After experiencing setbacks, should we talk to friends around us?

After experiencing setbacks, you can talk to your friends. A true friend can help you and accompany you when you are most desperate and difficult. I think a true friend is someone who is willing to be kind to himself wholeheartedly, regardless of other people's feelings and will take care of himself.

Human instinct determines that people need to talk, find friends to talk about setbacks, and do not need guilt and self-blame. If a friend needs it, you can also be the object of the other person's listening, which will naturally help each other. Some friends will be happy to listen and help others, but if you don't go to them, you will be unhappy. Being "noisy" with each other is also a sign of intimacy.

At the same time, talking to friends is also a way for you to release your emotions. It is also necessary for you to find some other ways, such as meditating in a strange environment, doing something you like, doing some physical exertion, and even finding some extreme sports to do within your tolerance, which can effectively release emotions or divert attention. Furthermore, you can take some EQ courses to improve your emotional handling ability, or ask a consultant to help you deal with your emotions and improve your emotional endurance.

Whether chatting with friends is too much depends on how often we chat. If we don't talk about negative emotions with our friends, most of the time we can digest them ourselves, but when we encounter some indigestible emotions, we need to listen to our friends' suggestions and talk to them, which will not increase their burden. The role of friends includes mutual conversation, mutual understanding and mutual support. As long as there is nothing wrong with friends, chatting with trusted friends after encountering setbacks is also a way to relax and release emotions.

But if we regard it as the only outlet of emotions, or even as a habit, this way is naturally inappropriate, because friends also need to digest their negative emotions, and we have been saying that we have not considered our friends' feelings and have no ability to repair themselves, which is inappropriate.