Do you lie in life?

The most important thing in life is truth, and real life can bring us happiness. When you lie, you must cover it up with more lies. You let others live in your lies, and you have to weave a lie yourself. If there is no truth in life, you will naturally be exhausted and will only make yourself more and more tired. There is no doubt that a white lie is itself a lie. But we ask ourselves, who hasn't lied? Whether to relatives, friends or strangers, we may have lied for many purposes, but when we add a "goodwill" in front of the lies, it seems that all lies are out of the so-called goodwill nature, as if everyone can accept them. This is the concentrated expression of human weakness. That way is the usual means of the weak. Those who are unwilling to expose the truth naked to others are shameless, and those who are afraid of the truth are shameless.

Mark Twain once said, "When you can't make up your mind, telling the truth will embarrass your opponent and make your friends feel relieved." So the psychologist's point of view is: don't lie easily, even if it is a white lie. The so-called white lies also have unforeseeable consequences, such as: someone is terminally ill. In order to let him spend the rest of his life with peace of mind, relatives and friends have never told him the truth, only told him that this is a common problem. No malice, no self-interest, but often unsatisfactory, deception can not last. On the contrary, patients lose the rationality of cooperating with treatment and the opportunity to deal with personal affairs. Sisera Polk, a female philosopher, warned: "Such lies will put people on the verge of a great decline in personality."

Here, I want to remind everyone that anyone who wants to tell some "white lies" to others, had better think of a psychological reaction. If the other person knows the truth, he will thank you for your kindness, or feel that his long-term trust in you has been hurt by you. There is another example: there is an old mother in her fifties whose children are all married. One day, she suddenly felt a terrible pain in her stomach. After going to the hospital for examination, he was diagnosed as uterine cancer. She was afraid at that time, but she didn't tell anyone because she was worried that her child would be sad. However, she often sweats in front of the children. Her child asked her if she was ill, but she still kept quiet and lied that she had a cold. Finally, one day, she fainted in front of the child, who took her to the hospital and cried loudly in front of the hospital bed after learning about her mother's illness …

It can be seen that when the deceived person knows the truth, it will only cause more harm to him. A "white lie" is just to cover up your mistake. A "white lie" is a destruction of honesty to some extent, but this destruction is hidden and a chronic poisoning. Countless such poisons are undoubtedly a cover-up, and anyone who uses excuses wants to use them to protect themselves or others. Help us save face and let us endure setbacks. An American humorist once said, "Most people don't live in reality, but in fantasy, especially their own fantasy."

Here, I want to tell you, don't lie easily, even if such lies are well-intentioned, let this society be more honest and less excuses!