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Parents love their children, but sometimes their love may unconsciously get used to them, you know?

Parents are children's first teachers, which is not just talk. In daily life, parents' words and deeds will always affect their children's personality and behavior habits.

If parents' love for their children becomes doting unconsciously, it will not only be detrimental to their healthy growth and make them grow up, but also make them form some bad habits and affect their future.

I saw a video like this before:

A man who graduated from a prestigious school in his thirties worked at home for eight years after graduation and lived on his parents' pension. Parents are forced to take their children to court, hoping to let their sons go to work in this way.

And the man said, "his mother ruined himself." The mother said with a broken heart: "The child was smart from an early age and his academic performance was good. In order to let the children get into prestigious schools and concentrate on their studies, both husband and wife will do well for their children. This may be the way to make children what they are today.

I thought such a thing could only be seen on TV, but I didn't expect it to really exist in reality. No matter what happens, this matter really needs to attract the attention of parents and friends.

You know, in daily life, there are not a few parents who love their children and do everything for them. Parents have been escorting their children for their children. In fact, this is also a kind of doting, which makes children lack independent ability, poor self-care ability and little ability to solve problems independently.

It is understandable that parents love their children, but if they spoil their children too much, it is easy to raise indifferent and unruly children. This is not only the tragedy of children, but also the tragedy of parents.

Parents need to be soberly aware that loving children does not mean being used to them. As the saying goes, "spoil a child like kill a child." If parents spoil their children blindly, they will not only hurt their children, but also hurt themselves in the end. So those behaviors and habits that love children in our daily life are actually doting on children?

Seven common habits and behaviors of parents

Do everything.

The 30-year-old man in the above case was arranged by his parents, and then he could do nothing but study. Even after graduating from a prestigious school, he can only stay at home.

Parents may take care of their children for their own good, because children are still young and need their parents' careful care. Let them study hard and don't let them do anything. Over time, such children may take everything their parents do for granted, and they will be too dependent on their parents and have no independence.

Give children a special status and leave the best to them.

Many parents love their children and regard them as the apple of their eye, which may be the highest position in the family. All good things are left to children, so that they can form the habit of eating alone.

This practice seems to be good for children, but it is actually "killing" children. Although parents only "hold" their children, as soon as they are born into society, they will experience social "killing" without their parents' care, making them unable to adapt to society.

Overprotection of children

In terms of children's education, there are always people in the family who overprotect their children. If the father wants to teach his son a lesson, the mother or the old man will jump out and stop him. He may even say, "The child is too young, wait until the child is older. Were you not like this when you were young, or even worse? "

The old man's words left his parents speechless, and the child became more fearless with an umbrella. It's really a little late to wait until they are older to receive further education.

Easily meet any requirements of children.

Parents may still show their love for their children, and give them whatever they want to eat and try to meet their various needs, but it is not appropriate to cook like this.

Because while parents unconditionally meet their children's needs, their children's desires may gradually increase, and they may not cherish what is easy to get. You know, parents' money is hard earned. Most of us don't have mines, but we can't afford to spend much money.

If parents always meet their children's needs unconditionally, their financial resources will be hollowed out sooner or later. On the contrary, children will blame their parents for not meeting their own requirements and not loving themselves enough.

Parents often pray to tell their children.

When educating their children, some parents may often talk to their children about conditions and even pray to tell them. Although this may make children obedient occasionally, over time, parents will lose their authority and initiative.

Children will also be confused about their status, so everything will be self-centered, regard themselves as high-ranking people, and think that everyone must listen to themselves and obey their own preferences.

Afraid of children crying

Some parents may not want to see their children cry or make them cry, so they will become accommodating to their children and do everything according to their children.

There are even ways to solve the baby's distress by coaxing. In the end, parents keep giving in, surrendering and accommodating their children, and children may also use crying as a magic weapon to blackmail their parents. Over time, children may become selfish, willful and lack of self-control.

Indulge children's bad habits

Professor Li Meijin once said: "At present, the biggest problem for parents to bring their children is whether to bring them!" This is very reasonable.

If parents always hold the idea that "the child is still young, but it will be fine when he grows up" when the child has bad habits, then it may turn from a small bad habit to nausea when the child really grows up, and it will be really difficult to correct it.

If you love children, you should teach them to distinguish right from wrong and cultivate good behavior habits, which is not only conducive to their healthy growth, but also conducive to their growth into excellent people.

to tell the truth

Poor people must have something hateful. Parents may pour all their love into their children, but in the end they may not get a good result and be accused by their children as the culprit. Such parents seem to be poor, but traced back to the source, such parents also have something hateful, that is, doting on their children since childhood. Do you agree?