What does the old rural saying "If you don't go out for seven days, you won't come home for eight days, and if you go out for nine days, you will come back empty-handed" mean? Does it make sense?

This old saying, no matter it is in the countryside of the past or in the countryside now, everyone follows it. Go out at every seven steps, don't go home at eight, and go out at nine. If we ask whether it makes sense, for the elderly in rural areas, everything left by our ancestors makes sense, but for us young people, it really doesn’t make sense, especially for people who often come out. The company arranges for you to leave on a certain day. Can you still tell the company because of this taboo? It doesn’t make sense, so this old saying does not mean so much to us young people now. Now let’s talk about the meaning of this old saying. One, don’t go out on the seventh day

I heard from my grandfather that in the past, people who were “businessmen” always picked a day to go, because in our custom, “seven” represents the wife. If you go out on the seventh day, "Qili" means separation from the wife. If you go out on the seventh day of the lunar month, it will have a bad impact on the harmony of the couple and the family relationship. There is also our custom of burning the first seven to pay homage to our ancestors. If we choose to leave on the seventh day, it will be regarded as walking towards the Yangguan Road, which is very unlucky, so we generally don’t. I would choose to go out on every seventh day. 2. The eight no-returns

We have our own version of the eight no-returns. It has nothing to do with what others say about filial piety, brotherhood, trustworthiness, loyalty, righteousness, propriety, integrity, and shame. . This is mainly because the character "八" and the character "人" have similar meanings. If you go home on the eighth day of the lunar month, you will separate people. This is very taboo in rural areas, so you still have to choose a good day to go home. Third, go back empty-handed on the ninth day of the Lunar New Year

It is a custom in our country to return to your parents’ home on the ninth day of the lunar month. Generally, on the ninth day of the Lunar New Year, the daughter-in-law will carry gifts in large and small bags and return to her parents’ home to visit relatives. Returning after three days, six days, or nine days, this also means that everything goes smoothly, so that the daughter-in-law can have a smooth journey back and forth to her parents' home, and the gifts we bring will be left with her parents' home in the end, so that's why Coming back empty-handed means going out empty-handed every time you go out.

Ancient proverbs are a kind of spoken language passed down orally from ancient times. Some are used for agricultural production and life, and some are used to express personal good wishes. Just like this ancient proverb, what it says may not always make sense. We can only absorb the good parts and apply them to our lives. No matter what kind of ancient sayings, we must combine them with our own reality, so that we can get twice the result with half the effort.

This means that every time you visit relatives and friends or go on a long trip to do errands during the New Year, you must be careful. You must choose a good and auspicious day. It is not appropriate to go out on the seventh day, and it is not appropriate to return on the eighth day. "Fengjiu" will go out and come back empty-handed with nothing.

Why is this happening? If you ask the adults, they will say: "Why are you asking so many questions? There is nothing wrong with following it." As I grow older, I gradually realize that this saying passed down in the countryside actually has a profound meaning and is not It simply means that you have to look at the meaning of "good days" when traveling far away. How to understand "If you don't go out for seven days, you won't come home for eight days"?

Related to homophony. "Seven" sounds the same as "wife", and "eight" sounds the same as "fa". "Seven don't go out" means "the wife doesn't go out". The wife is in charge of the house, and she usually doesn't go out. The wife goes out easily, which means "the wife leaves". "Seven" also sounds homophonic to "abandon" and "qi", and "abandon" and "qi" are considered unlucky. Therefore, people are taboo about going out on the seventh day.

"Eight" means "fa" and "fa" is understood to mean making a fortune. When doing business abroad, it is a time of great wealth and a good time to make a fortune. At this time, you should do business with peace of mind. You must not miss your homeland and have to go home.

Related to livelihood issues and moral concepts. The so-called "livelihood" means that you cannot go out until you have done the seven things at home: "firewood, rice, oil, salt, sauce, vinegar, tea". These seven things are related to the life of a family. If these seven things are not done well, a family will not live like a home, you will be worried when you go out, and you will not be able to do things well outside. Therefore, before you go out, you need to take care of your family affairs.

The so-called morality refers to the "Eight Virtues" that the ancients paid most attention to, namely "loyalty, filial piety, propriety, justice, trust, integrity and shame". If the "Eight Virtues" are not achieved, or are contrary to the "Eight Virtues", Then he would not be able to see Jiangdong's elders and would not be able to go home. These "Eight Virtues" are the traditional virtues of our country and the basic principles of life in ancient my country. If you can't even do these basic things well, how can you have the dignity to go home?

Related to traditional customs. There is a custom of "burning Qi" in rural areas. "Burning Seven" means that every seven days is a memorial day starting from the date of death of the deceased, which is called "First Seven", "Two Seven", "Three Seven", "Four Seven", "Five Seven" and "Six Seven" , "Last Seven", total 49 days.

Legend has it that people have three souls and seven souls. After death, one soul will be lost one year, one soul will be lost every seven days, the soul will be exhausted in three years, and the soul will be exhausted in seven years, so it is necessary to celebrate the "seven periods" and the third anniversary.

There is another folk saying. It is said that within 49 days from the date of death, the King of Hell will interrogate the soul of the deceased every seven days, so the "seven periods" are also called "seven plagues". Therefore, rural people are very taboo about "going out on every seventh day".

Related to lack of transportation. In ancient times, transportation was inconvenient. People went out to do business, work as officials, take exams, etc. It was better to take a boat, a carriage, or generally walk. Therefore, it is not easy to go out and it takes a long time, ranging from seven to eight months to three to five years at most. Therefore, if you don’t go out at all, it will take seven or eight months to go out, which means you won’t be able to come back within seven or eight months. How to understand "go out every nine days and come back empty-handed"?

The saying of returning home empty-handed. In rural areas, it is customary for a son-in-law to take his wife back to her parents' home on the ninth day of the Lunar New Year. On the one hand, the wife is allowed to accompany her parents at her parents' home to fulfill her filial piety, and on the other hand, the wife is asked to tell her parents about some of the things she has been doing with her husband over the past year. Take a look. Did the daughter endure hardships so that her parents could rest assured?

When a wife returns to her parents' home, she usually stays at her parents' home for a few more days, ranging from three to five days to ten and a half months at most. The son-in-law has to go home early to take care of his own affairs. Of course, the son-in-law goes home empty-handed. That's why there is a saying of "going out empty-handed every time you go out".

Besides, when their daughter comes home, her parents will arrange for her brother or younger brother to send her back and give her a gift in return. However, the return gift is usually brought by the daughter when she returns. This is done in the hope that the mother-in-law will care more about her daughter, and the mother-in-law's family does not actually add any other gifts. Therefore, this is also equivalent to "returning empty-handed".

"Ninth year" is unlucky. The so-called "every nine years" refers to the nine-character year in a person's age. It is called the "Fengjiu" year.

In ancient times, there was a lot of superstition in rural areas, and the superstition of "The King of Hell's Dictionary Book" was spread. It is said that every year on New Year's Eve and the first day of the seventh lunar month, the King of Hell will check the book of life and death. Moreover, at this time, people whose ages are nine will be randomly called, and whose name is called, whoever survives this year will also lose their skin.

Later, the seven legends and eight legends were extended to mean that people of the age of "nine" are prone to disasters when they go out. In mild cases, it may lead to illness and loss of money, while in severe cases, dangers may arise. Therefore, there is a saying that it is unlucky to go out on the ninth day of the month.

It is said that "Fengjiu" collides with evil spirits. "Nine" is the largest number among numbers, and it is also the most violent number. It is generally said that the emperor is "nine-five supreme" and the Taoist "nine-nine returns to one". Most people's fate cannot bear this number and they will go out. It is easy to encounter unfavorable things such as collisions and evil spirits, and ultimately lead to returning empty-handed. For traditional customs, it is better to take the essence and discard the dross and use it for my own use

It is still popular to choose a good and auspicious day when traveling far away and doing important things. However, today's young people basically don't pay attention to that.

When public servants perform official duties and perform their duties, if they choose a good day to do it, they often miss the opportunity. When doing business, you must seize business opportunities. How can you seize development opportunities if you are indecisive?

Besides, when doing work, subordinates must obey their superiors, individuals must obey the organization, and they must act quickly when orders come. In the event of a military situation, disaster, or danger, you must make a prompt decision and act quickly. Otherwise it will be a big mistake.

Of course, the traditional national culture has been passed down for thousands of years and has withstood the test of time and history. As for folk sayings, we should not copy them blindly. We need to "take the essence and discard the dross" and choose things that suit the development requirements of the situation for my use.

Every day is a good day, it depends on how you treat life and arrange each day.

I believe everyone is very familiar with the old saying "Don't go out for seven, don't come home for eight, and come back empty-handed every time you go out." For thousands of years, people have been arranging their travels according to this habit, among which is There is some truth to that. But many people don’t know the reason for this saying. In fact, it is related to the development of the times. It is difficult for modern people to understand the thinking of the ancients, and it is even more difficult for modern people to put themselves in the shoes of the ancients and think about problems from the standpoint of the ancients. Two very obvious characteristics of the era in ancient times are: First, the level of knowledge and culture was limited. The educational level of most people is relatively low. Children from ordinary families rarely have the opportunity to receive education. Most people's understanding of the times is very limited. Second, traditional morality has serious constraints on people. In previous societies, the legal system was not particularly complete, so many things relied on ethics and culture. The old saying "If you don't get out at seven, you won't get in after eight, and you will go out at nine and come back empty-handed" is also affected by the characteristics of these two eras, which adds some difficulties to people's understanding.

"Don't go out for seven days", the popular understanding means not to travel far on the seventh day of the Lunar New Year, but it is not just that simple. This proverb can be understood in two ways: First, it has something to do with the arrangement of things at home. The seven here refers to the seven small things that every family has "firewood, rice, oil, salt, sauce, vinegar, tea". Don't look at these seven things as relatively small, but they are related to the normal operation of the family. If the adults at home do not take care of these seven things when they go out, the family is likely to become a mess. The second is related to traditional thinking. The homophone of "seven" is actually "wife". Going out to work on the seventh day of the lunar month actually means leaving home on the seventh day of the lunar month, which is also called "wife divorce". At that time, people were very taboo about this kind of thing, so they naturally had to avoid the seventh day of the lunar month before leaving home. The above two statements are the most popular and relatively reliable understandings at the moment, and they can enlighten and help people to a certain extent.

"Eight Not Enter" simply means not to return home from other places on the eighth day of the Lunar New Year, but in fact it was given another meaning in ancient times. In ancient times, people's transportation was not particularly good, and many people could only live in one place for their entire lives. At that time, people would feel more homesick when they went out, because it was difficult to return to their hometown. Going back once was particularly troublesome and difficult, so there was a saying that "when a young person leaves home, the old man returns, the local pronunciation remains unchanged and the hair on the temples fades." The helplessness. People living outside must abide by some traditional cultural and moral requirements. The eight basic ideological and moral requirements of "loyalty, righteousness, filial piety, etiquette, trust, brotherhood, integrity, and shame" are all people must abide by. If you violate these eight basic ideological and moral qualities, you will inevitably be gossiped about by others when you go home.

"Go out on the ninth day of the lunar month and come back empty-handed." This saying refers to the fact that on the ninth day of the Lunar New Year, when couples go out to visit relatives, the man often returns alone and empty-handed. People usually choose to go to the mother-in-law's house with their daughter-in-law on the ninth day of the Lunar New Year to visit the mother-in-law. When the mother-in-law's house arrives, the wife will often stay at her parents' house for a few more days. The husband will go home early because he has to take care of everything at home. The things that the mother-in-law's family brings to the son-in-law are usually brought back by the daughter. This will make the in-laws pay more attention to their daughter. This is actually a communication skill. "If you don't go out at seven, you won't come back at eight, and you will come back empty-handed every time you go out." This old saying still seems to have some truth now. No matter when, you need to take care of things at home before you can leave home; no matter whether you are hanging around outside or not. No matter how good it is, you must abide by basic etiquette and ethics. What does the old rural saying "If you don't go out for seven days, you won't come home for eight days, and if you go out for nine days, you will come back empty-handed" mean? Does it make sense?

When it comes to rural rules, it can be said that there are many, and many old people insist on the ones that have been handed down. Because, for them, cultural inheritance must be valuable, and if they don't listen to the advice of the elderly, they will suffer a lot. Most of the rules that farmers adhere to can be learned from rural old sayings and rural sayings. For example, there is a saying that goes, "If you don't go out for seven days, you won't come home for eight days. If you go out for nine days, you will come back empty-handed." Why do you have to look at the date when you go out?

First of all, don’t go out for seven days. The seventh day of the Lunar New Year is not suitable for traveling far away. Some people say that the number seven does not sound good, and there is a tradition of "doing seven" in rural areas. That is to say, after a person dies, rituals must be performed every seven days. Some people say that "seven" is the same as "wife", so leaving home on the seventh day of the lunar month is equivalent to "leaving your wife", which is very unlucky.

Some people also say that seven represents firewood, rice, oil, salt, sauce, vinegar and tea. If these household chores are not properly arranged, you will not be able to feel at ease when you go out. Therefore, when deciding to go out, you must choose a day. You cannot go out on the seventh day of the lunar month. This is the reason.

Secondly, the Eighth-Eight Not Returning means not only not returning home on the eighth day of the lunar month, but also saying that one cannot return home without practicing the Eight Virtues. As for the second proverb, some people don't go home on the eighth day of the Lunar New Year, because "eight" and "people" are separated, which is unlucky in semantics. Some people also believe that eight represents the eight virtues, namely loyalty, filial piety, etiquette, trust, integrity and shame. As a person responsible for the family, if you do not do these things when you go out, you will not be able to see the elders in Jiangdong. Therefore, when returning home, not only to honor one's ancestors, but also to comply with the Eight Virtues and not to engage in deception or deception.

Finally, if you go out on the ninth day of the lunar month and come back empty-handed, it is not suitable to go out on the ninth day of the lunar month, otherwise you will lose everything. Traditional Chinese culture has always advocated that the ninth day of the lunar month is the largest single digit and the most violent. Going out at this time is not conducive to success. Therefore, there is a saying that "going out on the ninth day of the lunar month to cause trouble".

If you don’t go out in seven days, you won’t come back eight times, and if you go out in nine days, you will come back empty-handed. This is an old saying specially formulated by the rural elders in the past for the heads of family members in rural areas.

It means that a rural householder must consider all aspects of everything and cannot delay everything at home. For example, if you want to go far away, you must do seven things that farmers think are very important.

Prepare all the firewood, rice, oil, salt, soy sauce, vinegar and tea at home before going out. Otherwise, if you travel far away and don’t come home for several days in a row, you must first consider whether this stall at home will be good after you leave. There is enough money for food and drink. You must get everything done for your family before you can go on a long journey. In the past, it was the family that bought things for the house.

The Eight No Returns means that after the family member goes out, if eight things are not done well, then don’t be in a hurry to come back. It will not be too late to go home after completing these things. These eight things are: filial piety, brotherhood, loyalty, trust, propriety, righteousness, integrity and shame. At that time, rural areas were very particular about moral etiquette. They believed that grown men should do the moral etiquette taught by their ancestors outside before going home. Otherwise, they would be sorry for their ancestors and would have no face to see their families.

Returning empty-handed when going out on the ninth day of the month means that the day on March 69th is when the daughter-in-law returns to her parents' home. On this day, if the head of the family goes out, he usually goes back to his parents' home with his wife and children. After that, the mother-in-law will inevitably leave her daughter and children to live there. After a few days, the mother-in-law had no choice but to return home empty-handed. Even if the mother-in-law wanted to give something as a gift, she would wait for her daughter-in-law to take it home when she came back. So the leader should go back empty-handed.

But this old saying was only useful in the past. It was an old saying that reminded the man in charge of the family to consider the feelings of his family no matter what he did. It is no longer useful nowadays, because now men are only responsible for earning money and supporting the family. , the daughter-in-law has the final say in spending money, and the daughter-in-law has the power of the economy, so the old saying has become an old saying. It's no longer useful.

"If you don't go out for seven days, you won't come home for eight days, and if you go out for nine days, you will come back empty-handed." This is an old saying that is widely circulated in rural areas. In the past, people's cultural level was generally low, and they often connected the laws of nature with personal imaginations to form some conventional life habits.

"Seven don't go out" In the past, people believed that the word "seven" was related to the deceased. The time to commemorate the deceased is often related to the seven characters. For example, January 7, March 7, and May 7 are all days when the soul of the deceased is active, so there is a saying of "don't go out on the seventh day", and you should avoid going out on days that are multiples of seven.

"Eight No Returns" refers to what a married woman says when she returns home during the Chinese New Year. The word "eight" has the same pronunciation as the word "pa". The word "pa" literally means "pa", which means "pa pull". It sounds like it is not good for family harmony, so women should avoid the eighth day of the Lunar New Year when they return to their parents' or husband's homes during the Chinese New Year.

"Go out on the ninth day and return empty-handed." In the past, people believed that the ninth year was a node in life, such as nineteen, twenty-nine, fifty-six, seventy-nine, ninety-nine, etc. People's hearts are prone to impetuousness and will If you are restless and angry, it will be difficult to succeed in doing things, and you will be left empty-handed. Therefore, it is best to calm down and not rush out to seek profit at this time of year.

Due to the limitations of historical and cultural levels, rural old sayings and sayings cannot fully comply with scientific principles. It is inevitable that there will be some superstitious dross, which is not surprising. As the times progress, those outdated sayings are gradually being eliminated, and few people believe them anymore.

In our rural areas in Hebei, to describe a person who is not good at what he does and is annoying wherever he goes, we usually say "eight not return". It means that this person does not have any of these eight things including filial piety, brotherhood, loyalty, trustworthiness, propriety, righteousness, integrity, and shame. In the native dialect, this person is ignorant of shit and does not understand the four or six kinds of kindness.

Taking advantage of this topic, today I would like to talk to you about the saying "If you don't go out for seven days, you won't come home for eight days, and if you go out for nine days, you will come back empty-handed." What does this saying mean in our hometown? What makes sense.

01. Do not go out on the seventh day of the lunar month does not mean that you cannot go out on the seventh day of the lunar month or on the days when you bring the seventh day.

The actual meaning is that you must do seven things before going out. These seven things The things are: firewood, rice, oil, salt, soy sauce, vinegar, tea, which are what we usually call the seven things to open the door. In the past, people went out to do business or do business, and they would leave for a few months, or even three to five years. Before leaving, they naturally had to make life plans for their wives, children, and children at home. Only in this way can they travel far away with peace of mind.

In the past, men were the heads of the family. When they left home, they would arrange everything in the house reasonably, which was in line with the current social situation at that time. But later generations gradually came to understand that people should not go out on the seventh day.

02. The Eight Don’ts Return means don’t go home if you haven’t done eight things well after you go out.

These eight things are: filial piety, brotherhood, loyalty, trustworthiness, etiquette. , righteousness, integrity and shame. These are the eight basic moral principles of the ancients. If you violate any of them, you will feel sorry for your ancestors, unable to face Jiangdong's elders, and even more shameless to come back to see your family.

Because if you don’t do these eight things well, you won’t be able to go home, which gradually became misinterpreted as not going home on eight days.

03. Going out on the ninth day of the lunar month and returning empty-handed means that going out on the ninth day of the lunar month is easy to cause trouble, and you will get nothing and return empty-handed

It is said that in the traditional custom of the Tujia people, in January, Snake days in April, July and October, rooster days in winter months, and ox days in March, June, September and the twelfth lunar month are regarded as "red evil days" in the Tujia area. It is forbidden to travel far during these days.

There has been a popular jingle in our hometown for many years: "To exit (door), 369, to go home, 258", which means that 369 is the best day to go out; 369 is the best day to go home; The preferred day is 258. 369 represents sixty-six fortunes; 258 represents fortunes every year.

In summary: China is a multi-ethnic country. In the process of the blending of various ethnic cultures, five thousand years of Han culture has a profound impact on it, and every sentence has been passed down to this day. All common sayings have their own profound meanings, and also have certain regional characteristics and limitations. We cannot belittle ourselves, nor can we be blindly superstitious.

"If you don't go out seven times, you won't come home eight times, and if you go out nine times, you will come back empty-handed." We should truly understand the meaning of this sentence, which is to not forget our original intention, be a good person, and face life with a positive attitude.

Rural people are very particular about numbers. For example, there are no four-way buses in our small town. It seems that people are very taboo about the number four. Even their own car registration plates try to avoid four. In people's impression, , "four" and "death" are homophones, so they are unlucky, so we locals don't like the number four. As for the three numbers seven, eight, and nine, there is not much taboo, and the meanings of these three numbers have different explanations for different uses.

Usually, people like the number "eight" very much, because "eight" is the same as "fa". When buying a car, they all hope to have the number eight. But when buying a house, people prefer to buy the seventh floor and don't like to buy the eighth floor. The reason is that they are uneasy. The price on the 18th floor is the lowest because no one wants to buy the 18th floor. The reason is that the 18th floor is hell. After listening to these explanations, do you think it’s a little ridiculous? But regardless of whether it is ridiculous or not, local customs are like this, and everyone can only do as the Romans do. When it comes to this sentence of never going out seven times and never returning home eight times, and returning empty-handed every time you go out nine times, everyone has different understandings.

Not going out on the seventh day means not going out on the seventh day, which means that it is not suitable to go out during these three days on the seventh day of the seventh lunar month and the twenty-seventh day of the seventh lunar month. Everyone has different explanations for this issue.

The reason why I don’t go out during the seventh lunar month is that the seventh day of the seventh lunar month is the Chinese Valentine’s Day, which is the day when the Cowherd and the Weaver Girl meet on the magpie bridge once a year. They have been separated for a year and can only be reunited on the seventh day of the seventh lunar month. It's really not easy. Three hundred and sixty days of separation, all the words have to wait until this day to tell.

For them, the seventh day of July is truly worth a thousand dollars. In order not to disturb the meeting between Cowherd and Weaver Girl, kind-hearted people decided not to go out on the Qixi Festival, so that Cowherd and Weaver Girl could stay together quietly and spend this beautiful day. Mortal people only need to hide under the grape trellis at night and secretly listen to the whispers of the Cowherd and the Weaver Girl. So I think Qi Bu goes out, which just represents the Qixi Festival.

Eight days do not return, that is to say, on the eighth day of the lunar month and the twenty-eighth day of the lunar month, it is not suitable for people who are in other places to go home during these three days. Eight is originally an auspicious number, as I have said before, but when buying a property, people think that eight is an auspicious number. At this time, eight has become a taboo number. What I understand about this eight-year-old failure to return may also be related to the ups and downs. Some people also say that the character "eight" means "people" are separated. It makes sense to interpret it according to the character shape, but returning home means reuniting with family members. It’s not like leaving home, so how can it be separation? So I think this explanation is a bit far-fetched.

Every time I go out, I come back empty-handed. We all say here that if you want to go on a long trip away from home, it is best to choose these three days to go out and do things smoothly. There may be different customs in different places, but in some places it is said that people go out empty-handed every time they go out. Some people say that they brought something with them when they went to their parents' house, but returned empty-handed when they returned home. I think this may have made sense in the past, but now it's the opposite. Nowadays, many young people go to their parents' house empty-handed, but when they return to their own home, they return home with large and small bags, whether they go out on the eighth or ninth day. in this way.

What does the old saying in the countryside mean: "If you don't go out for seven days, you won't come home for eight days, and if you go out for nine days, you will come back empty-handed." What does it mean? It is said that in the old days, young women had to stay at home and not go anywhere in July, August and September. Otherwise, they would be in bad luck. Forgive the trackers to look into the reasons:

Do not go out for seven days

"July 7th" the Cowherd and the Weaver Girl marry each other in Tianhe. Modern people have given a stronger color of love, and it is likely to become more and more intense. "Qixi Festival" has been regarded as China's "Valentine's Day". Even so, the majority of Weaver girls must stay at home and abide by their feminine ways, "not going out". Unmarried women can only look up at the stars and imagine the romance of Girl Weaver and Magpie Bridge; married women should fulfill their vows of love before the flowers and under the moon, like the Cowherd and Weaver Girl. Forget the original intention, respect and love each other. If you go out in July, it is equivalent to "eloping", which was regarded as treason in the old days.

Eight No Returns

The "Mid-Autumn Festival" on August 15th is a traditional festival for the Chinese people, where families reunite, enjoy the full moon, eat moon cakes, and celebrate the harvest. After liberation, in some years, the National Day also fell in the eighth month of the lunar calendar, so it was called "double festival" with the Mid-Autumn Festival. They were celebrated together by the whole world and became even more grand, no less than the Spring Festival. Its meaning is more important than "Qixi Festival". In feudal society, on all festivals, women's actions were restricted and prohibited by feudal ethics. They could only spend the same month with the moon at the husband's house. The "eight not return" rule was reasonable, and the longing for the mother's family was hidden in the bottom of the heart.

Go out empty-handed every year

Every year, the Double Ninth Festival is regarded as the "Respect for the Elderly" and "Birthday Festival" in modern times. In the old tradition, "Three Obediences and Four Virtues", filial piety comes first. The Double Ninth Festival is also a very important festival. Respect the elderly, wish them longevity, and give them birthday gifts. However, in the old days, men were superior to women, and even the elderly in the natal family were not valued. Unless the elderly person in the natal family is seriously ill or passes away, and needs to go to a funeral, prepare a banquet for sacrifices, and return home empty-handed after the funeral, it is not difficult to understand the saying "go out empty-handed every nine days".

Does that make sense?

To sum up, it means that "Qixi Festival" is related to the love between men and women; "Mid-Autumn Festival" is related to family reunion; "Double Ninth Festival" is related to Elderly people live longer. These "three months" and "three festivals" involve major nodes in life. In the old days, women had no family status and were discriminated against and made things difficult for them. They could only rely on the arrangements of their husband's family. The closer the festival is, the more restrictions are placed on women, which reflects the darkness of the old times and the sorrow of the majority of women.

After the founding of the People's Republic of China, the majority of women were liberated and enjoyed equal treatment as their male compatriots, and increasingly, women came to dominate. Now the natal family has become the supreme authority and women have gained full freedom. "Chinese Valentine's Day" has become a carnival for women; "Mid-Autumn Festival" has become a reunion festival for in-laws and a harvest festival for parents' families; "Double Ninth Festival" has become a festival for mutual blessings for the elderly on both sides. I hope young people will not forget the elders who gave birth to themselves! ! !