Help my sister-in-law pick up the children and cook.

Without the above deviation, the quality of this family is really not high. This is a deep concept and habit, and you can't change anything. If you want to live together in the future, you should be fully prepared.

I don't know how close you are to your boyfriend. If you think your personality and quality are ok, it is foreseeable that it will be difficult to live with that family in the future.

Judging from your boyfriend's description, he still lacks responsibility. I wonder if he can be reliable in the future. Women are wronged, men have no responsibility, and it is difficult to feel pain.