

When my sister offered to rent a house for my mother and ask a nanny to take care of it. However, because the mother's 200,000 deposit was hollowed out by her two sons, everyone gave up because they didn't want to pay.

Finally, my sister suggested that she and her brother take turns to take care of their mother for half a year. Eldest brother won't attend temporarily because of housing reasons. However, the family who takes care of the mother should be given 1000 yuan as compensation every month.

It's not a good idea, but my mother has finally landed.

The youngest son finally agreed to take his mother to see him. The mother looked at her daughter gratefully, knowing that the future would be worse.

It is true that people become vulnerable groups in their later years. Whether they live happily or not depends largely on their children's attitude towards the elderly.

If the elderly can live in their own homes and take care of themselves in their later years, they will not expect their children. When it is inconvenient to move, it may be better to ask a nanny to take care of it than to stay at your son's house.

However, many old people forgot this and gave their living homes to their sons early. I thought my son would think of his parents' kindness in the future and be kind to them.

The result is not like this. When the old man spends all his savings, getting older and worse, his son's attitude towards the old man will gradually change. They began to hate the old people, felt that the old people became a burden, and even wanted to escape the responsibility of being a son.

Therefore, when the old man is old, he must not give up his home, sell his house and distribute the money to his son. This is the most unwise move.

If you still have savings and a house, it is still attractive to children, and people will naturally not alienate you. I even want to get closer to you in order to get more money from you.

Selfishness is human nature. Never underestimate the indifference of human nature.

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