Why are fewer and fewer people really sad at funerals?

My uncle died last year. My son and daughter were still playing cards at the funeral, and no one cried on the day of burial. Finally, my father took out 5000 yuan and invited three sad people to come over. Many of them want to leave their uncle's eldest daughter and son, who are all working in other places. In his 70 s, he lived alone at home. When he was young, he became a village cadre and sent his daughter and son to college. This is his proudest thing. Because the younger son didn't get his uncle's help in buying a house, he had a contradiction with his family, which led to his uncle's regret in his later years.

When my uncle was in his sixties, he took care of his children in the city. After living together for several years, both children went to kindergarten. Uncle took the initiative to put forward the decision to return to his hometown to support the elderly. Both the eldest son and the eldest daughter agreed and paid him 1000 yuan for living expenses every month.

Uncle scrimped and saved all his money and planned to marry his youngest son.

I didn't expect this little son to be very enterprising. He is in his twenties, always playing with friends at home, and doesn't want to go out to work to make money. He wants his uncle to buy him a house as soon as he opens his mouth. This income is usually given by several children in the city. How can he afford a house without other income? This makes him very passive.

The uncle urged his youngest son to get married quickly, and he always opposed it on the grounds of the house.

Uncle himself has high blood pressure and coronary heart disease. He is too excited to get sick easily. This kind of emergency has a lot to do with children.

On the day of his uncle's death, his little son didn't know where to hide. People can't find it, and the villagers can't stand it, so they call several other children who work outside.

When the eldest son and daughter heard about his brother and his father, they were in a bad mood. On the same day, they had to find his younger brother to ask about the situation face to face, drag him to his father's bedside and kowtow to apologize, and mobilize the village playmates to find him. Finally, they got it back.

His younger brother stood beside his uncle's body without looking, and the three brothers and sisters were arguing there. Everyone in the village said they didn't respect the dead. Everyone has been dead for several hours, and the body's heat has subsided. These people are quarrelling. They must want the dead to rest in peace.

These days, none of the brothers and sisters take care of the family affairs, and the village head can't stand it anymore, so let the eldest son discuss the affairs, or the body will stink. According to local customs, a three-day funeral for the dead old man requires a series of work, such as inviting a guard of honor, renting an ice coffin, inviting a Taoist priest, and choosing a burial place. Neighbors will help each other these days, and relatives will come to the funeral. There should be many ceremonies.

Now that everything is clear about the responsibility and direction of doing things, let them take the money to underwrite it. The villagers don't understand why they are shirking each other here. The initial guess is that they have no money. People are so angry that they want the third child to be responsible, and the others are angry with each other. The second daughter is very sad on the surface and has no real tears.

They may still be complaining that their father has squandered all his money to their third child over the years.

These days, none of the three brothers and sisters is sad. The sad music being played now is completely out of their mood. Relatives at home have been notified for two days, and the work efficiency is unbearable. Everyone in the village said, do you want others to help you work here? If it weren't for your father's sake, you wouldn't be able to hire someone even if you spent money on it.

In the past few days, other people in the village had to stop fighting for them. There is no such thing as scandal.

The day after my uncle died, my parents and family sent wreaths and funerals to my home. My mother saw my uncle lying there, cold and pale, still wearing a new suit that my father had given him before. He didn't even cover a piece of cloth or close his eyes. He looks miserable. This situation made her cry, and my father immediately criticized his three children to make them look a little human.

In the evening, my parents stayed to help with the funeral.

At one stage, the Taoist asked all his relatives to stay after dinner to cross the bridge for the dead, and asked the water to clear the way for him in the underworld. His children are either sleeping or playing cards, and no one is involved. The Taoist priest was angry and almost left. My father persuaded him to finish the process.

On the third day, my uncle will be buried. My dad found his daughter and asked her what to do next.

He also said that uncle came back from the city for so long, and they didn't come back to see it. If they give him 1000 yuan a month, they can ignore everything, even sadness and nostalgia?

Your father will be buried soon. I don't care what unhappiness you have had in the past. You three must kowtow three times in front of your father's coffin this morning. Otherwise, let the three of you carry your father to the grave, and the other neighbors will not help you.

People who heard the news spoke highly of my father's practice, and they all went downstairs to watch the play and see the performances of my uncle's sons.

According to the optimistic time of Taoist priests, uncle's burial time should be 10, and everyone didn't see his three sons until 1 1. What should I do in the face of this situation? My father personally took out 5,000 yuan from his pocket and gave it to the Taoist priest, inviting the sad people to come over. Someone invited one, and our family asked for three. There is nothing we can do.

Through my uncle's death, we can also see some internal contradictions in his family, which are ultimately due to money problems, leading to family disharmony. Several children are in pieces and don't think about their father. They all look at problems with personal thinking and are dissatisfied. They still regard their father as a burden before their death and fail to fulfill their obligation to support their father.

There are fewer and fewer sad people at funerals. I think there are several reasons: summary:

People should show some kindness to each other. Parents are the benefactors of their children's past lives, so they should know how to be grateful. When we are alive, we should greet everyone with joy, and when we die, we should remember to send them away. This is the minimum respect for people. But how much love that inch-long grass has won three blessings.

I remember when my uncle died, one of my relatives broke his head at his funeral and said he would go with him. At that time, our relatives at the scene were scared. The key is that this relative, the relatives and friends at the scene don't know him, so why did he do such a stupid thing?

My uncle was only 68 years old when he left, and he was very young. Because he had liver cancer, he was found to be in the advanced stage when he was diagnosed.

After learning the news, my uncle was very open-minded because he was an optimistic and cheerful person.

He said he didn't want to stay in the hospital. He wanted to go home and do farm work, so he did what he had to do.

He said that in addition to lying in bed every day, it is better to stay in the hospital and spend the rest of your life happily.

Maybe my uncle is right, because on the day of diagnosis, he left less than a month ago.

My uncle confessed his own affairs in advance, cleaned himself up, and let him go without any scruples and regrets.

My uncle said that he would go to another world from the present world. He believes in parallel time and space, and he will silently pay attention to our relatives in another world.

Unexpectedly, at my uncle's funeral, a stranger cried her eyes out and touched relatives and friends at the scene.

What is even more unexpected is that he finally broke his head and said that he would go with his uncle, which really scared everyone at the scene.

This man is about 40 years old. How can such a big man be like this?

Moreover, none of the relatives and friends at the scene knew him. What happened?

The stranger's surname is Li, so we call him Lao Li.

He said that when he was doing business in the city in his early years, he lost a lot of money and owed a lot of debts.

He didn't want to involve his wife and children, so on his way home in the middle of the night, he passed a bridge and was ready to jump.

Fortunately, when my uncle passed by, he immediately went over and pulled him down from the guardrail when he saw his situation.

My uncle also pulled him to the side of the road and sat down, talked for an hour, told him a lot of truth and told him what to do in the future.

What impressed him most about his uncle was, "Since you are not afraid of death and have the courage to jump into the river, why don't you have the courage to survive and pay back all the money you owe others?" At that time, people trusted you. They lent you money to help you. Now, you're off. Then didn't you involve a lot of good people in helping you? "

Just because he listened to his uncle, he completely gave up the idea of seeking death. Lao Li thinks his uncle is right. Since so many people believed in him at that time, if he pats his ass and leaves now, he is really sorry for others, whose money is hard earned.

Perhaps, because he didn't pay back the money, there was no hope for human life. It would be really sinful for him to go with him.

So he decided to turn over a new leaf, even if he couldn't turn over in business, he would end his business, go out to work again, earn it back through his own hands, pay off other people's debts, and then decide whether to live or die.

Because of this belief in his heart, he worked very hard. Through his own efforts, he not only paid off his debts, but also started his new career again.

Although it took nearly 16 years to pay back the money, it still came out of the trough.

Just when he wanted to repay his uncle, he heard the bad news and had no choice but to go with him and accompany him on the road.

The reason why he didn't dare to come to his uncle these years is that he is heavily in debt and has little money. So he thinks that when he has paid off all his debts and is able, he will repay his uncle.

But I didn't expect my uncle to leave because of illness. He felt sorry at the thought of excitement, so he wanted to leave with him, so that he could accompany him on the road and repay his kindness in regeneration in this way.

After listening to his words, all the people present were very moved and felt that the middle-aged Lao Li was a good man with affection and righteousness.

Everyone came forward to comfort Lao Li and told him to relax. Everyone told him that his uncle would feel his heart as long as it was there.

My uncle, my uncle's eldest son, also came out to call Uncle Li and thanked Lao Li.

Finally, after Lao Li calmed down, Lao Li told my uncle that if he encountered any difficulties in the future, he could call him according to the phone number on the card. As long as he can do it, he will never refuse my uncle's request.

My uncle took Lao Li's business card with both hands and thanked him. Then Lao Li said that he had something urgent to do and left first.

My uncle is also worried that Lao Li will stay at the scene and get excited again. It wouldn't be appropriate if what happened just now happened again, so he didn't keep Lao Li for dinner.

My uncle looked at the blood on the ground and knew that this old Li was really a man of temperament.

But my uncle said it was the friendship between his father and Lao Li, and his father didn't tell him about it. He and Lao Li have only met once, so he can only accept this business card politely. He really didn't think about it, so he went to this old Li and asked him to pay back.

Just like this old Li, he was sincere to his uncle, so he shed tears from his heart at the funeral and touched everyone.

I believe Lao Li. He is sincere. He got my uncle's help when he met him on the bridge. Lending it to him feels like grabbing a lifeline in the sea and pulling him back from the vast sea.

Only those who have experienced this feeling will know its profound meaning!

Thanks to dripping water, spring blossoms! It is this truth that explains it.

Nowadays, people have poor moral character, don't care about their elders, live a good life, don't know their parents' sufferings, die early and get well, and don't have a burden.

My father-in-law died at the age of 73 and all five children got married. My family is the poorest. Other brothers and sisters are self-employed. My husband and I work temporarily and our two children go to school. My father-in-law has never saved 1000 yuan. My father-in-law died suddenly and asked my brother and sister to pay 2000 yuan for the funeral expenses, but I cried and couldn't get the money.

None of the other children cried. I was the only one standing next to my father-in-law's coffin, crying all the time. I was crying myself, and I couldn't even afford my father-in-law's funeral expenses. It is not because my father-in-law is sad to leave, because he is usually ill, in poor health and emphysema. My mother-in-law has left him 10 for many years, and he is taken care of by the children alone.

Although my father-in-law left in a hurry, he didn't get involved with the children for a day. He can take care of himself and wash his own clothes at ordinary times, but 10 has been unable to do heavy work and cook by himself for many years. He always lives in the country with us. Later, we all went to Yancheng city. He lived in the second son's house and helped him look after the shop.

We rented a private house with only 20 square meters. His second son and his family both have their own houses in Yancheng and have opened a department store. The store just needed someone to be on duty at night, so I asked my father-in-law to be on duty in the store at that time. Unexpectedly, they all died in the store and were found by their families the next morning, but they died.

My father-in-law left, so quietly. At that time, I asked someone who specializes in funeral to carry my father-in-law to his second son's house. Our other brothers and sisters received calls one after another and all went to his second son's house. The three of us agreed to hold a simple funeral for the elderly and invited the nearest relatives. If distant relatives don't correspond for years, they won't send letters.

Then there are not many people attending the funeral, and we don't need to bring much money. At that time, it was estimated that 2000 yuan was enough for three people, and 2000 yuan was easy for others to take out, but my family didn't have 2000 yuan, so I had to borrow money from others. In an emergency, we don't know where to borrow money, and our dutiful son can't get away. At that time, I was in tears.

My husband couldn't find anyone to borrow money, and then my husband's two brothers took the initiative to give us the only 1000 of the 500 yuan and took it out to my uncle who was in charge of the accounts, which successfully completed my father-in-law's funeral. I cried for three days, only crying that I was not as good as others.

In fact, what I'm saying is that if people are over 70 years old, their children won't be too sad, because everyone, no matter how old they live, will go that way. This ruthless fact has been accepted in people's hearts. So many old people have passed away, and there are not many who cry so sadly.

Why are fewer and fewer people really sad at funerals? This problem is really rare to see sad people now. Generally, it is parked step by step for three days and then burned in the crematorium. Because if you meet three unfortunate people in your life now, it will be different, and you can't help being sad. First of all. The child lost his father. You said it was hard for children to lose the care of their parents when they were young. How can you not be sad? Second, middle-aged people lose their wives. The middle-aged man's wife left, and it was all false to say that the other one was difficult. The third old man lost his son. You said that the old man's 80-year-old child lost his white hair and sent black hair. Is it difficult for the old man to be sad?

I don't even want to act.

This is all forced by real life.

In the past, people worried about their lives all day. Once someone in their family dies, it will be even worse because of the aftermath. When they think of the hardships of their usual lives, they are inevitably sad and even burst into tears.

Nowadays, people have money in their hands and live in happiness all day, and occasionally a little unfortunate experience will be diluted by a happy life. After all, people can't live in Lacrimosa's misery every day. The road ahead is long, so we should look forward to everything.

Nowadays, people are forced by life, working hard everywhere, their relatives are separated, and their feelings are gradually cold, which is not so important to life and death.

The moral sentiments of human beings in today's society are closely related to the changes of the times. It is inevitable that there will be emotional disharmony with the predecessors, which is mainly related to social development. For example, young people have difficulty making a living at home and have to go out to work hard. There are old people at home, and it is inevitable that there will be contradictions. Moreover, there are many brothers and sisters, and there will be no sad and crying people at the funeral, which is very relaxed.