Three words my grandpa gave me

When I was nine years old (actually nearly eight years old), there was no school in my hometown at that time. In order to study, I spent a whole spring and autumn at my grandpa's house ten miles away from my parents. Looking back on that childhood period, most of the events have no memory. I heard that my grandpa experienced a lot during his lifetime. He was a platoon leader in some kind of team who had held a pistol and led soldiers. After the founding of New China, because they were classified as "semi-landlords", they were often the targets of criticism and transformation from "poor and lower-middle peasants". Therefore, he rarely appears in public. However, the thing that I can really remember, besides missing my parents day and night, are the three sentences (that is, the three teachings) given to me by my grandpa.

Oddly enough, these three sentences, although very common, are magically present in my mind all the time, and have almost become the rules of my life. Recently, I have been staying at home due to the fight against the epidemic, but also because of my gratitude and memory for my ancestors, and my sincere gratitude to my friends who have sincerely helped me during my life journey. Therefore, I will briefly share it here today. .

1. One night when I was having dinner, my grandpa held the bowl flat with chopsticks in his hand. He ate, talked and demonstrated: "When you are a guest at a banquet, you must understand the etiquette and don't take the front seat." That is the guest of honor). When eating, everyone should take turns carrying the dishes, and they should not be alone, let alone gobble them up. "

So, until now, I don't want to go to dinner parties. Because I really can’t tell the primary and secondary seats, and I don’t want to watch the guest of honor toast one by one according to the order of the crotch and the high and low.

2. Once I went out to play with my classmates. When I got home and was getting ready to go to bed, my grandfather said to me in a calm tone: "Don't enter without permission if others are not present or without their permission." You can’t rummage through other people’s bedrooms or take other people’s belongings privately.”

Therefore, from the day I became sensible, I have always been cautious in dealing with others and worried about causing others’ displeasure. To be honest, even with my own child, ever since she lived alone in a room, I rarely entered her room privately. Maybe it's because I have such a mental constraint that in the eyes of some people, I am a very "honest person".

3. My grandfather, who usually doesn’t speak much, seems to have said to me more than once: “When you meet a busy artist on the road, you should take the initiative to approach and even help. In this way, not only will you learn skills from them, but you will also If you help others, others will also like you. "

Not only did I try hard to do this, but I also received recognition and praise from many people. I also benefited a lot. Below I will give a few examples to show its effectiveness.

1. When I was studying in Yongcheng No. 1 Middle School, because I had the habit of being close to busy people, I often went to the "Study Lei Feng Interest Group" to watch the paper baskets made by my classmates weaving from moso bamboo and preparing to distribute them for free. To each class.

One day, the classmate who was responsible for breaking the bamboo pieces showed himself to be the technical boss in front of Mr. Cai XX, the head teacher and Chinese class teacher, and threatened to stop work. After the classmate left the scene, I found that Teacher Cai was anxious and helpless. For this reason, I thought, I know how to do this job, why should I submit to him alone? So, I had the courage to say: "Teacher Cai, can I give it a try?"... You can imagine how the teacher felt when he found out that my skills were no worse than that classmate, but he was so proactive. Pleasure! After that, in a short period of time, I successively won the honor of being a good student, joining the Communist Youth League, being elected as a labor committee member, etc. It is understandable.

2. When I was working as a private teacher in a remote small village, an elderly villager often used the rich local moso bamboo resources to make some exquisite and practical farm tools, which he would use on market day. Pick them up and sell them at the fairground. This naturally became the place I frequented most, and I greatly improved my skills.

I was taking turns dining at the students’ parents’ homes. When I found that a certain household lacked certain utensils (such as earthen traps, duck cages, flat picks, and dozens of commonly used daily utensils), and When their family members don’t know how to knit them, they will use their spare time to help them knit them and take the initiative to send them to them.

Once, I made a vegetable basket for a parent of a student. When I was about to send it over, I heard the owner loudly say as soon as I arrived at the door that there was no suitable thing to put the pig's offal. What to do? ——It turned out that the owner of this house was the deputy secretary of the Party Committee of a certain people's commune at the time and rarely went home. When he went home to slaughter the pigs he had raised, he discovered that he had very few utensils. At this time, someone suddenly gave me cabbage for free. I think this feeling of giving someone timely assistance must be very profound.

When I had been teaching for three years and was about to register for college, everyone learned that this was my long-awaited goal and a major turning point in realizing my lofty ambitions. Under the guidance of the president, all the villagers in the village took the initiative to attach their fingerprints or personal seals to my application form for admission to college to enhance their advantage in the election (because at that time, college admissions were not mainly based on test scores, but on merit. Recommended by "poor and lower-middle peasants" and party organizations at all levels).

3. When I started working soon and was transferred back to the city from the countryside, although I did not have the opportunity to prepare a "vegetable basket" for everyone due to limitations of materials and other conditions, occasionally some neighbors would ask I went to see if there were any problems with household appliances such as washing machines and rice cookers.

One day, an "Aunt Ma" who rented next door to me said to me that her TV was broken and could you help her repair it. (Actually, I don't know how to repair it at all. I just tried to open it based on other people's inspection methods and steps). Fortunately, it's just a blown fuse, just replace it with a new one. In my opinion, this matter was an extremely ordinary matter, but nearly half a year later, I encountered something unbelievable.

In order to provide a good learning environment for my children, I decided to take advantage of my opportunity of another personnel transfer to transfer my daughter who was studying in a township kindergarten to an experimental kindergarten in the county. After many efforts, after preparing all the publicly marked admission conditions, I walked into the kindergarten office with high hopes. When the relevant materials were forwarded to the principal for approval, I heard her reply: "You are transferring to another kindergarten and joining a class. The quota is full and you cannot do it." After finishing speaking, he returned the materials to me and said nothing more. With my wife's strong advice, I had no choice but to suppress my anger... On the way back, I happened to meet "Aunt Ma" who had moved to another place. When she learned that our intention was not fulfilled, she would respond: "Oh, that's it."

The next morning, I received a phone invitation from "Aunt Ma", asking me to go to her house for dinner at noon, and she only asked me to go there alone, and told me to go!

When I walked into her house alone at almost noon, I did see her alone. She said, "My son, daughter-in-law, and granddaughter are all at work and school, and they didn't come home at noon." After seeing me enter the house, he got up and went to the kitchen to prepare food. Nearly half an hour later, another person came in, the director of the county experimental kindergarten whom he had just met yesterday. When the director saw that I was there, he turned around and wanted to go back without saying a word. At this time, "Aunt Ma" in the kitchen saw this and raised her voice and said: "Are you so busy? There is no time for you to have a meal?" At this time, a doubt arose in my heart. They What is the relationship between them? They speak so directly. When we, two girls and one boy, were having lunch, Aunt Ma said bluntly: "Daughter, to be honest, although you are not my biological child, I have raised you so much that I did not ask you to be a child." Anything? I called you here today, and you already know it. I just want to ask you to do something. Find a way to help my former neighbor's daughter transfer to your experimental kindergarten. "? At this moment,. I just woke up from a dream, and the careful arrangements made by "Aunt Ma" turned out to be for my daughter! I remember that I was so moved that I almost shed tears! Then I raised my glass to the director and said, "Please take care of me, director. I'd like to give you a glass of wine." The director was really as impenetrable as the legend goes. Not only did he not say a word to me, but he also asked me to put the wine glass that I had held high for a long time back in its place.

After a while, she said to "Aunt Ma": "Mom, I have some time to go back beforehand. I will think about his matter when I get back."

——Not long after I got to work the next morning, the kindergarten teacher called me and informed me that I should bring relevant materials to the office to go through the kindergarten admission procedures for my daughter.

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Although these story-like life experiences of mine (which are indeed true and absolutely not fictitious) are ordinary, to me, they may be like snow in the snow. charcoal fire, lantern at night. I think that in life, some words and feelings given by some people are difficult to get with money.