Talk about being together for two years

Love is a long tug-of-war. From the moment we met, and then we fell in love, a long tug-of-war began. When two people who haven't seen each other for 20 years are together, it is inevitable that they will quarrel and disagree. We are not alone, but together because of love. In fact, love can't solve all problems. Because our personalities are too strong, we always argue. We always find our waywardness after quarreling, but we will inevitably be wayward next time. If there is regret medicine in this world, I believe everyone wants to have it, so we can take one medicine after every quarrel and the cold war, then forget it all and start over. Unfortunately, there is no such medicine, even if there is, always taking regret medicine will also produce drug resistance. Every quarrel will leave a little harm, which will become your burden and his trouble. No one will remember a small quarrel, but two or three times? How many times? All quarrels turn into grudges in the end, and one day, they will break out. We all loved each other, and I believe they are all serious. Maybe some have been lost for a long time, but it still hurts to think of it. Because once he leaves you, as much as he finally takes from you, it is surprisingly fair. No one owes anyone, but he didn't know how to cherish it at first. Maybe you will say, I didn't cherish it last time. I will do it well this time and cherish it! But how to cherish it? Your lover, you should try your best to understand his heart and think about what he really needs. When you think about what he needs, you win his respect. Your lover, you should protect him with your heart. Don't think that you can't protect him because he is stronger than you or a big man. Your love is stronger than any encouragement, and you can protect the people you love. Your lover, you should cherish him with your heart. You should not only thank him for everything he has done for you, but also keep him in mind and think of him often. He can put down his face and put up with your temper, get used to your completely different habits from him, and take care of your time and rules because of love. Before you lose your temper, please inhale, take five deep breaths and then exhale five times. Then talk. When you have a problem with him, you might as well write to him and tell him that I believe you have calmed down first in the process of writing, and your depressed mood has been alleviated. Sometimes you may not be angry after writing a letter. Because writing a letter requires wording and thinking, it will calm you down first. Communicating by letter will reduce verbal conflicts and increase communication, so that the problems between you can be solved in the most rational way and will not be replaced by quarrels or the cold war. When you are wronged, you might as well tell him what you think directly and let him know what you really think. You actually want to do this, but you actually need him to do this. Don't always let him guess your mind, because your mind is really hard to guess. Not all people who love each other have that sixth sense of communication. If he can't guess your mind, don't be angry, because in fact you don't know how long it took him to guess your mind and how many brain cells he wasted. When you are sad, you might as well tell him what is on your mind first. Maybe there is nothing he can do, but at least the person you love will comfort you. Sometimes he will tell you directly that you are wrong. Don't be angry. He did it for your own good. He's just giving you the guidance of a bystander. After you calm down, you may think his method is very good. Even if it is not feasible, you should be considerate of his mind. On the other hand, when you find that he has a little problem, you should care about him, pay attention to his eyebrows and pay attention to his mood. Understand him, even if you can't understand him, try to understand him. Before you make a decision, you might as well tell him your decision, which is a respect for him. Maybe he will disapprove, but he will certainly be happy with your respect. If you just agree, congratulations and push your happiness a little. And when he makes a decision, don't interfere too much and give him as much space as possible. Believe me, although you love each other, you are still complete individuals. Let him decide for himself. Even if you don't agree, don't tell him when he looks excited. Encourage him! Then gently give him some advice. Don't underestimate your lover's ability to face suffering, and don't blame him for your depression. He's not easy either. He faces the same difficulties as you, and he has to take care of your ideas. It's actually harder for him. Work with him. I believe you can solve everything together. Don't face difficulties alone, because no one wants his lover to face difficulties alone. Getting through difficulties together is as important as enjoying happiness together. No matter what you face, I believe you should be together. When you feel that your love is not passionate, you might as well review yourself first. What did I do for you? Do you have a reason to be bored now? How long has it been since you kissed him for any reason How long has it been since you talked to him? How long has it been since you invited him to dinner or a movie? Don't always think that he doesn't love you enough. If he is not careful before, love will mature and grow, and constant love does not exist. Don't care too much, don't always calculate. When you are faced with temptation, you might as well calm down and think about your past with him. He is also full of temptation and attraction to you. It's just that the passion has faded now. No one can be passionate forever, and no feelings can be strong forever. The temptation you face now will calm down one day. Just like you and your lover now. Besides, what do you want your lover to do if he is faced with such temptation? Do what you want him to do. Remember, take a deep breath first, don't worry, don't get excited, things are handled by two people. Since we were born, we have never really learned how to love, but we have realized the meaning of love bit by bit from reality and experience. I really didn't write this to flaunt myself. In fact, I am also a child who doesn't understand love. In fact, I want to tell you that happiness is around us now.