Why is it said that after the age of forty, people should stop "torturing"?

There are many truths in life. They are all based on experience gained by our ancestors after experiencing many things personally. It has been passed down to the present through oral or written records from generation to generation. In the process of this inheritance, a new literary form - common sayings was born. Common proverbs break the limitations of cultural level and selflessly tell the experience of every Chinese descendant.

Today, what we are going to talk about is based on a saying about the philosophy of life that has been passed down orally from generation to generation - When a person is over forty, don’t care about two things; when a person is over fifty, don’t care about two people. . ?What does this sentence mean? What do the two things and two persons refer to respectively? Let's talk further.

In fact, our ancestors taught us that the first thing we can no longer take care of at the age of forty is something beyond our power. Why would our ancestors say this? Obviously life is about hard work, why do you still advise us not to do it?

In fact, when a person enters the 40-year-old period, he or she has entered what we call "the age of forty". At this time, it means that you have passed the time when you can fight for your career, love and even life. At this time, you must stay rational and no longer have the fearless mentality you had when you were young. When facing problems, we must also start to mature. Know the scope of your abilities, understand what you should do and what you should not do. You must stop thinking about not giving up until you hit the wall. Do things well and down-to-earth. This is what a 40-year-old person should do and the mentality he should maintain.

The second thing we need is nosy business that we cannot meddle in.

In real life, many young people like to "draw their swords to help when there is an injustice". Of course, this is the traditional virtue of the Chinese nation and is what everyone is encouraged to do. However, when a person reaches the age of 40, he or she needs to understand the difference between helping them and being nosy. Helping others is based on the fact that others need help from the outside world. You go and lend a hand. And being nosy means that it is clearly a matter between other people, but you have to intervene and say a word to feel comfortable.

Help others and you will be rewarded. But if you mind your own business, not many people will look good on you. Because when dealing with one thing, it is difficult to see who is right and who is wrong. Some things contain too many things that you can’t feel at first sight. Maybe there are times when you are not a good person on weekdays, but you become a good person for a while. But the good people in the past did bad things because of profit. These situations are inevitable. Therefore, it is said that people's hearts are unpredictable, and many times they know the person but not the heart. Everything has two sides.

Therefore, we must strictly follow the teachings of our ancestors. After all, as the old saying goes: It’s better to do less than to do more. In life, we must clearly distinguish the difference between being nosy and helping others. Don't meddle in other people's business.

After talking about the two things that a 40-year-old person cannot do more, let’s talk about the two types of people that a person cannot control after he or she reaches the age of 50. When we reach the age of 50, the first type of person we cannot control is the villain. As we all know, today’s society can be said to be a mixed bag. Where there are modest gentlemen, there will be despicable villains.

The so-called villain is a narrow-minded person. Their biggest characteristic is that they care about everything. It can be said that vengeance is inevitable. Sometimes you have a kind heart towards the villain and hope that he will change his ways. But he doesn't think so. Not only will he not be grateful to you, he will also take revenge on you. The most annoying thing is that villains like to stab people in the back. Therefore, do not provoke villains easily to avoid unnecessary trouble.

The second type of person is a person with strong jealousy.

Speaking of jealousy, after all, it is human nature. It's understandable that people are jealous, but if it's too much, it can cause trouble.

For jealous people, jealousy is common. He is not targeting one person, but everyone who is better than himself. When others achieve success through their own efforts, he will feel very uncomfortable.

But since I couldn't do anything practical, I could only mock him from the sidelines. It is very troublesome to deal with such people. You reason with him, but he doesn't listen. If you ignore him, he will find ways to trip you up, which is really disgusting. Therefore, the best way for us to face such people is to stay away from them. Make it so that you can't afford to offend and can afford to hide.

In fact, these principles are not only needed for people in their 40s and 50s to understand. They are also suitable for young people who have just entered society or middle-aged people who are confused in life. These principles were learned by our ancestors through practice in life, and they must be applicable to life. Only when we think carefully about the treasures left by our ancestors can we realize the truth of life.